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Can I send a condolence card under these circumstances?

I just found out that a colleague of mine from a while ago died suddenly. I'd like to send a condolence card to her brother, but I'm not sure it's appropriate. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by holborne on Apr 12, 2015 - 22 answers

Dreading the negative review I have been asked to write about coworker.

I have to write an honest but negative review of a co-worker I have shared a room with for nearly five years. We are friendly and she considers me an ally in the office and she is going to feel betrayed and I feel terrible about it. [more inside]
posted by Glinn on Apr 8, 2015 - 25 answers

I no longer want to be friends with my friend/co-worker. What to do?

How should I handle a work relationship after having gone on a 7-day vacation where my friend and co-worker revealed herself to be selfish and inconsiderate? [more inside]
posted by KathyK on Mar 16, 2015 - 10 answers

Is it unfair to tell my colleague I'm in love with her?

I'm in love with my female colleague. We went on a date in 2014 and left it as friends. Now I'm thinking of finding a new job - should I tell her why or is this unfairly burdening someone else with my problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 23, 2015 - 53 answers

What is he DOING in the bathroom?

I work in a small office. The boss of our group works remotely but is in town occasionally. One of my (male) coworkers tends to go to the washroom 1-2 times a day for periods of 20-40 minutes, when our boss is not in town, but abstains from this behaviour when the boss is around. What could he be doing in the bathroom? [more inside]
posted by sockermas on Jan 22, 2015 - 73 answers

Competitive colleague trying to take my big project - help!

A colleague of mine is fairly new to the organisation and wants to make a big splash. So far, however, although he talks a very good game his actual work has been a real letdown to those who have seen it. I, unfortunately, do not talk a good game (though I'm working on it). My work, however, is considered excellent. [more inside]
posted by hazyjane on Jan 19, 2015 - 7 answers

Romantic Triple Threat! How to move forward?

I’ve fallen for my coworker-friend-roommate I’ve known for a year-and-a-half, and I need advice on how to escalate without it all blowing up in my face. We've roomed together (just the two of us) for six weeks, but I've been away for half that time. Also, we get along well and flirt occasionally, but I’m the worst at reading signs. [more inside]
posted by Nunipaht on Dec 28, 2014 - 46 answers

How do I deal with a co-worker making harmful allegations at new job?

I am starting a new job tomorrow with a former co-worker with whom I have had a tumultuous past with. She has approached management and stated that she feels uncomfortable and unsafe working with me. What course of action do I take and what should I expect? [more inside]
posted by AMWKE1984 on Oct 26, 2014 - 22 answers

How to not let negative coworker get me down?

I work in the same department as a very good friend of mine, we'll call him Tom. Tom hates his job and is very vocal about it all the time. I don't know how to deal with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2014 - 33 answers

Sticky Work Situation - Worth Bringing Up?

I'm in a sticky work situation. My account manager, who I'm partnered with, is pretty great overall - tries to be understanding, gives me enough rope to succeed but enough support to perform, even spends extra hours with me for development. But we're all in our early to mid-twenties, which can be kind of a rough age. One of our other account managers is pretty blunt, quite potty-mouthed, abrasive with terrible delivery. For example, she will regularly say people "shit the bed" "absolutely fucking suck" "is a sack of shit" as a reason not to work with them. [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen on Sep 8, 2014 - 31 answers

Should we pay friends to babysit?

Mrs. Zooropa and I have a 17-month old, and are finally having a date night tomorrow night. We are new to the area, and have few friends and no family nearby. A co-worker of mine and his wife have agreed to babysit for us. Here's our quandary: do we pay them? [more inside]
posted by zooropa on Jul 18, 2014 - 35 answers

Are we talking or are you trying to give me an eskimo kiss?

I have a co-worker that is a close-talker and it makes me uncomfortable. We are becoming good friends and I enjoy talking with with her, but if we are face to face I find myself having to back away. If I am sitting at my desk, sometimes she will come behind my desk and stand right next to me while I am sitting in my chair and lean in so that we are face to face. I need some advice on how to non-nonchalantly ask her to not close-talk or at least give me a little bit of space. She is great and I do not want to hurt her feelings so I want to let her know casually if possible. Background if it matters...Im a guy. She is not hitting on me and does not like me (I know because I have seen her do the same to others and she has a long term boyfriend).
posted by frednorton on Jul 16, 2014 - 29 answers

The Quiet Man and Knocky Guy at My Office

Short version: new coworker stands in my doorway not saying a word while I am at my computer until I notice him and another coworker bangs on doorway while barging in. Can I do anything about these two? [more inside]
posted by bellastarr on Jul 8, 2014 - 25 answers

Social Media Protocol: Unfriending a Coworker Edition

What's the protocol for blocking/unfriending a coworker if you still want to be friends with almost all your other coworkers on Facebook? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger on Jun 9, 2014 - 24 answers

Beyond Flowers

I work with a woman whose adult son passed away a little over a year ago. My mom also passed away 2.5 years ago, and we really connected over our losses. Last year for Mother's Day I sent my co-worker some standard flowers. This year I'd like to do something different, but need ideas. [more inside]
posted by thank you silence on Apr 28, 2014 - 17 answers

[sh*tstorm filter] I don't know how (or if) I can/should help a friend

I am unsure on how to advise a friend on a complicated interpersonal matter despite making promises on looking into possible solutions. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 29, 2014 - 14 answers

Less talkie, more workie.

I work in a small office environment: there's me, two other people who do the same job that I do, my boss, and his administrative person. I genuinely like everyone that I work with, which is wonderful. However, I'm encountering a problem with my boss's administrative person, who I'll call Cathy. Cathy has an irritating habit of cornering me and my co-workers into long "conversations" that eat up a lot of my workday, and I don't know what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes on Feb 21, 2014 - 25 answers

Why am I so hung up on this jerk?

I've been nursing a crush on one of the bartenders at the restaurant where I work for a few months. I always knew that he had "a way with the ladies," so to speak, but didn't realize how much of a ridiculous womanizer he is until I had lunch with a friend today and she spilled the details to me and ugh I FEEL TERRIBLE AND STUPID. More after the jump. [more inside]
posted by takemetosocktown on Feb 17, 2014 - 22 answers

Welcome to our company! Here, have a pony.

My office is looking for ideas on housewarming presents to welcome new employees. (Semi urgent as we have someone new starting Monday.) [more inside]
posted by phunniemee on Jan 24, 2014 - 33 answers

Can I offer to help this person (without being condescending)?

I teach at a night school. One of my coworkers is a reserved 45 y.o. Literature teacher with whom I share my 10-minute walk back home once or twice a week, plus conversations during breaks. Although this man seems very well-read and intelligent, for some reason he does not have a cell phone or e-mail address and does not use the internet. I feel that he might gain access to a wealth of resources which could be very interesting to him by learning the basics (google, youtube) about the web. I would like to offer him some help to start surfing, but I understand that my suggestion-although well intentioned-might conceivably be perceived as condescending and even intrusive. Should I try this? [more inside]
posted by Basque13 on Oct 30, 2013 - 31 answers

My coworkers are brushing me off, is there anything I can do?

Two months ago I started teaching at a small community college, a 90 minute drive away from home, two afternoons a week. There are two other teachers who live in the same neighborhood as me who also work at the same college. Actually, it was one of them who alerted me about an opening position there and told me it would be a good opportunity for me. Only one of the three of us owns a car and the three of us carpooled a few times when I started work there. Then, one day I stopped receiving texts saying "We'll pick you up at X". [more inside]
posted by Basque13 on Oct 18, 2013 - 33 answers

How do I get over a co-worker I have a crush on?

I am a lesbian with a crush on a male co-worker. That, however, is only the beginning of my troubles. At first I was willing to just laugh off my crush to myself as something silly and unimportant (I mean, I understand human sexuality is weird and fluid, whatever), but recently my crush went out of town for a week and I found myself missing him a lot more than I thought I would, so much so to the point that I ended up texting him something innocuous and then crying when he didn't write back. I've decided that this is getting ridiculous and I need to get ahold of myself. So how do I get over someone I see almost every day? Fuller explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by gypsyroseme on Oct 6, 2013 - 13 answers

Over-fragranced co-workers; HR hems and haws.

I need help. I understand this has been covered in Metaland; I even cut and pasted part of the prior posts when I left the worst offender a note. She promised to tone her perfume down; and she did for a bit. She was very sweet. Then she started popping microwave popcorn every day. (It's a large room with about 20 cubicles.) She's next to me and the smell makes me ill. I e-mailed HR, who said, "Get your supervisor involved" and "We'll bring it up at the next policy meeting." That'll be ten years. My supervisor retired this summer and I am waiting for the replacement person. We now have new people, one of who thinks it's OK to splash on after lunch. I am pretty desperate. Thanks for any ideas, outside of one of those masks...which would certainly send a message....
posted by Prairie on Sep 24, 2013 - 35 answers

How do I let a coworker know I'm unequivocally interested in him?

With the caveat that I know 'shitting where I eat' is a bad idea, I'd like to let a coworker know I'm interested in him. Asking him out isn't an option too, because I'm pretty shy and would probably blush and flub anything that's supposed to be casual. How do I do this? We have zero interaction. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 19, 2013 - 30 answers

How to ask out a coworker?

How to/Should I ask my coworker, who may not even know my name, out on a date? [more inside]
posted by Robocat on Aug 31, 2013 - 22 answers

Should I tell my boss our new employee is still looking for other jobs?

I work in an extremely understaffed department of a financial institution, and our newest employee (a woman I recommended) told me yesterday that she's continuing to "pursue other opportunities." Do I tell my boss? [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown on Aug 15, 2013 - 34 answers

My coworker is allergic to my cats. What can I do?

My co-worker is allergic to my cats. Question one: What is standard office policy with regards to this? Question two: What can I do at home to reduce the amount of allergens I carry to the office? [more inside]
posted by rebent on Aug 6, 2013 - 39 answers

Professionalism 101?

One of my colleagues often disparages my work to our customers. I'm not sure how to react and could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2013 - 11 answers

Salary discrimination. Looking for advice to help a coworker negotiate.

The new hire is making more than someone who has been there for years and is still doing most of the work. What should I tell my coworker so that she can negotiate a fair salary? [more inside]
posted by adapt on Aug 3, 2013 - 26 answers

Coworker is not taking constructive criticism well

I'm working on a group project that involves the group doing a lot of review and critique of each other's work before it becomes the final product. A coworker is not taking the criticism well and I'm trying to understand what is the best way for *me* to handle this and also what is reasonable for me to expect from the coworker. [more inside]
posted by Tandem Affinity on Jun 28, 2013 - 24 answers

Workplace mistake: What to do when my coworker throws me under the bus?

My office was submitting a grant and the wrong application was uploaded to the grant agency website. My coworker submitted the final documents - and it is clear to me already that he will find a way to throw me under the bus if he has to, to protect his interests. How do I approach this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2013 - 12 answers

The thing that I hate about you is everything.

How do you dial it back when you've gotten to the point where you seem to be permanently, irrationally annoyed with someone? Imagine that this is a person who you can't avoid completely - a coworker, roommate, in-law, something like that. [more inside]
posted by mskyle on May 1, 2013 - 31 answers

Quitting on ethical grounds, for selfish reasons

A coworker told me that our boss is sleeping with another coworker, his subordinate, our peer. This is the latest development in a dysfunctional workplace. I would like to quit on ethical grounds without implicating the friend that told me. Help, please. [more inside]
posted by sabatourist on Apr 30, 2013 - 42 answers

Is this behavior from a coworker as odd as it seems to me?

I work with a woman who refuses to speak to me unless she is forced to do so and will otherwise pretend so thoroughly that I don't exist it's as if I hadn't spoken at all. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 17, 2013 - 65 answers

Should I confront a coworker about his incessant cursing?

I can hear my colleague constantly cursing in his office throughout the day. It's making for a tense and disruptive work environment for me and my other colleagues. Should I talk to him to get him to stop? [more inside]
posted by Argyle Sock Puppet on Mar 26, 2013 - 30 answers

Should I ask her when would be a good time to call her for a date?

I (30) met this woman (35) at a work-related meeting ten days ago. We were in a small group (2 men, 2 women), and chatted briefly. Among a few other things, she asked me if I was married and had children (no to both). She is divorced and told us (most of the interaction was with the group) that she was on her own, and had to work really hard to support herself and her two young children. She seems a very loving mother, in addition to an attractive and easygoing person. Before leaving she asked me (and the other guy) for our email addresses and told me she would send me a facebook friend request. This didn´t mean much in itself, as we might conceivably need to get in touch for work-related issues. Later that evening I see and accept her fb friend request, and we chatted for a few minutes. [more inside]
posted by Basque13 on Mar 12, 2013 - 23 answers

Can one bad person ruin a career?

Job Filter: What am I getting into?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2013 - 15 answers

Help, I'm the victim of a hostile takeover of my job!

I'm not her assistant but she's treating me like I am. Frankly I'm ready to just quit but I can't afford it without another job lined up. To rub salt in that wound, she's micromanaging and professionally lazy and generally gets under my skin... Help me stick it out while I look for another job! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2013 - 14 answers

How to deal with strange co-worker?

One of my relatives got a strange note from one of her co-workers. She was minding her own business when this guy comes by and gives her a note that says, "I'm sometimes suicidal. My niece makes me feel better, maybe you can make me feel better too." Should she tell HR? Call the cops? What does that crazy note even mean? More details below... [more inside]
posted by exhilaration on Jan 24, 2013 - 55 answers

The beatings will stop when morale improves.

How do I deal with a difficult colleague who doesn't respect me when I'm getting zero support from my boss? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2013 - 16 answers

What can I do about a sick person who insists on coming to work?

My clearly ill coworker refuses to go home. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2013 - 58 answers

I'm Okay, You're a Wreck.

Coworker/friend/mentor really, really depressed... and with good reason. Can/should I help? How? Wall o' sadness inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 13, 2012 - 11 answers

You know I don't want to talk to you!

How to deal with a junior coworker who's overbearing? [more inside]
posted by ergo on Nov 27, 2012 - 19 answers

Yeah, I get it already!!!

How to deal with a overly opinionated coworker/friend. [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl on Nov 9, 2012 - 36 answers

We're no strangers to love / You know the rules and so do I

How to properly pursue a budding romance when hoping for some kind of fairly serious relationship. Difficulty level: I am young and foolish and what is this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2012 - 6 answers

Should I cool it with my long distance friend until he leaves his girlfriend?

Divorce from abusive ex almost final, unexpectedly slept with a friend. We have loads in common but he's not (yet?) available. Cool it, or enjoy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2012 - 31 answers

Do I tell an old coworker that her "private" pictures are online?

Do I tell an old coworker that her "private" pictures are online? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 5, 2012 - 23 answers

Quotes for a coworker's goodbye card

Need a movie, comic, or not-sappy quote to write in a card for a geeky coworker who is moving on to a better job. [more inside]
posted by royalsong on Aug 30, 2012 - 16 answers

A perfect storm of complications: acting on a crush on a shy coworker

Despite all advice to the contrary, I'm trying to get to know my shy coworker crush better -- have I made a hash of it? Or does it sound like I'm doing okay? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2012 - 36 answers

Keeping my chin up?

I’m going to be working with the (presumably unaware) friend of someone who sexually assaulted me in the past, and the perpetrator also has personal information on me that I’d rather not be made public. How should I interact with the friend personally and professionally? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 19, 2012 - 14 answers

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