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I can't cum far anymore.

Anonymous — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 09:27:03 -0800

My semen barely shoots any distance out of my penis anymore. What can I do about this? Should I be concerned? I'm in my late 30s. For the last year and a half or so, whenever I masturbate (usually lying on my back or sitting in front of the computer), my semen barely has any distance to it. It used to shoot up to the bottom of my pecs. Now it just seems to pump out and pool around my belly button.

There is just as much cum as there used to be -- no change in volume; just in distance. And orgasms still feel as good as ever.

I'm not really concerned about fertility, because I don't plan to have kids. But I'm wondering (1) how to get my distance back, and (2) if this is a sign of some more serious health concern that I should get checked out.

I've tried doing kegel exercises, though not all that regularly.

ORAL SEX: Why can't I cum?

Anonymous — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 16:11:03 -0800

Why can't I cum? So my girl friend has been giving me hand jobs and blow jobs lately. She gets me super and super close to cumming but I never cum. I stopped masturbating since I met her, (4 months ago) and stopped the porn. I can't seem to cum.

Throw away email: cantseemtocum@gmail.com

Please help me!

How Many Men Have the Ability to Climax from Frenulum Stimulation?

Anonymous — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 15:49:42 -0800

How common is it for a man to be able to reach an ejaculatory orgasm just by stimulating the frenulum of his penis? A frenulum is that part of the underside of the penis where the glans and shaft meet. Some number of men are able to achieve orgasm and ejaculation by just stimulating that single spot with a vibrator (or finger, or someone's tongue ... you get the idea!).

Looking around the Web, that ability appears to be somewhere in the range between rare and ubiquitous. Does anybody have personal experience or ... hard data to share?

Why is it hard for me to gain an erection and cum?

shywolf91 — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 16:23:37 -0800

Why is it hard for me to gain an erection and cum? I am a 20 year old male. I weigh between 106-109 pounds and my height is 5 feet 6 inches. It is sometimes hard for me to gain an erection. I almost always have to be watching, looking, or reading some form of pornographic material. After that it takes me a while to cum and i only shoot out a little semen. After that i am very sweaty and out of breath. What could be wrong with me? Also i am a Virgin.

Getting her over the edge

Anonymous — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 14:44:39 -0800

How do I get her off? She rarely orgasms, and I feel like I'm letting her down. NSFW. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year. Very healthy relationship, we're extremely close and are planning on getting married. We're waiting to have sex for the time being for religious reasons, but we still do oral, etc.

When we mess around she rarely orgasms. Probably once every four times. I've asked her for feedback and she says she's not sure what I'm doing wrong. She says it feels very good and she's very close to orgasming but can't get over the edge. She doesn't know what I could be doing differently.

I've tried everything I know how, in previous relationships I never had this difficulty. I've tried fast, slow, oral, g-spot, etc.

She's only had one previous partner, she said it was a similar circumstance with him.

She's not terribly comfortable with the idea of toys, but I could slowly introduce them if the general consensus is that it would help.

I feel somewhat incompetent. I want her to enjoy it as much as I do. We're extremely compatible on every level, and we both get extremely horny - she just can't quite get over the edge.

What could I be doing differently? Is this normal? Other advice?

Throwaway email: getheroffmefi@gmail.com

How to make a guy cum when he barely fits in your mouth?

Anonymous — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 13:16:22 -0800

His cock barely fits in my mouth; how can I give better head? (NSFW) I really didn't want to ask this and I apologize if it's come up before, but I searched the archives and the rest of the internet and have mostly been bogged down by general fellatio guides and porn. So here's the deal: I enjoy giving men oral sex, and I enjoy making them orgasm from oral even more. But I have never made my current partner (of two years) cum from oral. Maybe I'm just awful at it, but I never thought I was bad at blow jobs before this; I was always able to make men cum pretty quickly and they told me I was good at it. I realize everyone is different, but I cannot figure out what to do with my partner that will make him cum.

I think there are two issues: the first is that he is very well endowed. His penis is 7" in girth (circumference) at the thickest and I can't fit it all in my mouth; at best, I can manage about 3/4 of it, and it isn't very comfortable for me. I don't have a lot of room to work when I do get him in my mouth. The length isn't an issue (also 7"), as I've managed longer cocks than his just fine.

The second issue is that he claims he "can't cum from oral." He's never done it before, but I refuse to accept that he can't and I want to make it happen. He says he enjoys getting head, but what happens is he usually likes to try to face-fuck me and ram his cock as far down my throat as he can, which sets off my gag reflex like crazy (I'm surprised I haven't vomited all over him yet). He would really like me to deep-throat him, and although I've been able to with every other guy I was with (guys who were longer than him) I just can't take his cock. It's frustrating.

He masturbates with the hardest grip I've ever seen (but doesn't masturbate much anymore) and I have managed to make him cum with hand jobs (although it is hard work and can take awhile (because I do not use a death grip)). He has no trouble at all coming from intercourse and can come in only a couple minutes depending on the position (doggy works the quickest). I've tried licking, sucking, swirling, using my hand with my mouth, I've read a million "this gets every guy off" guides, I've done everything that so easily got off so many other guys before, but no dice. So with all that I'm not expecting much, but for those of you who are well-endowed or who have had experience with someone who gave you functional difficulties with technique, what did you do and how did you overcome it?

Don't drop the soap?

Anonymous — Mon, 13 Nov 2006 10:42:10 -0800

My boyfriend and I like to fool around in the shower. His favorite thing to do is to cum on my chest or my face, which I don't mind, because, hey, we're in the shower. However, actually washing the cum off me is hard. It becomes sticky and almost stringy (it's glued my eyelashes together before), and pretty water resistant. Regular soap doesn't seem to get it off. I keep baking soda in the shower and use it as an exfoliant, but it still takes 3 or 4 scrubbings to get it all off. Any spots I miss become dry, scaly patches once I towel off. Any solutions, either product or method, for how to remove cum in the shower?

Fountains of precum

anonaccount — Tue, 29 Aug 2006 15:10:45 -0800

Whenever I'm with a sexual partner I start producing copious amounts of precum from even the mildest form of stimulation (kissing for example). When I'm watching some porn or otherwise without-partner I'm as dry as a bone until I'm really turned on... One girl even thought I had cum already before she even touched me. It dripps on the bed, on me, and on my partner when we're naked, and generally gets messy and in the way. More worringly it fills up condoms to the point where they almost slide off if im not careful.

When I'm satisfying myself it takes a while for any to appear. But with a girl its like flood gates instantly open.

Why is there such a difference between with partner and without? And how could I go about stopping this happening?

(p.s i felt like throwing matt another 5 bucks to be able to ask and reply anon)

Do straight guys ever eat their own come after masturbating?

fugitivefromchaingang — Wed, 17 May 2006 13:54:17 -0800

Do straight guys ever eat their own come after masturbating? I've seen it in amateur gay porn videos, Edmund White mentions doing it in A Boy's Own Story, and (too much information?) I know I do it. But is this something a straight guy might do? Or does it have nothing to do with sexual orientation?

How to shoot a lot of sperm?

Devileyezz — Tue, 21 Mar 2006 18:38:04 -0800

How do pornstars have so much cum? They shoot *spurt*, and shoot *spurt* *spurt*.. and it shoots far, may I add. I hear it's eating lots of celery. But come on, what other ways of having more sperm? And shooting it, too.