How to leave a job gracefully when you can't tell your coworkers in person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2009 - 15 answers

Introvert Filter: please help me revive a friendship! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2009 - 18 answers

How do you communicate effectively with Executive level people? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2009 - 18 answers

several years ago I met a man and we had a brief relationship. We've maintained a friendship through other relationships. We have both always been honest about our attraction to each other but live a few hours drive away from each other. Recently my circumstances changed and as it happens we are both available. We both are interested in seeing each other and he said he'd be willing to move as an eventuality if things work out. As it stands with our jobs it works out so that technically we could see one another twice a month if we wanted to. I have a few questions for the hive, what are ways people in a long distance relationship can stay close, Has anyone out there had a successful transition after moving in together, and has anyone not tried and regretted it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2009 - 7 answers

How should I go about handling my (very) mentally ill father who goes through (primarily) emotionally/psychologically abusive phases with anyone he holds a relationship with? Completely cutting off contact is probably not a solution for a few reasons. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 3, 2009 - 23 answers

I and another person need to communicate with each other via phone and text in a manner that does not appear on our regular phone bills, how do we accomplish this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2009 - 16 answers

My bf calls me cold. I am 29 and he is 34. The only other time this has happened to me was when I was a child. My grandmother and aunt (they raised me) used the same word to describe me. I generally consider myself an emotional person. Not touchy feely or especially warm. But, at any given moment I can laugh about anything or cry about something. I can intuit other peoples moods easily. I am definitely an introvert and would hardly ever choose to spend time with other people if I can be alone. I love to be alone. These days my relationship with my family is pretty good. I see them every couple of weeks. I don’t have friends and I am not social but I do get along with people without any problems. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 13, 2009 - 50 answers

How does a lowly unpaid blog contributor tell his/her bosses that the whole site needs a major redesign? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2009 - 10 answers

Should I go in to teaching? What's it like teaching primary (up to 11-12 year old kids)? Do you get to do much science? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2009 - 17 answers

MomFilter: help me deal with mine! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 11, 2009 - 32 answers

Am I over-analyzing or being rightfully cautious in dating? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 17, 2009 - 29 answers

Is there any further action I can take to recoup the financial loss and and deal with the emotional frustration resulting from my university's swine-flu-panic decision to cancel a much-anticipated field research opportunity? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 10, 2009 - 6 answers

How can I gracefully take the first date down a notch? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2009 - 27 answers

A friend of mine constantly texts and checks email on her phone when we're out together, which I find irksome. Am I right to think this is discourteous? Or am I behind the times? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 8, 2009 - 62 answers

My facial expressions don't match my emotions. Sometimes when I think I'm being friendly and warm, I actually look condescending, anxious or just weird. As far as I know I'm neither crazy nor autistic. How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2009 - 21 answers

My boss is a very nice man with some very strange shortcomings that I cannot explain. Help me out with some wild conjecture. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2009 - 16 answers

For a school-sponsored work-term, I'm currently working as a Software Developer for a very large software company, and I couldn't be happier at my job. Problem is, I'm nearing the halfway point of my one-year contract. How do I turn this into a full-time job? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2009 - 3 answers

Help me talk to my son about masturbation! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2009 - 54 answers

I feel like the punchline of a joke: on top of everything else, apparently I suck at therapy. I've given it a while - a year and a half - and I still can't do it properly. Now I'm at a loss. Help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2009 - 30 answers

How can I help a kid who won't help himself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 21, 2009 - 21 answers

I find myself longing to be blunt about how I'm feeling and what I want in relationships, but I worry that I'll shoot myself in the foot if I don't play the dating game. Should I stop trafficking in ambiguity and try some plain dealing for a change? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 23, 2009 - 20 answers

Could/Should I contact my friend's therapist to deter my friend from making bad decisions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 10, 2009 - 34 answers

How do I tell my SO that he smells bad? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2009 - 53 answers

How do I state my sexual preferences without sounding like a broken record? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2008 - 10 answers

I've been out of contact with a certain friend for about five years now. She'd been dealing with bipolar (and relationship) issues for a while before then, but I'd never witnessed any signs myself. On a lark I recently decided to see if she was in the customer database at work, and she was, but I didn't open the profile. I've worried about her from time to time, but while it's tempting, I don't feel like I should look up her contact info that way. Is there any circumstance under which I could or should? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2008 - 13 answers

I was a late bloomer. I was painfully shy and didn't date until I was 24. I'm at a turning point of the longest relationship I've had (almost a year). I don't know if I'm in love or not. Or if that's even the right question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2008 - 12 answers

Met this person at work. Liked her. Since I work on the same team; I didn't ask her out on a date (kicking myself about this now). Three weeks later, I think she's interested too but my workload (14-16 hour days) didn't give me time for anything social, let alone going out on dates. Then she got a long term (1 year?) assignment in another country. She left. That's when I woke up, had a long conversation over IM where we both realized we were interested in each other and she had been waiting for me to ask her out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 11, 2008 - 21 answers

I need help understanding how my hyper-smart geek husband's brain works. I want to give him the understanding he craves but am having a hard time inhabiting his plane. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 24, 2008 - 61 answers

Why don't other women like me? Women who meet me singly, or as part of a mixed-gender group usually like me. I function just fine in mixed-gender or mostly male situations. When I'm part of an all-woman group, I get bullied and scapegoated. In particular, the "queen bee" of the group almost always singles me out as a target. What am I doing wrong?
posted by anonymous on Jul 30, 2008 - 37 answers

How to ask for a divorce after 26 years of marriage? I want to do it in a way that causes as little pain as possible, and makes room for as much constructive problem-solving as possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 19, 2008 - 23 answers

I always followed the philosophy of ‘negative traits are usually just an extension of the best ones in everyone, except after proved otherwise’. But some recent questions here on human relations filter (extreme introversy = unable to keep contact with friends/family; how reliable is “He’s just not that into you” book?) and my own situation (long term and, hopefully temporarily long distance relationship with someone great except that he refuses to call me more often than once a week, on the last day of the week, and has thousands of excuses for not calling more often) makes me wonder if there is a cure for the suffering side of neglected relationships. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 3, 2008 - 17 answers

Should I say or should I come? or, should a girl say that she didn't have an orgasm. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2008 - 34 answers

I find it hard to maintain friendships with women. What's up with me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2008 - 52 answers

I work with someone who I believe has an auditory processing disorder. Help me figure out how to work more efficiently and effectively with her. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 3, 2008 - 6 answers

Ex files: how much sexual history should you disclose? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 18, 2007 - 24 answers

How do you deflate an over-inflated ego? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 9, 2007 - 38 answers

I'm needy--help! (pun intended) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 3, 2007 - 19 answers

What do I do about being (maybe) depressed when one of my issues is a complete refusal to talk to others about how I feel? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2007 - 10 answers

Help with my immature self: if someone offends me, my response is to not speak to them - and I can drag it out for ages, too. Worse still, I've found this to be quite an effective technique, so I'm consistently experiencing a degree of positive feedback. However, I do know that it's rather immature and not particularly constructive, so I'd like to know how better to deal with such a situation - what's a more mature technique/ what works for you? (I'm 35...).
posted by anonymous on Apr 28, 2007 - 32 answers

Coming to terms with my dislike of my boss. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2007 - 9 answers

Moral dilemma. Can I patronize a business I'm 99.9% sure is lying/cheating, when it's the only business that fits what I need? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 16, 2007 - 40 answers

BadRoommateFilter: in which I am the bad roommate. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 17, 2006 - 48 answers

Tragic miscommunication leading to sudden $3500+ fee, for person with no savings and a strict day-to-day type budget. Just found out about this and have now finished hyperventilating enough to type. This is not an emergency timewise, but I'd truly be grateful for any advice you can give. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 20, 2006 - 81 answers

I think my dad is too shy to really talk to me. How can I break the ice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 16, 2006 - 19 answers

Give me some ideas to help me avoid calling someone. I am grieving the break-up of a long-term relationship. I dont know if the relationship can be salvaged at any point in the future but if it can be it will only be after we have some space and time apart. What can I do to dampen down the overwhelming desire to call her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 25, 2006 - 33 answers

I am 23 years old and have been with my girlfriend, who is from the former Soviet Union, for almost four years now. We often have drastic and painful arguments that result from socio-cultural and religious differences. Is this a common problem or experience for those in similar relationships? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2006 - 37 answers

Money is difficult. I'm familiar with Your Money or Your Life, "pay yourself first", Quicken, The Tightwad Gazette, etc. but my money problems seem to be intertwined with a lot of relationship stuff that is hard to unravel. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2006 - 45 answers

I've just now received one of countless pieces of gibberish email from an executive at work. Why is it that the more money someone makes, the less able they are to write even a semi-coherent message? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2005 - 50 answers

DatingFilter: How do I handle dating several women at once? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2005 - 27 answers

How do you know when you're in love? And when do you say it in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2005 - 32 answers