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Should I Date a Younger Man?

A few weeks ago I started seeing a guy I am now completely smitten with. We met through mutual friends and it started out as a drunk hookup (hah), but the following weekend I saw him again in a sober hang out context, and we ended up both canceling our evening plans and talking well into the night. I didn’t expect to have such an intense and wonderful connection with him. I feel like he is alive in the same way that I am. We can talk about anything, and we spend a lot of time just laughing about nonsense. Like I said, we’ve only been seeing each other for a few weeks, but I already feel like he could be someone who is very very special in my life. [more inside]
posted by alipie on Feb 8, 2016 - 48 answers

Should I break up with my cold-footed boyfriend? If so, how?

I am 28, female. My boyfriend is 27. We’ve been dating for almost 2 years. He has consistently talked about marriage, “someday when we’re married” etc. and I don’t doubt he really meant it in the moment. But, as seems pretty typical, I get the feeling that his “someday” really means “after you’ve dated me for 5-6 years and we’re both 31.” I don’t want to wait that long. [more inside]
posted by stockpuppet on Feb 4, 2016 - 65 answers

The big, scary world of sexytimes

I'm 26 and gay. In a wheelchair. Never been kissed ( ha! ), been on only one date, which went poorly. How do I make inroads with regards to my crippling fear of intimacy- physical and emotional? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2016 - 9 answers

Seeking romantic compatibility anecdata

Deep in limerence, but the first attempt at sex was disappointing. [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl on Jan 31, 2016 - 21 answers

Midlife dating and how to cope with a sudden break up?

I'm in my early 50s and divorced for three years. For the last two years, I have been dating (but not living with) a man who is long-term separated from his wife who lives in a different country. This is an open relationship, not an affair. She is aware of me, and knows we are together. I have met her several times (we get on well) and I am introduced to the family as "Dad's good friend". He has two children, one at University and the other (16) lives with his Mom. During his last trip home, his 16 year old begged him to return home. My partner will likely do so. I know I can't play a part in this decision, but how do I take care of myself now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 27, 2016 - 13 answers

How do I end two relationships in a positive note?

Need help in ending two relationships in a way that is not too hurtful for any of those involved. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2016 - 15 answers

If a guy isn't ready to commit to me, should I give him time?

I've been seeing a 23 yo guy for 3 months and been on about 14-16 dates. We haven't been intimate yet and he hasn't tried. He tells me he likes me and he's looking for a relationship. When I brought up the "what are we" conversation, he tells me he isn't sure if he's ready to commit. His reason is that he'd like to spend more time together and it's been hard since we're both busy with school and we see each other about once per week. I'm at the point where I'm starting to like him a lot and I'm just wondering if I should stick around or MOA. If I do stick around, what can I do to help him decide?
posted by missybitsy on Jan 19, 2016 - 25 answers

moving to a new city for a "girlfriend"

I met this girl from an online dating site from Peru, and we have been chatting by text and on skype for seven months. Now she has moved to Toronto in Canada for school, but I live in Boston, and we agreed to do a long distance relationship for some time while I look for jobs in Canada or Buffalo, NY (which is close to Toronto). I only know this girl through 7 months of skype and texting, and she came to visit me one weekend recently and we got to hang out, and we had a really good time together. But I am having doubts about moving to a brand new city for someone I hardly know but I am still attracted to her, and as far as I know she has a really nice personality. Would it be worth it to leave everything behind to move to Toronto just to be close to her? The other thing is that I really like Toronto as a city, and I have a close friend who lives there.
posted by pieceofcake on Jan 19, 2016 - 24 answers

How forthcoming should I be about my sexual inexperience?

Hard as it may be to believe I have reached the age of 27 without ever having had sex with a woman. Thinking about sex may even be getting too ahead of myself since I've never even kissed a woman before either. I'm not proud of any of this but unfortunately circumstances have led to where I am today. [more inside]
posted by Dynamo05 on Jan 19, 2016 - 27 answers

I think I'm doing initial dating-site contacts wrong

I've been finding dating online frustrating. Everyone finds dating online frustrating. However - for me (as a guy contacting women), I seem to be doing especially badly at writing initial messages that lead to women responding, or even viewing my profile. What are those supposed to look like, anyway? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2016 - 39 answers

Feel unhappy...what do I do next?

I’m in a low point because I know I am unhappy, but I feel paralyzed with indecision about what to do with my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2016 - 9 answers

I want to hook up. Trying to hook up is becoming exhausting.

Trying to hook up/get laid and failing. Hard. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2016 - 69 answers

How to find a husband in the San Francisco Bay Area

I'm a woman in San Francisco. Where should I go and what should I do do to find a man who wants marriage and a child in the near future, say 1 - 3 years? Specific examples of worked for you and for the people you know as well as concrete advice would be great. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2016 - 30 answers

Can I have a healthy relationship with a "passive agressive" partner?

(Not sure the PA diagnosis is accurate.) She has broken up with me three times over the course of last month over ridiculously trivial affairs (details below), just to make up again soon afterwards. I have developed feelings for her and enjoy spending time together (when she is not in her jerk mode, that is). Any experience dealing successfully with a partner who displays abrupt mood changes? [more inside]
posted by samufer on Jan 13, 2016 - 85 answers

Dating someone that doesn't want the same things in the future

How to figure out if I should keep dating him? [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Jan 12, 2016 - 19 answers

He is pulling away - what should I do?

I have been getting to know someone over the past six weeks but he has been slowly pulling away over the last couple (i.e. lesser communication and dates). There are a few factors involved including him not knowing if he is ready for a serious relationship (it has been 2 years since his divorce), close family member being diagnosed of an illness and busy workload. Is there anything for me to do apart from being supportive, giving him space and waiting for him to sort things out? Thanks in advance. [more inside]
posted by sara479 on Jan 12, 2016 - 17 answers

Which social obligation to attend?

I'm torn between conflicting events on the same night and am not sure which of two events to attend and which to cancel. Since there will be drinking at either (and I can't afford a cab or get a DD on short notice) I feel I must pick one or the other. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by MeFiMouse on Jan 9, 2016 - 41 answers

Dating a good friend's ex-girlfriend

Two friends of mine broke up a few weeks ago. I've been friends with the man for something close to a decade but became good friends with his then girlfriend over the last year, as well. So it was only natural that me and her continued to hang out, unexpectedly (for both of us) getting closer to each other. We're now at the beginning of a relationship ourselves - not knowing what to do with her ex/my good friend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 6, 2016 - 31 answers

Crash and burn relationship?

** Asking for a friend ** I have been dating someone for three weeks and it has become serious very quickly. Is this a bad sign? [more inside]
posted by akita on Dec 28, 2015 - 10 answers

do ladies of the night see wedding nights? (life after escorting)

Will anyone want to date and have a long term relationship with a former escort/full service sex worker? Should I disclose my occupation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 25, 2015 - 26 answers

Middle-aged geek dating in London

A friend of mine is spinning his wheels in trying to find love in London. I've tried to help, but I'm long out of the scene and the obvious stuff isn't going well. Can London (or other) MeFites suggest some new avenues? [more inside]
posted by Devonian on Dec 17, 2015 - 10 answers

Am I unlucky, or unlovable?!

Ok, that was a very dramatic question title. But dude: I'm 32 and haven't had a relationship for 5 and 1/2 years! How do I change this and/or shake the feeling it's because I'm just not worthy? [more inside]
posted by dryersock on Dec 13, 2015 - 15 answers

GF's ex-fling offered her a job (and he's the boss)

Before we met, they had a thing. He's offered her a (admittedly amazing) job, but I'm freaking out because she'll report to him. How do I deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 12, 2015 - 48 answers

Dating while 'separated'

My partner and I are divorcing after eight years, with the initial paperwork to be filed before the end of the year. However, we are still sharing a house (but not bedrooms). I am looking for a place to live, but realistically it will be mid-January, at the earliest, before I can move. We both have acknowledged this and have both expressed okay-ness with sharing the house in the interim. My question is about dating and ethics (I guess?). [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie on Dec 11, 2015 - 34 answers

How do I resolve this internal conflict?

I am in my mid 30s and single (never been married). I have always enjoyed being single more than being in a relationship. I fact, the thought of married life fills me with dread and feels like a trap. But then I have times of feeling lonely and thinking that if I don't make an effort to meet a man and settle down soon, I will regret it one day. [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Dec 9, 2015 - 32 answers

What to do when someone at work asks you out

And you like the person but you're seeing someone [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Dec 8, 2015 - 21 answers

Why aren't I furious about how this man treated me?

I was seeing a dude off and on for several months. We really liked each other (or so I thought), but I ended things because he snapped at me a few times. This was followed by a couple heated declarations of "feelings" on his end ... but while the passionate displays were flattering, he never backed them up with action--so I faded away. Tonight, we ran into each other at a bar. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2015 - 39 answers

Is Match.com worth the price (vs. using OkCupid)

Are there notable differences between Match and OKCupid that make Match worth the price? [more inside]
posted by bearette on Dec 3, 2015 - 16 answers

Girlfriend's mom says we have to share separate beds. Opinions?

My girlfriend is twenty five and her mother is telling her to sleep in a separate bed from me. She is fairly introverted and sheltered ( I am too to a degree) and her family is pretty religious. I am feeling uncomfortable that my girlfriend's mother is making these decisions for her, and I am unsure how to proceed or how to feel about this relationship. Any and all opinions are welcome. [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 on Dec 3, 2015 - 48 answers

Taking a break from dating when you're lonely and have no friends.

I want to take a long break from dating to get to know myself better. The thing is, I don't have any in person friends and am very lonely. I mostly just hang out with my Mom. How do I keep myself from dating again just to fill the loneliness? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Nov 26, 2015 - 17 answers

Do I need to debrief this brief relationship?

Long story short, a guy I met online sent me a text saying that he was in love with me, after our first date. I talked to him about it and he seemed to understand that it was too much too soon and it made me uncomfortable. It kept happening (he was texting, emailing, calling, talking about how much he missed me and about "us"), all within a month. During that time, he gave me a beautiful piece of art. About a week later, I broke it off. Now he's calling me asking for the piece of art back and asking what went wrong. [more inside]
posted by bright and shiny on Nov 24, 2015 - 45 answers

It's not you, it's me, no, it's you.

I went out with a guy a few months ago. It didn't work out and for some reason I'm still puzzled by and dwelling at times on his behavior. Was it him? Was it me? Wtf. [more inside]
posted by a knot unknown on Nov 24, 2015 - 22 answers

How do we improve our intellectual connection?

I’m dating a man who is my kindred spirit in many ways. However, we have been dating for a year now, and I have felt over most of this time a sense of yearning for challenging conversation that I just don’t get with him. How have you seen people develop their critical thinking, abstract reasoning, and complex verbal expression abilities as adults? Conversely, if you have found happiness being with someone with whom you don’t have an intellectual connection, how have you managed around this on an everyday basis? [more inside]
posted by forasong on Nov 23, 2015 - 88 answers

Remedial Dating Tips for Newbies in Small Cities

I separated from my husband earlier this year after over a decade of marriage and have been living alone for a few months. I went to a party last night and a guy caught my eye - he's a friend of mutual friends and I realized later on that I had seen him at another event previously this year. But I didn't really have a chance to chat with him. Asked a friend what his story was via text after I got home and she said he was really great and "recently not engaged". This friend pointed me to his FB profile and it seems like we might have a lot in common. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 23, 2015 - 6 answers

Anxious girlfriend bringing me down - can this be stopped or prevented?

My girlfriend has anxiety. My last girlfriend did too, as did the one before her and the one before her. What is it about me that's attracting anxious people, and how can I change it? And how can I best handle my girlfriend's anxiety without getting caught up in a caretaker role? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2015 - 34 answers

He said he'd text me more often but he didn't, should I move on?

Hello everyone, I've been dating this 23 yo grad school student that I met online for the past 6 weeks. We've been going out once a week (6 dates total). We've kissed but haven't been intimate yet. The dates have been fun and we both seem to enjoy each other's company. The only problem is that we barely communicate in between dates. He would only text me to make plan for the date and sometimes we would go for 3-4 days without talking to each other. [more inside]
posted by missybitsy on Nov 17, 2015 - 21 answers

Early 30s, male, NYC area. How can I date anyone?

Hello all, I'm having some trouble in the dating world. I'm in my early 30s and male. I'm not rich, don't have an excellent career, and haven't traveled the world. I'm educated and make an OK living, but that doesn't seem to be enough for the women who live here. [more inside]
posted by gehenna_lion on Nov 17, 2015 - 63 answers

When should I reveal a minor disability to a potential mate?

I have a minor disability that limits my mobility somewhat. It's not immediately visible, so you wouldn't know about it unless I told you. I'm just now starting to date again. At what point should I tell a potential mate that I have this disability, and what is a good way to address the subject? [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Nov 16, 2015 - 24 answers

Try A Little Tenderness

How can I feel more comfortable around men, and find men who are gentle and solid and who I might like to date (as a queer/bi trans woman)? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish on Nov 14, 2015 - 10 answers

Is he losing interest?

We have been dating since early September and he has so far been really decent. He said he was going to make me dinner this week but hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. What has happened? [more inside]
posted by akita on Nov 12, 2015 - 37 answers

Snapped at friend-ish for standing me up--am I verbally abusive?

A guy I dated briefly canceled literally a minute before we were supposed to meet for dinner. He asked for a raincheck. I said some choice words that I now regret. [more inside]
posted by minoraltercation on Nov 7, 2015 - 31 answers

Tips for online dating in the UK

I'm wondering what forms of online dating are most popular in the UK. I joined OKCupid but have only gotten copy-and-paste messages from creepy dudes and I get the impression that maybe this website is not as popular here as it is in the US (though I haven't used it in the US). Have dating websites become outdated? Is everyone on Tinder? Is Tinder only used for hooking up? Any thoughts or experiences with the current online dating scene would be appreciated.
posted by poilkj on Nov 7, 2015 - 16 answers

Advice for dating someone with clinical depression

Most of the posts I found here were by posters suffering from depression themselves. I'm interested in those perspectives (what a partner can do to help) but primarily those of people who've been in relationships with a depressed person, but aren't depressed themselves. More specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by ism on Nov 6, 2015 - 24 answers

Getting body image issues out of my head: Dating while fat

So I am an intelligent, funny, kind, 30-year-old fat woman who generally has a healthy and pragmatic attitude about being fat. I felt constantly shitty about not being thin when I was younger, but whatever the wider world thinks, I know being fat doesn't mean I'm not pretty, or that I'm lazy, or whatever. But the negative self-talk, fueled by cultural narratives and negative experiences, rears it ugly head while dating sometimes. I want to get that voice out of my head. [more inside]
posted by Squalor Victoria on Oct 26, 2015 - 18 answers

How to rebuild your confidence after a stream of rejections?

I've recently had a stream of dating-related rejections. It's gotten pretty frustrating and I've now started to see rejection as a given. How do I rebuild my confidence and get back on the horse? [more inside]
posted by sockandawe on Oct 24, 2015 - 6 answers

Should I continue seeing a guy who just wants to have fun for now?

I've been going on dates with a guy I met from a dating app. He's in medical school so he has a busy schedule. We've seen each other 3x and we kissed on the last date. During the last date, I asked him what he's looking for and he said he wants someone to go out with and enjoy his time with outside of school. However, he doesn't know if he wants a relationship or not (ie. short term, long term). [more inside]
posted by missybitsy on Oct 19, 2015 - 31 answers

A web of deceit and misdirection, or, how to ruin two relationships

I've been dating a lovely woman for almost 4 years this fall but, within the past year, have developed an on-again-off-again romantic relationship with a former coworker. I feel the later has developed to a point that it is make-or-break while the former continues along without hiccup. I have a huge number of conflicting feelings... [more inside]
posted by landofthefree on Oct 18, 2015 - 25 answers

Nice guy is nice. Also, texting a lot.

A guy I started talking to on a dating website texts me continually after I leave work in the evenings, and now wants to talk on the phone before our first date. He's been SUPER nice and he's clearly psyched. But I feel suffocated, and our first date isn't even for another 3 days. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 14, 2015 - 43 answers

Dating in NYC?

No, seriously, why am I having zero luck? I ended a long-term relationship in June. I'm still getting over it, but I want to get back on that damn horse. I moved to NYC for grad school in August, and I have had zero (literally, 0) luck with men since the breakup. [more inside]
posted by Ragini on Oct 12, 2015 - 47 answers

Delayed Dating

Is dating in your 30s more difficult than in your 20s? [more inside]
posted by sprezzy on Oct 8, 2015 - 18 answers

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