My lovely guy and I live apart, he alone (for now) and I with roommates. I go to his apartment to get some alone time and not bother my roommates, but his and mine's definition of clean/bother of dirty are a bit different. I don't want to go over because I get squicked out, but he doesn't clean because I don't come over as often anymore. How to find a compromise? [more inside]
I am madly in love with my boyfriend and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But I also desperately miss being single and only being responsible to and for myself. I'm not sure how to cope with this; I don't know whether it's going to get better on its own as we get better at communicating with each other, whether I'm just going to gradually get used to the status quo, or whether I need to mourn that loss of independence and move on with my (generally pretty great) new life (maybe all three). [more inside]
I enjoy knitting while watching TV. I sometimes enjoy watching TV or a movie with an SO. Sometimes I like doing those things together. Is this going to be a problem in most relationships? How do I find someone who wouldn't be weirded out by that? [more inside]
We moved to a new town in the UK a year ago because we wanted a bigger house and we used to live in the expensive south east. My husband worked from home and he didn't have many friends in our old home town but he doesn't need them like I do. I moved jobs and our 2 kids moved schools and we live in an amazing house we would never have afforded before. We pretty much picked this area for no other reason than it is a nice town and is cheap but we knew no-one here and it all felt brave and exciting at the time. [more inside]
How have you reconciled differing sex drives? [more inside]
I am getting a new roommate soon and this time, I want to do everything right. Please share your platonic cohabitation tips! [more inside]
A couple of days ago I clicked a legit-looking result from a Google search and got to a page of hackery-looking type saying that my system now belonged to somebody else. I backed away fast, but tried it again out of curiosity and the same thing happened. I didn't cap the screen and now I can't find the page, but can somebody hijack my computer (Mac running Safari this week for some reason) just because I clicked a link? This might be a laughable question, but since this has never happened to me before I don't know how seriously to take it!
My husband and I are at an impasse. Please help. [more inside]
At which point is your partners inability to compromise a deal-breaker? At which point is your partners inability to compromise a deal-breaker?
At which point is your partners inability to compromise a deal-breaker? A friend stays at home with a baby and also cares for a disabled child. Husband will not compromise on their sleep issues and she is going downhill mentally fast due to extreme sleep deprivation. [more inside]
My boyfriend cleans up nice! Yay! But...how do I get him to clean up, just a wee bit more frequently? And should I? [more inside]
When is a marriage worth fighting for, and when to move on? [more inside]
I'm Dharma, he's Greg. Or vice versa. Help us figure out how to make a wedding that we're both happy with, so we can get married already! [more inside]
I am trying to strike a balance in a romantic relationship between letting go and accepting a person for who he is, and not allowing myself to be taken advantage of. How can I find that balance? [more inside]
BirthControlFilter: New couple discussing our options to have better sex while avoiding babies. We're having trouble compromising and could use some advice. [more inside]
How can my husband and I balance my dream job (in Asia) with his not-quite-wanting to go? [more inside]
An ex had a very specific sexual technique that drove me crazy. How can I request it from my current boyfriend? [more inside]
Compromise in relationships, specifically in regard to living arrangements when you have two people, each at a different point in his/her life: Is this even a compromise? [more inside]
Hell is waking up to two traveling Australians I've never met sleeping in my living room for six days.
How can a quiet and reserved person make living with very social individuals work? What's the best way to reconcile each side's concerns about the living situation? [more inside]
How do I stop resenting my girlfriend's behaviour towards her ex? [more inside]
My hubby's kinky. I'm not. Please help us figure out a fair way to compromise in the bedroom. [more inside]
Help my fiance and I come to a compromise on when to get a puppy. I have grown up with dogs- he was never allowed to have one growing up. I had a puppy of my own for 10 years until she passed away last October only a month in to our relationship- so he never got to know her. We recently moved into a small house with a large fenced in back yard. We have 3 cats. He says the house will be too crowded with a dog. I don't think so. [more inside]
Where is the line between asking someone to comprise for the sake of the relationship, and asking someone to change who they are? [more inside]
She thinks I'm a music snob, I think she listens to overcommercialised crap, what can we enjoy together? [more inside]
What are some examples of real life situations where compromising one's values, deeply held beliefs, established work process, etc., lead to negative results? [more inside]
What do you do when one partner likes to make advance plans and the other likes to be spontaneous, in a relationship? [more inside]
Are relationships a zero sum game? Is there such a thing as a happy compromise? [more inside]
Have you ever gotten past what seemed like a major impasse in a romantic relationship? Something significant that the two of you, after MUCH thoughtful discussion spread over months, just couldn't usefully agree about? Did a couples therapist or other neutral third party help you? What else helped you? [more inside]
How do you/did you plan, compromise, or agree on standards for your sex life? [more inside]
Follow-up to this. So I finally managed to break things off with the one in my class. I had some talks with some other people also and realized that it wasn't good for me, and I was essentially being used. Right now we don't speak at all, which is perfectly fine for me, and I spend my time interacting with everyone else. [more inside]
I have recently had the best sex of my life, and I finally know what it is that turns me on - pain. The problem is that this sex was not with my partner of ten years (well, she was there...). I don't know what to do about this. In-depth details inside. [more inside]
Me and my boyfriend just had a long phone conversation in which I got upset and he got frustrated because he didn't understand what I wanted. It all ended in giggles and silly jokes, but the issue wasn't really resolved. Help us sort it out? [more inside]
I need help with attitude adjustment. I have trouble making compromises, it is usually all or nothing for me, especially when it is something important. As a result I often hurt the ones I love the most because of this flaw in me. I have tried to find ways to focus on what is more important, the love of the other person over having things my way. I know I cherish the love more, yet I can not seem to make compromises. How do I change this?
I (female) don't like cats. My (male) partner has 2. We're considering living together. However, I can't stomach the filth, the smell, the cat hair, the mewling, the destruction of furniture, and the litterbox. I don't want this thread to turn into a vilification of me for not liking cats and I don't want the situation itself to become "the cats go or I go". Surely a mefite or two has had this happen. How did you work it out? What were the compromises?