I have a co-worker that is a close-talker and it makes me uncomfortable. We are becoming good friends and I enjoy talking with with her, but if we are face to face I find myself having to back away. If I am sitting at my desk, sometimes she will come behind my desk and stand right next to me while I am sitting in my chair and lean in so that we are face to face. I need some advice on how to non-nonchalantly ask her to not close-talk or at least give me a little bit of space. She is great and I do not want to hurt her feelings so I want to let her know casually if possible.
Background if it matters...Im a guy. She is not hitting on me and does not like me (I know because I have seen her do the same to others and she has a long term boyfriend).
posted by frednorton
on Jul 16, 2014 -
I work in an extremely understaffed department of a financial institution, and our newest employee (a woman I recommended) told me yesterday that she's continuing to "pursue other opportunities." Do I tell my boss? [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown
on Aug 15, 2013 -
One of my relatives got a strange note from one of her co-workers. She was minding her own business when this guy comes by and gives her a note that says, "I'm sometimes suicidal. My niece makes me feel better, maybe you can make me feel better too." Should she tell HR? Call the cops? What does that crazy note even mean? More details below... [more inside]
posted by exhilaration
on Jan 24, 2013 -
Setting: My wife is (IMO irrationally) jealous, and thinks that a co-worker of mine likes me. There is nothing there, and I have told her she is worrying needlessly, but she is still suspicious.
Complication: A position recently came up at work, in an area I prefer over my current job and with better job security. BUT, this co-worker is on the team.
Resolution: ??? [more inside]
posted by Arandia
on Jun 14, 2012 -
Help. I'm in a job-share situation with a woman who is making everything very difficult and I think I want to quit.
Shortest version possible: I got hired the second week of school as a middle school special education teacher in my #1 choice of district; I had been very excited about the possible opportunities here.
However, I'm hired to share the job 50% of the time with someone who has been doing the job forever
, and according to my coworkers, who does the job very badly.
And she's making every day miserable for me and all I want to do is quit. [more inside]
posted by kinetic
on Oct 5, 2011 -
Coworker definitely has a social disorder (undiagnosed) and the suggestions given by my boss to handle the situation have not worked and I've become very anxious and have difficulty keeping myself from acting out towards this person when they continue with the unsettling behavior. [more inside]
posted by RoadMapper
on Sep 6, 2011 -
I started a small beer club at work with some of my coworkers. One of them invited a coworker who makes me incredibly uncomfortable. How do I get out of this? [more inside]
posted by punchtothehead
on May 10, 2011 -
If I am trapped in a meeting or group with a co-worker who likes to hear himself talk (I mean really pontificate)...how do I go zen on it all? How do I adjust my own frustration? He sometimes has an entourage/fan club which isn't my business but I get really frustrated when stuck with him. He also tends to show up in the same small group parties I have attended. Deep breathing doesn't seem to be helping. I'm thinking about a flask of whiskey.
posted by snap_dragon
on Nov 11, 2010 -
My colleague and I are in a battle to hide a silly stress toy in each other's work spaces. Help me think of creative ways to get it to him! [more inside]
posted by aquanet
on Apr 13, 2010 -
I mistakenly became friends with a narcissist, who I also work with. I've avoided a confrontation with her, but she keeps prying to find out if I'm mad at her or don't like her anymore, and I feel like eventually I am going to have to explain myself. But how do you tell a narcissist that you just don't care about them without having them explode? [more inside]
posted by tastybrains
on Sep 14, 2009 -
How do I deal with a coworker (and potential friend) who is distracting me at work? [more inside]
posted by Buttons
on Aug 5, 2009 -