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Looking for ideas re: what to do next with my life

Some traumatic experiences in the past 2 years made me realize how desperately unhappy I was in my "old" life. I have a good education & strong job experience, but also have mental health issues to manage and I'm kind of allergic to corporate life. I'd like to change this trend in my life, but I'm having trouble visualizing how to do this without going back to how I was living before. Feeling stuck on how to move forward & requesting AskMe's wisdom on the matter. [more inside]
posted by cardinality on Jul 8, 2014 - 10 answers

The deadline for re-admission is soon, but...

I still have absolutely no clue what I want to do. More inside. [more inside]
posted by Urban_Painter on Jun 28, 2014 - 11 answers

3 year pseudo relationship with ex AFTER breakup. Does he love me?

I met my ex online 4 years ago. We hit it off and started dating shortly after. A mutual breakup occurred about 8 months later due to some arguments we had. He was in love with me during our relationship, but I did not fall in love with him until after we broke up. A couple months after we broke up, we made the brilliant decision that I should become his new roomie. During our time living together we had sex on a regular (weekly+) basis. I dated a bit, but nothing serious. He did not date. We ended up living together, along with his brother, for 2 years. During this time we hung out most days. I moved out about a year ago, but he insisted that I keep the key to his house. We still hang out about once a week and have sex nearly as often. The sex tends to be pretty intense and I know that definitely complicates things. He never expects the sex; he is perfectly fine with me going over just to watch a movie and then leaving. Recently he has been cuddly in bed and that is something new. I usually sleep over after we haven't sex. He still hasn't dated since our breakup 3 years ago. [more inside]
posted by GrapCrap on Apr 7, 2014 - 29 answers

Followed Ask Metafilter advice, asked a girl out, now what's going on?

Hi everyone, about a month ago, I asked metafilter whether this girls likes me and whether we were going on a date. I followed everyone's advice and straight up asked her on a date, but now I'm not sure what's going on. Sorry for the wall of text, but I'd like to give you all the details of what happened. Please be aware that this is from my perspective. [more inside]
posted by Thisispiggy on Mar 30, 2014 - 26 answers

How to break the break up news?

I think my girlfriend is wonderful and funny and gorgeous and sexy and amazing and talented. But she doesn't believe that. The relationship isn't perfect, but it's fun and good. The problem is, I've come across somebody with whom it seems like it might be great, but my girlfriend will be (in her words) destroyed if I leave her. And I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2014 - 38 answers

Recent graduate confused about career/life

Recent graduate confused about career/life [more inside]
posted by ahtlast93 on Feb 21, 2014 - 7 answers

What happened to me this morning, and what should I do about it?

This morning I had something similar to a partial seizure. Obviously, I am worried and want to be proactive about unearthing any underlying conditions that could have contributed to it. Can you help me figure out what to do? I have already seen a doctor. [more inside]
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em on Nov 11, 2013 - 15 answers

How should I proceed with this confusing crush?

What should you do when it would be inappropriate to be romantically involved with someone, yet the attraction between you is so strong it feels like the relationship is gathering momentum and heading towards the inevitable? [more inside]
posted by sweetshine on Nov 1, 2013 - 26 answers

Gehstumpenflunked?

I am, quite frankly, gehstumpenflunked. What does this word mean, you may ask? Perhaps you (and by "you", I mean "me) tried to Google it to no avail. And yet, to me it's a word that exists and I used somewhere probably starting ca. 1990. It means, essentially something along the lines of: stumped, confused, bewildered, or disoriented. One friend asked if it was not in an episode of Golden Girls, and I'm not sure if he was joking or serious, so I wonder... Has anyone else heard this word? If so, where/when and do you know the origin. If not, well... I guess I'll have to assume it was just a made up word that somehow caught on with my local group of friends. The "s" in "stumpen" is more like "sh" and "eh" might be more like "ger" (or at least a minor 'r' sound, if not 100% explicit) sounding so it might be something like Gershtumpenflunked. in sound.
posted by symbioid on May 29, 2013 - 14 answers

Hermione Granger Problems...

How can I inspire people and act strong and firm and smart without letting go of wanting to also be protected and vulnerable? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess on May 21, 2013 - 17 answers

I'm 45, female and just discovered I'm bi. Now what?

I'm 45, female and just discovered I'm bi. Now what? Yes, I know it seems unlikely, and the nearest I can figure is my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired, rather than finding someone hot in advance. I was married for a very long time, and possibly oblivious to any gay come-ons, in my premarital time. For the sake of the information I seek, can we please assume that I am correct - that I am bi, and that this wasn't just experimental? (which has been suggested to me by a straight friend). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2013 - 23 answers

trying to patch together a career.

Unemployed, interested in a bunch of things, not sure how they fit together. [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Apr 18, 2013 - 18 answers

Ugh...friend, more than a friend, not a friend? So confused!

My best friend and I keep having drama in our friendship because of feelings. I had feelings for him, but he says he just wanted to stay friends. I told him I needed space to get rid of my feelings so we can stay friends. But he won't let me. He keeps bringing me back into his life. Even when he said he was starting a relationship with someone else. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by impactsmoothie on Jan 9, 2013 - 55 answers

34 year old dating 20 year old -very confused

34 year old guy dating 20 year old girl - "robbing the cradle?" [more inside]
posted by avenue on Dec 8, 2012 - 88 answers

To gap or not to gap; that is the question.

Should I take a gap semester or gap year? If so, what should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 5, 2012 - 8 answers

Size XL, he likes them baggy

I recently travelled 8,000 miles home to visit family and see my sick grandad for possibly the last time. I brought $150s worth of gifts across for them from Montreal, Toronto, Paris, Lorraine, and Iceland. Now my mum is demanding an extra, more expensive gift that I post to my brother because his car broke down after he'd given me a lift to the airport. Reasonable or unreasonable? How would you navigate this? [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday on Oct 9, 2012 - 64 answers

Is closure/ friendship still possible or a good idea?

(warning: long w/ summary inside, and drama) We flirted and worked together. We never kissed, but I fell for him. But he didn't tell me he had a girlfriend until later. I backed off and he got engaged. I miss his friendship and want to get in touch. But I recently googled him and found that he is getting married in a month to someone else than who he was engaged to at first. Please help me. [more inside]
posted by skylines on May 29, 2012 - 31 answers

Boyfriend still uses okcupid

Boyfriend still uses okcupid. [more inside]
posted by teaforone on May 5, 2012 - 52 answers

Why do stairs confuse my cat?

My cat went down the apartment stairs but thought she was still on our floor. Why did she think that? [more inside]
posted by Flying Saucer on Apr 24, 2012 - 22 answers

Flash help for the Dummy

I'm looking for some websites for the beginner. I'm fine with the animation part. That is (relatively) easy. But I'm pretty much totally lost on the Action script part of it, and the Adobe tutorials are a little complicated for my idiot self. I'm just a little ol' designer and all this talk of code and scripts and computer lingo is freaking me out. I'll take anything. Any ideas. Any help. Anything. Thank you.
posted by freakazoid on Mar 21, 2012 - 6 answers

Has anyone experienced this? Or has any insight?

It's all in my head, I think. Questions about signals I thought were being sent by a woman I have strong feelings for. (..a little long) [more inside]
posted by Guyatoffice on Mar 21, 2012 - 23 answers

Being a Type B personality sucks.

Alright, so I'm not super talented, educated or driven... I should be happy with my less than fulfilling and menial day job, right? Please read further for possibly annoying details. [more inside]
posted by anoirmarie on Feb 16, 2012 - 32 answers

I am confused and alone.

Psychological/Romantic Filter: I don't know what else to do anymore. More inside. Not asking for advice on taking rejection. [more inside]
posted by Angel of Khaos on Jan 31, 2012 - 22 answers

How should I approach my girlfriend - and myself - with my evolving sexuality?

Help me figure out what's going on with my sexuality and what it means for my long-time relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2012 - 32 answers

Is good, enough?

It will be three years with my partner in November. She is ready to move forward from cohabitation into marriage. She is the nicest person I have dated, we are good match, and I'm at the time in my life when I am capable of making a new family the primary priority... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2011 - 19 answers

In which Magsie the Cat will continue to urinate in the laundry receptacle

Why does our kitten believe that dirty clothes hampers and toilets are one and the same? [more inside]
posted by item on Jul 21, 2011 - 30 answers

What is my sexual orientation?

Am I a lesbian? Bisexual? Or, straight but asexual? Please help. I am, obviously, very confused. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 24, 2011 - 33 answers

What the hell happened in this relationship? Fixable?

The relationship is not looking good, I'm trying to figure out if I can save this thing and if I can't, how the heck to get back into my own head and get her out of mine. [more inside]
posted by Nighthawk3729 on Jun 18, 2011 - 30 answers

Brain, what the hell

You know how awkward you feel at 12 when you're trying to talk to the cutie in your class? Well, that's me, but at 27, and with women. I'm a woman, and I'm completely lost with how this works. Maybe lost is an understatement. Could you walk me through what you did, if you experienced this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2011 - 12 answers

I suck at reading men and he's like Gravity's Rainbow

Hi. This was me eight weeks ago. I still have a crush on my coworker and I am still pretty certain he feels something too, but he's acting hot and cold and I can't decipher WTF is going on. Please help me catch or release. [more inside]
posted by supermetasock on Mar 3, 2011 - 52 answers

Bed Fellows...

My friend is sharing my bed with me and I don't know how I should feel about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2011 - 65 answers

Should I let him stay in the closet?

I had a crush on a boy. It ended badly; he confessed to me that he doesn’t know if he is straight or gay or bi. There was crying, hugging, and complete regret from him since he has never told anyone this ever. [more inside]
posted by jenlovesponies on Jan 17, 2011 - 31 answers

"Let us fly!" said the flea / "Let us flee!" said the fly

Yeah, I'm flightier than a hummingbird. Help me not to be? [more inside]
posted by DisreputableDog on Dec 24, 2010 - 10 answers

Fit This

I'm trying to figure out the sizing for girls t-shirts. [more inside]
posted by cazoo on Dec 14, 2010 - 6 answers

Where has the health of youth gone!?

YANMD: Ear crinkling sounds, teeth grinding, and more fun. [more inside]
posted by tmcw on Nov 2, 2010 - 18 answers

Dealing with confused yet enthusiastic commenters

How do bloggers or community websites deal with comments from new users which are on-topic for the site but off-topic for the current conversation? It happens regularly on my blog. Deletion seems harsh: if the person is interested in the subject it seems like a missed opportunity to get a new member and teach them how to use the internet appropriately. What are some alternatives? [more inside]
posted by harriet vane on Aug 23, 2010 - 16 answers

It's not the soreness that bothers me. It's the not knowing.

Why are my adenoids sore? [more inside]
posted by mmmbacon on Dec 19, 2009 - 6 answers

Marketing and Psychology or just Psychology?

If I want to do marketing research should I double major in Psychology and Marketing? Alternately, if I enjoy research psychology and conducting studies, what are other possible careers I might be interested in? [more inside]
posted by tweedle on Nov 18, 2009 - 16 answers

Damn you, clever homophones!

Help me find a t-shirt I've only heard described ambiguously! [more inside]
posted by mllrstvn on Oct 11, 2009 - 3 answers

just trying to get to school

I'm applying for a student visa to the UK. Do I have to mail my passport with my application? [more inside]
posted by Eumachia L F on Sep 18, 2009 - 3 answers

Is health care a Ponzi scheme?

Is health care a Ponzi scheme? I'm trying to work out my feelings about the health care debate, and our moral obligations to take care of each other. Will improved health care just lead to larger populations and longer life spans, and more and more expenses to take care of them all? Am I a bad person for thinking this? I smoke, so I'll probably check out early without consuming all your future resources on my elder care. Does this mitigate my xenocidal tendencies or make them worse?
posted by Area Control on Sep 13, 2009 - 25 answers

How can I look after me when I've wrapped up all I have with HER?

I'm almost 30. I'm unemployed. I may or may not be able to attend college this year. I am halfway across the country from my friends and family, can't move in with my parents, don't have a license, and I am going to have to divorce my wife of four years. Where do I start? (Warning: Long) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 19, 2009 - 9 answers

Maybe you would like to purchase yours now, and then hate me forever.

Please explain what happened in Edna O'Brien's short story "Old Wounds", published in the June 8-15 issue of the New Yorker (link). [more inside]
posted by medusa on Jun 12, 2009 - 5 answers

Oh hello mid-life existential, identity crisis.

20 years old. 3rd year of college. Rejected from the design program I applied to. Now what? [more inside]
posted by ad4pt on May 21, 2009 - 12 answers

Readers, Psychologist, Philosophers or Writers Please, How not to get confused and feel unsetteled after reading different books and Theories?

Readers, Psychologist, Philosophers or Writers Please, How not to get confused and feel unsetteled after reading different books and Theories? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2009 - 5 answers

Jumping into the deepend again

KOREA FILTER: Help me decide if I should leave my current Korean university and move to Seoul to focus on Korean language learning. [more inside]
posted by Knigel on Apr 12, 2009 - 4 answers

I'm still waiting on my chicks for free

As I understand it, the US government is giving away $8000 each to almost all first-time home buyers this year. How do I protest the government giving away money for free?
posted by malp on Apr 10, 2009 - 39 answers

I didn't attend last night's party.

What's the deal with Last Night's Party? (Site is NSFW, though if you can answer my question you probably knew that already) [more inside]
posted by Phalene on Apr 5, 2009 - 14 answers

I feel guilty about a work situation, how can I ease my mind?

I feel guilty about a work situation, how can I ease my mind? [more inside]
posted by weh546 on Mar 22, 2009 - 18 answers

My parents drive me crazy.

How do I deal with my parents on limited resources without sending all of us into a fit? (likely to be TL;DR) [more inside]
posted by divabat on Feb 20, 2009 - 13 answers

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