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"You can't handle the truth!" But I need to learn how to...

Last week, my partner admitted that he's been not just hiding things, but outright lying to me. The revelations hurt, but I need honesty if we're to stay together. How do I make it safe for my partner to tell me the truth when it's repeatedly been so startling and upsetting? Difficulty level: partner is dealing with Major Depression, and has been near-suicidal. [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Apr 17, 2015 - 54 answers

How do I communicate better when I'm about to, erm, get my freak on?

Exactly as it says on the tin. How do, without faking it, I be more upfront about my dating/sexual inexperience with my potential partners, and when? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 10, 2015 - 21 answers

Help me rescue my knitting from the neighbors' yard!

A knitting project I had pinned out on my roof blew down into my neighbors' walled-off backyard. I don't think he understands what happened. I want it back ASAP. What's the best and fastest way to make my intentions clear and get my project back? [more inside]
posted by ActionPopulated on Apr 3, 2015 - 33 answers

Kindly telling someone you're not interested in a closer friendship?

How can you politely tell an acquaintance or casual friend that you don't want to be better friends, when they apparently can't take a hint, and you know you'll continue to see them? [more inside]
posted by aldebaran on Mar 19, 2015 - 48 answers

How do I take the first step to resolving a conflict in my band?

I've been playing music with four others, and I communicate well with all of them, except one. It's getting to the point where I'm stressing about it, feeling apprehensive and sad, and ultimately walking on eggshells around the guy. I want things to get better, but I'm concerned our difficulties communicating on a day-to-day basis will be an obstacle in actually starting a conversation about how to improve things between us. [more inside]
posted by blue t-shirt on Mar 18, 2015 - 14 answers

Maybe it's just called "Being a Jerk"

So, I was wondering if there was nice, tight term for this interpersonal communication/relationship dynamic I've seen at work. Details within! [more inside]
posted by It's a Parasox on Mar 7, 2015 - 23 answers

YANML - You are not my linguist, but how do I say this?

How to ask the user for confirmation, and not get snapped at....? The service-desk edition. [more inside]
posted by alchemist on Feb 27, 2015 - 22 answers

Free publications for designers?

I design magazines and newspapers for a living. Sometimes I kinda...hit a rut...and need some inspiration. I was just wondering if anyone knew of any design/communications publications or periodicals that may supply free subscriptions to professional designers? I've got a few mag subscriptions myself, but they can be pretty expensive to keep up with, especially those with really great illustration and design. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
posted by Bwentman on Feb 6, 2015 - 7 answers

Wise or silly risk: Reconnect or let go?

What is the message in this set of mixed messages? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2015 - 21 answers

Type into a template, output an html table (for newsletter)? Help!

Hi everyone. I am responsible for sending out an email newsletter. Beyond plain text and PDFs, it has proven fiendishly difficult to come up with relatively simple formatting that is going to look the same to every recipient. I had the idea that I might be able to do it with HTML: Putting each item into one cell of a one-column table. Surely, there must be an easy way to do this? [more inside]
posted by Alaska Jack on Jan 29, 2015 - 7 answers

How to practice communicating with a SO

My SO and I are trying our hardest to communicate together, but we quickly get frustrated and have low patience. My SO frequently doesn't understand me when I say something/give instructions, even though I feel I am very clear. What are exercises we can do that will help us practice communicating with each other without getting frustrated? [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle on Jan 20, 2015 - 31 answers

What we have here is...

I have a yearly performance review coming up. I need help addressing worsening communication issues. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2015 - 24 answers

Perfect storm of familial dysfunctionality--need solutions for sanity

Family dynamics are slowly driving me up the wall, but I can't bear to let things wind destructively. How can I cope without being caught in the storm? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2015 - 13 answers

I will give you space until it comes out of your ears

It's early days in our relationship yet, and I like this guy tremendously, but his communication practices are driving me up the wall. Am I being too demanding or do I have some basis for feeling neglected? more flakey snowflakeness inside [more inside]
posted by starcrust on Dec 9, 2014 - 42 answers

Transitioning to a Long Distance Relationship with limited connectivity?

ProfMiasma, my partner for over two years (cohabitating for 9+ months), is going off to do fieldwork in West Africa for the next 1.5 years. For the first 6 months, she'll be "in the bush" with limited access to communication technology. Given this limited connectivity situation, what practices and tools can we use to make the best of our long-distance relationship situation? (More Details Inside) [more inside]
posted by miasma on Dec 7, 2014 - 15 answers

Curiouser and curiouser

I would like to be more curious about my fellow human beings. Curious people, how do you approach conversations with people you don't know? [more inside]
posted by ontheradio on Dec 3, 2014 - 12 answers

No I'm not interested in saving energy dammit!

I'm looking for a TED Talk about people who bring things to the party vs. leeches, both on line and in the real world (I'm pretty sure I got the link here). Now I'd REALLY like to refer someone to it but I can't, for the life of me, find it. And that makes me sad. [more inside]
posted by Kid Charlemagne on Dec 3, 2014 - 5 answers

Gettin' it on

How have you reconciled differing sex drives? [more inside]
posted by little beast on Nov 26, 2014 - 11 answers

Why is this site in English and Dutch?

In the past, I've seen that sometimes English is interspersed with another language on certain websites. This site, however, has English titles to their posts, but most everything else is in Dutch. Why? [more inside]
posted by dozo on Nov 26, 2014 - 8 answers

How can I stop fretting about standard communications with friends?

I spend way too much time worrying about the way my friends communicate with me -- specifically, I worry that any delay in response time means that they're angry or annoyed with me, or, even more dramatically, that they don't want me around anymore. I wonder if there are any good ways to talk myself out of this. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by holborne on Nov 10, 2014 - 10 answers

It's Breaking, if not Broken: Can I fix it?

My partner confessed to entertaining the idea of moving out, because living with me has been difficult of late and it's starting to hurt them. Is there any way back from this? [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Nov 10, 2014 - 13 answers

Help me find the words

I'm exploring career possibilities and wondering if what I want to do has a name. I'll explain inside. [more inside]
posted by miaow on Nov 2, 2014 - 4 answers

Is this a therapy deal breaker or something I can salvage?

What do you do when a problem you've been trying to work through with other people in life suddenly becomes a problem with your therapist, too? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger on Oct 28, 2014 - 37 answers

friend is late to plans 95% of the time

How to handle issues regarding a friend who is typically late to nearly all our plans? [more inside]
posted by bananaskin on Oct 19, 2014 - 46 answers

Help my son feel comfortable with lifeguarding

My son (16yo) completed a one week lifeguarding course but did not do the assessment. He's excellent in the water, but really uncomfortable doing the speaking to casualties side of it, especially the role play that has to be done as part of the assessment. Do you have any tips for him to either help him feel comfortable enough to do the assessment, or any other words of advice? We're in the UK and he'll also be reading your answers. Thanks for any help!
posted by mgrrl on Oct 16, 2014 - 8 answers

Photo management?

I need a photo management system that allows me to tag and search photos, but I'd rather it NOT be web-based. I don't really know what to look for. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz on Oct 13, 2014 - 14 answers

Out of office, all the time

My boss travels 300+ days per year, often to countries in which internet and phone connections are unreliable or nonexistent. Communication is often bursty, sporadic, at odd hours, and tinged with anxiety. How can I better manage expectations and limit stress for both of us? [more inside]
posted by a bird, it's a bird on Oct 13, 2014 - 14 answers

FWB Becoming More - Complications

Me, female, late 20's. Him, male, early 30's. Recently moved in together and became more serious. Then, we both apparently crossed some boundaries into less fun, more complicated territory. How would you deal? Lots of details behind cut. [more inside]
posted by camylanded on Oct 7, 2014 - 16 answers

Communicate, communicate, communicate

I have a new project at work which involves increasing public understanding of my industry. I've got some info on how other people in my industry have done this, but I'd like to look wider than that. I've had some luck googling "science communication" and "public understanding of science" - what other industries/sectors might be relevant? I'd also love recommendations for good articles, blogs, or even examples of good communication which make something accessible without over-simplifying the story.
posted by ontheradio on Oct 6, 2014 - 5 answers

Marriage hacks

You used to have a good, stable marriage. Now you have a fantastic marriage -- the kind of marriage where you are happy to wake up in the morning and see your spouse. How did you get to that point? [more inside]
posted by Librarypt on Oct 3, 2014 - 32 answers

How do gf and I deal with different approaches to irritation and anger?

Our relationship is mostly great, but we disagree about the appropriateness of expressing irritation and anger at your partner. She can be outbursty, and I can be over-sensitive, so we might bicker, and then fight about the fighting, and we're trying to break the cycle. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2014 - 55 answers

You're making me justify all the things

My SO has a tendency to ask a lot of mundane questions that make me feel defensive. Please help be less bothered by this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 25, 2014 - 78 answers

Secrets, privacy, fibs or lies?

My partner frequently tells small lies. They also keep certain things secret, including behaviors they deem private. This is a lifelong strategy that long precedes me, and in many ways, has nothing to do with me, however, it drives me up the fucking wall. [more inside]
posted by socks-o-neurosis on Sep 15, 2014 - 30 answers

"I don't know, what do you want to do?"

Help me break the decision-making stalemate. Partner and I are in committed multi-year relationship. One of the places we struggle communication-wise is in decision-making, especially when neither of us have a strong preference (for example, "what do you want for dinner" or "should we go out for breakfast tomorrow?". When this happens, several things may happen: My partner will parry my question back to me "do you have any preferences?" (and if/when I don't, nothing is resolved), one of us will say "I don't really care, whatever you want", or we will stalemate in an "I don't know, what do you want to do" loop. As you can probably imagine, this makes for super frustrating interaction. Does anyone with experience with this have any advice on breaking this particular pattern?
posted by anonymous on Sep 4, 2014 - 35 answers

Define "forceful".

Several different managers have told me that I need to develop a "more forceful" persona. I'm trying to work out exactly what this means. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ontheradio on Aug 21, 2014 - 16 answers

Immigrant parents won't drop the subject of their former country, help

It's been 32 year since they immigrated to this country, but pretty much the one and only thing my family ever talks about is the home country, and it drives me crazy. I can't change them, but I could probably handle it better. Details and the plea for help within. [more inside]
posted by tumbleweedjack on Aug 15, 2014 - 31 answers

Communication between two hypersensitive, beanplating marshmallows

My boyfriend and I both hate making each other feel bad. Does this mean we can't talk about things that aren't going well? He in particular feels very hurt when I bring up things that are bothering me. [more inside]
posted by segfault on Aug 12, 2014 - 22 answers

How do i deal with my boyfriends distance and communication issues?

My boyfriend cancels so often on our dates, and we haven't had sex even though we have been together for half a year, which makes me think he could have a sexual problem or is afraid of getting close to me. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by palomago on Aug 10, 2014 - 59 answers

Can one learn to enjoy and thrive in social interactions?

Is there any way to learn how to communicate like a normal human being? [more inside]
posted by the ghost of so and so on Jul 22, 2014 - 7 answers

How can you recognize a secure person if you’re insecure?

Am I ruining a great relationship with my anxiety or am I anxious because my relationship is not great? Is there a way to tell the difference between irrational anxiety and alarm bells? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2014 - 9 answers

What conversations should we have before living in sin?

Dear hive mind, please suggest items for a checklist of issues/expectations/questions to discuss with my significant other before we shack up next month! I was reading this question and saw that many people felt that they would never move in with a partner before discussing their finances with a certain level of detail. I would love to know what other rules of thumb people have about establishing a mutual understanding, financially, emotionally, housework-wise, etc. before cohabiting. Possibly relevant details inside. [more inside]
posted by erstwhile ungulate on Jul 17, 2014 - 30 answers

Phone etiquette experts: How to be polite when sound quality sucks?

When I'm on the (cell) phone with another person, and I'm not able to hear what they are saying clearly, I get stuck. For persistent low-quality voice calls (i.e. when "can you talk a little louder" isn't the solution and "can you repeat that?" doesn't help), what can I do or say that doesn't make me look like an incompetent, impatient jerk? [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot on Jul 16, 2014 - 14 answers

Is it possible to fix self-esteem issues from within a relationship?

A common theme on AskMeFi is that a person should be able to take care of themselves first before they can be ready to establish and maintain a healthy relationship. What if the relationship itself is the driver of positive personal growth? And what if that process has been kind of painful so far? [more inside]
posted by sockitysock on Jul 14, 2014 - 17 answers

Help me find perspective, is my relationship half-full or half-empty?

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 3 years now, but it seems like we can't seem to find a good "groove". We're satisfied in the relationship for a while and then we get into petty fights and don't resolve them. I thought I was happy with him and really enjoyed his company. However, it's been more and more stressful and I need help figuring out if I've checked out for a while, or if the relationship has run its course. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2014 - 17 answers

Environmental depression

I need help dealing with my anxiety over climate change. I need help figuring out how I can help. It's a bit more complex than that, but not much. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 13, 2014 - 31 answers

Family suicide complicated by lack of communication: is it ADHD?

My husband’s cousin recently killed himself. The sadness we feel is colored by intense anger at my husband’s mother, who never communicated what was going on with the cousin - or that he had moved to a city we visit frequently. Could "forgetting" to mention or misrepresenting major family information/news be a byproduct of ADHD? Yes, there's more inside... [more inside]
posted by mitschlag on Jul 3, 2014 - 38 answers

Financials and Relationships

I quit my job about a year ago. Through a mixture of savings , part-time jobs I have managed to stay afloat. My girlfriend's birthday will be coming up next month and has asked me to fly with her to Paris. I would love to join her but believe my financial situation is not up to snuff. How do I communicate this in a manner that is positive for the both of us? Complicating factors below. [more inside]
posted by The1andonly on Jun 27, 2014 - 40 answers

How would Don Draper pull this off?

If Don Draper were a graphic designer, how would he convince a client that his job was indispensable? Any examples on how he handled condescending clients? [more inside]
posted by cyrusw8 on Jun 25, 2014 - 10 answers

Should I say what I need to say?

Stuck on someone, but things got weird and awkward. Would it be a good idea to open up and just let this person know how I feel about them? Wall o' text commences... [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Jun 25, 2014 - 16 answers

Whitewashing a sociopath's actions

My BIL is a sociopath. We don't deal with him. But the parents still do. Therein lies the problem... [more inside]
posted by lost_lettuce on Jun 18, 2014 - 24 answers

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