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How do I get over a platonic workplace crush?

I've had a platonic crush (aka squish) on a male co-worker for the past six months or so. Even though I'm a woman and we're both heterosexual, it is not in the least sexual. If we were men, it would be called a "man crush" or "bromance". (FWIW, I'm happily married, and he's happily engaged, both to people of the opposite sex.) It's not mutual. He sees me as a friend and colleague, while I idolize him, even though I'm aware of some of his flaws, including that his social skills aren't very good, and he occasionally does or says something that inadvertently hurts me (he wouldn't deliberately harm a fly), especially because he underestimates my professional competence. Anyway, I wish I didn't care what he thought of me. Any advice for getting over this crush, besides time and distance?
posted by anonymous on Nov 15, 2013 - 7 answers

My friend hit on me and another friend innappropriately. What to do?

I (female, straight, single, late 20’s) had a small party a few days ago. At the end of the night, one friend (we’ll call him Joe) was lingering late. I didn’t suspect anything, until he kissed me out of nowhere. Not sure what to do in follow up, especially considering that this isn't the first time he's done this to a female friend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 1, 2013 - 48 answers

How to Talk to a Guy, Awkward Home Edition

I'm awkward, and I want to approach this guy that I know, but I'm not entirely sure how to do it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 29, 2013 - 18 answers

How to fix self-esteem after a failed crush?

I recently found out the girl I have crush on is traveling the world with her rock star boyfriend. I can let go of the crush, but I'm having a hard time with my self-esteem by comparing myself to him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2013 - 32 answers

Crush me once, shame on you. Crush me twice...

Fiancee admitted she took a crush too far. Again. Help us get past this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 9, 2013 - 36 answers

I know they're nice, but they're not for me!

I'm in an amazing relationship, with someone I've known for over two years, and we've been dating for a year-ish. We're both women in our early 20's. I've only dated women up to this point, and been very happy with that. It seems that my brain doesn't want to keep that status quo anymore and is trying to convince me I want to experience being with men. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2013 - 10 answers

You and me could write a Stage Romance... (Except that's a BAD IDEA!)

I have a crush on my stage partner. I know how bad an idea this is, but how do I keep it under control when I'm draped lovingly over him for half the show? Help me do my job without the temptation to, ahem, take work home with me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 19, 2013 - 6 answers

Obsessed With a Friend

I've been married for 9 years and have been faithful in every way. I recently became close with a member of the opposite sex who I truly value as a friend. But I find myself thinking about this person way too much, and I am not sure how to deal with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2013 - 15 answers

Are my concerns valid/ Should I just ask him out?

I want to ask a guy out. I have some concerns and am wondering if I shouldn't. Please give me your advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 26, 2012 - 30 answers

Crush with eyeliner

Could this all-consuming crush be due to either thyroid or peri-menopause hormones or something else besides a bolt of lightning? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 5, 2012 - 8 answers

Men are simple creatures, right?

He's just not that into you, yadda yadda yadda... or is he? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 25, 2012 - 21 answers

I have a crush on another woman. What do I do?

I (female) am developing a crush on one of the pottery instructors at the drop-in I've started going to. We're both in our mid-late twenties (she's slightly younger), and have chatted a little with one another, but not much about personal stuff. I would like to get to know her better, but I have no experience dating women, and no idea how to find out whether she's gay/bi and possibly interested - or whether this might be ill-advised given that she's there in a professional capacity. I'm super shy, and scared of making her uncomfortable by being more friendly (we're in Canada, and I'm European, so not totally in sync with local customs either). Help?
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2012 - 8 answers

Mountain out of a molehill: is this great crush-guy gay?

This Question Makes Me Feel Silly: I like him, think he likes me. . .but I honestly can't tell whether or not he's gay. Need advice on how best to handle clearing this up. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 1, 2012 - 39 answers

Oh, what a mess.

Supposed to be getting married to my long-term girlfriend, developing feelings for someone else, unsure of how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2012 - 36 answers

Welcome to Big Brother: Office Edition.

Office Crush Filter: We work in a tiny office. Is this still worth pursuing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2012 - 32 answers

Your stereotypical gay gym crush.

Can I approach my crush? How? What to say if I do? (slightly long) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2012 - 11 answers

Crush bringing out my inner high schooler.

I have a crush on a pub trivia friend, and its bringing out the worst in me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 26, 2012 - 11 answers

A perfect storm of complications: acting on a crush on a shy coworker

Despite all advice to the contrary, I'm trying to get to know my shy coworker crush better -- have I made a hash of it? Or does it sound like I'm doing okay? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2012 - 36 answers

Do I need to platonically dump my platonic crush?

I'm having unhealthy feelings towards one of my best friends. Can I salvage this relationship, or do I need a clean break? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 3, 2012 - 13 answers

How to un-have a crush on a coworker?

I have a crush on my coworker. And an awesome partner who I am crazy about. How do I get rid of the crush? A few special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2012 - 13 answers

I ought to be... flattered?

She (possibly) likes me. I don't. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2012 - 29 answers

"Just tell him how you feel" - really?!

You're supposed to bite the bullet and tell someone how you feel -- because life is about risk and vulnerability and Going For It, I get that. But I also can't shake the feeling that by the time it gets to that point, it's already too late. Disabuse me of this notion (or not)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 8, 2012 - 27 answers

How to stay friends when there's a one-way crush?

Made a new friend, developed feelings that went unreturned. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2012 - 8 answers

Does he like me too?

Dear mefites, please share your wisdom. I have developed a crush on a guy I work with and I can't tell whether he likes me or not. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2012 - 36 answers

I'm in love with a musician. How on earth can I let him know?

I'm in love with a musician. How on earth can I let him know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2012 - 22 answers

How to Really Get Over Someone

How do you really get over someone after you may have had something? Special, long details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 22, 2011 - 26 answers

I've made a huge tiny mistake

Should I run away from the job I just got because a to-be-coworker's wife is sending up danger signs? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2011 - 36 answers

How do you "out-reason" the lizard brain?

How do you "out-reason" the lizard brain? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2011 - 21 answers

How do I deal with limerence for a total stranger?

How do I deal with limerence for a total stranger? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2011 - 17 answers

Is it creepy to donate to charity with ulterior motives?

Is it creepy to donate to charity with ulterior motives? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 10, 2011 - 27 answers

How to avoid someone you're attracted to you know isn't good for you?

I am really attracted to someone I know I shouldn't be, when I'm not single and I know he is not the kind of person I should be interested in. We see each other almost every day of the week, and I'm in a new city with not many other friends. How can I find my way out of this feeling? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2011 - 22 answers

Geometry of the Relationship Sense.

Love Triangle-type situation Filter: Halp! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 11, 2011 - 17 answers

"Hi! Next time you call your family, can you do me a favor?..."

I think I may have found a way of definitively finding a long-lost crush. Tell me if that's a bad idea. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 21, 2011 - 32 answers

How to let down someone who has a crush on me?

She has a crush on me. I don't feel the same way about her. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 19, 2011 - 19 answers

One more does he/doesn't he for the books...

[Dating Filter] Sh*t or get off the pot? (Metaphorically speaking!) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 12, 2011 - 18 answers

Crushing...just as painful as it sounds.

I have an embarrassing, painful crush on someone in my tiny grad school program. How to stop thinking about them in this way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 11, 2011 - 25 answers

Saw a guy at work on OkCupid, he seems cool--should I ask him out?

This is kind of a follow-up to this question about seeing people on OkCupid that one knows offline in some capacity. I have a similar situation but an added wrinkle: I work with my potential match. Is this a good idea to pursue him or not? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 29, 2011 - 16 answers

My optometrist is easy on the eyes. Crap.

My eye doctor brings in a new second doctor every once in a while, I guess to handle most of the menial check-ups. To my frustration, I have a crush on this current one. I'm due to visit the office one last time in a week or two. What then? YANMD, at least, I hope not. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 25, 2011 - 8 answers

I'm 26 going on 14.

How can I act on this silly schoolgirl crush? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 4, 2011 - 16 answers

Hooray for embarrassment in the workplace.

I have a crush on an older co-worker and would like to stop acting like a nervous schoolgirl around him. How do I do this when he seems nervous too? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 25, 2011 - 18 answers

What's the right time to start LDR?

I met a lovely young lady at dinner with a mutual friend last week, and am pretty sure there were sparks flying. The downside? She was only in town for vacation, and left the next day to head home to the coast. The upside? She's moving to town at the end of May. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2011 - 18 answers

Meet me at the water cooler in three weeks?

I'm crushing on a coworker - what to do? Complication: extended business trip [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 28, 2010 - 26 answers

Anonymous Massage Question

Ethical dilemma. Should I book a massage with someone I had a huge crush on in high school, just for the thrill of it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2010 - 67 answers

Is it a crush or just being nice?

I think a friend of mine may have feelings for me, but I'm not sure how all that works nor what to do about it. Can you help a romantically clueless girl in the right direction? Details below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2010 - 18 answers

Should I stop sexually fantasizing about my coworker?

I'm married and I have a crush on a married coworker. Should I stop sexually fantasizing about him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2010 - 46 answers

Kundalini, what are you doing to me?

How do I focus on yoga in stead of the hot guy next to me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2010 - 19 answers

Why am I sad when I learn if a girl I like has had more sex than me?

Why am I overcome with feelings of disappointment when I learn that a girl that I like has had a higher number of sexual partners than me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2010 - 39 answers

Cancel him and let him go!

I'm going to wash that man right out of my hair! Help me figure out how! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 24, 2010 - 19 answers

Please don't ask me on a date.

I know a guy in person that I've been chatting with online. In person, I'm not attracted to him at all. But I am intellectually turned on by the conversations we have. (Anon because I talk to this guy on the internet.) I don't want this to go any farther. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 23, 2010 - 15 answers

Should I leave my wife?

Should I leave my wife??? I have doubted my feelings for her from day one... story below... This is lengthy, sorry... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2010 - 54 answers

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