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How can I tell someone they're dressed inappropriately at work?

Anonymous — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 14:35:13 -0800

An intern at work is dressing very inappropriately. Is there any way I can tell her nicely to tone it down? I'm a male attorney at a law firm. We have a law clerk who's been with us since January and is a 2nd year law student. Since the beginning, she wears tops that plung down her neckline and put her breasts on display. I'm not a prude and I think a little cleavage is fun for everyone. But, this girl is taking it a bit far.

Since she's started working with us, she's always wortn tops that show a lot more cleavage than is work appropriate. It's gotten to where when I have a research assignment for her, I have to concentrate on her face rather than her breasts. The other associates (especially the females) have been making very disparaging comments about her lately, and I feel bad for her.

I wish I could go to the managing partner, but he's a perv and would probably prefer it if the clerk came in topless every day.

Is there a diplomatic way I can speak to this clerk and let her know that her attire isn't work appropriate?

How can I stop thinking about the nasty?

Anonymous — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 11:20:46 -0800

I'm obsessed with sex. I think about it constantly. How can I make it stop? I'm 29 and still a technical virgin. I want to have sex, but can't seem to find a partner. I have had two past girlfriends, both of whom wanted to wait until marriage to have sex.

I find myself obsessed about sex. I think about it all the time. I watch porn when I get home from work. I'll stare at women's breasts and cleavage while I walk around. I hate that I do it. I've often thought about flying to Vegas and hiring a hooker, but can't bring myself to do it. I already masturbate daily, and two or three times each day on the weekend. It isn't enough.

Have any of you had success in stopping such pervasive thoughts? I'd like to stop thinking about sex, because I likely won't be getting any for a while

How do you avoid staring at cleavage?

long haired lover from liverpool — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 14:02:51 -0800

How do you avoid looking down cleavage? So I'm sitting at a desk and a colleague bends down to talk to me. Huge pendelous breasts in front of me. I try to look her in the eyes while talking but that makes me seem weird, as does peering out of the window, or at the carpet.

I'm approaching middle age and I still don't know how to deal with this! Will I ever? As far as I can tell this is just instinct.

Push my boobs in and up.

Anonymous — Sat, 03 Nov 2007 11:47:27 -0800

Help a girl get cleavage! I am a large woman: 5'4, around 200#. I have large breasts. 38DD/E. I have very comfortable work bras. They sort of separate my breasts, though - the underwire goes all the way around - and my boyfriend recently commented that he'd like to see them "more together". I'd like a bra that will push my breasts up and together, to create the "cleavage" look. I've tried a couple different kinds of bras for this effect, and while they push my breasts together, they also deform them - the material of the bra seems to cut across the middle of the breast and create a funny shape. What kind of bra do I need? I'm willing to spend up to $100. Going to a fancy shop is not possible where I live, so something online would be helpful. Thanks in advance!