My ex wants me to come over and find out where we're at in our relationship. We were in a long distance relationship that ended a few months ago when I was intimate with another man (no sex, just so you know, but enough to make it cheating). When I told him, we swore we still loved eachother, but decided break up so we could have a chance to grow, and start again when we lived in the same city (likely spring '06).
Since then I've found clarity, come to terms with the nearly unbearable guilt and done my best to change the part of me that went wrong. Come to find out he's been busy....very busy...with many women where he lives. I made a mistake, I know that....so it confounds me that he says he loves me but turns around and does all that stuff with all those girls?
I'm very in love with this man, and I want to believe in him so badly, but I can't understand how he can hold such a double standard. Is it just too much to ask of a 24 year old, to actually live the lifestyle he expects of his partner? Is it a Man thing, that you have to get action?
And, in light of all this, can I believe that he loves me or am I playing the fool.
posted by aquavit
on Dec 9, 2005 -
66 answers
My friend is in a relationship with a married man...the wife already knows but it's causing a lot of pain. She seems to be happy in the relationship, but I don't see this turning out well. I don't want to run her life or play holier-than-thou, but how do I get her out of this before things get worse? What do I say, how do I say it?
posted by aquavit
on Nov 29, 2005 -
26 answers
