I have been dating a man for just over a month that I met online. He is 41 and I am 33. He is simply lovely: kind, attentive, complimentary, generous, funny, smart, gainfully employed, family oriented and wants children, likes me a lot, socially/environmentally conscientious, cooks well, nice sense of style, has friends, etc. And, I'm not very physically attracted to him. I am 5'2" and his profile says he is 5'7" but I think he exaggerated ~two inches and has a slight frame. He is very fit, but the cave woman in me seeks a more commanding physical partner. There are other things about his physicality and bedside manner that don't "do it" for me, either, but the main thing is that I just prefer bigger men.
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posted by AlmondEyes
on Apr 1, 2013 -
35 answers
As a 22-year-old woman with zero real relationship experience, I'm turning to AskMe in this time of indecision. One of my best friends wants to date me, and I like him, but I also want to make out with boys I might like more. Does that make me a bad person? Should I forget about the other boys? Details inside, naturally.
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posted by jouir
on Feb 12, 2013 -
33 answers
I love him deeply, miss him terribly. He loves me more than anyone he's ever met. We go together like peas and carrots. But I broke up with him over one health problem that he can and would fix if I told him how much it bothered me. Am I nuts?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 3, 2013 -
41 answers
Over the past year, I've notice that I've been approached almost exclusively by noticeably younger guys. What's up with that?
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posted by gohabsgo
on Sep 30, 2012 -
22 answers
How do I approach a castmate I've developed feelings for? We've been working on a show together for about a month, and I've developed an attraction to him. I immediately determined I should wait until the show closed to make any obvious moves, but I'm not sure how to do it.
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posted by lemoncakeisalie
on Jul 21, 2012 -
35 answers
I'm not fully attracted to the girl I am dating, but I love her personality and we get along great, what do I do?
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posted by curious-mind
on Jun 24, 2012 -
65 answers
Why am I not in love with my girlfriend? I'm 25. She's 28. We're 7 months in and things are fine, but sometimes I wonder if things should be better. Am I over thinking things? Is more time going to change anything? Answers based off a guy's similar experience would be awesome, but all advice is appreciated.
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posted by yeahyeahyeah
on Jun 8, 2012 -
61 answers
I’m a 31-year-old straight woman living in the US and not at all religious. I've never been a big fan of physical contact unless it's with someone that I love. I never remember a time, where I looked at random guy or celebrity and thought, "Wow. I'd really like to kiss him." As I get to know a guy, I might or might not become physically attracted to him. It typically takes several dates though.
This weekend, I'm going out for the 4th time with a guy who I am still not sure about. I like spending time with him, but I am almost dreading going out again because I feel like after four dates, I should at least kiss him. I don't think I'm ready to kiss him though.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2011 -
35 answers
It seems I don't have a lot of sustained interest in meeting new people or hanging out with people in general
other than people I'm attracted to romantically/want to date.
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posted by clever anonymous username
on Dec 19, 2010 -
11 answers
Is it my weight, or my being self conscious about my weight, that is making me unsuccessful picking up women?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 27, 2010 -
38 answers
Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating?
I'm a girl. I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet, and it was pathetic. We talked about my mother, his mother, and lesbian movies I've seen. (Was that a bad subject for a first date? I'm inexperienced.) He was using open body language and I was using closed. I didn't realise this at the time. He was totally uninitiative and way too nice and I found that unappealing.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2010 -
32 answers
I seem to find myself in the same situation all the time - I'm friendly with a girl, and there seems to be a pretty clear sense of mutual attraction. But for whatever reason, I'm not really interested in dating them. Sometimes it's a shared interests thing - maybe there's one thing we have in common but share pretty much nothing else. Or maybe they're just really immature about some things. Or maybe they're someone I work tangentially with that it would be sorta inappropriate for me to date. Anyway, for me it seems like the attracted-to scale and the want-to-date scale are kind of independent. It's great when they line up, but often they don't. So how do I go about telling them that I'm attracted to them but don't really want to date? Or is that just totally unwanted?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 18, 2010 -
10 answers
Please share with me your best tips for keeping my raging lust in check while I'm getting to know someone I find very attractive.
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posted by velvet winter
on Jan 5, 2010 -
24 answers
Late start at dating, and I'm worried that I don't/can't express attraction on dates or around people I like. Halp!
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 18, 2009 -
8 answers
I met the most beautiful geeky girl I have ever seen or imagined. Help me get her out of my head, please.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 16, 2009 -
66 answers
Please help a fella out with the next stage of his Courtship Reeducation Program: How to stay cool when you can't stay ambivalent?
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posted by EatTheWeak
on May 25, 2009 -
13 answers
He likes me.. says I'm cute, smart and does want to be intimate.. but doesn't want a relationship. What is wrong?
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posted by freshsprout
on Sep 27, 2008 -
38 answers
I am a 26-year old straight male, and I do not seem to inspire attraction by women. While I am generally liked and appreciated as a friend, I am consistently told by women that they are not interested in me romantically. What can I do to change this?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 3, 2008 -
54 answers
If you're an obese man who's been successful in the dating scene, please give me some tips and advice. As always, there's
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 13, 2007 -
12 answers
I have a question to ask of heterosexual women on Metafilter: are you as shallow as I am?
Do you find overweight men attractive?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 21, 2007 -
34 answers
