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Craigslist Etiquette

Anonymous — Wed, 06 May 2009 19:00:47 -0800

Is it rude to not respond to someone on Craigslist? So, I posted on the missed connections on the CL of my city a week or so ago, and I got a response from someone who turned out to be the guy I saw. (I'm female.) He told me to send him a picture of myself, and that maybe we could get a drink sometime. I sent him a picture. This was Friday, and I have yet to see a reply.

I'm still kind of holding out hope (tell me if you think that's a bad idea), and I know that it sounds like I really want this, and I do (for a variety of reasons, but I'm seeing a therapist). But that's not really the issue here. This is: whenever I tell people about it, they tell me it's rude and that the least he could have done was responded back. I mean, I agree, and everything, but honestly: do they have a point? Are they right? I've been on the receiving end before, but it was on casual encounters, where such pickiness is kind of expected. I don't know why, but it seems more assholish to do it on MC.

What do you, the hive mind, think about this situation? And the answer is supposed to be obvious to me: I have Asperger's, so I'm extremely bad at navigating social situations and reading people. Thanks in advance.

Post Blind-date.. Does she dig me?

mediocre — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 04:38:24 -0800

Does she like me? I'm not sure if I'm seeking reassurance or cold reality.. Okay..

So, while intoxicated, I placed a really fucking bizarre Craigslist personal ad. I'm talking some weird shit, completely irrelevant rambling that didn't speak anything about who I am. I still don't know if I was sabotaging my own chances by writing such a fucking bizarre ad as it was stream-of-conciousness weirdness for 3 or 4 paragraphis, or if it was a coldly calculated attempt at anti-seduction..

Either way.. I got a couple responses. And after exchanging several (one a day or so) lightly flirtatious emails, one of them asked me out for drinks. I named the time and place and went there this evening. It went well.. I think.. We spoke non stop from the beginning, from 10:00pm to 4:00am or so.. She laughed at my humor, touched my arm lightly at times, looked me in the eye, and even agreed to come back to my place and into my bedroom to enjoy some herb and talk more after the bar.. She took my phone number and gave me hers and hugged me goodbye at the door as I walked her out of my house end of the night saying "You seem super-chill, and I'd like to hang out with you more."

I just don't fucking know if this is "Friend Zone" material, or not. Because frankly, I'm not interested in Friend Zone stuff.. She's awesome, but I have enough friends.. I'm no good at dating, at all.. I don't know what her demeanor is supposed to be telling me.

NotOKCupid

spamguy — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 23:06:50 -0800

Does dating through craigslist actually work? I hate to say it, but OKCupid has failed me, a 24 year-old SWM of Texas. I had three very brief relationships, all called off on the girl's part, one absolutely heartbreaking for me. (Match made in heaven, except, wait, I was her rebound. She's since run back to her old trashy BF.) Since the last breakup, message response rates and girl quality on OKC have tanked.

I would like to give craigslist a try, but I have a morbid fear that every single girl I see is a spambot. (Epic ad line: 'I am a TRAIT1, self-driven, TRAIT2 girl.' No joke.) Is there any way to pick out who's real and who's fake?

Girls: how many legit, non-trashy messages from a craigslist personal did you receive?
Guys: is there any hope posting on MseekingW? The most disheartening part of OKC was the knowledge that all the guys were basically e-fistfighting to get a word in edgewise to a girl. It reminds me of the Hare Krishna scene from Airplane!.

Summary question: is there a snow cone's chance in hell using craigslist as a dating service? What's the best strategy: posting to MseekingW or hoping I don't meet a spambot on WseekingM?

Talk to me about internet hook-ups (casual encounters, etc.)

Anonymous — Tue, 09 Nov 2004 10:02:42 -0800

There've been lots of threads about internet dating, but my question is: the internet hook-up. It's something I've been considering recently (I ended a long-term relationship a few months ago and don't think I'd be able to sustain another one right now), but I'm completely inexperienced with it and would like to hear some "testimonials," as it were, before deciding one way or another (and no, I don't mean in a Dear Penthouse way). I'm a young gay guy in NYC who's been considering Craigslist, if that helps to focus your response, but I'd like to hear from people across the spectrum... what are the best and worst scenarios you know of or have been involved in? (And yeah, I know the basic safety tips -- somebody else should know where you're going, etc.) Does it generally work out, or is it more trouble than it's worth?