Does anyone have recommendations for a good couples therapist/marriage counselor in the Ithaca NY area? Is this the sort of thing that insurance covers?
Christmas is coming up and I work for a family business. I need to get all the owners a gift. There are 10 individuals total (five couples). I am at a loss what to get them, I can not afford to spend a lot. I would consider spending up to $100 for all of them. [more inside]
This is for a project: I'm looking for examples of interracial Black (preferably but not mandatorily African) to Indian (preferably but not mandatorily Hindu) relationships in films, literature, news, etc, with emphasis on the Indian family's reaction. Personal anecdotes are welcome
I'm a very light sleeper who hates to be awakened. I have a bad cold. I feel like my partner is not respectful enough of my need to stay asleep. I need your advice. [more inside]
I am really struggling with my partner’s anxiety and its impact on our sex life. I am 33, he is 25, and we are a gay male couple. [more inside]
I've read that successful couples argue. How can I do this in productive way with my partner? [more inside]
Hi I’m a bisexual female in my 30s in a long-distance monogomous relationship with a man the same age. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now. We visit each other, talk every day, he is a charming, good looking man and our family and friends get along. However, there are some problems behind this surface and I am begining to wonder if perhaps we are entering into an emotionally abusive dynamic. Though he is funny with his friends, he suffers from depression and doesn’t seem to have the energy to charm me when we are alone. Often after a party he will stonewall me for having unintentionally embarrassing him and when I try to talk about it, he gets very defensive, and fights with me in an angry condescending tone, twisting my words out of their original context, mocking and belittling me. [more inside]
I'm looking for a casual challenge of some sort that my wife and I can engage in to compete with each other over the course of a year. [more inside]
I'm looking for a couples counselor in the Honolulu area who isn't a big proponent of anything religious/"Eastern"/mystical/etc. Degrees from accredited universities are preferred. I've already checked the Psychology Today website without much luck. [more inside]
My spouse and I have come to a point where we either have to resolve some long standing issues or break up. I'm looking for recommendations for couples therapists in Vancouver to help us work these issues out. [more inside]
My girlfriend and I are moving out of our separate apartments and into a new shared apartment next month, and we can't find advice on the smallest, most boring, most preliminary question: whether to schedule two separate moves to haul our stuff or to combine things with a single move that makes three stops. We'll be using either a moving service or gentleman with a gentlevan in Brooklyn. What should we do? [more inside]
My husband and I have had separate bank accounts, and are starting to finally merge them. Is there any point to keeping my banking separate? [more inside]
My partner and I are looking for a couples therapist in NYC - preferably Brooklyn and Manhattan. We tried one therapist about 8 months ago but we both felt he wasn't a good fit and quit after a few sessions. I'm looking for someone who really engages us and is both professional and empathetic. We have CIGNA and United Oxford insurances and would like to remain in-network if possible. Please share your recommendations, therapist hunting is really hard. Thanks!!
I feel guilty that my SO has to deal with this through no fault of his own. Our sex life is amazing and I know this would put a damper on it. He's supportive, but I worry that that might change. [more inside]
I would like to learn Spanish with my husband, but we are looking for activities, or games, or just exercises that would be best for couple's learning. We have limited time available after work. [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a marriage counselor who will work on Skype? [more inside]
I'm looking for a (Tolstoy?) quote about how couples develop a private language based on shared references and experiences, and how it's tragic when a couple breaks up because this language is lost. [more inside]
Help us watch movies that are romantic and sensuous with just a little soft porn scenes to get us in the mood. Adult movies tend to be intense and sometimes put us off. The ones that were suggested to us by friends tend to be action movies with a scene thrown in or horror movies. [more inside]
I'm a straight man, wife is bi. Married over a decade, but have had some fun group sex experiences together in the past. However sexy single females ("unicorns") are hard to come by so we're looking at a Vegas trip for some naughty fun. Need information. [more inside]
I'd like to learn a little bit more about what couples counselors, therapists, and psychologists have written about the stages that long-term relationships go through, what the issues and concerns are in the different stages, and what approaches are helpful in keeping the relationship strong at different stages. The articles I've been able to find on the web are pretty shallow, and seem to assume that the purpose of marriage is to have kids. I'd like to find something that is more appropriate to a couple who got married at 40+ so have already attained (presumably) a certain degree of wisdom, and for whom kids are not in the picture or in the cards. Authors that I have found helpful and intelligent in the past have been Gottman, Sue Johnson (Hold Me Tight), and the author of perennial AskMe favorite The Five Love Languages. I'm specifically interested in the 5-10 year stage, but welcome broader surveys as well.
My partner and I got married a few months ago, and now we are receiving Christmas cards from people who had not sent us any before. Why? [more inside]
Should I pay my boyfriend to do chores around the house and work as a “stay at home dad”? As a high earning, divorced mom, I met my current boyfriend, a great and kind person, who I love very much. We mostly have same values but our backgrounds are very different. Would really appreciate some input, as this situation is complex! More details! [more inside]
I'm looking for songs written from the perspective of someone who is expressing admiration for another couple (in a shipping sort of way). Any suggestions?
How to respond to a self invite for a vacation? [more inside]
What activities/questions/elements would YOU include in a [card and/or board] game meant to serve as part of the "maintenance work" of a romantic relationship? [more inside]
My main squeeze is moving in! Our finances are starting to be a little more comingled and I'm looking for the best, healthiest way to start having a regular "money check-in" as part of our new life together. He is on board with this. How do we structure the conversation? Is there a sample agenda? Do we make it a date night? Help, please. [more inside]
As a competent and responsible couple who will be available for a long-term housesitting or caretaking job (anywhere in the American West, BC or SE Alaska) throughout next winter and beyond, what are the best venues for us to both search for options and advertise our skills and availability? [more inside]
Because I am prone to bouts of idealization and sometimes don't have my feet rooted in reality, I want to hear from those who are happily married or in a committed relationship with someone with whom they plan to build a life with. I have *not one* real life example of a healthy functioning adult relationship, and although I have periods of loneliness, I can't imagine living like any of the people around me do. Are all relationships just people fitting into each others dysfunctions? Are there real ones out there that work, or is that the fantasy ideal that we all chase after and never achieve? [more inside]
My wife and I will get the chance to go away for 5 or 6 days without kids for the first time in a decade at the end of this year. It also happens to be my partners 40th birthday. Where should we go, from Sydney? [more inside]
How do I reconcile a basic difference between my live-in-partner and myself about recreation? One enjoys something active now and again, the other always wants something passive. What is a happy compromise? [more inside]
I am tired of being the owl for my friends and family. How do I get them to talk to *each other* instead of *me*? [more inside]
Tips, ideas and suggestions for an at-home, DIY couple spa night? [more inside]
Help me and my husband and I get our finances under control. We are tired of living paycheque to paycheque and sometimes going over budget with impulse buys and restaurant food. We need to choose a method that works for couples whose income is not always steady, and maybe some software beyond Excel. More snowflake details inside. [more inside]
How do I deal with preparing for a life with my boyfriend when I know he’s going to have to spend some time in jail for a DUI? [more inside]
Couples' counceler or therapist in NYC? [more inside]
How much should you expect to share in a relationship? [more inside]
Does anyone have recommendations for a couples counselor or marriage/family therapist in Houston, TX -- or, at least, what resources I can use to find a good one? Thank you in advance!
Moving in with my SO - but worried that I'll end up in the unhappy situation my parents were in. What do you do when you didn't grow up with a positive example of marriage/co-habitation? [more inside]
Who are some real-life badass couples? [more inside]
My husband and I need recommendations for couples' counseling in NYC, Manhattan or Brooklyn, and would love something relatively affordable (under $120/session, if possible). [more inside]
How do I express to my partner I'd like him to do thoughtful things for me without making him feel bad.?
How do I express to my partner I'd like him to do thoughtful things for me without making him feel bad? [more inside]
Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it? [more inside]
How can I keep couples therapy from ruining my relationship? [more inside]
Low-key, not super expensive beach getaways for May, east coast-ish? [more inside]
Asking for a friend. Marriage counseling in the Arlington/DC area? Recommendations needed... [more inside]
Can you recommend a good relationship counselor in the Bay Area? [more inside]
I'm looking for book recommendations for couples, in lieu of couples therapy. [more inside]
How do my girlfriend and I deal with differing styles of communication? I'm a wait to talk it out person, and she's a talk it out now person. [more inside]
I'm looking for a good couples therapist (we are both hetero/mid 30's) in the Baltimore area. Any recommendations?
I want to go on a vacation and include my best friend but no one can stand her fiancée and he certainly is not invited. I am definitely going and her feelings are going to be hurt if I don't ask them. How do I invite her without inviting him? [more inside]