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Family suicide complicated by lack of communication: is it ADHD?

My husband’s cousin recently killed himself. The sadness we feel is colored by intense anger at my husband’s mother, who never communicated what was going on with the cousin - or that he had moved to a city we visit frequently. Could "forgetting" to mention or misrepresenting major family information/news be a byproduct of ADHD? Yes, there's more inside... [more inside]
posted by mitschlag on Jul 3, 2014 - 38 answers

Creative ways to share love in the ICU

My friends just had the worst week of their lives and they are now separated from their 3yo son by a hospital and over a thousand miles. What are some ways he can show them love while they're apart? [more inside]
posted by ovenmitt on Feb 16, 2014 - 13 answers

Recover from Kickstarter reward miscommunication gracefully

I donated a lot of money to a small retail store for a Kickstarter campaign they ran. There were a lot of rewards offered, and I said I didn't want "all of them". But so far I've gotten none. I want to followup, because I'd like to continue to patronize this business. [more inside]
posted by Gorgik on Feb 6, 2014 - 6 answers

Yo Vlad wassup it's Barry. Hit me on the hip.

How do presidents call other presidents? With last week's phone call between President Obama and Iranian President Hassan Rouhani, it got me wondering how do heads of state call other heads of state? I imagine that one executive suite's switchboard calls the other's, but what's the diplomatic protocol for who picks up the phone first? Do they have super-secret phone numbers, or even phone numbers in the way we think of them? Are the calls private, or are is there an entire entourage listening in? Do they just hang up when they're finished, or is their an entire protocol for ending the conversation? What are some of the other "hidden" aspects of executive diplomatic communication and behind-the-scenes goings-on are there that the rest of us commoners never see?
posted by slogger on Oct 1, 2013 - 5 answers

How to Express a Dating Deal Breaker Respectfully

Later tonight I will be going on a second date with a new guy that seems like a promising fit. One thing he brought up during the first date is that he's about to go to Amsterdam for a few days and that while there he's looking forward to relaxing and smoking pot. Pot use is a deal breaker for me, but I want to make sure I have all the facts before I let him know that. How do I collect that info respectfully, and then let him know that pot's a deal breaker for me without sounding really weird? [more inside]
posted by These Birds of a Feather on Sep 29, 2013 - 32 answers

Help me help my friend who had a stroke, without going crazy.

I want to know if anyone has had experience with a loved one having a stroke, and did it change them permanently or temporarily? Is his new verbal introspection stroke-related? And for caregivers of loved ones with any sort of health issue, how can I be there for him, in the way he needs me, and not end up tired and cranky (which helps NO ONE). [more inside]
posted by MoxieProxy on Aug 2, 2013 - 14 answers

How can I communicate with my boyfriend more effectively?

I don't know how to handle minor conflict with my boyfriend. Specifically, I don't know how to deal with myself when I do things wrong. I can't stop beating myself up in my head. [more inside]
posted by sockermom on Jul 29, 2013 - 33 answers

How do I tell a long-term friend that I want less of her in my life?

I have a long-term friend (25+ years.) For the most part, our friendship was a good one, but in the past 7 to 8 years, it's become a source of stress for me. I've tried talking with her about this, but she appears to be in denial and dismisses what I say, so nothing gets resolved, and the vicious cycle repeats. Because of our history, and my relationships with her children, parents, and brother, I don't want to cut her off completely, but I want less of her in my life. I've got to deal with this, but I don't know how. [more inside]
posted by matrushka on Jul 29, 2013 - 10 answers

Australian university without classes?

Is there an external professional/creative communication undergraduate program with no class interaction at any Australian university? [more inside]
posted by paleyellowwithorange on Jul 10, 2013 - 9 answers

Well, this still sucks

So my best friend has ovarian cancer. And we're in our "out of the frying pan, into the fire" moment because she's stage 4 and shit's already going poorly. How do I tell my kid? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa on May 27, 2013 - 22 answers

Focus Interruptus

I'm in a new relationship, long distance. We skype almost daily. Often, mid-convo, I can tell his attention is on something else. Turns out he's flipping through Reddit. This makes me feel hurt, b/c he's not listening to me. When I suggest we end the convo and talk the next day, he says, "No, no! I'm done! I'm done!" Then I feel like a nagging mom, policing his behavior. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by enzymatic on May 24, 2013 - 46 answers

talking about gender in short term dating relationship

Any advice on how to discuss emotionally loaded social issues without pushing buttons? [more inside]
posted by The Noble Goofy Elk on May 4, 2013 - 40 answers

Help me tell my BFF to shut up, in the nicest of ways.

My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat on Apr 28, 2013 - 26 answers

Help me respond constructively to my brother!

My older brother (in his 50s) posted something on FB regarding the Steubenville rape case, which was: [more inside]
posted by HopperFan on Mar 17, 2013 - 52 answers

How do you talk to someone who interprets everything as an attack?

Help me Metafilter! I need cognitive and/or behavioral hacks to better deal with someone whose anxiety/self-esteem issues tend to make every conversation into a battle. [more inside]
posted by celtalitha on Feb 28, 2013 - 30 answers

Communication in the early days of dating

What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new? [more inside]
posted by toerinishuman on Feb 3, 2013 - 6 answers

They told me the first year of marriage would be a tricky one...

This is a question for those of you who are married (or have an SO): When it comes to things like personal correspondence, is there still such a thing as privacy? [more inside]
posted by Telpethoron on Feb 2, 2013 - 65 answers

How often is too often to bug a company MD about a job?

MD said he would talk to me about a graduate position opening up this year. Haven't heard anything yet and I do not want to let this one slip through my fingers. How communicative should I be, and by what means? [more inside]
posted by fearnothing on Jan 28, 2013 - 8 answers

How much contact is appropriate after a break-up?

I broke up with my then-fiancée in September 2012. What is the appropriate amount of contact after a break-up? I've struggled with finding a good balance. Give me some advice for the next go-round. [more inside]
posted by mellosphere on Jan 8, 2013 - 32 answers

It's okay, you can tell me I'm too needy.

Communication expectations in a friendship - what is reasonable to ask of a best friend? [more inside]
posted by sunshine37 on Jan 4, 2013 - 18 answers

Do you have any ideas to help me communicate better and curb my frustrations?

Help me, I get frustrated and it's not helpful. I want to find a better way to act to relationship communication frustrations. Snowflakes inside [more inside]
posted by couchdive on Dec 12, 2012 - 13 answers

How do you know what you want?

This is going to seem like a very strange question, but how do you know what you want when you don’t know what you can have? Especially when other people are involved, trying to speculate on an “anything’s possible” basis seems like pointless daydreaming to me. I’m trying to work out whether I’m approaching this differently to other people, because their questions make no sense to me and my answers make no sense to them! [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Nov 30, 2012 - 35 answers

Boyfriend and I coming to crossroads: conflict and pursue/withdraw

How to deal with incompatible conflict styles? My boyfriend avoids and I try to confront/face things. He hates to talk about it. I hate to leave it unaddressed. It's straining the relationship. [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Nov 19, 2012 - 44 answers

What can I do for a family member going to prison soon?

My brother is going to prison in December, possibly for a decade or more. What can I do for him, both emotionally and practically? [more inside]
posted by gregoryg on Nov 14, 2012 - 19 answers

What should I do about this guy?

What should I do about this guy? I'll preface this by saying I have pretty much no prior experience, so I'm not sure about what's considered "normal" in terms of communication (FYI this is a little long)... [more inside]
posted by Sakura3210 on Oct 26, 2012 - 28 answers

Is he or isn't he "into it"?

He's just not that into you. How much of this is true and how can one ever really know? Scenario/question after the jump. [more inside]
posted by patientpatient on Aug 30, 2012 - 23 answers

All this over a ham sandwich?

Please help me figure out what I should have done differently in this argument with my boyfriend. It gets long, sorry. [more inside]
posted by guessthis on Jul 18, 2012 - 74 answers

My man fixes my stuff, but doesn't touch me enough

Boyfriend is great, but how can I get him to meet my emotional needs more consistently? [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Jul 6, 2012 - 31 answers

Reflection on genuflection

Is it rude to kneel down when speaking to someone in a wheelchair? [more inside]
posted by AlliKat75 on Apr 24, 2012 - 18 answers

Anonymous SMS to Twitter

I want to create a number to send text messages (SMS) which will then post all the messages onto a Twitter feed... [more inside]
posted by iamck on Apr 18, 2012 - 3 answers

Long Distance Rates For the Late Seventies and Early Eighties?

How much did long distance telephone calls cost in the late 1970s and early 1980s? I'm mainly interested in hearing about rates for the USA but data from other countries would be welcome as well. [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet on Mar 31, 2012 - 21 answers

How do you "check in" on a relationship?

BF and I (straight mid-twenties lady) have a happy, loving relationship (2 years+). But, this is my first long-term relationship and I have an anxiety disorder. I want to "check in" with him and make sure we're still on the same page about us and the future, but this is my pattern and it has been unhealthy for me. To the healthy couples - do you "check in" with your partner? Should I? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Paper rabies on Feb 17, 2012 - 16 answers

[Anger related issue filter] Do I need a tougher outer shell, or should I be bothered by this?

Difficulty with communicating anger and/or frustration toward friends--need a few techniques to move forward. [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet on Jan 23, 2012 - 16 answers

catching up with an ex, disappointing results

I recently reestablished contact with an ex-girlfriend that I haven't spoken to for many years. a few polite emails went back and forth, but i was hoping for so much more... [more inside]
posted by camdan on Jan 21, 2012 - 32 answers

In a Business setting, how do you measure the value obtained from intangibles such as fostering communication with junior members of the organization?

In a Business setting, how do you measure intangibles such as fostering communication with junior members of the organization? For example VP holding open door meetings every month? In the end I need a metric (A number)? The problem here is that its very hard to articulate value of such things in a metrics crazy world/companies? And I need a metric!
posted by r2d2 on Jan 6, 2012 - 7 answers

Dealing with differing problem-solving styles.

How do my girlfriend and I deal with differing styles of communication? I'm a wait to talk it out person, and she's a talk it out now person. [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Jan 4, 2012 - 12 answers

Should I tell him I know he is a liar, or is that too drama queen of me?

In July, I entered my only FWB relationship. I started catching feelings, and he decided he couldn't reciprocate. He came back into my life on New Year's Eve wanting more. HOWEVER, I have found out some things that have inspired my current run for the hills (irrelevant as it may be, the nitty-gritty is inside). How do I tell him that I know the truth? Or, should I just go cold turkey on communication? [more inside]
posted by acertainseason on Jan 4, 2012 - 26 answers

how to encourage the boss

Yesterday I was called into what turned out to be a humiliating tag-team meeting where my supervisor and the department director took turns berating me for my job performance over the past year. Short on specifics and long on phrases like "you don't display ownership of your projects," and "you're always late," etc. All this is odd because just a couple months ago I got an un-scheduled mid-year raise and 'ata-boy from the director. Yes, one of the same who was pounding on me yesterday. [more inside]
posted by markhu on Oct 5, 2011 - 22 answers

Breaker breaker, what's your twenty?

Are there wireless radios and microphones appropriate for bicyclists to communicate with each other?? [more inside]
posted by werkzeuger on Aug 27, 2011 - 6 answers

How to stop fighting with my boyfriend?

How can my boyfriend and I stop fighting so much? [more inside]
posted by JessicaJane on Aug 1, 2011 - 29 answers

I want to understand what constitutes a positive pregnancy experience... and how the health system can help.

I'd love your experience and advice on how to be a good practitioner of women's health in pregnancy. [more inside]
posted by noonday on Jul 13, 2011 - 34 answers

Don't text me. Really, don't.

How can I block a certain number from texting my phone? [more inside]
posted by sideofwry on Jun 10, 2011 - 12 answers

Reluctant Barbie Girl

How can I explain to my boyfriend that some of the fantasies he has about me are hurting my self esteem (and our relationship)? [more inside]
posted by patronuscharms on Apr 22, 2011 - 62 answers

How to get laptop display transferred as data to another laptop?

How to get laptop display transferred as data to another laptop? [more inside]
posted by bboylawson on Mar 23, 2011 - 7 answers

Social Skills

One of my friend cannot interact with people, he is a loner. He is a really nice guy. How would you advice him to be more social. He says he cannot make a small talk, he is shy and he feels others hate him because he does not talk much.
posted by kirang on Mar 17, 2011 - 17 answers

What is the most effective technique for making oneself understood by non-native English speakers?

I only speak English and I live in a country where much of the English spoken is devoid of plurals and tenses and has a very limited vocabulary. In order to communicate most effectively, would I be better off speaking in technically correct sentences or simplifying my speech similarly? [more inside]
posted by m1ndsurfer on Jan 17, 2011 - 20 answers

round-faced straight-haired girl seeks haircut for long-term relationship!

Round-face haircut suggestions, help, and probably emotional counseling needed. How can I articulate what I want my hair to look like? Any ideas for straight hair + round face haircuts? [more inside]
posted by ghostbikes on Dec 27, 2010 - 23 answers

Talks too much, but is never heard...

How do I improve communication with my wife given a history of anger issues, bad assumption, and best of intentions on both sides? [more inside]
posted by Koffeeman on Dec 26, 2010 - 50 answers

Seasonal gift giving dilemma

Did I give her an xmas gift? Should I be giving her a(n another) xmas gift? [more inside]
posted by mistertoronto on Dec 19, 2010 - 12 answers

Help me reign this talker in so I can get to know him better.

We all hear about too little communication during dating and a relationship. How about the reverse? Help me assert my need for less communication in a new friendship/potential relationship. [more inside]
posted by patronuscharms on Dec 5, 2010 - 34 answers

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