I'm in a great new relationship, yay! It's been about 4 months. I like her. She likes me. But I am a classic anxiously attached type, and I would like your advice on how to cope with the "omg what will I do when she figures out I'm a loser and she dumps me and why didn't she call last night and she seemed annoyed when I said that and omg what if she doesn't like me anymore" feeling.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 1, 2013 -
11 answers
My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. After a big fight this weekend, we've decided to take a week off from seeing each other. Has this strategy EVER improved a relationship? &How do I best manage anxiety this week?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 3, 2013 -
21 answers
I'm hopelessly, desperately clueless at dating. Extensive tl;dr content contained herein. Be gentle, but above all: HALP. Now, watch as I over think my plate of beans.
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posted by anonymous
on May 26, 2012 -
16 answers
(23-year-old straight male) After moving to a new city 2 1/2 years ago and suffering a series of setbacks which I've mostly rebounded from, I've found it impossible to make any progress at all with anyone of the opposite gender. I have my shit together, am well-liked by most despite having always been pretty socially awkward and anxious, and am thought of by my friends as smart, funny and charming, but I just can't get beyond the friendzone. What am I doing wrong? Special snowflake details inside.
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posted by denmarkstreet
on Mar 3, 2012 -
17 answers
High School-esque Drama Filter! My friend recently told me that a friend of hers is interested in me. With my consent, she's arranged a group dinner on Friday and invited both of us along. There's no reason that this thing should faze me, but the amount of freaking out I'm doing right now is ridiculous. Help me calm down before I cancel out of sheer panic!
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 29, 2012 -
11 answers
I need help with my dating life, I'm a single straight male, 25y/o, working 60 hour weeks, with limited options.
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posted by curious-mind
on Feb 4, 2012 -
54 answers
I'm high as kite when I'm with "him" and feel like a junkie desperate for a fix when I'm not. How do I better manage these extreme feelings?
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posted by patientpatient
on Jan 12, 2012 -
14 answers
You're a smart, awesome guy with serious social anxiety. What's the least awful way a friend could let you know they have feelings for you?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 11, 2011 -
35 answers
Ok, so I've been having this problem lately (and I think it's related to my recent depression) where I meet new people and kind of expect that I'll never develop any friendship with them, but then it actually does happen, and I realize in horror that when they bring up previous conversations we've had, I act completely clueless because I didn't bother to remember it in the first place, and they say something like, "Remember we were talking about how my mom lives literally right next door to you?" (seriously, that happened today) and I remember suddenly, but clearly have already made it obvious that I didn't remember it in the first place... That's been happening a lot lately, and I want to know how to recall what I talked about with people more.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 1, 2011 -
8 answers
I enjoy going on dates. I do not enjoy navigating a thicket of doublespeak and bullshit in order to figure out what's next. Is there any way around this?
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posted by dekathelon
on Oct 15, 2011 -
43 answers
I've been going on some dates lately, usually with women that I really like. Except I hype the date up so much in my head that by the time it happens I literally have nothing to offer because I am no longer acting like myself and I freeze up. And I bomb.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 12, 2011 -
28 answers
Dating bean plate: Are we both too insecure and anxious to date each other? Or this is normal for the first stages of dating?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2011 -
8 answers
I know what my problem is. I know why it was happening. Question is: how do I CHANGE my knee-jerky negative subconscious?
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posted by littlesq
on Feb 12, 2011 -
7 answers
Should I try online dating or stick to hoping to meet someone in the outside world? More details inside.
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posted by Polgara
on Feb 5, 2011 -
29 answers
Given that I know my defence mechanisms are still operating on high after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, and I keep getting cold feet with anyone who tries to get close to me, and yet still crave small doses of intimacy, how can I ethically conduct myself with people who are/could be interested in me?
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posted by Chrysalis
on Dec 21, 2010 -
6 answers
We all hear about too little communication during dating and a relationship. How about the reverse? Help me assert my need for less communication in a new friendship/potential relationship.
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posted by patronuscharms
on Dec 5, 2010 -
34 answers
How can I begin to disengage myself from my parents (read: mother) so that I no longer feel anxiety and guilt when I handle or approach a situation my way, particularly when it comes to dating?
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posted by patronuscharms
on Oct 2, 2010 -
28 answers
Thanks to the suggestions
in this post I have decided that I need to tell a fantastic guy that I really like him. Yay! Problem? He's leaving for a week and my anxiety is going to drive me nuts.
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posted by littlesq
on Aug 19, 2010 -
12 answers
My anxiety prevents me from going on dates, even when a girl might be interested in me. How do I get over this?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 3, 2010 -
28 answers
I have almost no dating experience, mainly due to my social anxiety and fear of intimacy. How can I pursue this relationship...?
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posted by anonymous
on May 10, 2010 -
22 answers
The New Year is approaching and I need some guidance on how to move forward with my life.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 26, 2009 -
13 answers
Is it possible to ask someone out several months in advance? I've met someone great, but I've met them too soon!
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 23, 2009 -
54 answers
Late start at dating, and I'm worried that I don't/can't express attraction on dates or around people I like. Halp!
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 18, 2009 -
8 answers
I'm looking for some success stories from or about people in a relationship with someone who appears to struggle with loneliness, anxiety and introversion. Can it be done?
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posted by ninotchka
on Jul 23, 2009 -
24 answers
How can I tell if I really want to date somebody, or I just want their attention? [i apologize for rambling, inside]
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 22, 2009 -
14 answers
Please help a fella out with the next stage of his Courtship Reeducation Program: How to stay cool when you can't stay ambivalent?
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posted by EatTheWeak
on May 25, 2009 -
13 answers
RelationshipFilter: How can I convince this girl that her issues don't scare me and I really do want to be with her? Rambling details and soul-baring inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 1, 2009 -
48 answers
I'm having the same problem as the poster below me "Help me deal with high stakes situations.." (BTW I read all those responses too).
Like her it happens with meetings, people with authority, friends and dating. But, I'm a guy, and the only part I really care about is how it effects friends and dating. The rest I can live with..
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posted by 0217174
on Jan 11, 2009 -
12 answers
Please help me sort out my anxiety-related relationship problems and help me to have an open heart.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 30, 2008 -
6 answers
