My best friend and wife are fighting. Should I try and mediate or stay out of it? [more inside]
posted by washateria on Nov 19, 2009 - 34 answers

Where can I find programs that teach employees how to de-escalate a rising conflict? [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama on Nov 9, 2009 - 5 answers

I have a new job where I'm going to get yelled at a lot. What are your tips for becoming comfortable with getting yelled at a lot, or your tips for defusing such a situation? [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama on Oct 23, 2009 - 32 answers

How can I ask my roomate to discuss her frustrations with me directly, instead of telling everyone but me? [more inside]
posted by Keysig on Oct 5, 2009 - 22 answers

How destructive are current U.S. and Russian nuclear arsenals relative to their maximum levels? [more inside]
posted by Joe Beese on Sep 26, 2009 - 8 answers

My roommates are driving me nuts; should I talk to them about it, more than I already have? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2009 - 41 answers

How do I successfully do freelance writing (my night job) about my industry (my day job)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2009 - 3 answers

Should I just tell my parents to go to hell? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2009 - 104 answers

I did artwork for a customer, and now he is harassing me to give him his money back. I need advice how to resolve this. [more inside]
posted by Jsn7821 on Aug 8, 2009 - 48 answers

Headhunter #1 calls me about Cool Hedge Fund (CHF) and wows me with stories of its coolness. He sends my resume. CHF "has already picked someone" and that is the end of that, I figure. A month, maybe two pass and I get a call from Headhunter #2: have I heard of Cool Hedge Fund? Would I be interested in a spot there? "Uh yeah I think I've heard of them... I suppose I would be interested" say I, nonchalantly failing to mention my prior submission through a different headhunter. This time they bite and I get a past the screener and the six-hour gruelling interview and find myself on the short list, one more interview away from the prize. All is well until one day Headhunter #1 finds out that I have interviewed with CHF under the auspices of a different headhunter. He mentions that were I to get the job, it would be a "big mess" - something about who gets fees, etc. What can I do? Who can I trust? Will it inevitably end in a battle with headhunters mounted on frothing lawyers and the CHF running away from the whole thing screaming? [more inside]
posted by Astragalus on Aug 3, 2009 - 33 answers

Tomorrow, I might have to defend myself at work over something that happened last week. I believe I'll be okay on this, but it could go either way.. [more inside]
posted by 0217174 on Jul 19, 2009 - 35 answers

My boyfriend acts very annoyed with me over minor things. He's never cruel about it, but I still find his reactions hurtful. How should I deal? [more inside]
posted by Girl Scout of Death on Jul 16, 2009 - 52 answers

A co-worker rants and raves constantly and I'm getting sick of it. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 30, 2009 - 22 answers

How much conflict is there between local police and FBI? [more inside]
posted by Bugbread on Jun 26, 2009 - 11 answers

I don't know how to resolve the problem between my boyfriend and I over the question of whether I spend too much time on the computer "typing". [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 28, 2009 - 22 answers

Help please. Public Library problem what should I do. Weird. [more inside]
posted by NorthCoastCafe on Apr 9, 2009 - 13 answers

How can my boyfriend and I work past my feelings of abandonment over his reaction to a pregnancy scare? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2009 - 60 answers

How can I mend a friendship with a former supervisor while embattled in a quasi-legal situation against our former company? [more inside]
posted by Raynyn on Mar 28, 2009 - 13 answers

My boss swings from one conspiracy theory to another about our work and her/our future. What are some ways to force her to stop? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2009 - 14 answers

Should I, or should I not meet with my estranged relatives? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 16, 2009 - 23 answers

Is American support for Israel waning because of the Gaza crisis? [more inside]
posted by minicloud on Jan 15, 2009 - 26 answers

Conflict resolution-filter: How can I be a better (read: appropriately responsive and fair) moderator and listener? A lot more inside. [more inside]
posted by self on Dec 3, 2008 - 8 answers

Things with my parents are not good right now due to what I (thought) was a reasonable (although mishandled) decision. I knew it would be hard but wasn't expecting this; how do we deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2008 - 31 answers

Please help me to understand and maybe learn mediation/alternative dispute resolution. [more inside]
posted by anotherpanacea on Oct 12, 2008 - 5 answers

Help me find a job as a "conflict journalist" in Africa, the Middle East, or a war zone. [more inside]
posted by xanthippe on Sep 29, 2008 - 8 answers

Is anyone Twittering or live-blogging the ongoing conflict between Russia and Georgia? [more inside]
posted by theRussian on Aug 11, 2008 - 5 answers

The lawyer for the estate is also the lawyer for the negligent executor. Conflict of interest? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2008 - 5 answers

How do you resolve conflicts in rec sport leagues, minor traffic accidents, etc. - especially when any relevant arbiters or authorities are either late arriving or unlikely to arrive at all. [more inside]
posted by NoRelationToLea on May 13, 2008 - 10 answers

Novelists or short story writers who write like David Milch (Deadwood / John From Cincinnati)? [more inside]
posted by dobbs on May 12, 2008 - 8 answers

How do you let a friend know they've really hurt you by their carelessness? [more inside]
posted by justonegirl on Apr 13, 2008 - 25 answers

A friend of mine, who is highly educated (married with two kids, accomplished medical researcher), is absolutely convinced that September 11 was a huge conspiracy initiated by members of the US government. She has a detailed complex explanation for everything. She takes it deeply personally when I scoff at her, telling me I should read the evidence before forming an opinion. I see her as gullible and she sees me as ignorant. Is there an analysis available comprehensively somewhere addressing the conspiracy theorists to the satisfaction of the leading academics in the relevant areas (material engineering, aerodynamics, media relations, architecture etc)? How do you deal with people like this? [more inside]
posted by vizsla on Mar 19, 2008 - 62 answers

Strange computer behavior. If printer is on prior to booting the system the external harddrive is not accessable. If the printer is powered up after the system boots it forces a reboot and the external drive is no longer available. WTF? [more inside]
posted by paulboc on Mar 10, 2008 - 6 answers

Why might my computer be rejecting my new video card? [more inside]
posted by Spike on Mar 4, 2008 - 19 answers

I am having difficulty figuring out whether our arguments are normal in a relationship or whether they're poisonous. [more inside]
posted by gadha on Feb 23, 2008 - 64 answers

Is it usual for school librarians and teachers to have disagreements and conflicts over "appropriate" content and media in school libraries? [more inside]
posted by bad grammar on Jan 20, 2008 - 12 answers

What are some objective criteria/metrics by which to measure progress towards success or failure in a war or other extended conflict? [more inside]
posted by EatenByAGrue on Jan 13, 2008 - 18 answers

Should I go home for Christmas? (Warning: long family financial drama inside). [more inside]
posted by snickerdoodle on Dec 16, 2007 - 16 answers

What is the origin/history of Red and Blue as juxtaposed colors to denote entities in conflict? [more inside]
posted by pokermonk on Nov 8, 2007 - 38 answers

RoommateFilter: My roommate of over a year really gets on my nerves, and I’m too timid to confront her. Is it too late to do anything besides move out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 1, 2007 - 22 answers

Are there any good criteria for identifying when you are being taken advantage of? I love to help people, but sometimes I think that I may help people too much. This tension makes me uncomfortable. [more inside]
posted by unknowncommand on Aug 20, 2007 - 19 answers

Is it possible or desirable to talk yourself out of a big dream (music) and do something else with your life? [more inside]
posted by London Irregular on Jul 14, 2007 - 24 answers

ConflictResolutionFilter: We have a family friend who is an 85 year old woman and has been having problems with her two grown sons. They are both married with children, but classic daughter-in-law conflicts have led her sons to not have contact with her. [more inside]
posted by steve.wdc on Jul 12, 2007 - 12 answers

The job that I was hired for doesn't exist. My boss doesn't seem to notice I have an issue with it. How do I confront him about this? [more inside]
posted by FuManchu on Jul 10, 2007 - 17 answers

how would you moderate this conflict between two employees? [more inside]
posted by Foam Pants on May 31, 2007 - 12 answers

I love my boyfriend and enjoy his company. He loves me a lot. Why then do I feel on edge when I'm near him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2007 - 16 answers

I was fired from my last job--due primarily to a personality conflict with my former manager--and am applying for another one. They want to know if they can contact my former manager. I can only give a "Yes" or "No" answer, I believe. Additionally, the job I'm applying for is a federal one, if that makes a difference. What's best? Thanks in advance!
posted by whitebird on Apr 16, 2007 - 19 answers

I've been seeing a psychotherapist since last summer. A few months ago, my boyfriend joined me in seeing the same person for couples counseling. Now, my boyfriend is also seeing her for private sessions. Q1: Is there a conflict of interest because she sees both of us separately? Q2: I am thinking of breaking up with him. Does confidentiality prevent her from "leaking" this info to him?
posted by anonymous on Feb 7, 2007 - 16 answers

My depressed boyfriend is withdrawing affection; I'm miserable. [more inside]
posted by Teevee's Bella on Dec 28, 2006 - 66 answers

Can anyone recommend good books/articles on the history and reasons for the ongoing conflict in Sri Lanka?
posted by scruss on Sep 4, 2006 - 8 answers

Are these statistics disputed? [more inside]
posted by verisimilitude on Jul 17, 2006 - 3 answers