My wonderfully snowflaky NPO is maybe just flaky, but seems to be turning nasty. Is some of this bullying? If so, what to do about it? Best resources for or good examples of detoxifying an email list that has turned into a cesspool? [more inside]
For a sentimental family occasion, my inlaws got me a very sweet present of some expensive jewelry-- after being told very clearly that I don't like expensive jewelry and don't really wear it. How terrible would it be (politically, ethically, relationally) if I were to return the item in question to the store? [more inside]
I've got a thank-you note to write to a friend of my parents'-- already quite late, since the gift was given early last month. Difficulty: since then, the recipient's house was damaged fairly badly by Hurricane Sandy, and she's been struggling with the aftermath. I feel like her current rough situation warrants some sort of extra gesture or comment beyond the usual thank-you boilerplate, but what might that be? [more inside]
I was nasty and petty to an unpleasant neighbor, and now I feel terrible about it. How do I improve my confrontation skills, apologize to my neighbor and stop beating myself up? Painfully self-conscious guilt fest below the fold. [more inside]
How do I keep my cool in a difficult conversation with my sister? [more inside]
Can you help me find a good working definition of civility? [more inside]
Can you please point me in the direction to some good articles/rants/books regarding the decline of civility these days in the U.S. or anywhere for that matter.
People are rude. Really. Don't say thank you, run over your feet. Don't hold doors open. If you could live anywhere, particularly where people are friendly and civil, where would that be? [more inside]