My father put the family dog to sleep on Sunday and then kept it a secret from me (and other family members) for two days for a really stupid reason, then told me about it last night in a completely off-handed "by the way" text message. I am extremely angry and hurt. How do I process this information and deal with him going forward? What is the best way to grieve for the loss of my dog in this light? Wall of text below (sorry). [more inside]
I don't want to be around my parents, but my guilt keeps me in contact with them. How can I get to a place where I don't feel bad about not interacting with them unless it's on my terms? [more inside]
Can you have a trial separation while still both living in the same house? [more inside]
I'm crushing on a single dad, how do I go about this? [more inside]
When I was very young, my dad took me camping to see the Perseid meteors; it was one of the defining experiences of my life. Now I am grown and he is nearly old, and I would like to turn it around. Help me find a suitable mountaintop in New England to go camping with my dad; somewhere where we won't have to see anyone else. Details within. [more inside]
Mr Robin's birthday is coming up, and I'd love to get him something really nifty this time around. I don't really have a knack for selecting gifts - I do okay and occasionally nail it. I'd like to really nail it this time! [more inside]
We are expecting our first child and I am an excited and joyful father to be. I would like a book or a pair of books on pregnancy and child rearing with special conditions. [more inside]
I just found out my dad has pulmonary fibrosis. He and I are both too young to deal with this. Help? [more inside]
My dad's birthday is coming up. He is a special scone. Can you help? [more inside]
After seeing and reading about the death of parents, one of the biggest regrets seems to be not knowing them better. I have a cordial but distance relationship from my parents and while I don't ever see us being BFFs, I would like to know them better as people and their life. How do I do this, considering I live 6 states away? [more inside]
I want to adopt a dad (see extended explanation on why). I'm thinking maybe even a nice gay male couple, a two for one deal! This does not need to be a formal adoption - I have plenty of "parents" (2 moms) - I'm just looking for someone who doesn't have any children (hence thinking about an older gay couple) who might want to "adopt" a kid because they've got some extra love lying around (and maybe some really adorable dogs) and I don't have a relationship with my dad. I would like some advice. 1) Where should I look? 2) What are things I need to consider? 3) How would you go about doing this? 4) Any other thoughts or observations? I'm just sort of tossing this idea around and thinking I'd get some data points from you all. [more inside]
I'd like to get some recommendations on the basics of feminism, especially as it might relate to things a dad can do to help his daughters prepare for and deal with sexism in society and also do his part in understanding the world and making it a better place for women (and by extension all people). [more inside]
I need suggestions for a durable leather men's belt under $100. My dad is one of those difficult to shop for people because he buys what he needs or wants himself. Last night, he mentioned that he did need a new belt. He also said that he had already replaced his belt once this year, but they always seemed to crack & need replacing often. He wears a separate belt to work, so this would just be for time off. [more inside]
What would be the most interesting, attractive, and tasty liqueur I could buy or make my father as a Christmas present? [more inside]
My dad paid for 200k worth of schooling for me, i got a BA in Economics from a good school, went on to do some independent film production, quit my job with my boss 6 months ago, finally saw the last film I helped produce premiere at TIFF, and I've been re-evaluating what I want to do with my life. (Currently 24.5 years old.) I want to join the Army and become a Ranger, like my uncle (who my dad despises) but I don't know how to go about telling my dad. [more inside]
My friend's dad is dying of emphysema. I'm not sure what stage he's in. I don't think he's ready to die yet, but he's not in good shape at all... [more inside]
Am I a bad son for feeling this way? [more inside]
My dad is turning 60 on Saturday. Yay, good for him! I left it way too late this year and I have no ideas - he is very tough to shop for. My price range is $40-80, lower is better (could swing up to $100 if I really thought he'd like it). [more inside]
My dad was just diagnosed with Large B Cell Lymphoma. The prognosis is good. He begins chemotherapy (R-CHOP) in a week - 6 cycles every 3 weeks, for a total of 18 weeks. I am a 7 1/2 hour drive away, and I don't own a car. What can I do to help? [more inside]
I want to buy my dad a nice pen (preferably the Parker brand), but googling and amazoning around has only made me more confused about what pen to get. [more inside]
Really excited to bring my daughter to NYC for her first time next weekend. I haven't been for a few years and never with one of my kids (she's 15) so this trip poses some new challenges. I want her to have a blast, as I have every time I've been there, so I thought I'd see if anyone had any suggestions. Oh, and we get along great and she's awesome and I love her! [more inside]
I'm looking for father's groups in Philadelphia. I have a pre-K child. I'm more interested in a hang-out-and-chat sort of group. University City or Center City would be great. Thanks! [more inside]
I lost my dear dad unexpectedly Sunday after a series of illnesses. My mom, luckily, is still with us. They were together 54 years and my mom was only 17 when they met. The most important thing to my dad was my mom's well-being and I feel it is now my duty to look after her to the best of my ability. I have no idea how to help her cope with the loss of my father. I want to be there for her as much as possible, but I don't want to smother her. Does anyone have any advice?
My dad was just incredibly rude to me. again. Please help me sort through my feelings, possible responses, and the wisest course of action. [more inside]
My relationship with my emotionally abusive, BPD father has been strained lately; now, after realizing the extent to which his actions was causing me undue stress, I have cut off contact with him completely. But not having a father figure in my life is causing me stress as well. How do I deal with the pain of cutting my father out of my life? [more inside]
My dad is turning 60 - any great gift ideas? [more inside]
What vitamins or supplements should a father-to-be take before conception? Looking for quality swimmers! (Corollary, what foods to avoid?) [more inside]
I've wondered where home is. It's when I was in Indianapolis when I was nine years old. Had a dog, a cat, a brother, a sister.
Inspired by this thread, from which I got Dan Mangan's Basket, and Chocolate Genius' My Mom. I'm composing a playlist as a mediation on my parents, and I wondered what other songs others thought of when they thought of Mom and Dad.
I need some advice on how to communicate better with my dad and hopefully improve our relationship. [more inside]
Can you recommend movies where the primary theme is a son or daughter realizing that their father is proud of them?
Help me explain to my dad why it is not a double standard that white people can't say the "N-word". [more inside]
I'm looking for movies in which the main character is a divorced father. [more inside]
What should I get my 81-year-old father for his birthday? (special snowflake details inside) [more inside]
My dad is 95% computer illiterate and is constantly frustrated by his inability to use his computer. What resources (books, programs, videos, etc.) can you recommend that will help improve his experience? [more inside]
Which ipad and apps for an easily bored father with few interests? [more inside]
Apple TV or Roku for my technology-shy father? [more inside]
One of my 3 kids is applying for early decision to college and I have a financial aid question about having her non-custodial dad be part of the process. [more inside]
How does an adult child deal with the divorce of their parents? [more inside]
Birthday gift for dad to turn his focus to other non-work parts of his life? [more inside]
There's a lot of punk songs about dad. Is there any about being a dad?
Two dads have weekly lunches. Lately, we've wondered if we should do a project together during that time. Any ideas?
What's a good joint project between two 45-year-old dads who get together once a week for a 90-minute lunch (we're long-term friends)? [more inside]
There will soon be a death in my family. I'm worried this one's going to be especially hard and I'm not sure what to do. [more inside]
Is good cop -- bad cop a bad idea as a parenting tactic? [more inside]
"I believe in my .45, my shovel and the fact that nobody will ever miss you." — the dad in Clueless to the boyfriend. I'm looking for things to say to my daughters would-be suitors to make them to believe that I might just be crazy enough to deliver them a serious beat-down should they disrespect or treat my daughter poorly. Any other scenes in movies or books that I can reference for my "crazy dad" routine?
How can I tell my dad there are certain things I don't want to do for him without hurting his feelings? [more inside]
I want to find some kind of retreat for my husband. Something over a long weekend up to a week would be ideal. [more inside]
Who's Princess Leia's "father"? (Alleged father, not actual father.) [more inside]
Do I let my dad back in my life? He was basically absent for my entire childhood, and often I feel at peace with excising him from my adulthood life as well. However, he'll email me on occasion and I feel this terrible pang, a worry that I'll regret not knowing him when it's too late to make amends. If you were in a similar situation, what did you do? [more inside]
Help me give my wife a great mother's day present. [more inside]
Help me come up with a fantastic birthday present for my father! [more inside]
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