So apparently my close friends and relatives have decided that I, an early-twenties female, am Really Damn Gay. I myself am not so sure, and seek your advice on dealing with their well-intentioned but perhaps slightly misplaced support.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 27, 2012 -
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I feel like I'm at the bottom of a deep pit, and it will take a long series of successful maneuvers to get out of the pit. Other people's lives don't seem to be pit-shaped. Help me make this pit go away.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 9, 2012 -
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I'm completely in the closet, but would like to know how to come out as a gay person of colour? I could use any sort of advice whether that's in the form of academic articles, anecdotes, words of wisdom, etc.. Also, what happens after coming out?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2012 -
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Coming out dilemma: how do you tell your traditional Chinese dad (ESL) that you're gay?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 18, 2012 -
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I think my dotted-line boss is going to come out to me as a transgendered person. The idea of introducing gender and sexuality into professional relationships is anathema to me. I will not deny her any support. I am genderqueer but don't trouble to make it obvious at work: work is a place I go to be engaged and interested, not a place for emotional entanglements. So what do I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 9, 2011 -
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Sticking a toe out of the closet: help me come out with the least amount of trauma. Who should I confide in first?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 17, 2011 -
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Woman in early 30s coming out as a lesbian for the first time in the Twin Cities. What's the city LGBT scene like? (Asking for a friend.)
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 18, 2010 -
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I'm less bisexual than I thought I was. And now I'm engaged to be married to a wonderful guy who loves me and depends on me, and realizing that I cannot sustain attraction to him for more than fleeting moments every few months. How do I minimize the damage, here?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 30, 2010 -
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My husband will probably be starting hormones and this may eventually lead to gender reassignment surgery. I fully support him, however it goes. There is a lot of advice out there for how transgendered people should tell their partners or parents, but very little for how supportive partners should tell their families. Any advice? (longer story inside)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 13, 2009 -
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Should I tell my long-term girlfriend (I'm male) that I have had sex with men in the past?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2007 -
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For the last 5 years (age 18-23), I've identified myself as a gay man. Came out to my friends and family and was living okay. Now, for the last year, I've basically come to realize I'm not gay. I've lost all attraction to men and I kinda fell for a woman. I haven't talked to anyone about it (including "her"), and am now realizing I need to come out (er, again). Any ideas how to handle it with my friends, family, and "her"? I'd obviously like to minimize the humiliation, anger, hurt, etc.
posted by anonymous
on Sep 6, 2006 -
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Gay athlete needs life advice--should I keep training at the elite level or move on and get a "real life"?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 25, 2006 -
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What are some casual ways to come out as polyamorous or as being in an open relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on May 21, 2006 -
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