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Should I tell the truth or let him down easy?

I'm going to break up with a guy I've been seeing for about a month. Wondering if I should stick to platitudes or tell him the truth, which is that he has some unsavory, borderline misogynistic views. [more inside]
posted by placoderm on Aug 3, 2014 - 44 answers

What to do when the guy I'm dating is uncertain about proceeding?

What actions should I take when the guy I have been dating for a month seems confused and uncertain about taking dating to the next level? [more inside]
posted by enantio on Jul 24, 2014 - 33 answers

How to deal with a breakup when your girlfriend leaves you?

How to deal with a break up when your girlfriend breaks up after 9 months? [more inside]
posted by Parh6512 on Jan 14, 2014 - 11 answers

Deciding if to turn a "breakup" into a friendship

Someone who I bonded with decided we had no spark, but wants to be friends. I am having trouble dealing with being rejected and my lowered self-esteem from the rejection but I feel like he is such a special person that I want to keep him as a friend. We had an intense online relationship for three months and dated for less than 2 weeks. Reading all these posts on MetaFilter has really helped me deal better with my breakup, but I still feel a inner turmoil about how I should handle my own situation. I don't feel that I trust my judgment so...here I am. Help on the matter is appreciated or just some advice or words would help me get through this. [more inside]
posted by LadyAerin on Oct 26, 2013 - 45 answers

How do I tell my friends my relationship has ended?

(Asking for a friend.) My long-term relationship just ended, and I'm trying to figure out how to tell all of my friends and acquaintances about it with a minimum of drama. I'm thinking a mass email is the way to go (Facebook seems like a horrible plan) but I can't deal with the thought of composing that email right now. Help, please! [more inside]
posted by restless_nomad on Oct 5, 2013 - 33 answers

hurting over past relationship now more than when the break up happened

I feel like I'm going backwards with the break up over my past relationship which occured over six months ago. I was fine for months afterwards and, in the past couple of weeks, I've been feeling increasingly guilty over my behaviour toward my depressed ex and it hurts to think about memories together and him in general much more than it used to. Is it normal, could it be because our one year anniversary would have been in a few days? Why is it happening, when I feel like I care more about my current bf than I did him? Am I betraying him? What should I do? [more inside]
posted by opalshards on Sep 3, 2013 - 5 answers

Should I stay... Or really, how should I go?

How do I navigate a breakup with this woman who I respect and love, in a way that might encourage her to get better and find some happiness? Or should I even break up with her, given the potential good things that might come along if she did process through some of her stuff? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 25, 2013 - 32 answers

How do I keep one (little) footbridge unburned in a breakup?

I am trying to write a short breakup email to someone I need to go "no contact" with for a while... while still leaving a relatively positive line of communication open between us, longer-term. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by argonauta on May 24, 2013 - 14 answers

Still miss my ex and struggling to move on.

I’m a 31 year-old female. About 9 months ago, a 2-year relationship ended. I’m still struggling a lot with it. How abnormal is this, and what else can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2013 - 18 answers

Ending semi-casual relationships to go exclusive with someone else

I've been seeing someone semi-casually for about five months -- not quite a proper relationship, but definitely not just casually dating either. Recently I met someone else whom I now want to date exclusively. What's the script for this? [more inside]
posted by modernserf on Apr 23, 2013 - 12 answers

Break up with a man I'm not very attracted to? Feeling crappy.

I have been dating a man for just over a month that I met online. He is 41 and I am 33. He is simply lovely: kind, attentive, complimentary, generous, funny, smart, gainfully employed, family oriented and wants children, likes me a lot, socially/environmentally conscientious, cooks well, nice sense of style, has friends, etc. And, I'm not very physically attracted to him. I am 5'2" and his profile says he is 5'7" but I think he exaggerated ~two inches and has a slight frame. He is very fit, but the cave woman in me seeks a more commanding physical partner. There are other things about his physicality and bedside manner that don't "do it" for me, either, but the main thing is that I just prefer bigger men. [more inside]
posted by AlmondEyes on Apr 1, 2013 - 35 answers

How to stop pining, take action, or get over it?

What should I do about the ex that haunts me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2013 - 19 answers

dating a depressive - post mortem

I've been dating a depressive for about 4 months and just recently called things off with him because I couldn't handle all the baggage that comes with dating one - like withdrawal or detachment, in communication or otherwise. It was fine for the first couple months but when he got given longer hours at work, we communicated/saw each other less to the point where I sounded like I was practically begging him for time to meet. [more inside]
posted by brokenwitch on Nov 15, 2012 - 30 answers

How do you put past relationship "guilt" behind you and would contact after a breakup be a good idea?

The nutshell: how do you put relationship mistakes/guilt behind you? And contact with her would be a bad idea, right? (We’ve been broken up about 3 months now with no contact, except for one email exchange about two weeks after the break up). [more inside]
posted by yeahyeahyeah on Sep 19, 2012 - 24 answers

Don't want drama but don't want other girls being lied to

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2012 - 88 answers

Seriously confused by recent breakup.

Why am I hopeful with this ex-girlfriend ? [more inside]
posted by Atlantic on Jul 28, 2012 - 31 answers

I broke up with my girlfriend but I am so confused. Should I get back with her?

Broke up with my gf and I don't know what to make of my feelings. should I get back with her? Should I just move on ? Should I go no contact? [more inside]
posted by hildegarde89 on Jun 25, 2012 - 18 answers

Seeking short Fables / Parables about love, relationships, death and loss of friends.

Seeking short Fables / Parables about love, relationships, death and loss of friends. [more inside]
posted by audio on Apr 8, 2012 - 5 answers

Ethics of dating too soon?

I would probably get back together with my ex if he asked me to do so, atleast today. I think I need to date other people to get him out of my head. What are the ethics of that? [more inside]
posted by athena2255 on Apr 6, 2012 - 31 answers

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it?

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it? [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Mar 28, 2012 - 67 answers

Will my fear of vulnerability doom me to aloneness?

Help me figure things out! I just ended a casual relationship and I'm worried that I will only continue to stop connecting to people due to my deep fear of rejection. The extended explanation is quite long, but I've been needing to vent to a group of strangers for a while so bear with me while I rant my cerebral crazy. [more inside]
posted by bengalibelle on Mar 26, 2012 - 18 answers

How to enter the dating scene gracefully, in your twenties.

In my mid-20s. Am just now really getting into the dating scene. Help me figure out how not to deal with this like a teenager. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 18, 2012 - 9 answers

Hung up on a hook-up

Help, I'm still depressed about a woman that stopped calling me ages ago [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2012 - 13 answers

Call, text? How do you let someone down after a couple of great dates?

Went on a couple of really good dates with a girl from an online dating site, resulted in some minor making out. Now I have to end it for reasons outside of those dates. Should I call her to tell her? Text? In person? Details inside... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2012 - 46 answers

Can't wash this man out of my hair! Help!

I dated a guy for a month almost three months ago, and I can't stop thinking about him. Help me get out of this mental rut! [more inside]
posted by ablazingsaddle on Dec 30, 2011 - 15 answers

Breaking up around the holidays

Procedure for breaking up close to the holidays [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 on Dec 14, 2011 - 23 answers

Staying friends with an ex who may be in denial about his sexuality?

A guy I was seeing abruptly decided he was not gay and cut off contact with me. How can I help him through what he's going through and preserve our friendship, or at least make sense of this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 6, 2011 - 20 answers

How do I let the girl I'm dating off the hook without hurting her feelings (that much)?

How do I let the girl I'm dating off the hook without hurting her feelings (that much)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2011 - 51 answers

My ex is dating my boss. How do I get over it?

I dated someone I work with. Now she's dating my boss. I would love some tips on how to get over this without quitting. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2011 - 16 answers

When my girlfriend gets stressed out, she dumps me.

When my girlfriend gets stressed out, she dumps me. Should I put up with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2011 - 47 answers

Huh. I'd forgotten what it felt like to have one's heart in one's stomach.

Coping advice for a dating trauma? Soothing words before I can see my therapist? Do I go through a job interview tomorrow? [more inside]
posted by angrycat on Jun 26, 2011 - 33 answers

You're lucky to even know me; you're lucky to be alive.

I don’t remember how to be single. Help? [more inside]
posted by sock puppet of mystery! on Apr 2, 2011 - 38 answers

Help me get over this.

Relationship ended. Fine. Now how do I get over him? [more inside]
posted by floweredfish on Mar 30, 2011 - 32 answers

Feeling Guilty Post-Breakup

How do I stop feeling guilty about the break-up? Sorry, for asking so many questions as of late...this was my first relationship. [more inside]
posted by nikayla_luv on Jan 14, 2011 - 20 answers

Bitter, Confused Ex-girlfriend

How do you get over a major breakup with your first love?...long story! [more inside]
posted by nikayla_luv on Jan 5, 2011 - 10 answers

Break Up Decision Filter (including a long description)

Break Up Decision Filter (including a long description) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2011 - 27 answers

What's the epilogue to my non-Hollywood ending?

I recently confessed my romantic feelings to a very close friend and, alas, he doesn't return them. I want to get things back to "normal" between us as quickly is possible. How do I go about doing this, and am I fooling myself into thinking that it is possible to return to "normal" right away? [more inside]
posted by HonoriaGlossop on Jan 3, 2011 - 25 answers

hurt her heart

What is my post-breakup jerk quotient? [more inside]
posted by whalebreath on Dec 5, 2010 - 28 answers

I don't want to give up on people or myself: how do you deal with persistent impermanence?

After 15 years of disappointing dating, how do I hold on to my optimism and avoid apathy in my relations with others? [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday on Nov 15, 2010 - 17 answers

Breaking up when I should be settling down

I need a reality check and a lot of support and encouragement so I can leave my relationship without fear of being alone for the rest of my life. Please help me believe I'm not too old or weird to attract another guy to have the kind of wonderful relationship people talk about in this thread. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2010 - 23 answers

What's the best way to genuinely end a pseudo relationship?

So, it turns out for me that Harry was right—men and women can’t be friends, or at least this woman can’t just be friends with this man. I need to get myself out of a great friendship that is turning into a terrible pseudo-relationship. What’s the best way to handle this? Snowflake details to follow, of course. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 6, 2010 - 44 answers

What are your best tips to get yourself out of feeling needy?

What are your best tips to get yourself out of feeling needy after a relationship is over? [more inside]
posted by ArgyleMarionette on Jul 15, 2010 - 17 answers

How to be ok with my boyfriend's feelings?

Crazy card alert? Please, help me sort out my relationship, MeFi world! [more inside]
posted by LemonGardot on Jul 6, 2010 - 15 answers

De profundis clamavi ad te

Ghosts-of-relationships-past-filter: How do I forget an old girlfriend, years gone by? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2010 - 20 answers

He is pushin me away, but does not want me to leave :'(

My S.O.'s life is falling apart and has decided to break up with me, however, S.O. has requested that nothing change. (LOOONG, so sorry) [more inside]
posted by penguingrl on Feb 2, 2010 - 73 answers

Virginal quandry

A question and moral quandary from yet another sad virgin.... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 26, 2009 - 17 answers

You're a great guy, but let's just not be friends.

I think I will always sort of want my ex; I think I will never really feel OK about seeing him with someone else; I think I only ever considered staying friends in case maybe we could work things out eventually. How much of this should I tell him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 24, 2009 - 27 answers

Why can't I get over this breakup?

The break-up was the logical, sane conclusion to my doubts about my ability to stay faithful. The relationship of a few years did not have a future in a happy marriage--I needed more experience and growth, she needed growth, period. So why, over half a year after I broke it off, am I still wondering if I made the right decision? Why can't I get her out of my head? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 20, 2009 - 10 answers

I really like this guy, but I think I screwed up. Can I fix this?

I've been dating this guy who was pushing things along very quickly right from the beginning. I was unsure at first but after a little while I got on board and started reciprocating his feelings. Now he says we're moving too fast. I got angry and told him he was a jerk. But now I think I overreacted. How can I fix this? Should I even bother? Longish explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by roscopcoletrane on Jul 14, 2009 - 37 answers

Putting on the brakes

The SO and I are splitting up amicably after four years of living together. I have a friend I've known for about about a year and the sparks are flying. How do I discuss my need for alone time without making him think I'm not interested? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2009 - 19 answers

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