My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside.
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posted by ElectricGoat
on Apr 28, 2013 -
26 answers
My older brother (in his 50s) posted something on FB regarding the Steubenville rape case, which was:
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posted by HopperFan
on Mar 17, 2013 -
52 answers
I have feelings for another woman that I have no intention of ever acting on, and my current relationship seems doomed because of it. Help.
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posted by zeek321
on Mar 8, 2013 -
78 answers
Help me Metafilter! I need cognitive and/or behavioral hacks to better deal with someone whose anxiety/self-esteem issues tend to make every conversation into a battle.
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posted by celtalitha
on Feb 28, 2013 -
30 answers
I have to have a relationship talk tonight with a new person in my life. It's going to be stressful but I think it's going to be okay. How do I not cry? I have a tendency to get choked up and cry during certain types of discussions where I feel vulnerable. (It even happens at work, but that's another AskMe.) What do I do? Should I just issue a warning before we talk?
posted by summer sock
on Feb 22, 2013 -
10 answers
My partner is a new psychotherapist and I think his training is getting in the way of how we communicate. Is there some way to make it clear that I'd like him to knock it off, or Is there some other way I ought to be thinking about this?
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posted by It's a Parasox
on Feb 9, 2013 -
25 answers
What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new?
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posted by toerinishuman
on Feb 3, 2013 -
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Can you help me to better distinguish cheery lovebird songs vs. the squawks of ailing canaries in my dating coal mine?
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posted by argonauta
on Jan 30, 2013 -
89 answers
I am in a really amazing relationship after a long, bad one. It is mutually supportive, caring, engaging, and honest—loving, in the best, most positive way. We never fight. This confuses me, and I need some reality-checking and standards for how normal good relationships are supposed to work.
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posted by sockpuppet yo
on Jan 22, 2013 -
23 answers
I broke up with my then-fiancée in September 2012. What is the appropriate amount of contact after a break-up? I've struggled with finding a good balance. Give me some advice for the next go-round.
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posted by mellosphere
on Jan 8, 2013 -
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How much should we be talking about our feelings for each other? I love him, and I think he loves me...
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 12, 2012 -
9 answers
Help me, I get frustrated and it's not helpful. I want to find a better way to act to relationship communication frustrations. Snowflakes inside
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posted by couchdive
on Dec 12, 2012 -
13 answers
I'm in a long-distance cross-cultural relationship with the love of my life. Unfortunately we're having communication issues that are hurting us both. Please help.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 5, 2012 -
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Help me understand what’s going on in my relationship and to set appropriate boundaries. My boyfriend’s possibly depressed behavior is triggering my feelings of abandonment/insecurity and I want to know how to support him through this without getting taken advantage of.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 4, 2012 -
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I'm a terrible communicator in relationships. If we're talking about feelings, I freeze up and can't say the simplest of things. How can I get past this?
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posted by sockypuppeteer
on Oct 30, 2012 -
11 answers
In what ways are you diplomatic and tactful in your relationship? What areas do you tread lightly and how do you do that? How do you use persuasion in your relationship to get what you want?
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posted by 3491again
on Aug 1, 2012 -
27 answers
Please help me figure out what I should have done differently in this argument with my boyfriend. It gets long, sorry.
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posted by guessthis
on Jul 18, 2012 -
74 answers
Needs and Boundaries: What is the space between "I suppose I can let this go" and "this is an utter dealbreaker; do this thing or I'll have to end this relationship" - and what do you do about negotiating things in that space?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 14, 2012 -
27 answers
I need some advice on how to communicate better with my dad and hopefully improve our relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2012 -
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The recovering addict and the… sports addict? Is this level of interest in sports normal? How can I not take the backseat to sports, while remaining considerate of his feelings as he deals with me dealing with multiple health issues?
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posted by overyourhead
on Mar 15, 2012 -
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I recently reestablished contact with an ex-girlfriend that I haven't spoken to for many years. a few polite emails went back and forth, but i was hoping for so much more...
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posted by camdan
on Jan 21, 2012 -
32 answers
New relationship - how and when do I bring up the "serious" relationship conversations?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 12, 2012 -
16 answers
How do you connect with people? How do you reach out to someone you're interested in getting to know better to let them know you're interested in them as a person (with or without romantic potential).
I suffer from a bit of social anxiety and shyness so I tend to feel extremely awkward in approaching opportunities for one-on-one interaction.
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posted by myShanon
on Jan 9, 2012 -
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In July, I entered my only FWB relationship. I started catching feelings, and he decided he couldn't reciprocate. He came back into my life on New Year's Eve wanting more. HOWEVER, I have found out some things that have inspired my current run for the hills (irrelevant as it may be, the nitty-gritty is inside). How do I tell him that I know the truth? Or, should I just go cold turkey on communication?
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posted by acertainseason
on Jan 4, 2012 -
26 answers
What are some questions I can ask new dating partners to get to know them beyond a superficial level?
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posted by oceanview
on Oct 25, 2011 -
24 answers
Follow up to this question: What are productive ways to be mad or frustrated with an SO? I want to honor my feelings and work through them properly, but I also really want to keep moving forward with my guy, too.
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posted by iLoveTheRain
on Oct 4, 2011 -
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I suck at having productive conversations about "heavy" stuff with my significant others, and as such, my current-SO and I are on a break because neither of us know how to work with each other when we're having problems. I want to be better. How?
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posted by iLoveTheRain
on Sep 25, 2011 -
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My boyfriend and I want different things from our social lives. How can we make it work?
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posted by guessthis
on Sep 9, 2011 -
20 answers
I forgot to tell my boyfriend that I am going out of the country for vacation. I leave in a week. How can I tell him without hurting his feelings?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 8, 2011 -
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I've been hanging out with my boyfriend for around 7 months (I'm female). He's really sweet, and we get along really well. I stay at his place a couple of times a week (more or less) and on weekends. His place only, since he lives alone and near things, and I live with roommates and further away from stuff. We're both in our 40s. I was single for an incredibly long time before hooking up with him (although occasionally having sex with various casual hookups), he's been in and out of relationships pretty regularly. We sleep together and spoon all night, sometimes he's all over me, and vice versa, and we kiss and cuddle an awful lot. But no sex. None.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 17, 2011 -
33 answers
I think I may have just blown the opportunity to build a relationship with someone really awesome. Help me to not repeat this in the future.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 15, 2011 -
54 answers
Occasionally, my boyfriend makes remarks about womankind that I find sexist and hurtful. Last night, I called him out on such a remark. Was I overreacting? How should I handle this the next time it happens?
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posted by anonymous
on May 31, 2011 -
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How do I explain to people the aftermath of what is probably due to mono? People (family, cute girls) keep brushing off my physical symptoms when I try to concisely explain that, even though I'm infinitely better than I was a couple months ago, my energy fuel tank still empties suddenly and unpredictably, and then I feel awful, freezing, aching, dizzy, and extremely sick until I sleep it off?
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posted by zeek321
on Feb 1, 2011 -
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Fell for someone, thought it was over and started to move on, now maybe it isn't?? Lots of complexities and juicy details inside (long, naturally)
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 22, 2011 -
10 answers
We all hear about too little communication during dating and a relationship. How about the reverse? Help me assert my need for less communication in a new friendship/potential relationship.
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posted by patronuscharms
on Dec 5, 2010 -
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Star cross'd lovers facing another hurdle - can I convince him it's worth it to keep trying?
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posted by lizbunny
on Dec 2, 2010 -
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Last night I called my boyfriend, completely distraught and partially crying. He said he'd call me back, but he never did. He went to a party instead. I feel completely unimportant to him. Am I being too sensitive?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 1, 2010 -
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My partner has a wild sexual history and would like to incorporate threesomes into our sex life. I am not comfortable with this idea at all. Do these sort of discrepancies point to some sort of sexual incompatibility? (Many more details insides . . . NSFW.)
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posted by fignewton
on Jun 24, 2010 -
50 answers
Developing new dialogue strategies in a relationship. Established, late 30s couple seeking hive mind advice on changing the way we speak to each other on important subjects.
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posted by Funmonkey1
on Apr 30, 2010 -
14 answers
I want to say "I love you", but I'm not sure if it's just force of habit. "I'm a special snowflake" and mild NSFW details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 20, 2010 -
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My girlfriend feels sorry for her ex. He contacts her several times per day, she replies because she feels sorry for him. I am paranoid... should I learn to relax?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 7, 2010 -
56 answers
