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Is he JUST interested in my body, and is that so wrong?

I'm a straight female, early 30s. I've dated plenty of guys, nearly all of them smarter and more accomplished than myself. I have never - not for one moment - felt that any of them was just interested in my body... until now. [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Jan 19, 2017 - 43 answers

Should I try online dating because I have not met any men being social?

I am 21 and I am going to graduate college soon. I have never had a boyfriend or been asked out before. I am in shape (5'5 and weigh 125 pounds). I feel like guys are not interested in me even when I do try to be social. Should I actually try online dating because I have not met any men being social? [more inside]
posted by ionable on Jan 17, 2017 - 23 answers

Middle-aged Online Dating -- Any Specific Tips?

So, I'm a straight cis woman with two teenage kids, and I found myself unexpectedly single last spring. I'd been married for nineteen years, which means that I've had no experience at all with online dating. I'm 45, which feels incredibly old for putting myself out there. But (a) pretty much everyone single seems to date online, and (b) despite having a reasonably active social life with friends, I pretty much don't meet any single, roughly appropriate, men in real life, so online dating it is. So far, it's been going not traumatically badly, but not satisfyingly either. [more inside]
posted by LizardBreath on Jan 8, 2017 - 13 answers

how does one online date these days?

It's been about six months since I got out of my last relationship and I would like to very tentatively start dipping my toes in the dating pool again. The last time I did online dating was nearly a decade ago. What has changed? What do I need to know now? Best practices? [more inside]
posted by thereemix on Jan 7, 2017 - 14 answers

Come on baby, don't fear the nice guy?

I'vei decided to date again, after some self-reflective time off. I think that I might be sabotaging myself out of dating men who are nice. How can I change this? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova on Jan 5, 2017 - 18 answers

How do I learn to assert myself more in romantic relationships?

Are there any mental strategies, books or just general advice you've found to be particularly useful on becoming more assertive and expressing needs, preferences and feelings clearly and confidently in romantic relationships? [more inside]
posted by armadillo1224 on Jan 3, 2017 - 20 answers

Help me date in 2017

I've been single for almost 18 months now and I'd really like to work towards finding a decent relationship sometime in the near future. Offer me some advice that will help me get there? [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit on Dec 31, 2016 - 11 answers

How to navigate fears and insecurities in a new relationship?

I have zero dating experience. I met all my exes through school or friends, and I was with my ex-husband for 10 years before we split last year. I've now found myself with a boyfriend, who I met through Tinder, and more fears, insecurities, and general baggage than I know what to do with. Please help me sort through what is normal and what is not, and what is okay to ask him and what is not? [more inside]
posted by keep it under cover on Dec 30, 2016 - 15 answers

Is dating really worse in NYC?

What it says on the tin. I realized I don't have a lot of experience dating the modern way (apps for everything) anywhere else, and so have nothing to compare it to. [more inside]
posted by schadenfrau on Dec 28, 2016 - 13 answers

how do I get over this?

I've been more or less in love with someone who likely doesn't reciprocate it for more than a year. I need to get out of this head space. What is a good distraction? [more inside]
posted by anonymoosemoosemoose on Dec 27, 2016 - 23 answers

How is cuppul formed

How do relationships that don't start out as friendships develop over time? I know that every situation/person/relationship is different, but I think it would still be useful to me to hear others' experiences with how things look/work as time goes on. [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina on Dec 22, 2016 - 4 answers

Dating in your 30's in Indianapolis?

I'm considering moving back to my home state of Indiana to be closer to my family and eventually start my own family. But I'm nervous about being 30 years old and single for the first time in years and could use some good insight into the Indy dating scene. [more inside]
posted by daisies on Dec 20, 2016 - 3 answers

Another texting and dating question

Argh! Communication in dating is hard ... is technology the culprit? Or just lack of enthusiasm ...? [more inside]
posted by knownfossils on Dec 15, 2016 - 23 answers

Dating and family post-divorce

Finally dipping my toes back in the waters after years of separation and divorce proceedings (see previous AskMe posts ...). I don't need dating tips as such - it seems complicated at this age and stage in my life - what I am really interested in here is what happens if any dating turns into something more serious, and how to bring a partner into an existing household with a kiddo. So: How can I think about introducing any new partner to the current household? Thank you! [more inside]
posted by life moves pretty fast on Dec 15, 2016 - 7 answers

Are My Photos Misleading?

Are My Photos Misleading? [Link] [more inside]
posted by cscott on Dec 12, 2016 - 32 answers

Working things out: already broken up edition.

How do you date with an eye towards reconciliation while you know the other party is also dating someone else? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2016 - 13 answers

Dating with herpes - how do I go about this?

Need advice on how to feel less awkward about having herpes and disclosing it to people I am dating. More inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2016 - 12 answers

Single lady looking for threesomes.

So according to the internet I am a unicorn. This seems like a stupid question, because apparently there are gazillions of couples looking for ladies like me, but I don't know how to go about this safely. [more inside]
posted by Dilemma on Dec 5, 2016 - 8 answers

Not Another OKCupid Question... best practices for paring down matches?

I realize that this is the ultimate in, well, problems-that-aren't-really-problems, but I get WAY too many messages on OKC. Help me figure out how not to get bogged down? [more inside]
posted by Pizzarina Sbarro on Dec 4, 2016 - 12 answers

Gay dude and straight homey out in SF.. Best nightlife for both of us!

We want to wingman each other.. at the same place. [more inside]
posted by Captain Chesapeake on Dec 2, 2016 - 3 answers

Should I branch out from OkCupid?

I've been using OkCupid successfully for many years, but I'm wondering if I'm likely to have more success elsewhere now. What's the best option for finding poly/ENM people in the Boston area? [more inside]
posted by Cogito on Nov 30, 2016 - 3 answers

Help me think through paganism

I just started going out with a delightful man. He's neopagan and I'm Christian. I'm looking for resources and experiences to understand paganism better. [more inside]
posted by ramenopres on Nov 30, 2016 - 9 answers

Dating Filter: Something feels off

I've been dating someone long distance for a few months and have noticed a sudden shift in our conversations the last two weeks. He is still in contact daily but has subtly become less affectionate. I feel like he is no longer emotionally invested and I don't want to continue. How do I extricate myself gracefully from an undefined relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2016 - 10 answers

Should I date a semi-famous person on the other side of the country?

The title of this question doesn't even begin to convey all the issues here. He lives in Hollywood and is charting a path toward becoming a celebrity. I live on the East Coast, am a bookish introvert, and don't particularly want to get my heart smashed to pieces. I also have ZERO interest in the entertainment industry. Yet we share other interests and have major sparks. [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Nov 29, 2016 - 22 answers

Should I try to "grow" feelings for this person or listen to my anxiety?

I have been dating this guy for just over a month now. I knew him previously from HS, but we reconnected through a dating site. I had a huge crush on him in HS but I wasn't sure how I'd feel as that was a long time ago (25 now). Before we met I was honest and said I wanted friendship to start off with, cause I assumed he'd expect a hook up right away. We've hung out five times now, and been texting a lot but I'm not sure how I feel still. [more inside]
posted by oracleia on Nov 29, 2016 - 16 answers

I forgot how dating works!

Is it typical for a partner to not stay over after having sex for the first time, if it's not a casual sex situation and there's no obvious reason that they need to leave? [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina on Nov 29, 2016 - 33 answers

How to seduce my boyfriend?

Our sex life is dying, and my usual tricks don't work. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 29, 2016 - 39 answers

Help me learn how to girlfriend

My new boyfriend's not a big communicator in-between dates -- I want him to be. Is this normal? How do I fix this? Can I fix it? [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Nov 23, 2016 - 22 answers

How do I bumble? FB coordination edition

I decided to try Bumble, but I wasn't sure whether it would be posting things to my Facebook, or drawing unwanted information into my dating profile. So I created a fake facebook with a fake name to try it out. Now I can't undo that. Use fake FB profile or undo it somehow? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2016 - 7 answers

Unsure how to handle this relationship issue

I've been dating another man for about six months. He's had the same roommate for over a decade but they've never dated, though his roommate has a crush on him. My boyfriend and I have been going on a date every Friday and sometimes spending a few hours together on Sunday. He informed me today that he's spending his birthday--Friday--with his roommate, which apparently is something they've been doing for years, and that I am not invited. I'm not sure how to handle this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 17, 2016 - 34 answers

Should I give this polyamorous relationship a chance or end it?

I'm in a polyamorous relationship of less than a year. It has increasingly been a struggle for me in terms of self-esteem, fear of loss, and anxiety. Lately I've been thinking it's more fair to end this relationship than continue. Is it worth attempting to take this journey in hopes that it will be ok or should I just end the relationship with the idea that, like marriage or wanting children, it's a incompatibility that's a deal breaker? More details below. [more inside]
posted by Thirty7Degrees on Nov 15, 2016 - 17 answers

Reentering the Dating Pool in your late 30s - Guidance needed

After splitting up with my Girlfriend of 8 years over a year and a half ago, I am ready to reenter the dating world. I'm glad that I took time off to work on myself. I instantly wanted to date after breaking up, but it was for all of the wrong reasons. I'm now ready and I need some guidance Details inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo on Nov 12, 2016 - 9 answers

this doesn't exist, right?

Is there a dating app for people who want to go on a date, like, now/tonight? I know it sounds like I'm literally just describing a hookup app, but that's not at all what I want. [more inside]
posted by zokni on Nov 11, 2016 - 9 answers

How to let my defenses down?

I am 48. I had avoided relationships and women generally for several years after a long-term GF cheated on me. I was also emotionally abused for years by my mother, smothered and forced to be her confidant and emotional support even though I was a child. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2016 - 10 answers

Dating without being a heel

How can I date without hurting people when I'm not after anything serious? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Nov 11, 2016 - 19 answers

How open should I be?

I've been on a five dates with a guy and not sure when to tell him certain things about my life. [more inside]
posted by akita on Nov 5, 2016 - 17 answers

Dating a guy who expressed one thing that bothered me

The "Are you disgusted by the extremely obese?" question on okcupid: he answered Yes and marked No as unacceptable. Help me work with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2016 - 52 answers

Was I right to end this relationship?

I just found out that my new boyfriend of 2 months slept with his ex wife after our third date. I ended the relationship. He is now trying to win me back. [more inside]
posted by sockiety on Nov 2, 2016 - 55 answers

Creating unspoken boundaries in new/casual relationships?

How do I create subtle boundaries with someone I just started casually dating without pushing them away? I want to give it a chance and see where it goes, but I don't want to get too attached while it is still casual. [more inside]
posted by prism4tic on Oct 19, 2016 - 7 answers

I feel conflicted about asking a girl out.

I feel conflicted about asking a girl (A) out. I've been trying to get over a crush over another girl (B) for a month now. B was everything I've wanted, but it didn't work out. I don't want to hurt A by asking her out and nothing happening in the long run. [more inside]
posted by Thisisbuffalo on Oct 14, 2016 - 10 answers

How do I get excited about dating?

Given the times and lack of single men around me in real life, I set up a dating profile on two different sites, but shy away from actually responding to people. How do I get myself excited and motivated to communicate and go out with men even if they don't seem that appealing on paper or after a few brief texts? [more inside]
posted by greatalleycat on Oct 11, 2016 - 12 answers

Ever seen red flags that weren't actually red flags?

A dating question about potential red flags. Am I misjudging this person? [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna on Oct 11, 2016 - 45 answers

Got My Mind Set On You

Help a hopeless romantic get over her fear of asking a guy out. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova on Oct 10, 2016 - 15 answers

Dating someone who jokes too much

Dear Mefites, I've started going out with this person i met on a social app. He's jolly, but ever since we've met in person he hasn't stopped joking, literally. He's smart, confident, attractive and grounded but what tires me out abit is that he seems rather hard to get to know on a personal level. [more inside]
posted by eustaciavye87 on Oct 10, 2016 - 22 answers

How do single folks in Auckland connect?

Asking for female, cool, well traveled, worldly, well educated, very fit, pretty, 30-something professional who is looking to meet a similar fellow not in a bar scene, not on tinder etc...? are there better apps in NZ? unusual places or groups to meet good guys? Loves great foods, cooking, the restaurant scene in Aukland, is hilarious, and generally great all around but has hard time finding the right cool cat. Suggestions? Tips? Tricks? Auckland dating hacks?
posted by specialk420 on Oct 9, 2016 - 3 answers

sharing costs in a new relationship?

I'm in a fairly new relationship with my girlfriend. We've been dating 2 months and exclusive for the last month now. How can I bring up the topic of money to her in a mostly non-awkward way? I'm uncomfortable about talking about it, but I would definitely like some help on occasion with dating. She's 28, a registered nurse. I'm 30, work in IT Helpdesk. We both really like each other so far and I'd like to start bringing up topics like this in particular in our relationship. I really don't know how to word it or even when on a date to ask it? I've looked all around the internet, and there's a lot of advice on BRINGING it up but not what to say. I'm more than a little awkward with these things and almost want an EXACT scenario and script to go by. [more inside]
posted by isoman2kx on Oct 8, 2016 - 69 answers

Help my rational mind prevail.

I (26F) have just started seeing a guy (27M). I like to think of myself as an analytical, rational person, but ever since our first date I have been basically unable to properly eat, sleep, or focus on anything. Help me avoid getting swept up by my elevated dopamine and lowered serotonin levels! [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl on Oct 4, 2016 - 11 answers

How do I relax and be myself in a new relationship?

I mean the type of anxiety when you first spend prolonged time together and you just let things flow. I am constantly running out of things to say and having awkward moments. This has happened with pretty much everyone I ever dated, so I know I am the problem. [more inside]
posted by sockiety on Oct 3, 2016 - 12 answers

How to do casual sex?

I'm interested in exploring my sexuality with multiple partners. (37, F, straight-ish). However, I'm a sensitive, over-thinking type with a moderate case of vaginismus. How do i find patient and understanding partners? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 2, 2016 - 11 answers

Ideal dating city?

So I started dating again recently and have realized I have a "type" that, as far as I can tell, is uncommon in my area. If I could go anywhere in the country, where should I go to increase my dating prospects? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels on Sep 27, 2016 - 36 answers

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