My older sister, who is mid-thirties and single, has just asked me if she were to become pregnant via anonymous sperm donor, whether my husband and I would agree to be the child’s legal guardians were something to happen to her. She asked me this by text message; so far I have told her that I don’t think this is a conversation for text message and that we will see her in a few days over Christmas. She said she agrees and says she just wanted to give us a ‘heads-up’. As always, there are complicating factors (see below). Please help me line up some phrases and good things to ask/say for the inevitable conservation we are going to have this week. [more inside]
I used to have a pretty dark sense of humor, watch crime shows all the time with dead people and blood and guts and really was never bothered by any of this. I've always been a news junky, and I'd read about all sorts of crimes and murder etc. etc. and never be bothered in the least. Since having a baby, I can't even read a news headline about a person being harmed - particularly children. It seems obvious that this is baby related, but will it ever get better? And if not, can I acclimatize myself so I can exist in the world? [more inside]
My ex and I share custody of our three children. She is very lenient and doting; I encourage self-reliance and responsibility within a structured framework. She is a helicopter, I am a safety net. [more inside]
Will it be best for my kids in the long run? Will the inevitable guilt and loneliness be better than staying with a seemingly unchangeable loveless unhappy marriage? [more inside]
Seeking the wisdom of Mefites as far as cool gear/accessories/spinoff items related to the Harry Potter books. [more inside]
I was recently at a gathering with a group of younger (ages 4 to 7) kids, and a lot of time was spent keeping them from getting too wound up. Asking them to quiet down, or not to run around and scream, to take a breath slowly, etc. But what would happen if you purposefully wound them up? [more inside]
My kid has a SSN, but I don't know what it is. How can I look it up on short notice? [more inside]
I have been looking for some time online to try and find children's books in Russian that are "progressive" with no luck. [more inside]
I'm looking for a awesome ski resort in the U.S. or Canada. My kids are 5 and 7 and have never been skiing. I would love to give them an amazing experience in February. I don't mind paying a premium for awesome lodging / amenities. We would be traveling from Austin Texas. Any recommendations for a kid friendly resort?
My son is 12, and starting to participate in online communities. Right now, the only community he's interacting with is 4 friends of his from school; they play Minecraft. But I suspect this will soon change. [more inside]
We're considering taking out two girls to Disneyland next spring, when they'll be 7 and 3 1/2. Is this too young? [more inside]
What should a couple keep in mind about deciding whether to move to a small town and become a single income family? Bonus complications: Resort town, SAHD. [more inside]
My 5-year-old son has been getting notes and gifts from classmates who seem to be quite fond of him. Now what? [more inside]
Hi My nephew is 5, starting school in 2016 January (southern hemisphere semester.) He reads above the average for his age, and his interests vary greatly week to week. Neither of his parents, or Grandparents or extended family have any interest in Mythology or literature at all. He does have some though. He grasps the narrative structures of cartoons and TV shows he likes. He also really enjoys books of classic Fairy Tales like Grimm and Aesop, told for children. He seems like he is ready for Roald Dahhl... [more inside]
My four year old son is showing a lot of interest in our cameras, and I'd like to get him one of his own. I'm looking for recommendations from parents whose kid(s) have had and used one for a while and had a good experience with it. [more inside]
I'm mentoring an 18 year old. When he was 11 he checked some books out of the library and lost them. [more inside]
So, my daughter's daycare/pre-school is doing a "safety awareness" week. Yesterday was fire safety, there was a firetruck there, the kids practiced what to do in an emergency. Today it's earthquake safety. Tomorrow, it's "Silent Evacuation / Active Shooter." This is causing me some intense anxiety. I haven't done a whole lot to prepare my four-year-old for the fact that if someone in her community has access to firearms and they feel upset that they might try to murder all the teachers and students. [more inside]
I am curious to hear from mefites if you could recommend science based articles about diseases associated with indoor air and household products particularly in relation to make occupational hazard based advocacy against routine use of known toxins around children and forced on workers. [more inside]
I am interested in reading as widely as possible about the concept of children's rights. What resources would you recommend? [more inside]
Our kiddo is in Pre-K, where he gets frustrated that he can't do fine motor skills (writing, drawing), then he doesn't listen to the teacher. Otherwise, he's a bright, good kid. How can we help him overcome his annoyance at his own limited capabilities? [more inside]
I've been trying off and on for years to remember (at least) the title of a miscellany intended for young children. [more inside]
I work at a psychiatric hospital, on the child and adolescent service. Our kids don't have a lot of opportunity for exercise, which is really not good, given how effective exercise can be for mood regulation, self-confidence, etc. I'd like to find some good exercise DVDs that they can use when they have unstructured time on the unit. I'd like them to be as positive as possible-- not a lot of "burn that flab away" or "let's sculpt sexy butts." [more inside]
When I was a kid, I got Ranger Rick and Dynamite and Highlights and Cricket and a bunch of other magazines in my name, and it was thrilling for me. Well, Christmas time is rolling around and I have a couple of new kids in my life, a girl age 5 and a boy age 8, and I'd like to get them actual physical magazine subscriptions because that's fun and exciting. What kids magazines actually still exist today as physical get-in-the-mail products? Im looking for a wide range of interests so I can work from a broad pool of possibilities.
How do parents with anxiety protect their children from their own worries and fears? [more inside]
Tonight was a rough night in our house. My picky, small three year-old once again ate two bites of dinner and turned his nose up at what I'd made for him. I got upset and berated him. I feel bad about this and want to figure out what to do. [more inside]
What successful strategies have you had for helping a kindergartener/young school age child deal with runaway emotions or prevent tantrums?
Hi, parents of young children. I've been commissioned to design and format a series of small books aimed at you and your kind. How do you want it to look? [more inside]
My daughter is 5 and starting kindergarten and music lessons. I cannot lie: in these and her future...I dunno, endeavors I guess you would call them, I want her to do well. I want her to put effort in and take pleasure in her efforts. But I don't know how to foster this in her and it's time I started figuring it out. [more inside]
I'm in love with a guy with cancer. I'm 31 and starting to feel like I want my life to move on soon. Cancer means it can't with him, and he doesn't want to plan a future right now. What to do? [more inside]
I'm looking for depictions of healthy consent and boundaries in children's movies, TV shows, and other media. The catch is that I want stuff that does NOT refer to sexual activity directly and that is appropriate for kids under 12. [more inside]
My rapidly-growing preschooler needs new shoes for fall and winter. [more inside]
I'm trying to find an affordable tablet for kids to use...details inside. [more inside]
We read a lot to my son and keep running out of decent books. He likes books about realistic situations with a fair bit of emotional or linguistic complexity. Ideas? [more inside]
I'm good at doing my best and resting easy when I'm alone with my kids, but I get very anxious about them in social situations. My 5 year old son is strong willed, very physical, and likes to make people laugh. It's a rough combination--all three of those traits produce behaviors that have the potential to offend people and/or be against the rules. Any tips for dealing with this kind of anxiety? [more inside]
What should I do if a close family member neglected to acknowledge my kid's birthday? [more inside]
What quiet-ish activity does your toddler love to do? [more inside]
I want to have kids, my wife doesn't. The discussion is over so I'm now facing the reality that one of my life goals will never happen. This is really difficult to come to terms with. How do I let it go, not resent my wife and live a fulfilling life possibly with a missing piece? [more inside]
My husband and I are in our early 30's. He is in a big hurry to start a family, believes that our window of time is rapidly closing and feels that soon it will be too late. I am not ready for this, and do not share his sense of urgency. I've told him that if it were up to me, I would postpone trying to conceive for one more year, but if that would be a deal breaker for him, I would suck it up and start trying now. He does not want to force me, but fears that if I'm not ready now I may never be ready. How do we find our way through this quagmire of emotions and practical considerations? [more inside]
So I recently met and started dating a guy (let's call him Chris) who makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. Which is good! I could go on about it, but that's not really what the question's about, so...just be assured that we're having fun and he's been nothing but kind to me so far. But I have noticed, I guess enough times to notice, him not speaking positively of other people in his life. I don't know how to respond when he makes negative comments, especially if it has anything to do with his (young adult) kids, for various awkward reasons. [more inside]
I want to introduce my four year old to (origin) myths from around the globe. Looking for a charmingly illustrated book, It doesn't have to be comprehensive (of course) but should have a decent international spread. Does this exist?
Are young adults nostalgic for Barney and Friends? [more inside]
My 8-year-old son is obsessed with Minecraft, and has announced that he would like to create video games when he grows up. My own IT skills topped out around 1982 when I learned to write programs in Basic that printed my name in an endless goto loop. What technologies/languages/apps can I introduce him to in order to leverage his enthusiasm and channel it to something that teaches him age-appropriate programming skills? Assume second-grade math and logic skills and no programming background whatsoever.
My partner and Ex had a kid. The Ex moved out of the city a number of years ago, living in various other places. Kid has always lived in this city. When he exercises visitation, Ex drives into the city to pick up the kid on Saturdays, drops the kid off on Sundays. Currently, the drive to where Ex lives is 2 hrs, each way. Ex is remarrying and converting religions and as such says he will no longer be able to drive on Saturdays to pick up the kid. Ex wants us to drive the kid to him. We find this nuts, and think the onus is on the Ex to figure out a way to transport the kid. Ex is not interested in exploring alternative visitation plans not involving Saturday driving, he wants the existing schedule to continue. Location – Ontario. You are not my lawyer- I’m not asking for legal advice, but what’s your take?
What are some ways that a parent recovering from serious depression can let their young children know that they are loved and treasured? [more inside]
I've been trying and failing to come up with some good opportunities for my partner to get more comfortable around children (think newborn to 8 yrs old) but that don't involve a career change or taking on a full-time job. He has just about zero experience supervising children. Details after the jump! [more inside]
I am trying to create symbols and images that children can associate with certain words. Can you help me come up with all the visuals that come to mind for the words "advisor" and "luxury" (these are the two that I am stuck on because of how complex and non-accessible for children they can be)?
I’m ordering 300ish books for a children’s library. After reading this thread asking for books featuring feminist-anti-racist-queer-ally characters I realised that our collection is full of books focusing on straight, white (usually male) youth in nuclear families and it’s seriously lacking. Can you folks recommend any books to help me improve our collection? [more inside]
Our adopted child has a crazy need for control and we're worried about how it will impact their socialization in school. [more inside]
What are some fun things a family can do together while waiting in long lines? [more inside]
I live in an apartment that's very close to the next building over. In that building, there's a family with a kid i initially thought was a toddler... he's actually 5-6. Every day at the strike of 8 they open all their windows and the kid runs around the house screaming. He also does this for hours after school/summer camp. [more inside]