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Politely tell former co-worker I'm not interested in staying friends?

I left a job recently, and there's a former co-worker who keeps contacting me. [more inside]
posted by arbor day on Mar 21, 2015 - 34 answers

work team excluding me from doing anything meaningful

I'm an intern at a software firm on a new team. My coworkers don't seem to want to let me take any responsibility whatsoever. I have seniority over all of them but no power to change the situation -- any tips for dealing? Talking to boss is out. [more inside]
posted by city_park on Mar 21, 2015 - 14 answers

New and improved! Professional persona edition.

As it stands, I'm being groomed for a promotion that puts me on the 'managerial' side of the line. What steps can I take to reinvent my work persona in a way that encourages my peers to change their perception of me? Difficulty level - three years deep into the class clown act. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2015 - 11 answers

How should I discuss problems with a respected colleague with my CEO?

I have a 1:1 meeting pending with my CEO, and I'd like to discuss what I feel is the biggest impediment to our success: a single, very senior, very poisonous individual. I don't want this to be mistaken for a personal vendetta (it isn't), and I don't even need the person to be fired. I just want their poisonous behavior to stop. [more inside]
posted by grudgebgon on Jan 29, 2015 - 13 answers

What we have here is...

I have a yearly performance review coming up. I need help addressing worsening communication issues. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2015 - 24 answers

OMFG did you effing seriously just say that.

One of my coworkers said something that feels BEYOND inappropriate, and I don't know what to do about it. Difficulty level: racism. In the office. With lots of Southern cultural baggage. Also, WTF. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 1, 2015 - 42 answers

You're Not The Boss Of Me

What's the best way to deal with a bossy coworker who isn't, welp, the boss of me? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Dec 11, 2014 - 63 answers

Little Favor for Coworker Is Not So Little

My coworker asked me if I, with my superior computer skillz & home software, could do her a "little" favor. Well. You see where this is going, right? The "little" favor is not so little and I need to either come up with a compromise solution, or figure out how to gather the nerve to tell her I won't do it. [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry on Aug 27, 2014 - 52 answers

Dear Coworker: Why do you care what I eat?

I'm getting really tired of a particular coworker's constant prying about what I eat. It's starting to feel like bullying, and it happened to me before at my previous job. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by shiggins on Jun 30, 2014 - 66 answers

Please help me plan a co-worker's retirement party!

I've been stuck with planning a co-worker's retirement party (I was happy to do it, but rather expected I'd have some help from other co-workers). Please help me out with advice in two main areas: the food and the gift! Details inside. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown on Jun 18, 2014 - 10 answers

Help me do something nice for my coworker, whose beloved pet is dying

One of my favorite colleagues has a cat, and it is dying. She is just waiting on tests to come back from the vet so they can decide if palliative care is an option or not. I'd like to do something nice to let her know that I'm thinking of her, but need ideas that won't memorialize me as "That girl who did that crazy thing in a misguided attempt to nice." Also looking for a sanity check - if this is a bad idea, please say so (and why). [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl on Jun 17, 2014 - 29 answers

Social Media Protocol: Unfriending a Coworker Edition

What's the protocol for blocking/unfriending a coworker if you still want to be friends with almost all your other coworkers on Facebook? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger on Jun 9, 2014 - 24 answers


How do you deal with increasing anxiety and distraction at work caused by someone behind you who can see your monitor and generally watch you work all day? I am not goofing off, but I do use my computer heavily and variously and feel as though they are often watching me. They have never commented on what's on my screen, but other people stopping by their desk have. It has me to where I concentrate my windows so my body blocks line of sight, and I am endlessly distracted by it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2014 - 17 answers

Management: Harder than expected.

So, I manage a business. I’ve had general management experience in the past, but it didn’t translate particularly well to this job. I feel like I’m in over my head and need advice. [more inside]
posted by quincunx on Apr 1, 2014 - 10 answers

Handling a co-worker with a temper

Co-worker with a temper blew up at me today. What do I say to him tomorrow? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC on Feb 4, 2014 - 19 answers

The case of the un-responded-to text message

A former colleague got in touch to hang out. I didn't respond, but I actually wanted to. How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 1, 2014 - 16 answers

Surviving and thriving amidst workplace sociopathy

What are some techniques and strategies for not only coping with, but thriving and getting the upper hand in dealings with the conscience-free? [more inside]
posted by Occam's Aftershave on Jan 4, 2014 - 27 answers

Christmas parties shouldn't involve a trip to the grocery store, right?

My boyfriend is having some coworkers over tomorrow night for a little get-together/party thing. This isn't their official christmas party (they had that at work last night), just a few (6-7 or so people) getting together. When asked about what he's doing for food, my boyfriend just assumed they'd all just go to the grocery store to get something, which I personally find pretty... weird. As I'm helping host, I want to provide better noms! [more inside]
posted by hasna on Dec 19, 2013 - 46 answers

Someone else's grief: office edition

My boss' mother is dying. It's not about me, but: what am I not doing that I should be doing? What have I not even thought of? [more inside]
posted by terretu on Dec 13, 2013 - 15 answers

How to ask for more work at a new, mid-level position?

First mid level position, due to some turnover and changes, my boss has no idea what my team does and I need work since mentoring/shadowing isn't providing enough. [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 on Oct 19, 2013 - 3 answers

How can I best interact with this guy?

I have a teammate at work and I need to know how to make our working relationship more effective. He has trouble with social interaction and exhibits behaviors that I've often heard in discussions about Asperger/autism spectrum disorders, but more to the point, he has trouble with anger and I'm not sure how to respond to it. I understand that I can't be sure about my armchair diagnosis, but I don't need to know the cause of his behavior so long as I can find ways to work with him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2013 - 16 answers

By the way, your web designer is no good.

How should I handle advising my former employer that their contracted web designer does terrible work? Or do I stay out of it? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by daisies on Aug 30, 2013 - 25 answers

Starting job, how do I establish good relations with my new coworkers?

I'm about to join a startup as a software developer on the 4-6 person tech team. What should I do, right from the beginning, to help make this a good experience all around? [more inside]
posted by kadonoishi on Jul 11, 2013 - 15 answers

How can I be more enthusiastic about my job?

I have a really great summer job that I enjoy, but I'm afraid that all my coworkers think I hate it. How can I get better at *showing* my enthusiasm for the job? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 23, 2013 - 12 answers

Help me navigate my relationships with well-meaning former coworkers.

I left a toxic workplace six months ago for a new job. I'm happy with my new gig, but running into former coworkers still puts me in a funk -- and I see them constantly. How do I handle interactions with them if I work in the same field and/or travel in the same social circles? Snowflakery inside. [more inside]
posted by whenbynowandtreebyleaf on Jun 21, 2013 - 10 answers

What to tell coworkers about my personal time, when it's personal

How do I answer coworkers' routine questions about what I have planned for the weekend, what I did on the weekend, and if I'm going anywhere for my vacation, when the answer is personal? My coworkers are all very nice people, and I wouldn't call them intrusive, but it seems that this is a basic question for all of them when, for example, I run into them on the elevator. They themselves are always ready with a typical answer, e.g., I did this with my kids, I went on this trip, went on a yoga retreat. Would it be a bad idea to make up a bunch of innocuous stories? I'd also like to stay friendly with them and not appear cold (or boring by constantly answering "not much"), but becoming actual friends with them is very unlikely.
posted by waterandrock on Apr 19, 2013 - 47 answers

When to warn others about a toxic coworker?

Our new coworker has been hanging out a lot with another coworker who is known as a liar, drama generator and just generally selfish and hurtful person. Because he is initially quite charming, she has no idea of his "other side." Do I tell her what everyone else knows or is that just talking trash and I should let her draw her own conclusions? [more inside]
posted by abirdinthehand on Mar 22, 2013 - 28 answers

Job satisfaction: How important are coworkers?

Can a change in scenery - primarily coworkers - save an otherwise uninteresting job? Or if a job sucks, then the job sucks. [more inside]
posted by windbox on Mar 20, 2013 - 19 answers

Parting gifts for an awesome work team?

I got a full-time job offer and will be giving my two weeks' notice to my current freelance gig. I want to give the people I've worked with a nice little gift before leaving. It's a big company so I can't take them all out to lunch/happy hour. Any ideas on what would be appropriate and not terribly expensive?
posted by Anima Mundi on Jan 28, 2013 - 6 answers

Should I tell my coworker/friend about my upcoming job interview?

I just landed an interview for a job I really want, and I'm very excited about it. I'm seeing a coworker, also a very good friend, for dinner tonight. Should I tell her about it? [more inside]
posted by eleanor_of_aquitaine on Jan 18, 2013 - 27 answers

Love my new job but discouraged by closely knit coworker

I got a new job and have, in record winning pace, managed to be the outsider weirdo of my team (yay!) Details below and advice on both practical and professional ways to deal welcomed. [more inside]
posted by hillabeans on Jan 15, 2013 - 30 answers

The Lazy Gift Giver

This is a question about giving gift cards at a work Christmas get together. [more inside]
posted by Fairchild on Dec 18, 2012 - 16 answers

Make-ahead gifts

Infused olive oil, homemade pancake mix... what are some cheap, nice make-ahead food gifts? [more inside]
posted by spunweb on Nov 6, 2012 - 15 answers

Should I ask my coworkers why I wasn't invited to hang out with them?

Today there was a picture of eight of my coworkers hanging out together on our day off on Instagram, and from the instant I saw it I was filled with anxiety about it: why wasn't I invited? [more inside]
posted by tumbleweedjack on Oct 22, 2012 - 16 answers

Can you help me think up a creative way to announce my pregnancy to my small, close-knit office?

Can you help me think up a creative way to announce my pregnancy to my small, close-knit office? [more inside]
posted by bristolcat on Jun 4, 2012 - 19 answers

Dumb questions are driving me crazy.

Help me learn how to help people come to their own conclusions and learn from their previous experiences in a friendly manner. (Warning: super long explanation inside) [more inside]
posted by nataliedanger on Mar 31, 2012 - 24 answers

Starting a new job and not everyone is thrilled about my hiring. Help.

I've been hired for a development position in an institution of higher ed. I've been told by my supervisor that a lot of staff and faculty are not very happy with my hiring. I start Monday. I need advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2012 - 15 answers

What kinds of Christmas gifts do you buy when you're buying for the whole office?

What kind of Christmas gifts do you get for co-workers, when you're cheap and have a bunch of them to give to? [more inside]
posted by jabes on Dec 15, 2011 - 22 answers

How do I form lasting relationships with coworkers?

How do I form lasting relationships with my coworkers? [more inside]
posted by ejfox on Dec 3, 2011 - 13 answers

Help me get along with my colleague

How do I avoid getting annoyed with my colleague? I feel he's trying to make me look small in front of the boss. [more inside]
posted by hazyjane on Nov 29, 2011 - 13 answers

Can't we all just get along?

Difficult Boss Filter: How do I deal with my smack-talkin', super negative boss? [more inside]
posted by moons in june on Sep 28, 2011 - 10 answers

Work Friend to Girl Friend?

WTF Filter: "Working" with someone that I think there's more with there...but I don't know how to approach taking the leap. Not that special snowflakery inside. [more inside]
posted by chrisfromthelc on Aug 21, 2011 - 32 answers

Actually, it doesn't feel like the best form of flattery.

Creepy? Flattering? Both? Neither? Young co-worker is now using content I give to her in conferences and on the 'net, often without attribution, in a field where ideas are valuable to building reputations and getting work. I don't know how to process my urge to feel self-protective. Examples and long explanation to follow. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2011 - 62 answers

How to deal with over-the-top sardonic, witty coworker?

So I work with pretty much this guy (really, it's almost spot-on). It's wearing me down. I've tried to engage with him earnestly in the hope that he'll let his guard down a bit, but it doesn't get me very far. Any ideas about how to cope with him? My two options at this point seems to be avoiding him as much as possible or engaging on "his level" and beating him verbally to submission. Neither option holds much appeal for me, but neither does the current situation.
posted by Harald74 on Aug 9, 2011 - 33 answers

How to handle uncommunicative colleage?

How to handle a colleague who has raised an interpersonal issue with me via email? [more inside]
posted by Franny26 on Jul 30, 2011 - 23 answers

How can I do damage-control in this coworker situation, or should I?

Some of my colleagues don't like or respect me. Now I'm applying for a transfer to another department which would be a promotion for me, although the role isn't as much of a promotion as people think because there's a long training period before any increase in level would be considered. I was warned that several of my colleagues are really up in arms that I've gotten an interview and I don't know how to handle it. [more inside]
posted by hazyjane on Jul 17, 2011 - 22 answers

co worker constantly texting me

Last week a coworker said,"hey, we should catch up for a coffee outside of work sometime", and so we swapped numbers. Since then she's constantly texting--from first thing in the morning ("Good morning") to last thing at night ("Good nite and sweet dreams, going 2 sleep now"). Anyone else had such strong friend-making attempts from coworkers? How did you deal? [more inside]
posted by owlrigh on Jun 10, 2011 - 41 answers

Sheesh, what did I ever do to this person?

I'm working at a new job in a new field (still learning the ropes) and I'm pretty much getting along with everyone except one person in particular. To make matters worse, she's in the cubicle right next to mine. We may run into each other in the hallways or pass by each other's desks and she rarely smiles or says hello, even when I make the effort to do so. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 12, 2011 - 20 answers

So... what ELSE is new?

I’m very happy for a friend in a new relationship, but I’d rather not hear about it all the time. How can I be a good friend for him, and avoid questioning my own self-worth at the same time? [more inside]
posted by Curiosity Delay on Mar 24, 2011 - 8 answers

Scrabble TRICKSTER? No! Never!

How do I help an organization that is in over its head when I am losing respect for the people (ok, one person in particular!) who run it? [more inside]
posted by Snarl Furillo on Mar 23, 2011 - 16 answers

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