Next week I have my final interview for a caseworker position with ODSP (Ontario Disability Support Program). If they want to hire me, I'll have a tough choice to make - and it's even tougher because I don't know anyone who works for the program (or even in similar programs).
Can you give me some idea about what it's like to work there, or in similar positions? [more inside]
Finally giving in and looking for a therapist, while permanently living abroad... what 'cultural combination' should one look for? Don't want my current mental state to cloud my thinking. Details inside. [more inside]
I grew up and attended university on the East Coast. I don't know what I was thinking when I matriculated at a graduate program in the Midwest-- perhaps I thought that having lived in diverse settings would be a good life experience or something (?) ... Well, what's done is done, and I'm here for the next three years. Please help me better deal with this culture shock! [more inside]
I need help in learning how to firmly say no and in changing patterns that have been years in the making. I’m an empathetic and intuitive person and I’m very generous. It’s second nature to me to offer to help out or to support my friends. I come from a very ‘what’s mine is yours’ approach. I’ve given people places to stay, financial support, intensive emotional support and career assistance. I like being this way; it’s true to me and I’m not resenting or adding it up…but I feel I am training some people to exploit me or to assume they are always entitled to my help. I’m happy with these parts of myself, but recently I’ve started feeling that my kindness and sensitivity to others needs and boundaries is encouraging some people to treat me as if I have no boundaries or needs myself. [more inside]
I'm getting married in 10 days, and it's stressful for everybody involved, mostly because I have controlling parents who are intricately involved with every part of this. Any tips/advice for coping with this situation? Lots of culture-specific snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Someone has joined the Peace Corps and is going to Senegal, working in agro-forestry. Here is what is requested: needs, reads, before and during, what not to miss seeing, what to know, all necessary tips on the Peace Corps, Senegal and the Peace Corps in Senegal, and so on. In a word: advice. In another: experience. Hive mind, please hope me. [more inside]
Korean culture filter: Are you familiar with Korean culture from 30 years ago? Can you tell me if these experiences were normal in terms of the social culture at that time? [more inside]
How do I deal with my short-tempered husband? [more inside]
I've just been diagnosed with ADHD, and have started an initial stimulant-based management plan. I'm in my mid-forties, and work in a very traditional industry and come from a not-very-accepting Old World culture. How open do I need to be with colleagues and friends that I'm doing this? [more inside]
I've always prided myself on being tough and low-maintenance; how can I become more demanding?
My husband has been offered an excellent new jon in Wales. We are from Minneapolis, MN. I am curious: what does it mean to be from/live in Wales?
I'm an American moving to Ireland for a temporary, six-month assignment. How do I fit in and understand the work culture to ensure I'm successful? [more inside]
I need to understand the Japanese cultural importance of "saving face" with respect to business, and how I can make myself less frustrated with an ongoing business negotiation I'm involved in. [more inside]
Tell me about flirting, dating and relationship customs in Saudi Arabia. I can't tell if I'm in over my head or just having some cultural miscommunication. [more inside]
Places to work in or around Boston that feel
like an academic environment, without actually being
in academia? [more inside]
Somebody please give me a great idea for a charming date in Toronto! (Bonus points for something happening this weekend) [more inside]
Military Brat Filter: Explain a military brat childhood to someone who grew up in a touchy-feely liberal household that never moved once. I’m looking for either long-form articles or personal stories. How often did you move? What were the things you learned? Did you have coping mechanisms? What were the bases like? How has it affected you as an adult?
Dating Across a Language Barrier: Can you share success stories and advice about relationships where you and your partner primarily spoke different languages? [more inside]
Seeking advice and shared experiences from other people who are not attracted to people from their same racial/ethnic/national identity. [more inside]
Please help me find a way to support my boyfriend's integration into my culture... [more inside]
For Christmas I'm going to give my partner a planned weekend full cultural hijinks in a big city: Saturday it's all "high culture" activities and Sunday it's all "low culture" activities. How can I translate this intangible gift idea into something small and tangible to put under the tree? [more inside]
Looking for advice about how to handle a cultural misunderstanding...or possibly a scam. Not sure how to reconcile the experience and associated feelings, and especially unsure about how to deal with the situation in the most sensitive and informed way. [more inside]
3m scotch tape?? When I was in high school, and a bong head, we would shop for drug paraphernalia at a small shop on 8th street in Manhattan. [more inside]
What's a culturally appropriate gift to give my fiancee's Iranian parents? [more inside]