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They don't want to be in Supper Club anymore, but won't say it

My husband and I have been part of a 4-couple Supper Club that we've really valued. (Let's call the 8 members Couple A, Couple B, and Couple C, and us.) From late 2008 on, we'd meet every 6-8 weeks or so at each of the couple's homes on a rotating basis, and would all bring a dish to share according to a dinner theme selected by the hosts. It was very fun, the food was outstanding, and getting the 8 of us together was something we used to look forward to until... [more inside]
posted by hush on Jun 25, 2015 - 22 answers

As an introvert, I struggle to meet women outside of work

I cannot seem to meet interesting women outside of work because I either scare the holy daylights out of them with my silhipence, my sexuality (I identify as a mild sado and naturally am very dominant), or my intensity. Help? [more inside]
posted by thebotanyofsouls on May 16, 2015 - 86 answers

Work friend, real friend

Now that a new-ish friend has moved to my department at work, I'm less interested in hanging out with her outside of work. Seeing her socially makes me feel like I'm still in work-mode, but I love her as a friend. Tips for handling this like a nice, reasonable, caring human? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing on May 8, 2015 - 10 answers

Avoid sounding bossy or passive-aggressive when needing stuff at work?

I have run into a communication quirk that I have had pop up over written communication that is confusing for me. I often try to suggest my ideas rather than ask someone to do it because I do not want to put anyone on the spot or sound like I think I am in charge. But I find sometimes people take it entirely the wrong way and think I am telling them what to do or being passive-aggressive. Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by AspirinPill on Apr 20, 2015 - 87 answers

Help me rescue my knitting from the neighbors' yard!

A knitting project I had pinned out on my roof blew down into my neighbors' walled-off backyard. I don't think he understands what happened. I want it back ASAP. What's the best and fastest way to make my intentions clear and get my project back? [more inside]
posted by ActionPopulated on Apr 3, 2015 - 33 answers

How do I take the first step to resolving a conflict in my band?

I've been playing music with four others, and I communicate well with all of them, except one. It's getting to the point where I'm stressing about it, feeling apprehensive and sad, and ultimately walking on eggshells around the guy. I want things to get better, but I'm concerned our difficulties communicating on a day-to-day basis will be an obstacle in actually starting a conversation about how to improve things between us. [more inside]
posted by blue t-shirt on Mar 18, 2015 - 14 answers

YANML - You are not my linguist, but how do I say this?

How to ask the user for confirmation, and not get snapped at....? The service-desk edition. [more inside]
posted by alchemist on Feb 27, 2015 - 22 answers

I will give you space until it comes out of your ears

It's early days in our relationship yet, and I like this guy tremendously, but his communication practices are driving me up the wall. Am I being too demanding or do I have some basis for feeling neglected? more flakey snowflakeness inside [more inside]
posted by starcrust on Dec 9, 2014 - 42 answers

Curiouser and curiouser

I would like to be more curious about my fellow human beings. Curious people, how do you approach conversations with people you don't know? [more inside]
posted by ontheradio on Dec 3, 2014 - 12 answers

No I'm not interested in saving energy dammit!

I'm looking for a TED Talk about people who bring things to the party vs. leeches, both on line and in the real world (I'm pretty sure I got the link here). Now I'd REALLY like to refer someone to it but I can't, for the life of me, find it. And that makes me sad. [more inside]
posted by Kid Charlemagne on Dec 3, 2014 - 5 answers

Why is this site in English and Dutch?

In the past, I've seen that sometimes English is interspersed with another language on certain websites. This site, however, has English titles to their posts, but most everything else is in Dutch. Why? [more inside]
posted by dozo on Nov 26, 2014 - 8 answers

How can I stop fretting about standard communications with friends?

I spend way too much time worrying about the way my friends communicate with me -- specifically, I worry that any delay in response time means that they're angry or annoyed with me, or, even more dramatically, that they don't want me around anymore. I wonder if there are any good ways to talk myself out of this. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by holborne on Nov 10, 2014 - 10 answers

friend is late to plans 95% of the time

How to handle issues regarding a friend who is typically late to nearly all our plans? [more inside]
posted by bananaskin on Oct 19, 2014 - 46 answers

Communicate, communicate, communicate

I have a new project at work which involves increasing public understanding of my industry. I've got some info on how other people in my industry have done this, but I'd like to look wider than that. I've had some luck googling "science communication" and "public understanding of science" - what other industries/sectors might be relevant? I'd also love recommendations for good articles, blogs, or even examples of good communication which make something accessible without over-simplifying the story.
posted by ontheradio on Oct 6, 2014 - 5 answers

Define "forceful".

Several different managers have told me that I need to develop a "more forceful" persona. I'm trying to work out exactly what this means. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ontheradio on Aug 21, 2014 - 16 answers

Communication between two hypersensitive, beanplating marshmallows

My boyfriend and I both hate making each other feel bad. Does this mean we can't talk about things that aren't going well? He in particular feels very hurt when I bring up things that are bothering me. [more inside]
posted by segfault on Aug 12, 2014 - 22 answers

Family suicide complicated by lack of communication: is it ADHD?

My husband’s cousin recently killed himself. The sadness we feel is colored by intense anger at my husband’s mother, who never communicated what was going on with the cousin - or that he had moved to a city we visit frequently. Could "forgetting" to mention or misrepresenting major family information/news be a byproduct of ADHD? Yes, there's more inside... [more inside]
posted by mitschlag on Jul 3, 2014 - 38 answers

Creative ways to share love in the ICU

My friends just had the worst week of their lives and they are now separated from their 3yo son by a hospital and over a thousand miles. What are some ways he can show them love while they're apart? [more inside]
posted by ovenmitt on Feb 16, 2014 - 13 answers

Recover from Kickstarter reward miscommunication gracefully

I donated a lot of money to a small retail store for a Kickstarter campaign they ran. There were a lot of rewards offered, and I said I didn't want "all of them". But so far I've gotten none. I want to followup, because I'd like to continue to patronize this business. [more inside]
posted by Gorgik on Feb 6, 2014 - 6 answers

Yo Vlad wassup it's Barry. Hit me on the hip.

How do presidents call other presidents? With last week's phone call between President Obama and Iranian President Hassan Rouhani, it got me wondering how do heads of state call other heads of state? I imagine that one executive suite's switchboard calls the other's, but what's the diplomatic protocol for who picks up the phone first? Do they have super-secret phone numbers, or even phone numbers in the way we think of them? Are the calls private, or are is there an entire entourage listening in? Do they just hang up when they're finished, or is their an entire protocol for ending the conversation? What are some of the other "hidden" aspects of executive diplomatic communication and behind-the-scenes goings-on are there that the rest of us commoners never see?
posted by slogger on Oct 1, 2013 - 5 answers

How to Express a Dating Deal Breaker Respectfully

Later tonight I will be going on a second date with a new guy that seems like a promising fit. One thing he brought up during the first date is that he's about to go to Amsterdam for a few days and that while there he's looking forward to relaxing and smoking pot. Pot use is a deal breaker for me, but I want to make sure I have all the facts before I let him know that. How do I collect that info respectfully, and then let him know that pot's a deal breaker for me without sounding really weird? [more inside]
posted by These Birds of a Feather on Sep 29, 2013 - 32 answers

Help me help my friend who had a stroke, without going crazy.

I want to know if anyone has had experience with a loved one having a stroke, and did it change them permanently or temporarily? Is his new verbal introspection stroke-related? And for caregivers of loved ones with any sort of health issue, how can I be there for him, in the way he needs me, and not end up tired and cranky (which helps NO ONE). [more inside]
posted by MoxieProxy on Aug 2, 2013 - 14 answers

How can I communicate with my boyfriend more effectively?

I don't know how to handle minor conflict with my boyfriend. Specifically, I don't know how to deal with myself when I do things wrong. I can't stop beating myself up in my head. [more inside]
posted by sockermom on Jul 29, 2013 - 33 answers

How do I tell a long-term friend that I want less of her in my life?

I have a long-term friend (25+ years.) For the most part, our friendship was a good one, but in the past 7 to 8 years, it's become a source of stress for me. I've tried talking with her about this, but she appears to be in denial and dismisses what I say, so nothing gets resolved, and the vicious cycle repeats. Because of our history, and my relationships with her children, parents, and brother, I don't want to cut her off completely, but I want less of her in my life. I've got to deal with this, but I don't know how. [more inside]
posted by matrushka on Jul 29, 2013 - 10 answers

Australian university without classes?

Is there an external professional/creative communication undergraduate program with no class interaction at any Australian university? [more inside]
posted by paleyellowwithorange on Jul 10, 2013 - 9 answers

Well, this still sucks

So my best friend has ovarian cancer. And we're in our "out of the frying pan, into the fire" moment because she's stage 4 and shit's already going poorly. How do I tell my kid? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa on May 27, 2013 - 22 answers

Focus Interruptus

I'm in a new relationship, long distance. We skype almost daily. Often, mid-convo, I can tell his attention is on something else. Turns out he's flipping through Reddit. This makes me feel hurt, b/c he's not listening to me. When I suggest we end the convo and talk the next day, he says, "No, no! I'm done! I'm done!" Then I feel like a nagging mom, policing his behavior. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by enzymatic on May 24, 2013 - 46 answers

talking about gender in short term dating relationship

Any advice on how to discuss emotionally loaded social issues without pushing buttons? [more inside]
posted by The Noble Goofy Elk on May 4, 2013 - 40 answers

Help me tell my BFF to shut up, in the nicest of ways.

My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat on Apr 28, 2013 - 26 answers

Help me respond constructively to my brother!

My older brother (in his 50s) posted something on FB regarding the Steubenville rape case, which was: [more inside]
posted by HopperFan on Mar 17, 2013 - 52 answers

How do you talk to someone who interprets everything as an attack?

Help me Metafilter! I need cognitive and/or behavioral hacks to better deal with someone whose anxiety/self-esteem issues tend to make every conversation into a battle. [more inside]
posted by celtalitha on Feb 28, 2013 - 30 answers

Communication in the early days of dating

What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new? [more inside]
posted by toerinishuman on Feb 3, 2013 - 6 answers

They told me the first year of marriage would be a tricky one...

This is a question for those of you who are married (or have an SO): When it comes to things like personal correspondence, is there still such a thing as privacy? [more inside]
posted by Telpethoron on Feb 2, 2013 - 65 answers

How often is too often to bug a company MD about a job?

MD said he would talk to me about a graduate position opening up this year. Haven't heard anything yet and I do not want to let this one slip through my fingers. How communicative should I be, and by what means? [more inside]
posted by fearnothing on Jan 28, 2013 - 8 answers

How much contact is appropriate after a break-up?

I broke up with my then-fiancée in September 2012. What is the appropriate amount of contact after a break-up? I've struggled with finding a good balance. Give me some advice for the next go-round. [more inside]
posted by mellosphere on Jan 8, 2013 - 32 answers

It's okay, you can tell me I'm too needy.

Communication expectations in a friendship - what is reasonable to ask of a best friend? [more inside]
posted by sunshine37 on Jan 4, 2013 - 18 answers

Do you have any ideas to help me communicate better and curb my frustrations?

Help me, I get frustrated and it's not helpful. I want to find a better way to act to relationship communication frustrations. Snowflakes inside [more inside]
posted by couchdive on Dec 12, 2012 - 13 answers

How do you know what you want?

This is going to seem like a very strange question, but how do you know what you want when you don’t know what you can have? Especially when other people are involved, trying to speculate on an “anything’s possible” basis seems like pointless daydreaming to me. I’m trying to work out whether I’m approaching this differently to other people, because their questions make no sense to me and my answers make no sense to them! [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Nov 30, 2012 - 35 answers

Boyfriend and I coming to crossroads: conflict and pursue/withdraw

How to deal with incompatible conflict styles? My boyfriend avoids and I try to confront/face things. He hates to talk about it. I hate to leave it unaddressed. It's straining the relationship. [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Nov 19, 2012 - 44 answers

What can I do for a family member going to prison soon?

My brother is going to prison in December, possibly for a decade or more. What can I do for him, both emotionally and practically? [more inside]
posted by gregoryg on Nov 14, 2012 - 19 answers

What should I do about this guy?

What should I do about this guy? I'll preface this by saying I have pretty much no prior experience, so I'm not sure about what's considered "normal" in terms of communication (FYI this is a little long)... [more inside]
posted by Sakura3210 on Oct 26, 2012 - 28 answers

Is he or isn't he "into it"?

He's just not that into you. How much of this is true and how can one ever really know? Scenario/question after the jump. [more inside]
posted by patientpatient on Aug 30, 2012 - 23 answers

All this over a ham sandwich?

Please help me figure out what I should have done differently in this argument with my boyfriend. It gets long, sorry. [more inside]
posted by guessthis on Jul 18, 2012 - 74 answers

My man fixes my stuff, but doesn't touch me enough

Boyfriend is great, but how can I get him to meet my emotional needs more consistently? [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Jul 6, 2012 - 31 answers

Reflection on genuflection

Is it rude to kneel down when speaking to someone in a wheelchair? [more inside]
posted by AlliKat75 on Apr 24, 2012 - 18 answers

Anonymous SMS to Twitter

I want to create a number to send text messages (SMS) which will then post all the messages onto a Twitter feed... [more inside]
posted by iamck on Apr 18, 2012 - 3 answers

Long Distance Rates For the Late Seventies and Early Eighties?

How much did long distance telephone calls cost in the late 1970s and early 1980s? I'm mainly interested in hearing about rates for the USA but data from other countries would be welcome as well. [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet on Mar 31, 2012 - 21 answers

How do you "check in" on a relationship?

BF and I (straight mid-twenties lady) have a happy, loving relationship (2 years+). But, this is my first long-term relationship and I have an anxiety disorder. I want to "check in" with him and make sure we're still on the same page about us and the future, but this is my pattern and it has been unhealthy for me. To the healthy couples - do you "check in" with your partner? Should I? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Paper rabies on Feb 17, 2012 - 16 answers

[Anger related issue filter] Do I need a tougher outer shell, or should I be bothered by this?

Difficulty with communicating anger and/or frustration toward friends--need a few techniques to move forward. [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet on Jan 23, 2012 - 16 answers

catching up with an ex, disappointing results

I recently reestablished contact with an ex-girlfriend that I haven't spoken to for many years. a few polite emails went back and forth, but i was hoping for so much more... [more inside]
posted by camdan on Jan 21, 2012 - 32 answers

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