I've been married for a few more than 10 years. For most of that time, I did not really listen to my wife or honor her goals and desires for our life together. Starting in 2012, I have made a change in my attitude and actions, and we are communicating and making significant progress in our relationship. If it were just making the current state of affairs good, I think we're on a good track and we'd be ok. My question is: How do I make up for the previous ~10 years? If you want to email: accommodatee@mail.com. Thanks in advance for any advice, here or via email.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 20, 2013 -
30 answers
This is a question for those of you who are married (or have an SO): When it comes to things like personal correspondence, is there still such a thing as privacy?
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posted by Telpethoron
on Feb 2, 2013 -
65 answers
I think I've made a huge mistake. I'm newly married - only 3 months, but my husband is showing me facets of his personality that do not sit well with me. He seems to have anger issues. Nothing physical, but I need help making sense of it all, and I can't talk to him without him getting extremely defensive.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 21, 2012 -
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Rather out of the blue, my husband of 7 years brought up the baby question, about 5 years after our last conversation on the topic. I came back to him later that evening with one "neutral" (and sufficient) class of reasons why I was not interested in forming another babby: I don't want to give up my current freedoms to go back to the baby/preschooler parenting lifestyle. But behind that there is a big pile of more emotionally charged reasons that I didn't mention, and I don't know if I should.
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posted by drlith
on Aug 15, 2012 -
38 answers
I feel like my marriage is falling apart. It's not because we don't love each other, but I don't know what to do.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 21, 2012 -
37 answers
I'm trying to convince my wife to attend marriage counselling with me, but I'm having a hard time doing so. Her opinion of marriage counselling (based on what she's read online) is that it's a waste of money and that a marriage counsellor would "only tell us what we already know." When I've pointed out that a marriage counsellor is there to help facilitate communication, her response has been "if we need a facilitator to help us communicate we're fucked anyway."
Reasons for needing counselling + bonus snowflakery inside. Apologies; it turned into a bit of a mind-dumpy wall of text.
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posted by anonymous
on May 21, 2012 -
21 answers
I love my boyfriend very much. We have a wonderful relationship and I would like to get married. We would both like to get married. We've talked about it, and agreed that we share this goal. Yay! However, we have very different ideas about when to get engaged. I want to shout it from the rooftops, but he wants "more time". Please help me understand his reasons for waiting to make our intentions official and public.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 13, 2011 -
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How do I improve communication with my wife given a history of anger issues, bad assumption, and best of intentions on both sides?
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posted by Koffeeman
on Dec 26, 2010 -
50 answers
My husband falls asleep in front of the TV four or five nights a week. He says this is the only way he can get to sleep. I hate sleeping alone and this has become a Big Issue. Should I let this go and if not, how can I communicate more effectively?
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posted by fantoche
on Sep 10, 2010 -
49 answers
Our household income has been cut in half in the last six months and although we theoretically have enough money to get buy, we keep running out. We're really bad at this. Help? (details inside)
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posted by threeturtles
on Aug 21, 2010 -
36 answers
Any suggestions for a pre-marital counselor in Chicago? My fiance and I are doing a church wedding, and we are doing the Catholic pre-Cana requirements, but we actually think our church's requirements are too...minimal.
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posted by bibbit
on Mar 10, 2009 -
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I need help understanding how my hyper-smart geek husband's brain works. I want to give him the understanding he craves but am having a hard time inhabiting his plane.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 24, 2008 -
61 answers
How to ask for a divorce after 26 years of marriage? I want to do it in a way that causes as little pain as possible, and makes room for as much constructive problem-solving as possible.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 19, 2008 -
23 answers
Money is difficult. I'm familiar with
Your Money or Your Life, "pay yourself first", Quicken,
The Tightwad Gazette, etc. but my money problems seem to be intertwined with a lot of relationship stuff that is hard to unravel.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 8, 2006 -
45 answers
My identical twin sister is getting married in September. I'm throwing her a party for the foreign relatives that can't attend in June.
After that June party I'll be visiting a long time dear friend from the 'net to see how we get along, and if it works out I'll be moving there in September.
The problem is, my sister doesn't approve of what I am doing - in a very patronizing and closed minded way - and I am honour bound to celebrate her wedding and be supportive and positive, without regard to her attitude about my joyous event.
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posted by anonymous
on May 5, 2005 -
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Ok. I'm not a
great communicator. I need advice on how to talk to my wife of 7 years about what each of us want and if we are still compatible [mi].
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posted by pissfactory
on Jul 6, 2004 -
29 answers
What do you do when your spouse/partner/significant other is just being plain weird? Or rather, when (s)he's not being overtly bizarre, but is setting off your spider-sense all the damn time? [more inside]
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posted by LittleMissCranky
on Mar 5, 2004 -
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