What's your favorite cafe, bar, or restaurant in Oakland, CA with really comfy seats? I'm imagining something like the front area of The New Parkway theatre with all the couches, except with a bit more privacy/space since this will be a date... does such a place exist? Thank you!
Women of Metafilter : have you ever given a guy the head-dodge (or the cheek-turn) at the end of a first date, and then actually wanted them to ask you out on a second date? [more inside]
I just moved to Los Angeles and want to spend some time with this girl who is a lifelong resident of the city. She lives in Los Feliz, works in TV, and loves TV. Both of us are 34. Hivemind, do you have a good idea?
What's the best way to say to someone, "hey, I think you're cool, I'd love to be friends outside of class" without romantic overtones? [more inside]
Hello everyone, I've been dating this 23 yo grad school student that I met online for the past 6 weeks. We've been going out once a week (6 dates total). We've kissed but haven't been intimate yet. The dates have been fun and we both seem to enjoy each other's company. The only problem is that we barely communicate in between dates. He would only text me to make plan for the date and sometimes we would go for 3-4 days without talking to each other. [more inside]
I read about this dating coach app as its founders were profiled in Inc. magazine. They had a few tiers of dating coaching and the service had "trees" in the name I'm pretty sure. The focus was coaching not matching. I think it is a long shot but does anyone know? I searched inc magazine
I've been going on dates with a guy I met from a dating app. He's in medical school so he has a busy schedule. We've seen each other 3x and we kissed on the last date. During the last date, I asked him what he's looking for and he said he wants someone to go out with and enjoy his time with outside of school. However, he doesn't know if he wants a relationship or not (ie. short term, long term). [more inside]
A guy I started talking to on a dating website texts me continually after I leave work in the evenings, and now wants to talk on the phone before our first date. He's been SUPER nice and he's clearly psyched. But I feel suffocated, and our first date isn't even for another 3 days. [more inside]
How long to job search before accepting a job offer? [more inside]
I met this guy online about a week ago. We haven't texted much but he suggested we meet up in person this Tuesday. Two days ago, I texted him asking if he's still on and he said he's looking forward to it. Today is Monday evening and no plan has been made as of now. Should I text him and ask what the plan is or should I wait for him to text me to make plans? Thanks for your input.
I'm currently in a weird predicament. I recently started talking to 3 guys off of a dating app (not Tinder) at around the same time. They all asked me out for a first date. Through our exchanges, I notice that all 3 go to the same school together and happen to be in the same group of friends. I even saw a few photos of them together. All 3 have asked me to go on coffee or dinner date with them. I don't know what I should do because I haven't met any in personso I don't know them yet to write anyone off. At the same time, I don't want to be labeled as a serial dater if I agree to go out with all 3 of them. I'm afraid of the awkwardness when they later find out. What do you think I should do? Their ages range from 22-27 by the way.
My aunt's boss has fixed me up with his son. I have confirmed zero interest whatsoever in this fellow. What is the classiest possible way to communicate this? [more inside]
My amazing boyfriend is going to be out of town for work next week, and is bummed that we are going to be apart for that long. I want to plan a really awesome day for us on Sunday so we can have as much fun as possible before he leaves. [more inside]
I've been talking to a guy I met online for about 6 weeks, been on about 4 dates. At the very beginning, I let him know that I wanted to take things slow and not jump into bed with him quickly and he seemed to understand and respect my decision. We still haven't hold hand or kiss. However, our communication has increased significantly. He would call me almost daily and talk to me for over an hour each time. We also text each other constantly. [more inside]
I'm having trouble discerning if this guy is worthy of my time or not as I feel like I'm into him. We've been texting each other for a couple of weeks and met up once in person. He's very funny and we seemed to have mutual values and clicked well through our convo. He texts me a lot everyday yet he never calls. He said he's not a fan of talking on the phone. [more inside]
This guy I met online has been texting me for the past few days and we sometimes would text back and forth for several hours but we haven't talked on the phone yet. Two days ago, we decided to meet up at the park but ended up cancelling it because of bad weather. We rescheduled the date to another day. Since then, I noticed him stop initiating convo with me and ignoring some of my texts unless I ask him a question. I'm confused as to whether or not he's still interested in me or if he's trying to take a break until the date? Has anyone been through this before? [more inside]
I foolishly promised a week of interesting evening Seattle dates, but then the potential of shutdown got me swamped by work and I forgot about it until now. Since the first one needs to start in <2 hours, things without reservations preferred. Assume I am functionally ignorant of what the city contains. Please help me cover my error and still have nice romantic times! [more inside]
While dating online I am planning on meeting a man tomorrow for a first date. He proposes his city. At the same time I am trying actively to progress in making better choices in men, being assertive, trusting my gut, realistically doubting myself, and am afraid of being too negative ("cutting off my head because of a toothache", or an English equivalent). [more inside]
Please help me sort out a new-ish dating situation. [more inside]
Excel question: Can I enter just a 1-31 value into one cell and have a complete date appear in a different cell based on fixed month and year values? [more inside]
I just went on a first date with a guy I met online. He's funny, sweet, and nice. He paid for my drink and did not make me feel uncomfortable at all. We talked for about 2 hours and we seemed to have some common interests. I could sense that he's into me because at the end of the date, he asked me if he could see me again soon. I told him I'd have to see when I can because I have a busy week ahead. [more inside]
My partner and I have had a lot of challenges this year and we want to do something special together outside of just the regular eat-a-nice-dinner routine. Money is tight, but we have $100 to devote to this special occasion. Things we have discussed include couples' massage classes, groupon getaways, food tours, getting tattoos, etc...but we just haven't been able to find something yet that is within budget. Got any ideas?
Is there any way to resize photos without changing the date on the file? [more inside]
Probably pretty simple, but I would like to clean up the Metafilter Infodump timestamp, help? [more inside]
I'm due to start a new job in five weeks. Since I accepted, my dad has been admitted to home hospice. Should I tell me new employer? [more inside]
I have an Excel spreadsheet I use to track glucose readings. There’s a value diabetics use called “A1C” which looks at the last three months of readings. It's based on a blood test, but can be estimated by averaging your readings for the last three months. I try to track every day, but I can’t reliably say “look at the last 90 values” – so I’m wondering how to set up a formula to tell it to only look at readings going back 90 days, not necessarily 90 readings. More inside. [more inside]
Hi! I have a date planned near the Ferry Building and would like to get a drink somewhere not too loud. I went to Local Edition a month ago and found we had to YELL above the chatter of the bar. I would like to avoid that again. Where would you recommend?
My "go-to" dates involve food. What do you do, if you want to go on a date with a restaurant owning chef? [more inside]
So, I'm having coffee with a polyamorous women who is potentially interested in submitting to me. Help me guess what she might mean, ahead of time, so I can be more fluent when we talk. (Trigger warning: graphic consensual violence.) [more inside]
So here's the thing. I like to write down my thoughts. But I also like knowing when it was written down with appropriate date and time. But the way I currently do it takes too much time. [more inside]
I haven't been feeling so confident lately. I know my SO could also be much happier if she felt a bit more confident. When we first met around 3 years ago, we were both extremely confident. Now we seem to have trouble being decisive, making decisions to better ourselves/get necessary things done, and choosing a restaurant or a date idea gets harder and harder. I would love ideas of things that could help with this. [more inside]
What's a good dinner (first-)date spot in Budapest for a couple of twenty-somethings? I'm 25, they're 28. I'd prefer Pest side, something not too loud, not super expensive by Budapest-ian standards.
The lady and I would are visiting Palo Alto Saturday night. Where should we go for a fun date. Would like to eat, do a fun activity or see a fun thing (though i am on crutches at the moment), and have cupcakes for dessert.
So I'm trying to up my game a bit in dating my wife. Nothing crazy, as we are home-bound a lot with kids, but I have something specific in mind regarding something that she likes. We are trying to carve out some time together during the week just to chill and enjoy movies together. What I'd like to do is have something special every week that I would make for us in terms of food, beyond chips and popcorn, etc. I'd like this to require some planning and effort, but without a crazy amount of prep time, as we have limited time in the evenings. Are there some fun, snacky (i.e, not a meal) things that are not super low maintenance, but not high maintenance, either, that would impress my wife (just a little bit)?
I want to take my girlfriend out for a day of horseback riding. I've never done it. She's ridden a horse once or twice as a child and that's it. We live in Toronto and it's going to be a day trip so no more than an hour and a half or so of driving in either direction. Can anyone suggest a farm or stable or whatever it's called where we can do this? [more inside]
In the first week of June I am going to NYC to visit a girl who I am hoping to woo. I have a pretty open window: the first day we are meeting is June 4th, and I'll be leaving that Sunday. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Do you have any tips on how to behave on early dates to increase romantic chemistry? [more inside]
First date in NYC, near grand central and the Bryant park area, weekend afternoon. Likes: animals, theatre, the arts, books. Fun and interactive things would be especially welcome. Suggestions?
I started a postgraduate course 3 months ago and there was a girl who stood out a fair bit. There were various issues that stopped me from considering dating her so I went down the friend route. She seemed interested in me at first - we ended up being alone together twice on nights out with others from the class, walking around London and the river, but I, not interested in any kind of intimacy, kept these meetings platonic. It's only recently that I've gotten myself together mentally, gotten to know her better and decided I like what I see - am I too late? What should I do to move from a new friendship back to that stage of 'initial attraction'? [more inside]
Due to The Grand Budapest Hotel not playing in our area tonight, my husband and I have a babysitter for a few hours tonight and nothing planned. Help us devise an alternative plan. [more inside]
My wife and I used to go out fairly frequently - not partying but dinner, museum, movie, etc. Almost two years ago we had a child, whom we both adore. However, we have not been out since. We have had offers to watch the child so we could go out and she would not take any up on it. What can I say for my wife to accept a date with me? [more inside]
I'm a bisexual woman in my 20s, and I started online dating in January. I moved to a new country so I am totally content with meeting new people and learning more about the city through them. I also really enjoy just talking to new people in general without any expectations, but I wonder if can do something better so I can actually have something romantic? [more inside]
On Wednesdays Mr. Pterodactyl and I have date nights with dinner and a movie. We like to make some food and watch a movie that ties in to it in some way, however tenuous. Help us plan our future romantic engagements! [more inside]
We like beer, beautiful scenery, flying kites, and getting home by 9. What's fun in Emoryville?
Alright everyone, this is a hard one. Does she like me? Is this a date, or are just hanging out? [more inside]
Help us figure out what to watch for date night this Wednesday! [more inside]
How do I avoid shop talk on dates? [more inside]
My boyfriend of 1.5 years is leaving to go back to his country (wasn't granted a visa) and he will be gone for at least 2 months.. maybe more if he doesn't get another one he's applying for. I feel like that's a long time and we are both bad at communicating on the phone/skype/etc. We work best when we can see each other and value doing a lot of things together (our love language is touch and quality time). He hasn't mentioned coming to visit, although I would. I'd even love for us to both go to another country and explore while he's in this transition period but I don't think his financial situation would allow for it and would feel like Im trying to save the relationship more than he is. I feel like we're doomed since long distance relationships rarely work out. What should or can I do?
I want to date. I'm 21 and the last time I had a boyfriend or a guy I dated for more than 2-3 dates was when I was 16 and totally-in-love-oh-my-god (for a 16 year old, anyway). I don't mind asking guys out, and I sometimes do online. But no matter what people say, it feels emasculating and guys seem to think I'm desperate... How can I encourage guys to ask me out, as an intense, energetic kind of awkward girl? [more inside]
There is this woman/lady/girl/gal who's often behind the register at a Chipotle I'm at 2-3 times per week after work. [more inside]