I love my boyfriend dearly but am starting to doubt our long term potential. I don't know if I'm asking smart questions, or letting my inner commitment phoebe dictate my thinking.
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posted by meb123
on Apr 25, 2013 -
25 answers
Why did you break up? More specifically, you thought you found someone you're compatible with, you guys mutually made a commitment, but yet you ended up breaking up a year or two later, or later in life. What was the reason for the breakup?
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posted by never.was.and.never.will.be.
on Dec 5, 2012 -
46 answers
I feel like I'm stuck in that awkward phase of a relationship between dating and when things become serious. I'm ready for something more. I'm not sure my boyfriend is, and I'm concerned. Snowflakes abound.
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posted by erstwhile
on Oct 15, 2011 -
20 answers
Have you (or someone you know well) loved someone but weren't "in love" with them (had a strong, warm, happy relationship but one that wasn't very intense, passionate, etc) and gotten married/been in a long-term partnership? Did it matter that you weren't "in love" exactly? If it led to problems, what were they?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 22, 2011 -
56 answers
My problem is that I can't commit long term to romantic relationships. This commitment phobia automatically colors me as a bad person because the right thing to do in this society is to find that one special person and commit to them for the rest of your life. (ideally)
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posted by BettyBurnheart
on Jun 30, 2011 -
36 answers
My girlfriend have decided to go 'on a break'. I'm interested in hearing about how others have fared in such an arrangement.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 20, 2011 -
36 answers
I'm in a new relationship that's going great, but he's scared of thinking about a future together, and we have different views on kids and marriage. Should I be patient, or is it better to cut my losses?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 23, 2010 -
27 answers
I am currently dating an ex, and we've been back together for about a month now. Everything is going really well, except for the fact that I'm starting to get a little freaked out about his revelation that he thinks I'm his soul mate and that he never got over me from the last time around. Does this guy sound sweet and sincere or potentially unbalanced?
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posted by mudlark
on Oct 22, 2010 -
49 answers
First love, 7 year healthy relationship, grass is greener syndrome - how to proceed?
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posted by lichen
on Sep 2, 2010 -
39 answers
We've been going out for three months and suddenly he's starting to freak out. He's got all the symptoms of the classic cold feet you see in the movies. Our relationship is still very new but good, and loving, but he's building up all this irrational stress about being in a committed relationship is cutting off his options and he's afraid he'll hurt me because he can't trust himself if he's tempted.
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posted by sweetmarie
on Mar 17, 2010 -
25 answers
Talking Big Plans in a relationship -- how do I distinguish the excitement of approaching life for two from the prudence to not jump the gun, so to speak?
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posted by elephantsvanish
on Mar 2, 2010 -
7 answers
Let's say you want to marry someone, but they don't want a ring. This would be because the person doesn't ever wear rings, not wanting to draw attention to their hands (long story, just know that hand-oriented things are out).
What other options are there for a wedding token? Are there cool options from cultures that do not have the wedding ring as part of their history? Any non-hand-based suggestions are welcome.
posted by anonymous
on Oct 13, 2009 -
38 answers
Am I that stereotypical "afraid to commit" male, or am I just being cautious about a relationship I care about?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 18, 2009 -
28 answers
Is my relationship going nowhere? And how might I go about asking him what his intentions are without freaking him out?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 23, 2008 -
30 answers
Relationshipfilter: My 5month girlfriend suddenly realized she needs space to grow on her own, outside of a serious relationship. How the hell do I do it?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 21, 2006 -
30 answers
How do you help somoene terrified of committment get through their fears and into the relationship you think you both were meant for?
This might just be a general "what's the best way to approach someone with emotional baggage" question; be sympathetic, caring and understanding or trying to help them get over it? I know what it is that causes this for him/her but I don't know how to best make them understand I'm not trying to "fix" them when I approach it.
posted by anonymous
on Dec 11, 2004 -
10 answers
