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Trademark registration and potential conflict

I have a name that is similar to another registered trademark - different services but similar in terms of spelling. Is this likely to be rejected? [more inside]
posted by a non e mouse on Sep 4, 2014 - 4 answers

Communication between two hypersensitive, beanplating marshmallows

My boyfriend and I both hate making each other feel bad. Does this mean we can't talk about things that aren't going well? He in particular feels very hurt when I bring up things that are bothering me. [more inside]
posted by segfault on Aug 12, 2014 - 22 answers

Brilliant non-political commentary on the Israel-Hamas conflict

We've all seen and read written and spoken rhetoric that supports one side of the conflict. Are there any brilliant articles or speeches that expresss an original viewpoint that take a higher-level view - maybe from the psychological, sociological, or even evolutionary science point of view? Articles that don't take sides, that try to explain rather than to shout?
posted by storybored on Aug 8, 2014 - 6 answers

Help me run this contentious meeting!

Tomorrow morning I will serve as the facilitator for a meeting I called, which is a four-year review of the program I run. The meeting will be among several old white men, and I am a reasonably young white female. There are bound to be emotions, as people have personal investment in various aspects of the topics to be discussed, and there are territorial issues that will likely rear their heads. What tips do you have for keeping such meetings productive, rational and finishing on time? [more inside]
posted by Liesl on Aug 6, 2014 - 14 answers

Marriage in trouble, wife refuses relationship counseling. What next?

My wife Jane and I are in our 40s and have been together for eight years. We got along well for the first few years, but things have been steadily going south since then. In theory, we both want to improve our marriage, but we are not making much progress on our own. I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2014 - 48 answers

I want to be calm like Hanibal Lecter but my eye twitches

I work in an academic institution and on a daily basis I have to deal with various instances of fraud/misrepresentation, false documents and fake identities. These are not matters of academic integrity as they pertain more to academic and personal records. Part of my job is to maintain accurate records and confront the individuals in question with the evidence in an attempt to get the real story. This is where it gets fun. [more inside]
posted by Karotz on May 28, 2014 - 12 answers

What to do when a family member is offensive, but you love them, anyway?

A beloved family member was unexpectedly (and likely unintentionally) racist. We called her out on it. She didn't react well. What to do next? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2014 - 42 answers

Oh, just get over it!

I am a public librarian. Sometimes I have to deal with problem patrons, and on rare occasions, those interactions turn ugly, and I have to ask the person to leave the building, etc. The problem is, I get upset, and then I get all flushed and shaky and worst of all, I cry. And when that happens, I can't really go off by myself and get composed -- I'm usually at the reference desk alone, so I can't be away for more than a minute or two. I've read previous AskMe questions about avoiding the crying, and have tried a lot of those tricks -- what I'd really like is to avoid getting so emotionally upset in the first place. [more inside]
posted by sarcasticah on May 19, 2014 - 42 answers

How do I handle two siblings ganging up on me? Fun fact: they're 30.

My two older siblings and brother-in-law are beyond irritated with me when all I've been doing is minding my own business and forging my path into adulthood. They are never short of criticisms and any attempts at satisfying them are futile. Things got way out of hand this weekend to the point I am either ousted from future family functions or there will be an awkward vibe/fake niceness. [more inside]
posted by HiphopAnonymous on May 12, 2014 - 34 answers

How do I confront my therapist who is also essentially my boss?

I live in a mental health treatment center where my therapist is also my "program director". A program director here is basically someone who oversees your treatment and has say over things like when you can and cannot start working or volunteering. [more inside]
posted by tunestunes on Mar 26, 2014 - 23 answers

Getting Over Someone And Resolving Conflict

How can I get over someone I can't seem to get away from, and resolve conflict/let them know they hurt me? [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Mar 20, 2014 - 15 answers

Dangerous neighbor harassing my family. What can I do?

Dangerous neighbor harassing my family. What can I do? This has been going on for almost 15 years now, but yesterday the problem resurfaced. My family (mother, sister and her two young children) live next door to a violent man. [more inside]
posted by Basque13 on Feb 18, 2014 - 21 answers

Help me deal with my landlord and/or provide a sanity check.

[NYC-filter] I'm renting from a residential landlord for the first time, and the experience is really different than the past. He is sending awful and anxiety-inducing letters/text messages about things that it's my understanding are landlord problems/normal rental situations. Please help me figure out how to respond to him, let me know what the objective view of the situation is, and help me with basic residential tenant rights in NYC. [more inside]
posted by corb on Jan 27, 2014 - 24 answers

Suddenly Steve Wozniak: My partner on a project thinks he's in charge

I suddenly feel like I understand Steve Wozniak. I started a major project / event with a partner. My partner behaves as if he is the sole leader, even though the project was created at my prompting, and I'm an expert in the field. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 23, 2014 - 18 answers

To Sue, or Not to Pursue? That is the (complex) question.

My room has bedbugs. My landlord refuses to cover the costs of extermination, on the grounds that they've never had this problem before. Do I push it, or let it go? Complication: my landlord is not actually my landlord. [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Jan 15, 2014 - 24 answers

How to support friend, untangle my issues, and set proper boundaries?

One of my best friends disclosed to me over the summer regarding a long-held secret that involves his sexuality in relation to physical identity, gender-expression, and self-esteem vis-a-vis body-dysphoria issues. I am trying to be supportive, but am afraid I've failed and become more of an enabler in the process. I feel like I'm being pressured to be his therapist & could use some advice re: how to proceed. Snowflakes apply; more inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 9, 2013 - 16 answers

Questions about the 1970s phase of the Vietnam War

My knowledge of the Vietnam War is not as complete as I would like it to be. My own internal representation of its 1960s period is fairly strong but it fades a little at the 1970s/Vietnamization phase of the war. So I'm posing the following questions: [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet on Nov 9, 2013 - 5 answers

Tiny differences cause enormous conflict

What is the name of the concept that describes how, as parties become more and more similar, smaller and smaller differences cause conflict? [more inside]
posted by looli on Nov 8, 2013 - 13 answers

Please stop making me take sides

How can I navigate the breakup of my close friend with my sister, which is still causing problems years later? I’m caught in the middle trying to be friends with both and it’s very frustrating! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 20, 2013 - 44 answers

Facebook and its discontents

You used to use Facebook regularly, and then you quit. Or tried to quit. Please tell me about it. [more inside]
posted by Miko on Aug 7, 2013 - 32 answers

Every unhappy family .. how do I resolve my aversion to conflict?

I am the eldest child, have always been seen and portrayed by my family as attention-seeking, self-centred, a worrier, over-sensitive, over-serious etc. I thought I had got over this. However, the other night I had a discussion with my partner where he told me he feels hurt that I don't defend him or even believe him when he feels attacked/misunderstood by my family (My sister can be snooty and dismissive and self-absorbed like every-other 20something and my dad has zero social skills, and they have sometimes said things to him that I cringe at but I think he is being slightly paranoid - to complicate things, he also suffers from depression). This has made me realise that I try to avoid conflict with my family at all costs. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2013 - 6 answers

How can I deal with my friends getting older and turning into "adults"?

How can I deal with my friends getting older and turning into, for lack of a better term, "adults"? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels on Jul 10, 2013 - 39 answers

Caught between my boss and my staff - how do I respond skillfully?

I need help in figuring out how to respond to a work situation between my boss and my staff. I am the second in command in our office, and manage all of the administrative staff. The administrative staff support all of the professional staff. (Think something like a law firm, or university department, where professional staff rely on and share administrative support). My boss is driving my administrative staff crazy. [more inside]
posted by It's a Parasox on Jun 17, 2013 - 28 answers

A twist on the neighbor-conflict theme

The problems are pretty standard: our next-door neighbors are a mom with four teen-age daughters who seem to thrive on conflict. Their screaming fights and door-slammings keep us awake; their response to polite requests that they not do this have been retaliation (full details inside!). The twist is that we live in a conservative suburb and we are both trans gender, so their social credibility is way higher than ours (in part because of rumors they spread), so it's hard to figure out what action we might take. [more inside]
posted by DrMew on May 9, 2013 - 19 answers

Is my neighbour being unreasonable or am I just being rude?

Last night, my next door neighbour flipped out and threatened to call the cops for opening and closing our patio door every night. My roommate and I live in a small apartment complex comprised of three buildings, and our suites (ours and the neighbours) are on the ground level, facing the courtyard. Roommate and I are smokers, and while smoking IS allowed on premises, it is NOT allowed indoors. As such, the patio is utilized. We both work later shifts, and get home between 11pm and 12am on days that we work, and go about our own business quietly until we've wound down enough to go to sleep. Winding down time includes smoking. This is unlikely to change anytime soon. What I need help with is either a script for talking to Neighbour (who we've always gotten along with prior to this) before things turn sour, or some perspetive as to why the noise I'm making is unreasonable. Snowflakes ahoy! [more inside]
posted by rideunicorns on May 7, 2013 - 59 answers

Help me save this relationship

How can I start, right now, to improve my relationship? [more inside]
posted by DeltaForce on Apr 12, 2013 - 49 answers

Need perspective on inter-family conflict

My mother and mother-in-law have had a falling out due to a misunderstanding on my mother-in-law's part. My mother-in-law lives with me and my mother is due to visit in the summer (she lives abroad). Before I collapse with stress, I need some external perspective on this issue. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2013 - 15 answers

Dealing with an employer with crappy boundaries, in a niche field?

I’m in a small and incestuous field. My current employer has boundary issues and doesn't respect my time - it's driving me up the wall. I have to be very careful about how I handle this, since he has fingers in most of the pies in town. How can I assert myself without jeopardising my chances of future work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2013 - 16 answers

How can I be a better communicator?

I'm about to enter a second-degree program, and I expect that my small cohort group and I are going to be very different people. I'd like to bridge the gap, but I worry that my weird, assertive, and outspoken tendencies are going to alienate me. Help. [more inside]
posted by sibboleth on Mar 13, 2013 - 10 answers

Help me mediate my dad's deteriorating relationship with my half sister

My Dad is angry and upset with his child who lives on another continent. She is disrespectful to him and he is abrasive and hurtful in return (albeit with good motives overall). And I've been asked to mediate. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2013 - 43 answers

Disagreement at work about best photography practices!

When shooting and preparing an image file for print, I've always tried to set things up so that the highlights are bright, the shadows are dark, and everything else is in the middle. At work, I've occasionally been told by my immediate superior that I'm overexposing my images, and that the highlight detail is, in their words, 'blown away'. Checking my files, the highlights in the images in question cut off around 245, sometimes as low as 240! Is there a reason why they'd want the highlights even greyer? [more inside]
posted by rhooke on Feb 28, 2013 - 12 answers

OK, I was wrong. But YOU were wrong, TOO!

Marital quarrel where both partners were equally at fault (in different, unrelated ways). What are some frameworks/techniques for talking this out evenhandedly without the conversation shifting to be mostly about only one person's concerns, ignoring the other's? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph on Feb 12, 2013 - 27 answers

Hey you're in my workspace

Advice sought on solving a workplace dispute between several departments [more inside]
posted by sock, the puppet on Jan 23, 2013 - 6 answers

What do good relationships look like when they're bad?

I am in a really amazing relationship after a long, bad one. It is mutually supportive, caring, engaging, and honest—loving, in the best, most positive way. We never fight. This confuses me, and I need some reality-checking and standards for how normal good relationships are supposed to work. [more inside]
posted by sockpuppet yo on Jan 22, 2013 - 23 answers

I want out of a toxic relationship with a research team. How do I do it?

Hello fellow academics. I have a situation, that I am sure you're familiar with: I want out of a research team that has been, rather pitifully, working toward a publication for the last 2 years, the end result of which is a majestic, incoherent piece of garbage that has already been rejected by various top conferences and journals. I want out but the problem is that I've done most of the work as second author and I'd rather not see my hard work be attributed to the first author on the manuscript should it somehow get published. What is the best solution in this case? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2013 - 7 answers

Their needs don’t trump mine - it’s not about “trumping” anyway! Gah!

Sometimes, people will hurt me - and then get so upset about having done so, that they want me to comfort them. Or else they become so inconsolable that we can’t move forward without talking about their feelings. How do you handle these situations when what you need is time to process your own hurt? [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Jan 11, 2013 - 35 answers

How to confront parents?

How to confront parents about an event which really hurt when I was younger and continues to plague my life/our relationship now (over ten years later)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 9, 2013 - 38 answers

How to stop my colleague undermining me at work?

At work, my slightly-more-experienced colleague makes a habit of saying subtle and/or ambigious cricitisms, disguised as innocent remarks. I spoke to management about it recently but they couldn't see the problem. How should I deal with a work colleague who tries to undermine me and make me look bad, but who is subtle enough not to get caught? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2012 - 27 answers

Boyfriend and I coming to crossroads: conflict and pursue/withdraw

How to deal with incompatible conflict styles? My boyfriend avoids and I try to confront/face things. He hates to talk about it. I hate to leave it unaddressed. It's straining the relationship. [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Nov 19, 2012 - 44 answers

The Legions of Rome, 201BC divsion champions!

Help me brainstorm for a new project! What are some iconic conflicts in history (not necessarily military)? [more inside]
posted by Jezztek on Nov 2, 2012 - 39 answers

Inter-office conflict

Please help me manage/cope with this grad school inter-office conflict. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 23, 2012 - 12 answers

Stupid is a stupid does.

This is a long and stupid question about an old friendship and its affect on my family. Very, very special snowflake. [more inside]
posted by TomMelee on Oct 8, 2012 - 26 answers

how to resolve a diversity conflict

A man died near our condo 7 years ago, and anonymous neighbors maintain a memorial at the relevant telephone pole by attaching stuffed animals, artificial flowers, and other stuff to it, which weather eventually turns into trash. The city has occasionally (rarely) removed it, but the mourners pile more on right away. How can we best negotiate an end to this long-running custom? [more inside]
posted by mmiddle on Sep 18, 2012 - 79 answers

Wistful Songs of Emotional Conflict?

I am looking for more songs similar to 10cc's "I'm not in love". Specifically, songs about attraction or falling in love but feeling conflicted over it or uncomfortable with it or questioning it. Difficulty: Must also be non-venomous, non-hostile, non-accusatory. So I am not looking for songs like "You give love a bad name" or Britney Spears "Toxic". [more inside]
posted by Michele in California on Sep 5, 2012 - 55 answers

Recommend me some thoughtful military books

Bookfilter: Recommend me thoughtful military memoirs / journalism [more inside]
posted by xchmp on Sep 3, 2012 - 24 answers

Can I expect my partner to distance himself from someone who hurt me?

You have been in a healthy relationship for a long time? Help me figuring out how to feel and what to do about a conflict of interest between my partner and me concerning a third person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 20, 2012 - 21 answers

The other perspective

Can you recommend a book which gives a perspective of the occupying military force in a conflict zone? [more inside]
posted by manny_calavera on Jul 5, 2012 - 9 answers

How to let go of anger?

How to let go of anger? [more inside]
posted by DeltaForce on Jun 20, 2012 - 38 answers

So, is my reputation tarnished forever?

If I lie (a very big lie), can I ever redeem myself? [more inside]
posted by raintree on Jun 15, 2012 - 41 answers

How do I collaborate with my bossy coworker and her nervous supervisee?

How do I cope with a coworker bossing me when she's not my boss? Today my coworker straight up told me that she was delegating a specific project to me and her supervisee "to free up [her] time for other things." Although I want to work on the project, I don't want her thinking she can just delegate work to me whenever she gets too busy. Bonus: I’m finding it difficult to work with her supervisee. [more inside]
posted by Sock Career-Puppet on Jun 14, 2012 - 25 answers

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