I asked the love of my life to marry me this weekend, and he said yes! But what's the best way to tell the other love of my life, my 6 year old son? [more inside]
My daughter needs to increase her vegetable intake, but refuses to eat most veggies. What recipes will allow us to disguise her vegetables in other foods? [more inside]
ASKING FOR A FRIEND: She is trying to remember the name of an old picture book that was about an invisible dog. We think it was originally published in the 30s, then re-released in the 90s at Costco as part of a set of three picture books, one of which was about a lion. [more inside]
I've been asked to sub in a Language Arts class tomorrow. I'm having a hard time coming up with fun activities. Help! [more inside]
At least once a week, when they are in public, my partner finds herself vividly anticipating that the person walking towards her will lunge at and stab her son. [more inside]
I am teaching an animation course for children and I am looking for stop motion animation shorts to show as examples in class. I am trying (without luck!) to find good shorts that are made using things like paper and paint rather than 3D claymation and puppetry. [more inside]
After a long wait a lovely friend of mine has just become foster Mummy to two children who will be staying for the foreseeable future. Yay! I'm meeting them in a couple of days and would like to bring them each a present, but I don't know what to get them. The girl is 8 and the boy is 6 and I have no clue what these age groups are into. I don't want to ask my friend as I'd like it to be a surprise (and also she'd just try and talk me out of it). So I'm asking you lovely people instead. [more inside]
My father was just given a very bleak prognosis. Of all the things that are upsetting, I am most distraught by the thought that my toddler will not remember my father. I am pregnant and there is a chance that my son (due in June) will never even meet my dad. I'm looking for advice on how to manage my sadness about this. [more inside]
My kiddo is super into pretending to be "a guard." His best friend pretends to be Queen Elsa, basically all the time, so they've decided that he's a guard who also has ice powers. His pretend guard self more accurately resembles a knight, and today when he was slaying dragons with a stick-sword, I thought, "This kid would enjoy learning about knights." But everything I know about is for older kids. What's out there for a four-year-old who loves stories and FACTS and doesn't like scary things? [more inside]
I am godmother to a lively little two-year old. Part of my relationship with her is to teach her about generosity and giving. Her birthday is coming up, and I am thinking about a birthday gift for this year, I wanted to ask you: what are some concrete ways I can contribute to this aspect of her growth? [more inside]
I need help figuring out the best ways to explain separation/divorce to my extremely precocious 6 year old. I'm hoping that this process can be as compassionate as possible all around, but the idea that I'm "ruining her life" by considering ending our marriage is plaguing me. Books, anecdotes, what you told your kids, etc - anything would be helpful. [more inside]
I have an 8-year old who knows all the good swear words and understands on some level that it's not appropriate for him to use them most of the time. I'm struggling to give him some principled guidelines for using swear words. [more inside]
I have a three-and-a-half-year-old that thinks noodles are the condiment, and ultra-strong soy sauce the main dish. We give her something like a tablespoon full or two of it with her noodles. The thing is, soy sauce is alcoholic. [more inside]
What are good strategies for helping an anxious first or second grader deal with their anxiety.
So my wife, myself and my daughter are going to Hawaii on Monday (yay!). But its a 5-6 hour flight that takes off right around 7am which is when the little girl normally wakes up (boo!). What are some good ways to occupy a generally good natured toddler who can walk but not yet talk or appreciate things like movies? [more inside]
Our lives are crazy right now, and we have a few moves and big changes coming up. How can I make this easier on my small toddler? [more inside]
I'm looking for instances of kids pointing out the hypocrisy of grownup society/adult etiquette, or questioning the reasoning of their elders. The funnier the anecdote, the better -- especially when the kid has a point. [more inside]
Why do my baby's diapers breakdown at daycare but not everywhere else? [more inside]
My sister thinks it's time her children knew about the fact that my husband and I are separated. I agree, but we disagree about how to approach it. I would appreciate some objective hivemind advice please, as I have no idea if I'm being unreasonable or not. Lots of text, advance apologies. [more inside]
Can the Hive Mind help me in brainstorming the perfect family homestead? [more inside]
I have a kind, sweet, beautiful, smart ADHD-PI (primarily inattentive) daughter. She's almost 11 and in 5th grade. However, homework is the land of pain... [more inside]
I'm trying to find a film that was shown to me when I was in first grade in 1976. It was a stop-motion animation film that was about a situation where all the men live on one island and all the women live on another island. They attempt to come together, but there is the difficulty of getting from one island to the other to contend with. The look of the film was like Gumby - it may have been claymation, but I'm not sure. Any ideas?
I was incredibly touched to learn that my goddaughter has decided that in lieu of a birthday party she's inviting all of her guests to a local book repository to sort, sticker, and bag books destined for low-income families. I love this and want to do something for her birthday to help encourage more of this kind of thing in the future. Help me choose from some options or suggest something else: [more inside]
My wife and I are trying to make up our minds about having children. We're between 30 and 35 years old, well-off, living a comfortable life and with good familial support networks. She's off hormonal contraception as of recently through a mutual decision, but nothing's set in stone yet. We're both anxious and uncertain and trying to deal with it, together as well as separately. Personally, I now feel like I have a loaded gun between my legs. People who were in my situation and made a choice one way or the other, or you who are in my situation now, I'd appreciate your input. [more inside]
My five-year-old gets really sad, every single night, about the fact that he has to sleep alone. How can we help him? [more inside]
I'm looking for decoration ideas for a children's grave. [more inside]
My child memorized all the states through this song "Fifty Nifty United States" Are there other songs that where you can memorize useful/ education lists? you know, for kids...
Should I let my 8-year-old onto any public Minecraft servers? [more inside]
Looking for a bag that can hold my dSLR plus everything I need for a day hike with small children. [more inside]
I graduated from college a while ago and have been trying to figure out what to do with my life ever since. While idly combing through job postings I found a few looking for a babysitter and thought "I could do that... maybe." I'm looking for advice on how to turn that tentative "maybe" into something more confident. [more inside]
My direct manager is having an open house / work-related party tonight (the 30th) and he has invited me and most of the department. We are planning on bringing a small 'host' gift, i.e. flowers or chocolates. Since it is so close to Christmas my wife thinks that we should also bring a small gift for each of my manager's two children (~6 and ~2 years old). I'm unsure whether this would be seen as 'sucking up' or if this is a good idea. [more inside]
I'll be in Boston with my kids for one day (two nights) in February. They're ages 8 and 12. Too old for the Children's Museum, too young to be set free to wander on their own. What should we do? [more inside]
My (hypothetical) offspring will know a level of privilege and wealth early on in their lives that... frankly, blows my mind. How do I make sure that my kids grow up to understand the nuances of poverty, affluence, and everything in between? [more inside]
I was legally raised but mostly neglected by a single mother who spent most of her time trying to find a husband, going to clubs, the racetrack and otherwise leaving me to my own devices since I was old enough to use a microwave oven safely. I moved 6 hours away as soon as I was able and now only see her once a year, but it's the worst few days of every year. While I believe that people do the best they can, with competent help I came to realize that I actually don't like my mother. And that's okay. I don't respect her choices and I don't like the black cloud she brings to every phone conversation and in-person visits. Pure and simple, she's a nasty, unpleasant person. [more inside]
At what point in the long, slow, steady decline of a marriage with young children does "we should keep trying to work things out, if only for the kids" become "for the kids' sake, we shouldn't be together"? [more inside]
We are friends with a family that has a 6-year-old boy and a 2-year-old girl. I was thinking it might be nice to give them an experience-based gift this year instead of stuff. What are some good things that we can do with them and also take their mom and dad along? [more inside]
We have a 3 year old that doesn't sleep through the night yet. A good night is a single wakeup, a bad night is 3 or 4. I thought by the age of 2 they generally start to sleep consistently. Any pointers to get there? Is "crying it out" really the only option?
Basically by accident my kid is about to earn a large chunk of money. How much should we let him keep, how much should be saved, etc.? [more inside]
Our otherwise delightful six-year-old daughter has begun to tell an increasing number of lies over the past 6-7 months. The lies tend toward the lazy, (e.g., "yeah, I've already done my homework") rather than malicious or fantastical, but the frequency and ease with which she dashes them off is alarming -- as is her increased propensity for fabricating more elaborate tales. I know some lying by kids is to be expected (I certainly was no saint at that age), but do any parents out there have any winning strategies to help deal with this? [more inside]
When my daughter was born my partner and I decided not to do the Santa lie but this year (she's five and a half) she is really upset about it all now that she's picking up on other people's beliefs. What do you say about beliefs when it's the rest of the world who did this to your kid? [more inside]
I love books with flaps, windows, tabs, slides, wheels and other clever ways of interacting with the reader. Fortunately for me, I also have 2 small children, currently ages 1 and 4, who also love lift-the-flap books. But we need more. MORE FLAPS. [more inside]
What's a good source for a used iPad and what should I be looking for when I shop for my 6-year old? [more inside]
I am a bookmobile librarian and the majority of my patrons are kids wanting chapter books. I have a variety of series that I try to keep current: The Littles, Junie B, Magic Tree, Goosebumps, Hank the Cowdog, Flat Stanley, Warriors, Star Wars, American Girl, Rainbow Fairies. Are there any other series you would suggest? Thanks a bunch hivemind!
My foster kids are 7 and 8. I recently turned over my Thinkpad X40 (running Debian) for their exclusive use. It is old and underpowered, but they're loving "their" computer. I installed GCompris and the Tux4Kids suite (TuxMath, TuxPaint, TuxType), which they really enjoy, and I'd like to find more games for them. [more inside]
Running a discussion Monday night with a group of 5-6 year olds. We will be discussing how photography has changed the way we view the world, and I was looking for suggestions for some example photos to use. [more inside]
Long story short, my wife and I are separating and I may try to find work and live in the US (I'm currently in Canada and a Canadian citizen). I'm trying to hear from others who have shared custody of their children where their ex- lives in another country. My situation is across the US/Canada border but I'm interesting in hearing other experiences as well. [more inside]
I'd like some recommendations for books to get my 6 year old girl who has a vast interior life I only rarely get glimpses of. [more inside]
What books would you recommend for new parents who want to read parenting books and talk about them together? [more inside]
Does anyone know the date, title of the article written by or about Toni Morrison many years ago in which she speaks at length about the U.S. treatment of children? It appeared in the New York Times Magazine.
A family wedding will take us to Tulsa this weekend. Flight schedules imposed a Friday arrival for a Saturday evening function, so we will have much of the day Saturday with two little kids in a town we've never visited before. Saturday morning we are on our own, we'll be meeting up with cousins in the afternoon. Zoo? Aquarium? Good parks/play grounds would be good too. Kid-friendly restaurants? Lay it on me.