I'm hopelessly, desperately clueless at dating. Extensive tl;dr content contained herein. Be gentle, but above all: HALP. Now, watch as I over think my plate of beans.
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posted by anonymous
on May 26, 2012 -
15 answers
Advice needed to transition back into casual and not-so casual online dating after a long time.
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2012 -
8 answers
The quick and dirty: I'm seeing a guy. We slept on the first date, he brought up dating exclusively and we were both in earnest, mutual agreement that neither of us were looking for a FWB type of deal. Caveat: He's moving at the end of the summer. How best to proceed? Details behind the cut to fill in the blanks...
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posted by chloe.gelsomino
on May 24, 2012 -
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How important is age vs life-stage when looking for a partner? I'm 30 but might as well be 25, and I don't know where I should be looking for my next partner.
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posted by farce majeure
on May 22, 2012 -
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My friend-with-benefits rarely texts me or asks to see me. So I think he's probably not that into it. But then he spends hours fixing things around the house for me. What would explain this?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2012 -
39 answers
Relationship-filter: I am willing to work on my relationship with a S.O. This leads to the problem that I have a hard time assessing if the relationship is working through. Let me explain more:
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posted by philosophygeek
on May 16, 2012 -
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At my wits end with personal ads (and photos). Sorry guys, this one is long. You've been warned.
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posted by anonymous
on May 16, 2012 -
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looking for some NSA encounter while travelling, willing but clueless: help me do this casual hookup thing?
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posted by anonymous
on May 13, 2012 -
19 answers
You're supposed to bite the bullet and tell someone how you feel -- because life is about risk and vulnerability and Going For It, I get that. But I also can't shake the feeling that by the time it gets to that point, it's already too late. Disabuse me of this notion (or not)?
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posted by anonymous
on May 8, 2012 -
26 answers
Help me decide whether, and how, to man up with a shy friend I like-like with a significant age gap. Cue the snowflakes.
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posted by hungry hippo
on May 4, 2012 -
35 answers
Last fall, I
asked you guys for some help with my OkCupid profile. Your advice worked really well for me! I've changed a fair bit since then and now that I'm getting back into dating full-time I'm going back for round 2 with the hive mind.
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posted by modernserf
on May 2, 2012 -
18 answers
At a physical checkup I met a med-school student who was touring around with the doctor learning to diagnose, etc. She seemed sweet. Would it be weird to call the office and ask her to lunch?
posted by uncannyslacks
on May 1, 2012 -
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Should I text, friend, or otherwise contact a guy I met in a bar on Sunday? I've never really met a romantic interest this way before and have always been a bit leery of it. But he seemed cool.
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posted by sucky_poppet
on May 1, 2012 -
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I've been talking to a guy online for 4 months. He's cute and seems like a decent, fun guy w/ a full life and lots of friends. We've exchanged a lot of info/flirted through email, but nothing too deep. At first he took great interest in me - emailing me with open ended questions, always asking how I was doing and replying a day or two later. I went away for 2 weeks and he said he'd miss me, etc. Because of how silly I was with the guy I liked before him I was trying to manage my expectations ("nothing could come of it and it'd be okay!" I told myself) and play things cool by only reciprocating what he gave me, but recently we've hit a snag...
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posted by soooo
on Apr 26, 2012 -
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Stress free strategies for distancing oneself from dating? Dating Filter: My enthusiasm has waned. I'd like to bow out gracefully and preserve friendships.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 24, 2012 -
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How do one night stands work on a practical level? Who brings protection, etc? Ladies, do you keep them around?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 24, 2012 -
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I am looking for advice on a specific situation, but general comments are welcomed too.
The situation is as follows: I went out with a guy (I'm a girl) a couple of days ago and it went really really well. I am fairly sure it was a date, because he bought drinks, put his hand on my waist, and we sort of kissed a little bit but not really.
We went out again tonight, and we had a good time. But at the end, he hugged me like he would a bro. We also each paid for our own meal, which I had planned on doing anyway, but my friends always tell me that's one of the ways to tell if it was a date or just hanging out. I am really confused about what just happened. Anyone has ideas?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 19, 2012 -
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For those of you who don't contact your SO every day - and for those of you who got used to a SO who goes radio silent: Help! I'd love some perspective.
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posted by mylittlepoppet
on Apr 19, 2012 -
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I'm a female with no game trying to decipher the latest chapter in a lengthy saga with a guy I'm interested in. Talk some sense into me one way or another.
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posted by superfille
on Apr 17, 2012 -
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Dating dilemma - The type of people I want to date always seem to live in New York. I'm happy in my small town and don't want to move. How do I best approach this?
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posted by audio
on Apr 17, 2012 -
55 answers
How important is it to have the perfect OKCupid profile? What might be wrong with mine?
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posted by veryblue1
on Apr 16, 2012 -
74 answers
Another online dating etiquette question: Is it ever acceptable to contact someone two times before hearing back from them? Or is that creepy?
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posted by seesom
on Apr 15, 2012 -
23 answers
What are the progression levels if you are dating a girl over few weeks?
We kissed after the first date in the parking lot and the second date in the car before calling it a night.
How do you get few moments alone to escalate and suggest you mean business without looking like a creep?
When it is ok to hold hands, or walk that way? I already grabbed her forearms while walking leading her in a different shop, street etc and she is very comfortable.
posted by daveg02
on Apr 15, 2012 -
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Gay male and gay male of color filter. How do I come to terms with my dating issues?
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posted by 314159
on Apr 11, 2012 -
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Online dating never seems to progress past the smalltalk stage. What am I doing wrong? Most men who message me never ask me out. I've sometimes done the asking, but nothing has come of it. I've had to repel a lot of unsavory advances, but other than that, I get no offers. And lately, nobody has messaged me at all.
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posted by windykites
on Apr 9, 2012 -
22 answers
Seeking short Fables / Parables about love, relationships, death and loss of friends.
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posted by audio
on Apr 8, 2012 -
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I would probably get back together with my ex if he asked me to do so, atleast today. I think I need to date other people to get him out of my head. What are the ethics of that?
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posted by athena2255
on Apr 6, 2012 -
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Am I on the rebound? I don't think I am, but when you hear my story you might think I am. How do I know for myself?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 5, 2012 -
18 answers
