I'm in my second semester of a professional master's program at a top-10 program. I can keep up with the classwork, but I get really caught up in comparing myself to other people. It not only makes me feel horrible, it significantly takes away from me doing my work. I'm prone to depression and lots of social anxiety anyway (I do have a therapist, we haven't talked about the self-comparison as much), but am well-liked in my program. I'd say I'm about on par with other folks in my program in terms of accomplishments (some have much more, some do less), so my intense feelings of inadequacy are mostly unwarranted. However, when I hear people talking about doing things I'm not (eg working with professors more than me, getting fellowships), I feel absolutely terrible. What should I be doing or trying to do to knock it off? Mental hacks, philosophical approaches, practical tips all welcome, though I should say I understand intellectually that there will always be someone doing more than me and that's life.
posted by anonymous
on Jan 20, 2014 -
After spending about two weeks using a relative's Kindle Fire HD 8.9 as a video playing device to distract our young son, my wife and I are interested in getting a mid-sized tablet of our own, to double as a video player and portable computer. The Nook HD+ is comparable, and right now, much cheaper. Is there something I'm missing about the Kindle Fire, or are most mid-sized tablets fairly similar? [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief
on Jul 8, 2013 -
I have a list of paired numbers that span multiple orders of magnitude, and I need to find a method to a) compare within each pair in a way that does not disproportionately bias the comparison at the high or low end of the list, and b) define which pairs are dissimilar enough to be excluded from further analysis. The dataset itself follows a rough sigmoid curve, with a few pairs in the 1000s, more in the 100s, a lot in the upper 10's, some in the low 10's, and a few in the single digits. I have tried a few different comparison methods so far, including percent difference and relative percent difference of both the raw and log-transformed data. [more inside]
posted by nekton
on May 24, 2013 -
I sometimes have trouble understanding the visual differences in height of two different objects. [more inside]
posted by lstanley
on Jan 18, 2013 -
Are there any Windows programs that can compare two image files and tell me if they're duplicates or not, ignoring different metadata and file formats? [more inside]
posted by Bangaioh
on Jun 25, 2011 -
Are grammatical errors more frequent in English than in other languages? What about spelling? Do foreign language have as many substitution errors as English? Do ewe speak a pear of foreign languages or more and what are you're experiences of these kinds of errors? Watt do there grammar Nazis do? [more inside]
posted by sien
on Mar 28, 2011 -
Bike Comparison: Need help choosing between two bikes in the $550-$600 range. And how do you learn what components are better than others? [more inside]
posted by bluelight
on Mar 21, 2011 -
Is there common text between the various bills that outlaw collective bargaining in some contexts, or limit the domains on which it applies? Do you know of a good way to find this automatically? [more inside]
posted by yomimono
on Mar 1, 2011 -
Comparison of carbon reduction/energy efficiency/ cost-benefit of rain water tanks V solar heating V waste water reclamation? [more inside]
posted by parryb
on Oct 17, 2010 -
Two Kindle Questions: Should I get the Kindle with or without 3G? Have people had problems uploading pdfs onto the new Kindles? [more inside]
posted by outlandishmarxist
on Oct 3, 2010 -
I'm going to travel a bit and might try to combine that with shopping. (a very novel notion, I know) Price-comparisons wanted. [more inside]
posted by monocultured
on Sep 22, 2010 -
If one were to collect scenes from Shakespeare films to compare how different productions approached them differently, what scenes should be selected? [more inside]
posted by John Kenneth Fisher
on Aug 13, 2010 -
Website that will compare the size of two cities by show the map side by side. [more inside]
posted by Carius
on Aug 10, 2010 -
My house siding was damaged in a recent hail storm. Currently I have aluminum siding, but I understand to replace aluminum siding cost more money than vinyl siding. Would anyone know approximately how much more a sheet of aluminum siding would cost verses a sheet of vinyl siding? Thanks in advance!
posted by Mckoan1
on Jul 14, 2010 -
I can't help but feel that everyone I know has been doing better than me since high school. Are these feelings grounded in reality, or is it simply insecurity? [more inside]
posted by Despondent_Monkey
on Feb 2, 2010 -
Help me get my focus back on my own life and happiness and stop comparing/competing with my ex in my own mind... and stop having how I compare with others as a condition to my happiness/self esteem in general... [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis
on Jun 16, 2009 -
If given the choice to fly coach from Boston to Tokyo (Narita), which of the following airlines would you choose and why: Continental, Delta, American, JAL or ANA. FYI, i'm 300 pounds and 6'1. Legroom is a primary concern, but any tips appreciated. [more inside]
posted by quibx
on Feb 24, 2009 -
I am trying to compare the Toshiba 40RV525U and the 42RV535U. I don't see much difference except for two inches and almost $150. How much of Toshiba's spec sheet is marketing mumbo-jumbo and how much of it is real? (alternatively, recommend me a different HDTV in the $750-900 price range) [more inside]
posted by joshrholloway
on Dec 21, 2008 -
Is there a good website for generic computer hardware information and comparisons? By that I mean a website that compares, for example, different RAM technologies and their pros and cons -- as opposed to comparing brands
. It needs to be updated frequently. [more inside]
posted by Nattie
on Nov 19, 2008 -
Trying to pick an online photobook publisher to make family Christmas gifts, and am overwhelmed. Who has had recent experience with blurb, lulu, iPhoto, MyPublisher, Picaboo, Smile Books, etc.? [more inside]
posted by blueshammer
on Nov 8, 2008 -
I need a good and fast tool to compare two folders side by side, with the ability of exclude .SVN and other useless files.
I've found some ones like Compare Folders
but I haven't tried these yet. Do you recommend them?
posted by Leech
on Oct 22, 2008 -
Website that compares McCain and Obama's policies in a non-biased way with references/sources?
posted by paulinsanjuan
on Aug 22, 2008 -
Lazyweb, I need help choosing an automotive GPS navigation unit for a directionally-challenged relative. It must receive traffic updates, have an ability to remember programmed routes, and be reasonably easy to install and use. [more inside]
posted by Tacos Are Pretty Great
on Nov 29, 2007 -
Are there any magazines or websites which provide comparisons/recommendations for girly grooming products? [more inside]
posted by joannemerriam
on Nov 26, 2007 -
I saw a website last year that allowed me to type in my annual income. The result was that it showed my modest income to be in the 97-percentile of the average income across the globe. It was helpful to put things in perspective. Now I want to share that webtool with a friend, but can't find it.
Anybody know the site?
posted by rdauphin
on Sep 27, 2007 -
Where can I find comparisons of the time it takes for an application to become relatively mature (in feature set, and bugs) in comparison to its status as open or closed source?
posted by jackofsaxons
on Sep 3, 2007 -
Anyone know of a website that provides comprehensive
food price data throughout the U.S.? For instance, lists the current price of top round beef, a gallon of milk, etc. I want to compare prices per region/city.
posted by sluglicker
on Jul 30, 2007 -
This may be an easy one (at least I hope so - and no, it hasn't been easy for me).
Is there a site, or more than one site, that is somewhat devoted to compatibilities in hardware? I'm looking at notebook cdrw/dvd-rom (slim) drives and it would be nice to know which models will - ostensibly, anyway - work with which laptops.
Help if you can. Thanks.
posted by zephyrbill
on Mar 29, 2007 -
Given two unsorted lists, size N and M (N < M), how long [ O (???) ] and how much storage [ O (???) ] would be required to find elements in common between N and M (the number of common elements could range from 0 to N)? How would you go about doing this? [more inside]
posted by langeNU
on Mar 27, 2007 -
I've started cobbling a blogging site out in WordpressMu. Today, i ran across Joomla. I think I want to switch - any ideas? [more inside]
posted by Davaal
on Feb 27, 2007 -
Hp Pavillion dv9000t vs Dell Inspiron 1705
Help me make a final choice for a new laptop. These last two contenders are almost too similar and I wonder if I am overlooking anything significant that might set one apart.
posted by stavx
on Nov 29, 2006 -
Home Heating Oil question. I've never lived in a house heated by oil, so I have no idea how the whole thing works. [more inside]
posted by SheIsMighty
on Aug 4, 2006 -
What are the best sites on the Internet that guide you to finding the best prices on a wide range of consumer items? I want to do comparison shopping, by locating the biggest selection from reputable stores (sites), compare product features, prices, possibly read reviews, but that's not a must, to get the best deals, period. In the past, I’ve used: BizRate, PriceGrabber, Shopping.com, and Froogle (Google). I know there must be more, or better sites out there, so what are they and let me know your experiences – pro & con.
posted by thebarron
on Jun 10, 2006 -
There used to be a website (of course there was) that examined a URL of one's choosing and then showed pretty pictures of how it was rendered in a few dozen different browsers and platforms. [more inside]
posted by RJ Reynolds
on Mar 19, 2006 -
I'm looking for your favorite web site(s) that let you compare 2 products - actually, any 2 anything... [more inside]
posted by rmm
on Feb 9, 2006 -