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Are there any books about coping with getting well?

There are lots of books, both memoirs and self-help, about coping with an illness or new disability. Are there any about the opposite: how to adapt when you get well after a long illness? [more inside]
posted by not that girl on Aug 29, 2016 - 7 answers

How to keep it together when no one else is?

With a family in crisis, how do you keep yourself together while everyone else seems to be falling apart? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2016 - 5 answers

I want to make my wife feel better somehow

My wife's fairly down right now. How can I perk her up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 10, 2016 - 22 answers

A sense of humor is a terrible thing to lose.

One of the consequences of getting older and doing daily battle with the 21st century is that a person's sense of humor takes a beating sometimes. I'm beginning to wonder if there is some positive action I can take to keep from losing my sense of humor. All my life it has been my primary coping mechanism and main tool of social interaction. And now more and more I feel it weakening and slipping away. Can you exercise it and make it stronger? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2016 - 14 answers

How to cope with office life for the highly sensitive person?

I've begun working as an assistant in an office after years of telecommute work, and very familiar, frustrating feelings have come flooding back. I am a Highly Sensitive Person and this whole week, I spend a ton of mental energy being on all day at work, beginning with an anxious morning routine where I struggle to even get everything done. Then, when I leave work, I come home and basically sit on my couch all night and do nothing, then repeat the cycle. How can I learn to cope? [more inside]
posted by Fire on Apr 27, 2016 - 22 answers

How did you get over a family member's or friend's suicide?

My cousin took her own life two years ago, and it has been a long, painful process trying to find a creative way to help me cope with her being gone. What I have found most effective for my coping style is hearing how other people moved on from their losses. Hearing stories about hobbies, projects, and adventures dedicated to their loved one, or even something like a great book recommendation would be helpful. [more inside]
posted by Become A Silhouette on Apr 16, 2016 - 15 answers

How to get through a tough time?

I am looking for help with short-term escapism. [more inside]
posted by Stewriffic on Mar 26, 2016 - 26 answers

How do I cope with not being #1 with my g/f who has 2 young kids.

All my past relationships were ones which we could both selfishly be top of the totem pole to the other, now I've been dating a woman with 2 children under 10 and I'm struggling with being too needy or feeling like I want more of her time than I guess she wants to/can give. I understand I'll never come before her kids and I do care for them as well but it's very challenging lately to cope with since there's been a dramatic drop in intimacy lately too (not just sex but random acts of kindness; the "honeymoon period" type affection stopped almost at the same time as moving in with her). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2016 - 20 answers

Need help with my dominating perfectionism...

Help. I am in a heavy stress short term situation, working closely with others for long hours. I need immediate coping mechanisms to keep from dominating every situation and making things worse. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2016 - 8 answers

Help dealing with a dying NT-Aspie relationship

In short, I am trying to help myself accept that I have to end my relationship with my boyfriend. Although he has never been diagnosed, I'm fairly certain that he has Asperger's (whereas I'm NT), and our inability to communicate with one another is taking a toll on my mental health. He is full of love and respect for me but has done things that hurt me and our relationship so badly, that I feel that I cannot recover at this point. Please help me find the strength and resources to get through this. [more inside]
posted by NeverGrowSoOldAgain on Feb 17, 2016 - 41 answers

Need plan to survive new job, long commute, dad in hospice

Dearest hive mind, kindly help me prepare a self-care kit or make survival plans for what will probably be the most brutal 6 months I have had in years. The good news: I have finally landed work. The bad news: My dad is in hospice out of state, my new contract job is 40 hours per week at the end of a long commute on one of those hated corporate buses that pick up workers in San Francisco and drop them off in Silicon Valley. Details below. [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna on Feb 2, 2016 - 15 answers

What am I in for?

Those of you who have been divorced, where your spouse wanted to keep trying to save the marriage, but you did not. What was the emotional fallout like, and how did you cope with it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 25, 2015 - 25 answers

How to have difficult conversations with clients

Please give me advice for telling clients that I can no longer keep their appointment times [more inside]
posted by lifethatihavenotlivedyet on Dec 3, 2015 - 23 answers

I need to stop being abusive

I was in therapy, but then we moved to a developing country a few months ago where therapies are not the done thing. I was physically, emotionally and verbally abusive before therapy. After a lot of work, I am a lot less abusive, but I've found that I still engage in controlling behavior. For the sake of my mental health and my relationship I want to stop completely, but don't know how to without professional help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 23, 2015 - 16 answers

Moving on after a scandal in the community.

As I mentioned on the blue, I'm one of the women who was involved with these jerks. My own humiliation and hurt have passed, and now I want to do something productive with my anger. Seeking suggestions. [more inside]
posted by witchen on Sep 24, 2015 - 15 answers

Falling in love with my roommate

Looking for advice on how to cope, NOT on how to hit on him [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2015 - 23 answers

How do I cope with being the estranged one?

Today my sibling has decided to cut ties with me. I am devastated and at an utter loss on how to handle some of the finer social details. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 22, 2015 - 19 answers

I'm Desperate - What to do when not seeing any progress in counseling?

I have been dealing with depression for the past 5 years of my life. It got really bad 6 months ago, to the point where I feel immobilized and suffocated by it. I have seen counselors but am not making any progress. I know there have been numerous threads like this one but I am desperate now and don't know where else to go. [more inside]
posted by NowYouKnow on Jul 9, 2015 - 25 answers

Avoiding (or Re-routing) the Sad Thoughts

In serious need of ways to keep myself from dwelling on recent bad news. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2015 - 17 answers

How do I ADHD

So it seems I have ADHD. 1. Yay, this explains so much! 2. Oh geez, what do I do now? [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz on Jun 2, 2015 - 16 answers

What is sexual compatibility if libido is not a problem?

Trying to get over a recent Ex who I thought was perfect except for sexual compatibility. I'm trying to unpack this concept and get advice on whether different sexual styles (libido is not a problem) is a dealbreaker. There's no chance of getting him back, but it might help me move on. [more inside]
posted by minoraltercation on May 5, 2015 - 15 answers

I WON'T AND YOU CAN'T MAKE ME

My son is 8 yrs 9 mos, non-neurotypical. He refuses to do a lot of things, causing lots of issues and ugly scenes. Other parents of non-neurotypical children, what strategies do you successfully use to fight inflexibility and refusal? [more inside]
posted by anastasiav on Apr 2, 2015 - 43 answers

How can I be less hopeful, and more hopeful, all at once?

I can’t seem to get rid of the tiny shreds of hope that a toxic relationship will change, nor can I seem to detach enough emotionally to cope well. At the same time, I just can’t seem to feel confident that I’ll be able to cope and recover from the termination and trauma of this relationship. Seeking advice, words of wisdom, etc. Details inside... [more inside]
posted by aggielc on Mar 6, 2015 - 17 answers

How to Cope with Personal Apocalypse

My personal life is falling apart (I may be on my way to losing my wife and family), but I have to work. What can I do to cope during the work day (where I'm also under a lot of pressure right now, halfway through a high-priority development project sprint under a lot of skeptical outside scrutiny)? I can't quit because that would only hurt my wife and children more (I am my family's sole earner and we have lots of painful structural debt). What can I do to keep my concentration focused on the job at hand and minimize the long term harm to my sanity and career while stuck at work feeling everything I've ever worked for disappearing in the background?
posted by anonymous on Mar 2, 2015 - 17 answers

How can I best deal with an alcoholic (and make pressing decisions) ?

Seeking words of wisdom & experience, advice, reality checks, really anything that can help me gain some clarity or peace of mind. Lots of text, apologies in advance. [more inside]
posted by aggielc on Feb 13, 2015 - 33 answers

Coping with moderate-to-severe ugliness.

I am ugly and I feel bad about it and I'm tired of caring so much about my looks. How do I let it go so it doesn't dominate the rest of my young adulthood + beyond? [more inside]
posted by hejrat on Feb 7, 2015 - 89 answers

First-time grandparent: What should I know?

Going to Europe soon for 5 weeks to be with my daughter as she pops out her first child. Am excited for both of us. I want to be truly supportive of her but also practice self-care and set appropriate limits. Naturally, there are complications. See inside for snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna on Jan 22, 2015 - 20 answers

Mania, Anxiety, and Panic, oh my!!

How do I know when what I'm feeling is simple anxiety, when it's an oncoming panic attack, or when it's becoming a manic episode, as it's coming on, rather than looking back with 20/20 hindsight and going, "Well, duh"? Blizzard inside. [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess on Dec 27, 2014 - 10 answers

Anger Management 101

Please recommend materials to help me cope with keeping composure during trying times. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit on Dec 5, 2014 - 3 answers

Making the best of a bad boss. Coping strategies?

What strategies have you used to cope with a bad boss/supervisor? [more inside]
posted by pennypiper on Nov 23, 2014 - 5 answers

Almost everything bothers me. Can I be fixed?

For most of my adulthood, I've been unable to fully deal with normal things the way most people seem to be able to. I have a decent full time job, a nice home, and a great husband... really nothing major to complain about. But many things bother me to the point that it affects my daily life, and I want it to stop but I don't know how to make it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2014 - 38 answers

when does it end

My grandmother died two days ago. My three-year relationship ended a week before that. I'm still dealing with the trauma of a sexual assault that occurred last year. I just moved to another country for graduate school. I have people I'm friendly with, but my close friends and family are thousands of miles away. I'm scared, overwhelmed and lonely. How do I keep going? [more inside]
posted by quadrant seasons on Nov 9, 2014 - 23 answers

Finding friends in Fresno?

My mother moved to Fresno 4 years ago, to be near her sister. She likes it here, more or less. However, she is 65, single, bored, and I have run out of suggestions. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by ananci on Sep 20, 2014 - 11 answers

I need healthy ways to improve mood and concentration.

Lately I notice that I've been slipping into some unhealthy vices.... [more inside]
posted by Cybria on Sep 10, 2014 - 8 answers

Coping with anxiety?

I have a number of psychiatric diagnoses, mostly involving panic and anxiety, but also throwing in depression, OCD, and (perhaps) conversion disorder. Everything's acting up right now. Appointment with a psychiatrist isn't until late October. How do I cope until then? [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess on Sep 5, 2014 - 18 answers

Relief for the bereaved

My mom died two weeks ago. It was from a fast growing lymphoma - was sudden and unexpected. She was an incredibly healthy person leading up to about the year before her death - no vices at all, exercised religiously, and maintained a very healthy lifestyle. Question revolves around help for coping with this loss, potential near-future loss of father, and changes in live. [more inside]
posted by dmbfan93 on Jul 5, 2014 - 12 answers

Strictly Business, like EPMD

What are some techniques I can use to get through a day job that is sometimes really grating? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2014 - 5 answers

Oh, just get over it!

I am a public librarian. Sometimes I have to deal with problem patrons, and on rare occasions, those interactions turn ugly, and I have to ask the person to leave the building, etc. The problem is, I get upset, and then I get all flushed and shaky and worst of all, I cry. And when that happens, I can't really go off by myself and get composed -- I'm usually at the reference desk alone, so I can't be away for more than a minute or two. I've read previous AskMe questions about avoiding the crying, and have tried a lot of those tricks -- what I'd really like is to avoid getting so emotionally upset in the first place. [more inside]
posted by sarcasticah on May 19, 2014 - 42 answers

Coping with being rejected from a top school

My transfer application to a top school was recently rejected, and it was the last undergraduate application that I could send in. Would like some advice on coping with it. [more inside]
posted by suburbs on May 15, 2014 - 26 answers

How to Handle People When You Cannot Handle People

Seeking coping strategies for dealing with the public on small and large scales during a major depressive episode. My old ways of dealing with a deep low like this are not compatible with the life I've built since the last time this happened, and I would like to keep that life together. [more inside]
posted by EatTheWeak on Apr 21, 2014 - 14 answers

Books & Resources on Letting Go

I'm seeking books and other resources on getting over being cheated on. I'm tired of being hurt by it. [more inside]
posted by mibo on Apr 7, 2014 - 8 answers

My brother died four days ago. My father is coping by being abusive.

My brother passed away on Monday. My father is coping by lashing out. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by TryTheTilapia on Mar 7, 2014 - 22 answers

4 year old, Shared custody, Heartache

Our daughter frequently wants to go back to her moms house when we have her. How can we help/cope? Background and details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 5, 2014 - 63 answers

What doesn't kill you makes you _______.

Looking for advice on coping mentally and emotionally with a long stretch of stress, boredom and pain — when these are things that I ordinarily find very hard to tolerate. (No need to worry about coping physically; the logistical details of preparation, pain management and aftercare have been taken care of.) [more inside]
posted by this is a thing on Feb 18, 2014 - 16 answers

Coping strategies for finding out how awful you really are

What do you do when you realize that, not only are you not even close to being the hero of your own story, you're most likely the main problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 24, 2014 - 36 answers

This can't continue

You aren't my doctor, psychologist or psychiatrist, but maybe you have something to share that will help me get onto a path toward curing a relentless, life-altering ( in the worst possible way( issue with sleep. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Jan 11, 2014 - 53 answers

How do I work productively at ANY time in ANY mood?

I have trouble getting work done if I'm not in the right mood, which is a rarity. I've become an extreme avoider of anything that will make me mad or frustrated or remind me of things that make me mad and frustrated. The problem is that I’m the number two in a small, overly-ambitious company that may just be the most frustrating one in existence. So I have what many would call an impossible workload and also a massive amount of frustration. The latter unfortunately usually cancels out the former for me and leads to much more of both. Oh, and I can’t easily quit, because it’s a family business and my boss/dad’s life’s work. Simply put, I need to do a complete 180. I need to go from being an emotionally-scarred avoider to a guy that can do what needs to be done even when he feels like screaming until his lungs explode. Paper thin skin to tank armor. I’ve taken too long to realize that if I don’t solve this now, it may ruin the company and my life. I’ll take whatever you can give me: advice, coping techniques, books or articles I should read, websites and online communities I should visit, specific counseling suggestions (not just “get counseling”), whatever. I just can’t take it anymore. [more inside]
posted by KinoAndHermes on Jan 6, 2014 - 23 answers

help with post-break up coping?

i'm at break-up +3 months and could stand to re-up my mefite input as regards coping. [more inside]
posted by fingers_of_fire on Dec 29, 2013 - 11 answers

How do you cope with an utterly draining person who you can't avoid?

For various reasons, I'm in currently in a domestic situation with a family member who is really, really draining. This person has quite a few traits that seem narcissistic/borderline/non-respectful of boundaries. [more inside]
posted by SpecialSpaghettiBowl on Dec 6, 2013 - 13 answers

flipped out!

How do I get better at not ignoring all the positive emotional work I've done when suddenly being triggered in a high-stress low-functioning situation? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Nov 20, 2013 - 6 answers

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