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How to have an excellent life with chronic pain

I am a woman in my mid-twenties with chronic back pain. How do I find a job suited to my lifestyle, and communicate about my pain without putting off employers? [more inside]
posted by benadryl on Nov 1, 2016 - 12 answers

Barely remembered quote about talkative women and romantic relationships

Sometime in the past year or so I read, either online or in print, something relating to compatibility and fulfillment in (hetero) relationships where the woman is one who has a fast paced brain and needs to talk and needs to be with a man who will listen and take that all in order for her to feel fulfilled in the relationship. Did you read this, too? [more inside]
posted by PaulaSchultz on Oct 20, 2016 - 6 answers

He loves me, but he can't open up

My partner of 2.5 years can’t talk to me about the most significant relationship of his life. I want to understand this better. [more inside]
posted by yawper on Sep 16, 2016 - 31 answers

Lost "say this, not that" book

I saw pictures of a book on tumblr that was filled with suggestions for improvements on common condolences. For example, instead of saying, "Everything happens for a reason," try, "You must be disappointed that it didn't work out." Help me find this book, please! [more inside]
posted by Snarl Furillo on Aug 10, 2016 - 2 answers

Examples of being considerate/caring?

Our niece (16yo) didn't acknowledge one of our birthdays yesterday, and this seems to be a pattern of being completely inconsiderate. I need to discuss this with her, but thought it might make more sense to explain to her how people are considerate/caring of others, and give her examples. I can give her examples of what I do, but what are ways people are considerate of others/show that they care? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl on Aug 2, 2016 - 69 answers

I liked your study, let's hang out?

Is it appropriate to ask out someone I met while participating in his experiment? [more inside]
posted by Guelder on May 27, 2016 - 5 answers

Yes really! Really!

Have you experienced relationships with people who respond to (what feels like) everything you say with, “Really?...” or with some variation of (benign?) incredulity? [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill on May 27, 2016 - 72 answers

How can you tell if you're being manipulative?

How can you tell if you're being manipulative? [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger on May 19, 2016 - 24 answers

Good idea, bad idea: Boss's horrible attitude.

Should I have a meeting with my boss and her boss about her horrible attitude and work ethic before I go on leave for a month? Way more inside. [more inside]
posted by baddecisiondinosaur on Apr 4, 2016 - 20 answers

My husband won't listen to me talk about work

My husband completely shuts down when I talk to him about problems I'm having at work. This is the only topic of conversation that he automatically shuts down, in two minutes or fewer. It has been ongoing, and I feel like I have to lie and say work is "fine" when he asks, or just swallow up my negative feelings. What's going on here? [more inside]
posted by serenity_now on Mar 29, 2016 - 72 answers

Dear Crush: Did you notice that I initated?

"Hi! Just wanted you to know that if you ask me to coffee, I would say yes." [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot on Mar 28, 2016 - 18 answers

How much contact do you have with your SO?

Couples who have been together for more than a year and do not live or work together - how much contact do you have and what does it look like? [more inside]
posted by yawper on Oct 28, 2015 - 29 answers

Am I crazy or are they purposely ignoring me?

I feel insane for even posting about this, but my (ever-so-slight) anxiety is getting the best of me! Around two months ago, I accepted a job with a great company. It is what they are calling a "W2 contractor" position. So, I'm a W2 employee where they take care of deducting taxes from my paycheck for me, but I don't receive any health benefits, PTO, etc. etc. I'm paid hourly, and my hourly wage is well above the norm, I'm guessing to help offset the lack of benefits. Some weeks I work 40 hours, others I work 15 or so... it depends on the workload available. Essentially, it's kind of like being a part time employee. [more inside]
posted by theshmeek on Oct 16, 2015 - 5 answers

My boss hasn't paid me. It has been 3 weeks. Should I wait or quit?

I started this job 3 weeks ago and despite quitting and being re-hired, my boss has not really made enough changes to give me faith that he will pay me. I do not believe that I will get paid. [more inside]
posted by ihaveyourfoot on Oct 10, 2015 - 41 answers

I need to hear you say it

I like to hear the words "I love you" more than my partner likes to say them. What to do? [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock on Oct 7, 2015 - 18 answers

Recommendations for post-divorce mortgage communication?

I need a legally-enforceable, semi "public" method for my abusive ex to communicate to me evidence of his compliance with his legal responsibilities. We are in dispute over previously shared property but I have insisted on no contact and do not wish to enable my ex to contact me over any issue but the property. I don't want him to have my email address or that of an alias/other account in case he uses that address to send abuse, threats, or any other kind of unnecessary and unwanted correspondence. [more inside]
posted by LetticeLeaf on Oct 6, 2015 - 18 answers

Boyfriend thinks therapy is a waste and other issues?

I asked my boyfriend why he changed his thougts on me going to therapy. He used to think it was a waste of time and money, and it turns out, he still thinks it is. This lead to a series of very dysfunctional conversations and I know I now feel very uncomfortable. I don't really understand how he feels or what even happened during that evening. I need help figuring out what happened because I feel lost. [more inside]
posted by AdriftInSpace on Jul 19, 2015 - 48 answers

workplace woes: my boss seems to love correcting + debating minutia

During unofficial, in-between-meetings office banter, I tend to speak "loosely" and casually, giving estimates instead of precise directives. Everyone does this -- it's normal in many breezy conversational settings. Unfortunately, my boss seems to love correcting people or debating minute points, even when they're just riffing informally. I'll be spitballing hypothetically and he'll take that as a super literal representation. I need tips on how to deal! [more inside]
posted by doctordrey on Jul 16, 2015 - 23 answers

How can I communicate about intimacy issues?

I've been actively dating and having intimate encounters, but it's hard for me to address my sexual limitations and lack of experience with new partners. How to deal? [more inside]
posted by cosmicbeast on Jul 2, 2015 - 13 answers

They don't want to be in Supper Club anymore, but won't say it

My husband and I have been part of a 4-couple Supper Club that we've really valued. (Let's call the 8 members Couple A, Couple B, and Couple C, and us.) From late 2008 on, we'd meet every 6-8 weeks or so at each of the couple's homes on a rotating basis, and would all bring a dish to share according to a dinner theme selected by the hosts. It was very fun, the food was outstanding, and getting the 8 of us together was something we used to look forward to until... [more inside]
posted by hush on Jun 25, 2015 - 23 answers

As an introvert, I struggle to meet women outside of work

I cannot seem to meet interesting women outside of work because I either scare the holy daylights out of them with my silhipence, my sexuality (I identify as a mild sado and naturally am very dominant), or my intensity. Help? [more inside]
posted by thebotanyofsouls on May 16, 2015 - 86 answers

Work friend, real friend

Now that a new-ish friend has moved to my department at work, I'm less interested in hanging out with her outside of work. Seeing her socially makes me feel like I'm still in work-mode, but I love her as a friend. Tips for handling this like a nice, reasonable, caring human? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing on May 8, 2015 - 10 answers

Avoid sounding bossy or passive-aggressive when needing stuff at work?

I have run into a communication quirk that I have had pop up over written communication that is confusing for me. I often try to suggest my ideas rather than ask someone to do it because I do not want to put anyone on the spot or sound like I think I am in charge. But I find sometimes people take it entirely the wrong way and think I am telling them what to do or being passive-aggressive. Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by AspirinPill on Apr 20, 2015 - 87 answers

Help me rescue my knitting from the neighbors' yard!

A knitting project I had pinned out on my roof blew down into my neighbors' walled-off backyard. I don't think he understands what happened. I want it back ASAP. What's the best and fastest way to make my intentions clear and get my project back? [more inside]
posted by ActionPopulated on Apr 3, 2015 - 33 answers

How do I take the first step to resolving a conflict in my band?

I've been playing music with four others, and I communicate well with all of them, except one. It's getting to the point where I'm stressing about it, feeling apprehensive and sad, and ultimately walking on eggshells around the guy. I want things to get better, but I'm concerned our difficulties communicating on a day-to-day basis will be an obstacle in actually starting a conversation about how to improve things between us. [more inside]
posted by blue t-shirt on Mar 18, 2015 - 14 answers

YANML - You are not my linguist, but how do I say this?

How to ask the user for confirmation, and not get snapped at....? The service-desk edition. [more inside]
posted by alchemist on Feb 27, 2015 - 22 answers

I will give you space until it comes out of your ears

It's early days in our relationship yet, and I like this guy tremendously, but his communication practices are driving me up the wall. Am I being too demanding or do I have some basis for feeling neglected? more flakey snowflakeness inside [more inside]
posted by starcrust on Dec 9, 2014 - 42 answers

Curiouser and curiouser

I would like to be more curious about my fellow human beings. Curious people, how do you approach conversations with people you don't know? [more inside]
posted by ontheradio on Dec 3, 2014 - 12 answers

No I'm not interested in saving energy dammit!

I'm looking for a TED Talk about people who bring things to the party vs. leeches, both on line and in the real world (I'm pretty sure I got the link here). Now I'd REALLY like to refer someone to it but I can't, for the life of me, find it. And that makes me sad. [more inside]
posted by Kid Charlemagne on Dec 3, 2014 - 5 answers

Why is this site in English and Dutch?

In the past, I've seen that sometimes English is interspersed with another language on certain websites. This site, however, has English titles to their posts, but most everything else is in Dutch. Why? [more inside]
posted by dozo on Nov 26, 2014 - 8 answers

How can I stop fretting about standard communications with friends?

I spend way too much time worrying about the way my friends communicate with me -- specifically, I worry that any delay in response time means that they're angry or annoyed with me, or, even more dramatically, that they don't want me around anymore. I wonder if there are any good ways to talk myself out of this. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by holborne on Nov 10, 2014 - 10 answers

friend is late to plans 95% of the time

How to handle issues regarding a friend who is typically late to nearly all our plans? [more inside]
posted by bananaskin on Oct 19, 2014 - 46 answers

Communicate, communicate, communicate

I have a new project at work which involves increasing public understanding of my industry. I've got some info on how other people in my industry have done this, but I'd like to look wider than that. I've had some luck googling "science communication" and "public understanding of science" - what other industries/sectors might be relevant? I'd also love recommendations for good articles, blogs, or even examples of good communication which make something accessible without over-simplifying the story.
posted by ontheradio on Oct 6, 2014 - 5 answers

Define "forceful".

Several different managers have told me that I need to develop a "more forceful" persona. I'm trying to work out exactly what this means. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ontheradio on Aug 21, 2014 - 16 answers

Communication between two hypersensitive, beanplating marshmallows

My boyfriend and I both hate making each other feel bad. Does this mean we can't talk about things that aren't going well? He in particular feels very hurt when I bring up things that are bothering me. [more inside]
posted by segfault on Aug 12, 2014 - 22 answers

Phone etiquette experts: How to be polite when sound quality sucks?

When I'm on the (cell) phone with another person, and I'm not able to hear what they are saying clearly, I get stuck. For persistent low-quality voice calls (i.e. when "can you talk a little louder" isn't the solution and "can you repeat that?" doesn't help), what can I do or say that doesn't make me look like an incompetent, impatient jerk? [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot on Jul 16, 2014 - 14 answers

Family suicide complicated by lack of communication: is it ADHD?

My husband’s cousin recently killed himself. The sadness we feel is colored by intense anger at my husband’s mother, who never communicated what was going on with the cousin - or that he had moved to a city we visit frequently. Could "forgetting" to mention or misrepresenting major family information/news be a byproduct of ADHD? Yes, there's more inside... [more inside]
posted by mitschlag on Jul 3, 2014 - 38 answers

Creative ways to share love in the ICU

My friends just had the worst week of their lives and they are now separated from their 3yo son by a hospital and over a thousand miles. What are some ways he can show them love while they're apart? [more inside]
posted by ovenmitt on Feb 16, 2014 - 13 answers

Recover from Kickstarter reward miscommunication gracefully

I donated a lot of money to a small retail store for a Kickstarter campaign they ran. There were a lot of rewards offered, and I said I didn't want "all of them". But so far I've gotten none. I want to followup, because I'd like to continue to patronize this business. [more inside]
posted by Gorgik on Feb 6, 2014 - 6 answers

Yo Vlad wassup it's Barry. Hit me on the hip.

How do presidents call other presidents? With last week's phone call between President Obama and Iranian President Hassan Rouhani, it got me wondering how do heads of state call other heads of state? I imagine that one executive suite's switchboard calls the other's, but what's the diplomatic protocol for who picks up the phone first? Do they have super-secret phone numbers, or even phone numbers in the way we think of them? Are the calls private, or are is there an entire entourage listening in? Do they just hang up when they're finished, or is their an entire protocol for ending the conversation? What are some of the other "hidden" aspects of executive diplomatic communication and behind-the-scenes goings-on are there that the rest of us commoners never see?
posted by slogger on Oct 1, 2013 - 5 answers

How to Express a Dating Deal Breaker Respectfully

Later tonight I will be going on a second date with a new guy that seems like a promising fit. One thing he brought up during the first date is that he's about to go to Amsterdam for a few days and that while there he's looking forward to relaxing and smoking pot. Pot use is a deal breaker for me, but I want to make sure I have all the facts before I let him know that. How do I collect that info respectfully, and then let him know that pot's a deal breaker for me without sounding really weird? [more inside]
posted by These Birds of a Feather on Sep 29, 2013 - 32 answers

Help me help my friend who had a stroke, without going crazy.

I want to know if anyone has had experience with a loved one having a stroke, and did it change them permanently or temporarily? Is his new verbal introspection stroke-related? And for caregivers of loved ones with any sort of health issue, how can I be there for him, in the way he needs me, and not end up tired and cranky (which helps NO ONE). [more inside]
posted by MoxieProxy on Aug 2, 2013 - 14 answers

How can I communicate with my boyfriend more effectively?

I don't know how to handle minor conflict with my boyfriend. Specifically, I don't know how to deal with myself when I do things wrong. I can't stop beating myself up in my head. [more inside]
posted by sockermom on Jul 29, 2013 - 33 answers

How do I tell a long-term friend that I want less of her in my life?

I have a long-term friend (25+ years.) For the most part, our friendship was a good one, but in the past 7 to 8 years, it's become a source of stress for me. I've tried talking with her about this, but she appears to be in denial and dismisses what I say, so nothing gets resolved, and the vicious cycle repeats. Because of our history, and my relationships with her children, parents, and brother, I don't want to cut her off completely, but I want less of her in my life. I've got to deal with this, but I don't know how. [more inside]
posted by matrushka on Jul 29, 2013 - 10 answers

Australian university without classes?

Is there an external professional/creative communication undergraduate program with no class interaction at any Australian university? [more inside]
posted by paleyellowwithorange on Jul 10, 2013 - 9 answers

Well, this still sucks

So my best friend has ovarian cancer. And we're in our "out of the frying pan, into the fire" moment because she's stage 4 and shit's already going poorly. How do I tell my kid? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa on May 27, 2013 - 22 answers

Focus Interruptus

I'm in a new relationship, long distance. We skype almost daily. Often, mid-convo, I can tell his attention is on something else. Turns out he's flipping through Reddit. This makes me feel hurt, b/c he's not listening to me. When I suggest we end the convo and talk the next day, he says, "No, no! I'm done! I'm done!" Then I feel like a nagging mom, policing his behavior. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by enzymatic on May 24, 2013 - 46 answers

talking about gender in short term dating relationship

Any advice on how to discuss emotionally loaded social issues without pushing buttons? [more inside]
posted by The Noble Goofy Elk on May 4, 2013 - 40 answers

Help me tell my BFF to shut up, in the nicest of ways.

My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat on Apr 28, 2013 - 26 answers

Help me respond constructively to my brother!

My older brother (in his 50s) posted something on FB regarding the Steubenville rape case, which was: [more inside]
posted by HopperFan on Mar 17, 2013 - 52 answers

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