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Adults who love life and have no kids: what is your lifestyle?

I'm not too excited about the "get married and have kids" or the "devote yourself completely to your job" approaches, yet these seem (to me at least) to be the two most common lifestyles that happy people report. Currently I take the "play video games and watch TV" approach, which isn't really happy-inducing for me anymore. For the rest of you out there who would consider yourselves happy, what lifestyle sustains you? What do your days look like? What do you do to keep things interesting for yourself? Thanks for your thoughts. [more inside]
posted by HumanBean on Jun 14, 2015 - 38 answers

Dealing with alcoholic mom ?

Hi. My mom really lives far away- when I am talking far away I am saying in Europe and she comes to visit twice a year in us. I love her, she is my mom but she is an alcoholic. This hurts me extremely hard because I wish I could fix her but I don't know how. So it hurts me when she drinks very high amounts of vodka. Today it was the apogee. She drank and then she started cursing me. I don't know how to deal with this. I know I am not in charge of anyone else's happiness that myself. I know I can't fix her but I am trying. I am codependent. I grew up with her being drunk all the time and I am sometimes codependent and clingy in my relationships. Do you think that has something to do with why I am clingy and needy with my bf? What should I do? Please help me cause I am lost. Should I tell my bf about my mom? I am scared he might break up with me thinking that I am part of a bad family. I am only dating him for 4 months.
posted by barexamfreak on Sep 15, 2013 - 16 answers

What to do in case of 'helicopter parents'?

I am a young adult woman living in the home she grew up in, with parents and siblings. My parents are NOT abusive - they have always provided me with a place where I felt safe and cared for. But the way they relate to me now that I've gone to college and come back has not changed since I was several years younger, and I think it's affecting me negatively. I need to figure out what my action plan is for establishing my independence, both materially and emotionally. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2013 - 78 answers

stepmom broke up with me

How can I emotionally begin to handle the end of my relationship with my ex-stepmother? This is the end of a very tangled family situation and I have no idea how to deal with it. I feel terrible. [more inside]
posted by athenadanae on Jan 11, 2012 - 35 answers

It's time for Baby Buster to leave the nest.

What can I do to help my family break out of a negative relationship cycle? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust on May 3, 2011 - 17 answers

How can I turn my unstable friend who wants to visit me down? [Redux]

So, good news and bad news about my codependent conundrum. The good news is that I've grown a backbone and I'm now willing to tell my mentally ill friend "no" about coming to visit right now. The bad news is that I've been waffling for so long, and at such a cost to his mental health, that things have gotten more complicated. I want to know: am I morally obligated to let him come at this point, and if not, what kind of excuse/explanaton can I use to let him down easy? (Really long.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 20, 2010 - 54 answers

How do you know when to stop/take a break with therapy?

When do you know it's time to stop therapy or take a break? [more inside]
posted by stormpooper on Nov 19, 2010 - 16 answers

Should I, and how do I, say "no" to my unstable friend about visiting me?

A troubled friend wants to visit with me for a couple of weeks, and is obviously very serious about it. I don't really have the time or energy to take him in, but I know his reaction won't be pretty if I say "no," and I don't know if I can handle worrying about him. (Long.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2010 - 36 answers

Calling all (former) dysfunctional codependents

How do you break the terrible cycle of mutually destructive co-dependence in romantic relationships? Can it be broken? [more inside]
posted by mondaygreens on Apr 10, 2010 - 18 answers

Why can't I stop the mope?

I'm not ultra-dependent, boyfriend and I have a healthy relationship, so why am I so bummed about moving out of his place? [more inside]
posted by thatbrunette on Jan 13, 2010 - 20 answers

How do I confront my parents about my mother's undiagnosed mental illness?

Seeking advice about how to confront parents about mom's mental illness. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 25, 2007 - 13 answers

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