What research do you know of (or how would you best word searches to get results on the topic) for how responses to toddler crying impact later attachment? [more inside]
I'm asking as I just watched a live drama tv program where a young man's face was almost constantly contorted as if he was in the throes of crying but there were no tears. It reminded me of something I once heard a cop say regarding questioning a suspect who, also, sobbed very much over the death of a loved one but no tears were shed. The policeman said "No tears? Its fake." I know whenever I'm really emotionally over the edge I will cry with tears - I call that experience "crying" - is there another type?
My husband is incredibly sensitive to noise, in particular any sound that disrupts his sleep. I am nervous about how he will react to our future child's cries and concerned that he has unrealistic expectations around quieting a baby. He disagrees. How can I calm down about this in advance and/or help in the future? [more inside]
There are things that make me sad, and things that make me sad about being sad. For example, some things don't really merit a lot of sadness (especially when it is ill-informed or useless), but consistently and sincerely break my heart all the same... [more inside]
We have a whiny dog. We've tried everything and don't know what to do. He is 9, maybe older, a Border Collie mix who's probably got trauma in his past (the shelter found him by a dumpster with maggots in his fur), but no current medical problems that our vet was able to find. He has anxiety but takes meds for that. [more inside]
Why does our baby cry almost immediately when dad holds her, but accept other people? [more inside]
Has anyone else experienced this? I take Klonopin for anxiety, but I've discovered that it takes away my crying urges. I find that strange because I have never thought of or experienced my anxiety being linked to crying before. [more inside]
My dog has developed an infection in her tail. The doctor bandaged it up and she got coneheaded to protect her from biting off the bandages. She finally stopped fighting the cone - that took about an hour and a half - but now she Will Not Stop crying. What can I do to make this better? Or how much longer is she likely to cry before collapsing into miserable acceptance? [more inside]
Does anyone remember a western where there is a scene in which a woman is holding a crying baby and they are surrounded by coyotes or wolves? [more inside]
For reasons I don't fully understand, lately I find myself wanting to read novels that make me cry. For personal reasons, I'm not interested in books about cancer or abuse, but I'm open to most other subjects. So, can you recommend intelligent and well-written books that are likely to make a reader cry? Themes of lost romantic love, grief, troubled or lost friendship, or painful family relationships are all possibilities. Some authors seem emotionally manipulative, and I'm not looking for that, but I recognize that's a tough line to draw.
I am officiating at my dear friends' wedding and just writing the ceremony text is making me tear up. I cry really easily. How can I avoid sobbing all the way through the ceremony? [more inside]
My 7-week old baby doesn't nap. She sleeps pretty well at night, but terribly during the day. How do we fix this? [more inside]
This is silly but: I'm looking for a particular animated gif. It's a claymation penguin that hears the phone ringing and goes to answer it. Then his teakettle starts boiling, and then he sits down and cries, overwhelmed by too many inputs. I'm pretty sure the penguin is Pingu but no combination of search terms seems to be coming up with the image. Pretty sure I saw the gif on tumblr someplace.
Recently I was surprise spooked by a figure on my roof as I was leaving my house in the middle of the night as a joke by my friend. I want to get them back in a big way. Short of anything super extreme or coordinating with friends (this is a solo operation) how can I scare them back? I need your best and scariest ideas.
My two year old currently really prefers his mother. This is not a surprise, she is awesome. She is also very pregnant. I would very much like to be able to settle him back to sleep at 2am, but when he sees me he cries harder. Does anyone have a successful strategy for getting a toddler to accept the ministrations of the less-preferred parent rather than get more upset? I would prefer something that doesn't just disrupt my wife's sleep anyway, like letting him cry until he calms down. I know I am asking for magic here.
A not very close family member recently died and I would like to attend their memorial. However, I know that I will cry during the memorial and I feel weird about that. [more inside]
I have a very strong physical response to conflict and will tend to start crying almost immediately when in an argument with my boyfriend. [more inside]
I am a public librarian. Sometimes I have to deal with problem patrons, and on rare occasions, those interactions turn ugly, and I have to ask the person to leave the building, etc. The problem is, I get upset, and then I get all flushed and shaky and worst of all, I cry. And when that happens, I can't really go off by myself and get composed -- I'm usually at the reference desk alone, so I can't be away for more than a minute or two. I've read previous AskMe questions about avoiding the crying, and have tried a lot of those tricks -- what I'd really like is to avoid getting so emotionally upset in the first place. [more inside]
I want to cry my eyes out over a book. It's been a long time since I have and I need the catharsis. [more inside]
Please help me survive the last 5 weeks of this quarter. I'm on generic (Watson/Actavis) Concerta (36 mg) for ADHD, and generic (Taro) Lamictal (100 mg) for depression/anxiety. I'm also a part time student at a local community college, taking PreCalculus II (Trigonometry) and Cultural Anthropology - both College Transfer courses. And night courses that start at 6pm, that last for 2.5 hours each. I was also taking Statistics. Since last September or so, the Concerta has been giving me crying fits, particularly when it wears off. I was also working full time, and taking an inline Computer Science course. This is when I go from 'normal, functioning person' to 'uncontrollable crying as soon as I hit something frustrating, like my code not compiling. And by 'uncontrollable crying', it lasts for an hour or more, and I basically cry until I get fatigued. And afterwards, my head is blank like a vacuum. It doesn't make for a good work or study environment! I was only on 18 MG of Concerta, so my doctor doubled that to 36 mg, thinking it would help. Oh, holy cats it didn't. [more inside]
How to cry on command [more inside]
I have been seeing a sex therapist for about six weeks. We started off with a very specific focus but she now seems to be having trouble figuring out where to start with the Hydra of my emotional issues. [more inside]
I've recently realized how therapeutic it is for me to have a nice, long, crying session. Watching something emotional that makes me cry has been my way of releasing stress, but I'm having a hard time finding material. I've been able to find lists of "movies to make you cry", but they tend to be romance movies or feel-good dramas with a sad ending. What about movies or TV shows that are sad, sweet, or emotional throughout the length of the film? [more inside]
My 14 month old baby has crying thrashing wakeful periods during the night on a semi-regular basis (roughly speaking, perhaps once every fortnight). He wakes up crying and can’t be consoled – arches his body and pushes away from me while in my arms (but cries harder if put down in his cot). [more inside]
We're looking for iconic/popular images of people having fun and want to photoshop in a crying kid (all in good fun!). What are your suggestions? [more inside]
I am in therapy trying to deal with childhood sexual abuse. I am having a hard time keeping my adult life together and not feeling insane. How do I learn to calm down and keep going instead of wanting to cry every day? [more inside]
In the next two weeks, there will be a new addition to our household -- a baby. (Not mine.) And since it's not mine, I would prefer not to hear it. There are lots of AskMes about earplugs, but many (like the ETY ones) use as a selling point that they don't muffle speech. I want to muffle everything. Best ear protection for the job, <$30?
My 14 month old son cries and screams every waking moment he's with me. This has gone on for months, and it's killing me. Please help me understand what's going on and how I can make it stop. [more inside]
I used to be a happy drunk, and now I have become a person who cries for no reason when I drink. Why did this change, and can I change it back? [more inside]
I have to have a relationship talk tonight with a new person in my life. It's going to be stressful but I think it's going to be okay. How do I not cry? I have a tendency to get choked up and cry during certain types of discussions where I feel vulnerable. (It even happens at work, but that's another AskMe.) What do I do? Should I just issue a warning before we talk?
Weepy and photophobic. What is going on? [more inside]
9-month Old Uncontrollably Crying at Gym Daycare. Concern? [more inside]
My neighbour is clearly in distress - what do I do? [more inside]
Long shot: would taking hormonal birth control (HBC) for several weeks continue to affect my premenstrual moods for several months? [more inside]
I'm looking for some websites for the beginner. I'm fine with the animation part. That is (relatively) easy. But I'm pretty much totally lost on the Action script part of it, and the Adobe tutorials are a little complicated for my idiot self. I'm just a little ol' designer and all this talk of code and scripts and computer lingo is freaking me out. I'll take anything. Any ideas. Any help. Anything. Thank you.
Our greyhound Hoover lacks confidence, is unhappy, and seems to have other emotional problems. We're at a loss. Help us help our dog, please. [more inside]
Depressed/angry after diagnosis of a entirely treatable condition that will improve my quality of life. I don't know why or what to do next. [more inside]
After about one day visiting my family, I get very emotional and remain on the verge of tears for the rest of my visit. Once I've reached this point, talking about anything, even the most mundane, makes me cry. I have never experienced this except with my family. It can last for days. What causes this? What can I do to prevent it? What can I do to recover from it? Can you explain what is happening to me? [more inside]
I cry often, always have, and I don't know if this can be changed. [more inside]
When I hear a baby crying I feel like I am getting sliced open with a scalpel. It is totally fight or flight. What the hell is going on with me? This is more than yuppie griping about having dinner ruined. It is not just annoying but harmful to brain chemistry. What is going on w me.
James Thurber fans, gather 'round. I'm reading his The Years with Ross and in the chapter titled "More Miracle Men" is a Thurber drawing of a star above a horse, and the horse is shedding a tear. I can scarcely believe I'm using a question for this, but I greatly wish to know: Why is the horse crying?
Help me not cry while reading at my friend's wedding. [more inside]
Neighbor behavior filter: I hear my neighbor's baby (definitely a baby) crying. I hear the sound of a man yelling things like "shut up" or "stop crying". And then I hear the sound of a smack. This makes me feel horrified. But is it any of my business to try to help? [more inside]
Have you ever switched from being a stoic to being a crier? Could this be from treating my depression or something else? [more inside]
Why does random music make me teary? [more inside]
My girlfriend has suggested that I might be overdue for a no-holds-barred sob destruction and I think I agree. But I'm having a hard time overcoming my disinclination towards that degree of vulnerability, so I've decided to mount an attack based on system overload. Do you have suggestions of specific pieces of media (video clips/songs/short poems/etc) that make you tear up every time? [more inside]
Why do I always start crying when I improvise a song or joke? [more inside]
How do I stop crying at work-related criticism? [more inside]
Trying so hard to figure out how you get two toddlers to share a room and it's HARD! [more inside]
Help me be able to talk about relationship issues without unproductively bursting into tears. [more inside]