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Is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) bunk?

Hi all. A close friend is starting therapy with a therapist "certified in Client Focused Therapy and in ACT (Acceptance and Committment Therapy)". I'm a bit worried for her - what is the medical consensus on ACT? Is it bunk? Are there any resources I can direct her towards? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2014 - 9 answers

Perspective on the idea of "growing apart" in a long term commitment?

I recently started seeing someone new, who happens to be the first person I've dated who's divorced. When he told me that he was divorced, he said they "grew apart," after over a decade of marriage, though he also indicated that his ex-wife didn't feel that way, and didn't want to get divorced. I had the sense (though this was a brief conversation, and we're just getting to know each other) that he didn't necessarily *try* to fix things. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2014 - 26 answers

How can you recognize a secure person if you’re insecure?

Am I ruining a great relationship with my anxiety or am I anxious because my relationship is not great? Is there a way to tell the difference between irrational anxiety and alarm bells? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2014 - 9 answers

Help me find perspective, is my relationship half-full or half-empty?

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 3 years now, but it seems like we can't seem to find a good "groove". We're satisfied in the relationship for a while and then we get into petty fights and don't resolve them. I thought I was happy with him and really enjoyed his company. However, it's been more and more stressful and I need help figuring out if I've checked out for a while, or if the relationship has run its course. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2014 - 17 answers

Such a tough space. Please give me some hope.

Please help me to stop comparing my relationship to others. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 8, 2014 - 32 answers

Save me from my dumb brain

How can I stop thinking about the woman who broke my heart? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2014 - 15 answers

Stick it out or move on from this unequal relationship?

I'm in a relationship with wonderful woman (4 months) who I am falling for but should I break it off now because it's unequal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2013 - 16 answers

How can I give romantic relationships a different place in my life?

How can I give romantic relationships a different place in my life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2012 - 24 answers

How do I love better?

I really don't want to end up alone. What can I start doing to break this generational cycle? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2012 - 12 answers

Are we wrong for each other or too scared to try?

My partner and I feel comfortable and safe in our relationship, and we feel love for one another. But we are sexually unfulfilled, and to a smaller extent emotionally and/or intellectually troubled. How do we know whether to break up or to work at it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2012 - 20 answers

#NotThankful for your seemingly endless bliss and my resulting jealousy. Or your dumb twitter #hashtag.

When you're in a long term relationship or marriage, how do you deal with feelings of jealousy of other couples seemingly endless "honeymoon phase"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2011 - 38 answers

What am I doing wrong in my relationships?

Why do my relationships enter the LET'S MAKE THIS A SERIOUS COMMITMENT I WANT TO SPEND MY LIFE WITH YOU stage at an absurdly rapid pace? I used to think this was a kind of charming quirk, but my apparent inability to slow things down in order to determine the suitability of my partner has begun to concern me a bit. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 7, 2011 - 31 answers

How not to people-please your way to relationship angst

How do those who tend to people-please stay honest with their feelings and needs in romantic relationships? I want to avoid becoming overwhelmed and disoriented after about half a year or so, which seems to happen again and again. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2011 - 14 answers

As we have a short life.. we have limited resources

Getting over the fear of committing time and money into a relationship if we aren't promised it will stand the test of time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 24, 2011 - 10 answers

What happens when you marry someone you love but aren't deeply "in love" with?

Have you (or someone you know well) loved someone but weren't "in love" with them (had a strong, warm, happy relationship but one that wasn't very intense, passionate, etc) and gotten married/been in a long-term partnership? Did it matter that you weren't "in love" exactly? If it led to problems, what were they? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2011 - 56 answers

Dating when 30 is like being 12 all over again. Seriously.

Need advice before I accidentally sabotage this awesome new potential relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2011 - 16 answers

How soon is too soon to start feeling restless in relationship?

Should I be concerned that my SO is already scared of feeling "trapped" because of our long-term/forever potential after 2-3ish months of dating (and 7 of close friendship)? He mentioned noticing other women more than normal and equates it to feeling scared of eternal monogamy. Is this a giant red flag? Or am I picking a fight with someone willing to be honest with me about his feelings? Or both? More details inside. (anon because he and mutual friends are aware of MeFi handle) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2011 - 25 answers

Could my relationship break be temporary and successful?

My girlfriend have decided to go 'on a break'. I'm interested in hearing about how others have fared in such an arrangement. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 20, 2011 - 36 answers

No, you just have to wait...

I love my boyfriend very much. We have a wonderful relationship and I would like to get married. We would both like to get married. We've talked about it, and agreed that we share this goal. Yay! However, we have very different ideas about when to get engaged. I want to shout it from the rooftops, but he wants "more time". Please help me understand his reasons for waiting to make our intentions official and public. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2011 - 31 answers

Funny stories: some things about your long-term s.o. that once upon a time gave you anxiety attacks?

He's a silly nerd. I love him for it, but the more I find myself getting seriously attached to those things that he does, the more I find myself worrying that one day I won't be able to appreciate it as much as I do now... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2010 - 14 answers

Caught in same love trap again

What do I do about bipolar boyfriend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 29, 2010 - 16 answers

Boyfriend is scared to think about the future. Should I be patient or leave?

I'm in a new relationship that's going great, but he's scared of thinking about a future together, and we have different views on kids and marriage. Should I be patient, or is it better to cut my losses? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 23, 2010 - 27 answers

Failedpolyamoryfilter

Failedpolyamoryfilter: Help! I care for two people and I have to choose between them. What does one base a decision like this on? How do I tackle this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2010 - 26 answers

Was it too soon to ask about his feeling?

Relationship-break-up-post-mortem filter: Did I objectively screw this up or was it just a unique to the person I was with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2010 - 30 answers

Tick-tock biological clock

38. No kids. Want kids. Loving relationship. HELP! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2009 - 26 answers

Wedding commitment symbol that is not a ring?

Let's say you want to marry someone, but they don't want a ring. This would be because the person doesn't ever wear rings, not wanting to draw attention to their hands (long story, just know that hand-oriented things are out). What other options are there for a wedding token? Are there cool options from cultures that do not have the wedding ring as part of their history? Any non-hand-based suggestions are welcome.
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2009 - 38 answers

Stereotypical male, or just being cautious?

Am I that stereotypical "afraid to commit" male, or am I just being cautious about a relationship I care about? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2009 - 28 answers

How do I learn to trust myself/my partner?

Relationship over-analyzers: how did you get over the need to worry about your relationship so much? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 11, 2009 - 10 answers

So, he mentioned that he wants kids...

What does it all mean?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2009 - 13 answers

Asperger's and Fatherhood

Should I seriously consider a long-term relationship/having children with someone who seems to have a mild case of Asperger's? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2008 - 15 answers

How to address recurring doubts about a long-term relationship

In serious, long-term relationships, how have you dealt with nagging doubts? How have you sorted through those doubts and then either set them aside and committed yourself, or decided to end things? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2008 - 18 answers

Jobs that are okay to leave

What jobs are (relatively) okay to leave after a short time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2008 - 13 answers

He may be moving away geographically, should I be moving away emotionally?

Is my relationship going nowhere? And how might I go about asking him what his intentions are without freaking him out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 23, 2008 - 30 answers

everyday expressions of love

In an average relationship, how often and how intensely do people express their love for each other (in private)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 27, 2008 - 28 answers

What are the limits of couples on a break?

Should I give up getting back together with her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2008 - 34 answers

Commitment Issues

I can't commit to anything. Please help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2008 - 23 answers

Can you help a husband survive his wife's affair?

My wife had a months-long affair and I've given her another chance. Any suggestions for getting rid of these awful feelings? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2007 - 51 answers

How do I get over my fear of commitment/grass is greener syndrome?

How can I get over my fear of commitment? And what are some ways of dealing with the fear that I am somehow "settling" in this relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 8, 2007 - 34 answers

Space sucks.

Relationshipfilter: My 5month girlfriend suddenly realized she needs space to grow on her own, outside of a serious relationship. How the hell do I do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2006 - 30 answers

Cold feet--just a phase?

Can I talk my boyfriend out of cold feet? Should I even try? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2006 - 24 answers

Should I stay or should I go now?

I'm about to end what is a very good relationship overall... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2005 - 37 answers

Commitment

How do you help somoene terrified of committment get through their fears and into the relationship you think you both were meant for?

This might just be a general "what's the best way to approach someone with emotional baggage" question; be sympathetic, caring and understanding or trying to help them get over it? I know what it is that causes this for him/her but I don't know how to best make them understand I'm not trying to "fix" them when I approach it.
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2004 - 10 answers

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