I'm trying to figure out, a few sessions into therapy, whether my feelings of initial apathy, now verging on annoyance, are a reason to consider looking for a new therapist or not. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I have been dealing with depression for the past 5 years of my life. It got really bad 6 months ago, to the point where I feel immobilized and suffocated by it. I have seen counselors but am not making any progress. I know there have been numerous threads like this one but I am desperate now and don't know where else to go. [more inside]
I am looking for a good therapist in the Watertown or Brighton area of Boston - say within a 5-10 minute drive from Brighton Center. Would prefer female and someone who has experience with relationship issues and/or mortality issues. Can anyone make a recommendation?
Could I be forced to leave college due to my depression/current situation? I feel like I've hit the dead end. [more inside]
I have a MLS from 1993. I have a MS Education in Counseling from 2000. I do not have my license to practice counseling, and it is probably far too late to get it. I never used my MLS either. (My undergrad is in Religious Studies.) [more inside]
My husband and I have had a terrible past year. He has verbally, emotionally and mentally abused me. We each started into individual counseling last fall. His counselor is extremely perceptive and has keyed in on behaviours that lead to him abusing me, and we've both noticed real improvement at home as a result. After one month without any abuse, now he wants to quit counseling. This led to a nasty fight, where he thinks that I am a bad, manipulative person for wanting him to stick with counseling. Now I feel absolutely awful in every way. [more inside]
I met a counselor/life coach I really clicked with. But some of her old blog posts are full of woo. How to proceed? [more inside]
I would really appreciate recommendations for a counselor for my daughter. She is in the last stages of a long and demanding academic degree. She is brilliant but has always had some difficulty in reading social cues and tends to alienate people with her abruptness. More inside. [more inside]
What is a good gift for my unpaid undergrad research assistant that says "thanks for all your hard work as part of the team" that will support her in her current or future endeavors in counseling psychology, but won't highlight next year's uncertainty about grad school? [more inside]
I'm at my wits end with my husband and not sure how much longer I can take it, but he refuses to go to counseling. Is there any way I can save our relationship without counseling? [more inside]
Looking to relocate to Oregon or Washington but concerned that job searching in behavioral health may be difficult. I have heard there are a plethora of social workers in the Portland area but I have not been able to determine if this is true. [more inside]
New grad student here, back from 10 years in the private sector to get my masters (and if I'm lucky, a doctorate) in counseling/psychology. My question in brief: Should I hold onto my class notes and readings? Did yours come in handy after you left yon ivory tower? [more inside]
A few years back I asked this question. Unfortunately my cousin is still struggling and I am very afraid for his future and the rest of his immediate family. A few weeks ago I asked about rehoming a dog. I was finally able to get some help and an organization contacted me saying that they have someone willing to foster the dog. Great! Except that while I was working on it my aunt basically threw up her hands and turned over the dog to my cousin. [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a marriage counselor who will work on Skype? [more inside]
I find myself unable to be fully candid speaking in person with therapists and wonder if I might do better corresponding with a therapist online by e-mail or chat or something. Does this exist? Would you recommend it? Is there a better idea? [more inside]
Family member is in debt and needs help getting out of debt. I've researched both Appraisen and Clearpoint but both seem to be run by a corporation. I don't know if that's a good thing or not. Some credit counseling firms have charged big fees and gotten some people in worse trouble and even deeper in debt. I don't want her to get locked into something worse. Do these really help? Are they legit?
My spouse has long resisted going to couples’ mediation, despite on-going problems in our marriage. After a particularly bad fight a few days ago, my spouse reluctantly agreed to attend two sessions. I’m responsible for selecting the mediator. What’s the best way to extract the most benefit from just two sessions? [more inside]
I'm new to the area. A counselor, like a doctor, is a really good person to establish a working relationship with before you need one. Snowflake story inside [more inside]
[asking for a friend]. "I want to work with with teens and families providing individual or group therapy. Eventually I want to go into program development and management with the goal of being a program director one day. Should I go for a Masters in Social Work or Counseling?" [more inside]
I'm struggling in a few areas of my life (mostly related to doing the bulk of the parenting for two little kids, with a spouse who works long hours and travels frequently) and having a bit of trouble staying focused at work. I was looking into our employee assistance program, which is run through HRI, and they offer "short-term counseling" and online/telephone life coaching. I would like to hear the experiences of anyone who has used this type of service; I have never used any flavor of mental health care. [more inside]
My anxiety has flared up recently, to the point where I am reluctant to leave my house unless absolutely necessary. This weekend, I checked myself into urgent care after having five panic attacks in 12 hours. The health care providers there were less than helpful, and I feel like I've hit a wall in terms of figuring out how to get the help that I need. [more inside]
I'm going through the worst depression I've ever had, and I've started seeing a therapist (along with meds), but a few things she has said irk me. When do you look for someone else? Juicy details inside. [more inside]
My wife and I are in desperate need for marriage counseling. [more inside]
My wife Jane and I are in our 40s and have been together for eight years. We got along well for the first few years, but things have been steadily going south since then. In theory, we both want to improve our marriage, but we are not making much progress on our own. I could use some advice. [more inside]
10-year-old that struggles with many things who, for a few years now, has, when feeling sad/depressed, talked about how no one likes him, he's not good at anything, has no special qualities, isn't smart... etc. Looking for ways to help him. [more inside]
Can you please tell me about the best (and worst) things about your experience? Ideas of things to say, what NOT to say if answering hotline calls...what helped you (as a caller), or what didn't? [more inside]
Here's my situation: I graduated with a bachelor's in biology, and have had a series of jobs I liked, involving wildlife rehabilitation and working at a zoo... but I've moved and these jobs are hard to come by in my current location, AND, none of these jobs make any money. So what career field can I transition into that could help me take advantage of the fact that I already have a bachelor's degree? [more inside]
My marriage is in limbo and I need to stop giving it so much emotional energy. [more inside]
Evidently, I am a very good listener. Is there any realistic chance of using this to transition to either a career or a side-job as a counselor of some sort? [more inside]
What are some jobs/careers/gigs that involve writing, some kind of direct interaction in a community space (such as a public library, media lab, shelter, etc.), and teaching/public speaking? Substituting counseling for teaching/public speaking is okay, but something verbal and interpersonal for #3 [more inside]
I have felt stuck in my career for a long time. Disregarding my better judgment, I took the advice of someone I trust and decided to see a career counselor. The experience went very poorly in my opinion and served only to reinforce my disbelief in the value of career counselors. But, I'm still feeling stuck, so I want to see what the hivemind's collective experience has been. [more inside]
How to approach therapy when I'm not really sure what I'm going for but feel depression has a huge part of it. Kicker - the standard tests show I'm not and I don't know how far to push to get some help or what I even need help for. [more inside]
In my past as an active alcoholic, I received two DUIs. Since the last one, I've embraced recovery, and it's completely changed my life for the better. I want to transition into counseling from working in education, especially in recovery counseling as an LCDC. How will my criminal record impact my ability to do this? [more inside]
My in-laws in South Carolina, who don't have a stellar history with money, are facing some challenges that are really restricting their circumstances. They're not against cleaning up their act in terms of budgeting and being smarter about money, but don't really have a head for it. What's the best way to help from a distance? [more inside]
Therapist in training. Finally got my first clients. This is my calling and I want to be damn good at it. Naturally, I turn to AskMe. [more inside]
I am in financial difficulties because my wife and I are unable to work. The debts are mounting up, and I need some help. Can you recommend a credit counseling agency? [more inside]
Suppose you wanted to market a high-end and unusual, therapy-like (but not therapy), niche consulting/counseling service. How would you get the word out to the existentially dissatisfied on the cheap?
I am unemployed, and (thankfully) was able to get onto a government-assisted program through MetroHealth in which all of my medical expenses are being paid. I am having personal/family issues and am in desperate need of quality talk therapy, but the counselor I just visited was awful. [more inside]
I finished my masters in counseling psychology back in December. I have not taking my licensure exam yet which is the NCE. In order to become a therapist I have to pass the NCE and eventually get my LCPC after I have accumulated my hours. The question I have is how should I decide on being able to utilize my skills so that I can help others? I have read quite a lot on autism and I have a moderate amount of experience with helping children and adults with Asperger Syndrome. The question though, is where should I begin with all of this? There are a wide variety of different disorders that I am familiar with. I would eventually like to be able to help people with all sorts of problems, but I'm not sure what is the best way to go about this. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
I'm thinking about becoming a therapist. Is this a good idea, and how do I get there if it is? [more inside]
I'm considering a Master's program in Vocational Rehabilitation Counseling, but was wondering how the job outlook is. Specifically, I'd like to live in Southeastern Pennsylvania, and was curious if there are many openings in this region, or if I'd have to relocate. If you're in the field of vocational rehabilitation counseling, did your internship turn into a permanent position, or did you have to spend months and months applying for jobs?
How do I find a career counselor to take me to the next level while changing industries? [more inside]
Hi AskMefi folks. I am in need of resources and reading materials for a relationship crisis - things I (we?) can read, things I (we?) can consider, worksheets I can use to help guide conversations with my partner. [more inside]
My partner and I are contemplating a move to Oregon in the next few years. I will have a masters in conflict resolution but would really like to become a mental health counselor. All the research I've done thus far points to a master of social work as I can be a counselor and have more job availability/flexibility. Part of me would like my second masters to just teach me the theory and effective skills of counseling rather than everything that comes with a MSW. I worked at a women's center and studied feminism as an undergrad so I am well aware of privilege and oppression in systemic form. If my plan was to settle in Oregon could I make it with a masters in counseling or are MSW's more easily finding jobs? This question is specific to the job climate in Oregon.
We're seeking couples counseling. We're in London, so there seem thousands of options; how do we pick out the right person for us? I don't think there's anything super-remarkable about our situation, so we don't need a expert in something super-specialised, but it seems like lots of listings are for general-therapists rather than specialists on couples - is this a problem? If so, how do I find the latter kind? If anyone knew someone in London who they'd had good experiences with, that would be super helpful too!
Ten year marriage that includes a 4 yr old kid is about to fall apart. How can I help directly or help them help themselves through this rocky period? [more inside]
Hello! I am an independent contractor (1099 Misc form) for the first time in my life and need some tax advice as the budget is a bit tight! Therapy, acupuncture, bicycle, insurance, computer, etc. How do deductions work? [more inside]
I've been working as a non-tenure-track professor in the humanities for the last few years. I'm considering a career shift, and I'm thinking counseling might be a good fit for me. I imagine myself having a private practice where I primarily provide therapy to women. I am hoping this kind of change might offer me more career options and personal fulfillment than what I’m doing now. Still, I'm cautious. I need your wisdom! [more inside]
Not the happiest circumstances to bring a new child into this world. After years of supporting her husband, financially and emotionally, she's reached her limit. He's dealing with some addiction issues, and has become increasingly hostile with the birth of this baby. Maybe they'll work this out one day, but right now she doesn't feel safe, has filled her car with personal belongings and is staying with family. She left him a lengthy note, but does not want to talk to him in the next few days. This has been a long time coming, and while I don't imagine it will be a surprise—his family has actually encouraged her to do this—he won't react well. What sort of legal precautions should she begin taking? [more inside]
What are reliable questions that a person in marriage therapy can ask to determine that they are probably not with the right marriage therapist and should try someone else? Put another way, how can a person in marriage therapy know that the match with the therapist is a bad fit, as opposed to the problem being with the patient himself/herself? [more inside]