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Not that into someone vs general relationship anxiety

I am trying to sort out my feelings. I can't tell if I am abandoning possible relationships because I am not used to being out of my comfort zone or if I am just not that interested in someone. How do I figure this out? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on May 26, 2015 - 13 answers

Is dating for men easier in SF or NYC?

I'm a 30-year-old straight single guy, debating a move to either NYC or SF. Singledom has been getting tiresome (after 6+ months), and I'd be interested in knowing whether dating would be substantially better or easier in one or the other city. I'm a slightly nerdy (but by no-means super-geeky) and fairly athletic/outdoorsy highly-educated professional. In either city, I'd be living in or near the urban center. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 26, 2015 - 14 answers

Dating someone for their character vs physical attraction?

How to convince oneself to make the right choice [more inside]
posted by winterportage on May 24, 2015 - 32 answers

Should I believe a 40+ man who says he doesn't believe in marriage?

I've been dating a never-married man in his early 40s for the past few months. (I'm a decade younger.) Last night he casually mentioned that he never wants to get married and would be fine with raising kids without marriage -- just as HE was raised, as the only child of an unmarried mother. I am devastated because I am falling in love with him but cannot accept this commitment-free future. Should I get out now or endeavor to change his mind down the road? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on May 23, 2015 - 60 answers

Mixed signals from a guy - Is he still interested in me?

A couple of months ago, I met this guy (22 yo) through a mutual friend at a dinner party. Let's call him Josh. We seemed to click well. He didn't ask for my number but he added me on Facebook and started messaging me everyday for about 2 weeks. At the time, he was living in a different city so he didn't ask me out but he did suggest that I should come hang out with him and the mutual friend again. Our convo was mostly about school (nothing flirtatious). I sensed that he ended the convo because we ran out of things to talk about. [more inside]
posted by missybitsy on May 18, 2015 - 16 answers

Dating in New York City, places to go, things to see and do

Sometimes people invite me on a first or second date and then insist that I suggest a place to go or a thing to do. What are some fun/interesting/free/inexpensive things to do in Brooklyn and Manhattan south of ...say the 70s east or west side? Budget conscious is important because the concept of "who invited" gets murky in this situation, and I make sure to always be prepared to pay for anything I have suggested. So pizza suggestions are good. Steaks are not. [more inside]
posted by tulip-socks on May 17, 2015 - 11 answers

As an introvert, I struggle to meet women outside of work

I cannot seem to meet interesting women outside of work because I either scare the holy daylights out of them with my silhipence, my sexuality (I identify as a mild sado and naturally am very dominant), or my intensity. Help? [more inside]
posted by thebotanyofsouls on May 16, 2015 - 86 answers

Am I Too Fast Or Is He Too Slow? Or Both or Neither?

I recently met a man I dig, but I feel like he's being cryptic about his life. I'm not sure if I'm expecting him to open up too fast or if he is being too slow. Either way, do I cut my losses or wait and see? [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on May 14, 2015 - 21 answers

Am I over-reacting?

I met up with this guy from OkCupid two weeks ago, and he seemed really charming. We've met up around three times to do various activity-oriented things in the city. He's done a few things to set off my alarm bells, and I'm not sure it's safe to see him anymore. At the same time, maybe these things are no big deal. Details inside [more inside]
posted by MFZ on May 13, 2015 - 79 answers

Dating storm in a teacup

A friend of mine just asked me about a guy I had a long weekend visit with; seeing us together one evening, she assumed he was very into me and that I was totally uninterested. That was really not the case, but it might shed light on why he has been fading since he left (I kind of hope it does!). Can you help me make sense of this (and myself)? [more inside]
posted by laceysocks on May 13, 2015 - 12 answers

Help me ask a woman out. Easy, right?

I need help asking a woman out for the first time since the "opening" of my marriage. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 13, 2015 - 18 answers

Move to a city I'm not crazy about for better dating prospects?

I love New York and I'm not thrilled about my prospective new city, but I'm wondering if it would be worth a move if it resulted in better dating prospects. [more inside]
posted by whitelily on May 10, 2015 - 45 answers

Am I judgemental for not dating people who smoke/drink/do pot?

I have friends who smoke, drink, and do weed/light drugs. I don't think anything of it (at least consciously) and I wouldn't prefer them to stop or anything. But suddenly, when it comes to people I date, I get so turned off when I hear that they smoke, drink, do pot, or light drugs like LSD. I like my friends but I would never date them. There's just some things I don't mind or even prefer in friends that I wouldn't want in a potential "other half". I have friends who have fuckbuddies and I think it's funny/awesome/empowering for example, but when it come to someone I would do myself, I wouldn't touch such people with a ten foot pole. [more inside]
posted by Sades on May 8, 2015 - 57 answers

Why is this man who is totally out of my league pursuing me?

I dumped a guy who's totally out of my league. Now he is chasing me like there's no tomorrow. Why? And will it last? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2015 - 67 answers

What should I keep in my home for overnight guests?

Suppose you're a woman, and you're staying over at a guy's place for the first time. What sorts of personal essentials/amenities/etc. would you like to see in his home? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2015 - 98 answers

Was he interested or not?

An older guy flirted with me at work. I finally got a chance to give him my number but it's been awhile and he hasn't called. I'm VERY confused. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by divina_y_humilde on Apr 26, 2015 - 17 answers

Dating dilemma: Should I text this guy again or is it done?

I've gone out a few times with a friend of a friend. Although initially he texted me a lot, he's stopped and I want to know if I should text him (again). My minimal dating experience and social anxiety are making it difficult for me to decide what to do. Way more detail inside. [more inside]
posted by peppermintchaya on Apr 23, 2015 - 28 answers

Can I use a fake photo for online dating?

I had a stalker years back and I was only able to shake them off by going virtually off grid. I had to stop dating online (because that's how he found me one of the times) and eventually I had to change my name, my home and my job and severe contacts with people I knew for years to get away from them. I would like to try online dating again, but this time maybe with a photo of someone with similar traits to mine, but not my real photo. [more inside]
posted by rancher on Apr 22, 2015 - 33 answers

Thwarting loneliness in times of trial

How can I cope with the fact that I will likely be single for the next several years? [more inside]
posted by cosmicbeast on Apr 18, 2015 - 21 answers

How do I communicate better when I'm about to, erm, get my freak on?

Exactly as it says on the tin. How do, without faking it, I be more upfront about my dating/sexual inexperience with my potential partners, and when? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 10, 2015 - 21 answers

should I feel like shit? cause I kinda feel like shit.

I am new(ish) to dating. I went on a couple of dates(?) with one person, and with another person a platonic meeting turned romantic and now I feel really guilty. Can I get some goddamn perspective, please? (other stupid complications within, obvsly. Just look what website we're on.) [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate on Apr 9, 2015 - 13 answers

Big difference in age/experience on a first date and if something more.

So I am a 34 male and I knowingly asked a 19-20-21-ish-year-old on a coffee date. I mentioned the age difference to her when I did so. She said, "Sure." If we go on more dates after this date and/or become physically intimate, how can I minimize the chance that she will retrospectively feel preyed upon or taken advantage of in X years? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Apr 6, 2015 - 99 answers

Is it ok to date/meet new people now?

I am in the process of getting a divorce. I have separated from my wife, have filed for a divorce but have not been able to serve her summons because she has been avoiding that. So, in a sense, the divorce process has not really started. Now I need to figure out when I should start dating or meeting new people again. [more inside]
posted by questionsquestions on Apr 3, 2015 - 29 answers

OK Cupid for the uninitiated

…and various other OKC questions and discomforts [more inside]
posted by miorita on Apr 3, 2015 - 18 answers

What does it look like for financial values to fundamentally change?

My SO & I are in our 30’s, have been dating over a year and have been talking about marriage. We are having a crisis over our differing financial values. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2015 - 21 answers

Hallmarks of not having "done the work"?

What are the signs of someone who hasn't pursued therapy and healing and isn't ready for a relationship? [more inside]
posted by morganw on Mar 29, 2015 - 30 answers

It's not that I mind having more friends, but...

It seems that whenever I meet a woman I really like and think I have a connection with, she can only view me as a friend. I'm generally okay with this, because their great qualities as people is what attracted me to them in the first place, and those don't change just because she's not interested in me. But when it happens over and over and over again, it does make me wonder whether there's something I'm doing wrong. Why is it I'm consistently viewed as good friend material, but not good lover material? [more inside]
posted by KantGoOn on Mar 27, 2015 - 84 answers

Should I Forget Him or is There Still Something There?

This guy I met a few months ago has been sending me some very mixed signals for a very long time and I honestly don't know what to make of it. Whenever I'm just about to write him off for ghosting on me, he re-appears and it's like nothing ever happened. Anyone have any advice or tips? [more inside]
posted by lana0112 on Mar 27, 2015 - 47 answers

Is online dating a good idea? If so, which site should I choose?

I'm 23 years old and I have had limited experience with dating in person. I'm pretty busy with school that it keeps me from meeting people I like. Therefore, I've considered doing online dating but I'm a little concerned about catfish and people who just want to hookups. For those of you who have experience with online dating, does online dating have a good pool of people who look for a serious relationship? If so, are paid sites like eHarmony or match.com better than free sites such as OKCupid? Thank you for your response!
posted by missybitsy on Mar 24, 2015 - 31 answers

I'm not being unreasonable... right?

My boyfriend has connections on LinkedIn that I would like him to get rid off. He thinks I'm being unreasonable. Am I? [more inside]
posted by milque on Mar 20, 2015 - 49 answers

How to tell my date I have a son (I'm a man)

I started to date a girl an I need an advice on how to tell her I have a son. [more inside]
posted by Nightrunner on Mar 18, 2015 - 26 answers

Great connection, terrible sex

I asked a friend on a date recently. The date went really, really well, until we tried to have sex. Now I'm not sure if I should try again, or see if I can get out and save the friendship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2015 - 25 answers

Is dating easier for straight women in SF than in NYC?

This question is for straight women who have lived and dated in both San Francisco and NYC. I've heard anecdotally from a couple of women that dating was much easier for them in SF than in NYC, and I'm wondering if it's true generally or if it was just the luck of these particular individuals. [more inside]
posted by sunflower16 on Mar 15, 2015 - 14 answers

Should I date my opposite-sex twin or find someone who complements me?

I'm shy, unassertive, and nerdy. Should I date someone just like myself or try to find someone whose strengths are my weaknesses? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Mar 14, 2015 - 28 answers

Modern Dating/Online Matching 101, please?

For a fiction project, I need to come to a better understanding about how modern dating works, particularly with regard to Tinder. From my perspective (I'm older, I've been married a long time and I have absolutely no experience with the modern dating scene), I wonder why women might be using Tinder. Is it just for hooking up? Or do woman (or men) look to Tinder to try to meet someone for actual dating and long-term relationship? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa on Mar 11, 2015 - 23 answers

Is it time to move on?

He has not made an effort t see me for the past two weeks, but then again he has been quite busy. Should I move on? [more inside]
posted by akita on Mar 8, 2015 - 27 answers

How do I cope with and process this intense emotional connection?

Dated someone, felt intensely emotionally (but not physically?) attracted to them, but things fizzled out. Now re-connected as friends and those feelings are coming back, but something's still missing. Need some perspective from others who've been here before. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2015 - 7 answers

Boyfriend bad juju beanplating

Dating for 6 weeks, "officially" boyfriend and girlfriend, have been spending time together most days. I've excitedly told my friends about him and invited him to a 30th and on a group holiday a few of us were going on. Last weekend he went to a farewell party on the Friday and a birthday on the Saturday without inviting me, but came to my place afterwards (on the Friday he left my house to go to the farewell party, then returned afterwards). I felt disappointed that he seemed less excited to introduce me to his friends than I did him and my gut feeling is not good. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by lifethatihavenotlivedyet on Mar 5, 2015 - 41 answers

How do you deal with rejection that isn't explicit?

I asked a guy out twice. The second time, he didn't respond but because he didn't explicitly say no, I'm having a hard time letting it go. How do I move on from this? [more inside]
posted by cyml on Mar 4, 2015 - 27 answers

How do Indian Arranged Marriages work?

I will be visiting India soon to get an arranged marriage. I would like to know what to expect and how to handle the situation. [more inside]
posted by json12 on Mar 2, 2015 - 16 answers

Help me get back up again after rejection

Hello everyone. I am back to my favorite advice site for help on this relationship rut I am in; specifically the lack of ever having one. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Feb 28, 2015 - 10 answers

Dating someone with mental illness

I recently started seeing someone that disclosed that he has a serious mental illness that needs a lot of medication to keep somewhat under control. I got freaked out and after giving it a few weeks of thought, broke it off. Did I over react? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2015 - 35 answers

Should I prepare to experience discrimination when I get hearing aids?

It's time for me to get hearing aids. It isn't age-related but genetic. I am still relatively young, and I'm concerned about discrimination professionally and socially. Please provide advice and reassurance. [more inside]
posted by Beethoven's Sith on Feb 26, 2015 - 23 answers

Critique my dating profile, please

Please critique my profile. Another one of these! Thank you. [more inside]
posted by Melismata on Feb 26, 2015 - 32 answers

Should I wait, or just give up and go back to my singletude?

I met someone at work a little while ago. I thought he was gorgeous and worked up the courage to say hi. Not only do we have a lot in common, he turns out to be one of the sweetest, most respectful people I've ever dated: very understanding, reliable, actually responsive to calls and texts, accepting, wanted to take things slowly, the works. And then I call him after not hearing from him all weekend, and I get his voicemail. He still hasn't called me back, and I'm wondering if I've done something wrong. [more inside]
posted by oogenesis on Feb 24, 2015 - 62 answers

What's up with the one sentence replies? Online dating edition.

Recently I've been trying some online dating. I notice though that not infrequently when I message a guy (or even when I respond to his messages to me!) he'll answer my question but no further - ie won't ask any questions in return. What is this? Should I even bother replying again at that point? [more inside]
posted by WinterSolstice on Feb 23, 2015 - 23 answers

Is he stringing me along or genuinely wants to take things slow?

Met someone almost a year ago and we get along wonderfully. We have wonderful conversations (can stay on the phone and/or hang out for hours), have great chemistry, and constantly talk about the future. However, he doesn't want to make things official because he wants to focus on school. Is this a cop-out? [more inside]
posted by penguingrl on Feb 23, 2015 - 47 answers

Reasonable Text Reposnse Time In Early Stage Dating

Assume you've recently started seeing someone, and it's been going well. If A texts B a day or two later with a proposal for the next date, what is a reasonable amount of time for B to respond? And more importantly, if a day or two goes by without response, what is the correct protocol? [more inside]
posted by maggiepolitt on Feb 22, 2015 - 25 answers

Websites about love and self-worth/knowledge/respect/etc

I really like this website and I was wondering if you can recommend similar ones. [more inside]
posted by divina_y_humilde on Feb 21, 2015 - 5 answers

Is this relationship worth pursuing?

I am 36 years old, female, divorced...about two months ago, I met a guy that is from Egypt and is Muslim. He has been in the U.S. for about 7 years, and is now 32 years old. We have a lot of fun together, but now lately I am questioning if a future is really possible. First of all, I was raised Catholic...I'm not really practicing now, but I don't know if I can raise my children as Muslims (and if I were to marry this guy, it is non-negotiable; the children MUST be raised Muslim). [more inside]
posted by Maggsie97 on Feb 10, 2015 - 32 answers

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