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Coping with Friendship Blues

I wrote this question. I've been thinking a lot about my friendship with that guy, specifically how to proceed with it. Small blizzard under the fold. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 30, 2014 - 13 answers

I need help bringing a messy, inappropriate friendship to a close

A relationship with a friend has spiraled out of control. I have to bring it to an end, and I'm not sure how to go about it. I need advice. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2014 - 46 answers

Need some programming career advice

Need some special snowflake programming career advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2014 - 7 answers

how to break it off with someone I'm not quite dating?

I'm very inexperienced when it comes to romance so please bear with me. I can't tell if I've been somehow misleading or if this guy is just being clingy. I also don't know if I owe anyone an explanation. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper on Jul 7, 2014 - 23 answers

A tinder issue

This feels like a very strange question to ask as I can't figure out if the issue is technical or personal. I will try to explain, however. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 17, 2014 - 12 answers

Heritage Speaker Guilt

How can I deal with this nagging sense of guilt that I should know more Chinese than I presently do? Or, how can I improve my Chinese as a busy twenty-something year-old? [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit on Jun 10, 2014 - 9 answers

At my wit's end, weight-wise. Please help.

I've struggled with my weight all of my adult life. Now I'm 34 and I feel like I'm at my wit's end. I just can't bring myself to fix my diet. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 27, 2014 - 30 answers

Startled by a tender moment - how much to give in?

For the past two years, I've developed an very stable and satisfying dating style that suits me for the time being - I maintain a certain emotional distance and all of my sexual relations fall very easily in the platonic category - I've thus far avoided any complications. However, I was completely startled when a friend I had expected to sleep with ended up being intensely sweet and now my system is a bit shaken up. I'm not sure how much to give in to this feeling I'm having for him. In a way, I can't remember what's normal to be feeling in these situations. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 18, 2014 - 16 answers

I think I like-like him.

Are we friends? Are we dating? How do I find out without ruining everything? [more inside]
posted by quincunx on Apr 9, 2014 - 28 answers

Question for people with OCD

I was never diagnosed but it is pretty clear that I have OCD. I understand that irrational guilt, doubt, and anxiety are classic issues associated with OCD. Are there any tricks or ways that anyone can say has helped them to step back and evaluate circumstances somewhat objectively to decide if guilt and anxiety towards something is appropriate or irrational? I have found that explaining a set of circumstances to people whose opinion I trust and them telling me that my concern is irrational has only helped a little. Thank You. P.S. I have already set up a first meeting with a psychologist so that base is covered.
posted by anonymous on Mar 15, 2014 - 12 answers

Is it normal for your friends to make snide comments about your SO?

I've lost 2 different friends because I've asked them to stop making snide remarks about someone I was dating. It makes me wonder if this is normal in friendships and I should just suck it up? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Jan 19, 2014 - 36 answers

How do I bury this? Or shouldn't I?

I haven't had a remotely sane romance for 10 years or so and have taken big chunks of time out from it all (sometimes involuntarily) and spent a lot of time reflecting and in therapy. I rekindled an old friendship with a male friend a while back and we have grown quite close. I always found him quite attractive though when we originally worked together he was married and I was dating, so it was a no go. [more inside]
posted by tanktop on Dec 8, 2013 - 11 answers

How to continue when you feel you're falling behind every day?

I'm in my mid 30s and feel like life has passed me by and it's too late to fix it. Looking for help on handling the situation so it doesn't consume me. Lot's inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 5, 2013 - 20 answers

I need some career advice...

I'm a recent college grad confused about which path I should take: a career in the arts? Or a career focusing on law and the humanities? [more inside]
posted by tammi209 on Jun 7, 2013 - 23 answers

I know they're nice, but they're not for me!

I'm in an amazing relationship, with someone I've known for over two years, and we've been dating for a year-ish. We're both women in our early 20's. I've only dated women up to this point, and been very happy with that. It seems that my brain doesn't want to keep that status quo anymore and is trying to convince me I want to experience being with men. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2013 - 10 answers

Could my ADHD diagnosis be wrong? Or be expanded?

Hi. I'll try and cut a long story short, about 6 month ago I've been diagnosed with ADHD and now I'm doubting my diagnosis. (more down there, all sappy again) [more inside]
posted by ahtlast93 on Apr 16, 2013 - 12 answers

Had sex with someone I (maybe) shouldn't have. Help?

I slept with a person I have to deal with in an educational setting now and in the future - how to proceed when that kind of relationship ends up getting sexual by accident? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2013 - 13 answers

Breakup ambivalence - how to feel out the best choice?

I think my relationship is bad for me but I'm so deeply in love that the notion of ending it seems unbearable. I can't figure out how to decide which way to take it. [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Feb 7, 2013 - 47 answers

Riddle me this.

Good puzzle book (or series of books) for bright senior mom with mild confusion/dementia? [more inside]
posted by Currer Belfry on Jan 21, 2013 - 3 answers

Confused about potentially nonconsensual sex, how to deal?

Someone had sex with me even though I said "no" multiple times, but I was drunk and my memories of the event are completely foggy, especially the moment of penetration. This happened several months ago and I have been completely ignoring it, but in the past few days told my partner and now feel completely confused. What do I call this? Is this rape or a confused moment that turned nonconsensual by accident? Especially confused about how to interact and think about the other person involved. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2013 - 57 answers

Is my RL a dead horse or does he deserve this chance?

Another question about my LTR: how much should I try to give another chance to my potentially EUM partner? [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Dec 29, 2012 - 35 answers

Work experience now or later?

Future healthcare-administration graduate: Should I try to get administrative experience while I'm in school or stick with patient-care jobs for now? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Oct 19, 2012 - 6 answers

I feel like he's making a fool out of me.

I think my boyfriend is hitting on his best friend's (adult) daughter. I am hurt and angry and upset and I don't know what I should do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 14, 2012 - 66 answers

What's happening in this GIF?

What's going on in this GIF? I keep on looking at it and people assure me something awesome's happening, but I am still confused? [more inside]
posted by maykasahara on Oct 10, 2012 - 15 answers

Happiness, you confuse me

How do I deal with happiness during the bad times when I find it confusing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2012 - 7 answers

Help me find a lender!

Filtering through lenders for a mortgage in a home building situation. [more inside]
posted by phox on Mar 29, 2012 - 4 answers

dumped for vague reason

What do you do when you are dumped, because even though everything is going well, "something is not there" and "things are not progressing"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 19, 2012 - 36 answers

Will the cognitive problems associated with sepsis improve as the infection is treated?

Will the cognitive problems associated with severe sepsis improve as the sepsis itself is treated? [more inside]
posted by Jamesonian on Mar 5, 2012 - 9 answers

Passion vs. Security in Career - Which should I pursue?

Hello. I'm facing a big career dilemma and I would love some feedback. The short question is whether I should call a job I already declined to ask for it back (it's been 5 weeks), but in order to best explain what is causing this dilemma and (hopefully) get some advice, I think I should give some historical context. My apologies in advance for the long question and thank you for any perspective and/or advice. [more inside]
posted by curiousone on Feb 24, 2012 - 13 answers

how to get over an ex completely?

how to get over a breakup when you don't want the person back, but feel no closure? (note:very long) [more inside]
posted by teaforone on Feb 24, 2012 - 22 answers

I hear you, but I also hear the cat licking its paws a mile away...

Attention Filter: I can't filter things out when it comes to hearing. [more inside]
posted by dougrayrankin on Feb 23, 2012 - 15 answers

Sad and Confused

During the night, I am sad. All other times, I am perfectly fine. ?!?! [more inside]
posted by Angel of Khaos on Feb 10, 2012 - 20 answers

Hepatic Encelphalopathy - even harder to deal with than to spell

Tips on communicating with a partner who has medical issues that cause confusion but not quite dementia (and perhaps spotting it earlier) [more inside]
posted by MCMikeNamara on Jan 26, 2012 - 8 answers

career help. I yam so sleepy.

Career filter: How to proceed if I am exhausted and unhappy? [more inside]
posted by sucre on Dec 5, 2011 - 6 answers

Am I to blame for hoping?

Am I to blame for how hurt I feel right now? Details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2011 - 31 answers

This might be going somewhere... Nope.

If I get attached to people easily, how do I learn to pace myself so I stop getting hurt when things don't work out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 7, 2011 - 19 answers

What's my name? No, really, what's my name?

I changed my name. Or perhaps I did not. I'm not quite sure any more, and suddenly it matters quite a bit. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 20, 2011 - 6 answers

My friend vs. the guy I am seeing

I screwed up, and realized too late that my friend is in love with the guy I am seeing. We're not serious. Should I stop seeing him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2011 - 45 answers

Mind-blowing. Decisions.

Somehow, I seem to have lost the ability to make confident decisions - and the trivial ways in which this happens is having a non-trivial impact on my life. How can I address this?: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 6, 2011 - 13 answers

who am I?

I feel like I just have moment-to-moment mindsets; that I have no underlying unitary will. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 2, 2011 - 12 answers

How would Mark Twain have written "WTF!"

Is there a word that would express your combined surprise/confusion/confoundment upon witnessing an event or situation? How would best express, in a single word, your brain's "WTF-moment"? [more inside]
posted by Wild_Eep on Sep 19, 2011 - 32 answers

Dealing with and understanding post-depression changes

How to deal with post-depression goal changes (or aimlessness)? [more inside]
posted by StoneSpace on Aug 12, 2011 - 8 answers

What was once clear-cut is now no longer as simple-- how did you handle such a change?

How did you handle or process political beliefs changing as your life circumstances evolved? Feeling torn... [more inside]
posted by mireille on May 1, 2011 - 25 answers

I'm gay! Oh wait, maybe I just am trying to stir up trouble in my hetero relationship.

Questioning my sexuality. In a relationship. Also, how do I get over my completely unhealthy need for drama in a relationship? I believe these two issues are conflated in my case. [more inside]
posted by tweedle on Mar 6, 2011 - 8 answers

How do I go about contacting someone who has apparently confused my email address with her own?

Someone out there in internet-land with a first initial & last name somewhat similar to my own is apparently operating under the mistaken presumption that my gmail address is hers. I'm starting to get regular emails from her magazine subscriptions, her car dealership's service desk, etc. and I'd like it all to stop. I'd email her about the problem except, well, like her, I don't know her email address. A google search has failed to come up with anything promising. What are my options here? Have you had a similar situation that you resolved, and if so, how did you do it? [more inside]
posted by .kobayashi. on Jan 27, 2011 - 20 answers

Why is my husband zoning out all the time?

Why does my husband zone out/get confused/lose his train of thought throughout the day? This has been happening for over a year. He spoke to his GP, and was told to drink more water, get more sleep, and take breaks between computer screen time, but none of these things seem to help. [more inside]
posted by catch as catch can on Jan 13, 2011 - 40 answers

How do I move on? Am I ready?

Exactly one week ago I broke up with my boyfriend who I loved because I felt like things were unhealthy and he wasn't treating me right. Even though my brain tells me I did the 'right' thing, my heart and body are suffering. How do I reconcile what I know with how I feel? [more inside]
posted by lblair on Nov 19, 2010 - 42 answers

Why would you write this in Perl?

Can you explain to me a block of Perl? The tricky part is the last line, which is just a variable sitting on its own - no operation, no control structure, nothing. [more inside]
posted by yomimono on Sep 3, 2010 - 13 answers

Beanplating Buddhism

Can you explain to me (or point to resources that explain to me) a couple of apparent metacontradictions in Buddhism? [more inside]
posted by ignignokt on Jun 3, 2010 - 28 answers

And the dreams go on and on and on

I have telescopic dreams once in a while - dreaming something only to realise that I'm dreaming, "wake up" in another dream, then sometimes switching back to the first dream or "waking up" to another dream entirely. They freak me out quite a bit as I'm never quite sure if or when I'm really awake. Why do these dreams happen? Is anything the matter? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Apr 12, 2010 - 18 answers

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