Why have I suddenly started to dream about other women? [more inside]
posted by kleenkat on Oct 21, 2009 - 23 answers

Has a study ever attempted to identify characteristics or behaviors that go along with cheating in relationships? [more inside]
posted by Ashley801 on Sep 5, 2009 - 5 answers

My husband is cheating on me and has been for at least two years. He doesn't know I found out. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 3, 2009 - 67 answers

My question is about intent? If you hurt someone with what you perceive to be their and your best interests in mind, while simultaneously knowing that what you are doing will hurt that person, is it any different than actively trying to hurt the person. Does duration and occurrence play a role? If I don’t mean to hurt you, but know I am and will for 4 years is it less bad than a single act of active hurtfulness? Is it possible to want to hurt someone you love in an extreme moment but still love and care for that person? Is it possible to call that love? [more inside]
posted by sav on Aug 2, 2009 - 27 answers

Is infidelity in relationships in your twenties and thirties inevitable? I recently was cheated on by my ex-boyfriend days after we started living together and many of my friends who are in their late-30s are not surprised. [more inside]
posted by countingbackwards on Aug 2, 2009 - 33 answers

If you've felt the temptation to cheat, or have cheated, on a guy: what sorts of things was he neglecting to do around that time? Or what things was he doing? [more inside]
posted by surenoproblem on Jul 13, 2009 - 32 answers

Would my ex really lie about something like this? [more inside]
posted by InterestedInKnowing on May 10, 2009 - 29 answers

Any tips for making a relationship out of an affair? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2009 - 14 answers

Lesbian monogamy filter: I am really just a hopeless romantic no matter how hard I try not to be? Should I not move right on to the one waiting in the wings? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2009 - 16 answers

After the girl cheated, is it fair to ask her NOT to spend a week at a retreat with him, and others? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 31, 2009 - 37 answers

I discovered my girlfriend recently went to the apartment of an ex lover to "hang out". Did she cheat on me? [more inside]
posted by aussie_in_NY on Feb 2, 2009 - 48 answers

[Relationshipfilter] Has "cheating" ever been a crucible for your relationship? [more inside]
posted by dentata on Jan 19, 2009 - 50 answers

Is there any way he's not cheating on me? [more inside]
posted by GIRLesq on Sep 18, 2008 - 161 answers

What to do when you find out that one of your friends cheated on his girlfriend (who is also a friend?) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2008 - 82 answers

I have been in a one and a half year relationship with a man who has cheated on me, lied to me, stole from me and abused me. I KNOW he is no good and while I have tried to leave many times, I always find myself back with him (after sweet-talking and the like). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2008 - 46 answers

I'm scheduled to have a medical (pill) abortion in a situation involving my optimistic, scientifically brilliant, clueless ex-boyfriend. For some irrational reason, he's the only person I want with me while I go through with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2008 - 35 answers

Badly in need of advice. Long, complicated story spanning 3 countries and 5 people. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 11, 2008 - 32 answers

Should I give up getting back together with her? [more inside]
posted by cincinnatus c on Jan 21, 2008 - 37 answers

Help me sort out my feelings about the relationship I’m in because I just can’t seem to figure it out. (long and complicated - sorry!) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 25, 2007 - 23 answers

I have a hunch the new boyfriend is going to drop the "I love you" bomb this weekend. I'm psyched. Trouble is: I don't know if I believe him, and therefore don't know how to best respond. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 7, 2007 - 49 answers

Is my fiancée cheating on me, or is this simply a case of a wrong number at the wrong time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2007 - 131 answers

An old friend has recently started putting the moves on me.  Although I'm both attracted and available, I've been dodging because they're living with a SO of several years and enabling their cheating seems wrong. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2007 - 44 answers

CrappyRelationshipFilter: How do you know if a relationship is worth salvaging after your partner majorly fucks up? I need some perspective on this whole ugly, messy situation. (warning: very long! of course!) [more inside]
posted by rndm on May 10, 2007 - 68 answers

I have a girlfriend I'm in love with. But I'm also in love another girl. She's leaving town, and I want to sleep with her. Why shouldn't I? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2007 - 108 answers

how do you regain trust after being cheated on [more inside]
posted by frogger12 on Apr 19, 2007 - 27 answers

How to be impervious to the suck of people. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by iamkimiam on Apr 3, 2007 - 36 answers

My boyfriend has recently been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Alone this is something to come to terms with but on top of this i have just found out he has been lying to me, which has made me question my whole relationship and the very foundations it has been built on. I have no idea what i should do... [more inside]
posted by rainbow_2006 on Feb 14, 2007 - 79 answers

How to confront an abroad girlfriend about cheating. [more inside]
posted by GilloD on Sep 27, 2006 - 53 answers

If you're in love with a married man, and he says he would leave his wife, would you stay? Whilst i love him very much, i am not sure if i should believe him as surely if he really was going to leave her he would have done this by now. Is it possible to love two people at the same time?
posted by rainbow_2006 on Aug 2, 2006 - 88 answers

My boyfriend cheated on me. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 9, 2006 - 87 answers

I recently ended an affair I was having with a beautiful, intelligent, charming, older, married woman (I'm Ashton's age, she's Demi's). After 3 weeks I just couldn't deal with the guilt anymore. I knew the affair was wrong, but I did it anyway. As a Catholic, I'm working on the whole reconciliation thing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 17, 2006 - 34 answers

My girlfriend cheated. We're separated now. What do I do with this anger? [more inside]
posted by Brainy on Feb 3, 2006 - 43 answers

I have no problems falling in love - it's falling out I need some help with. [more inside]
posted by luftmensch on Dec 13, 2005 - 29 answers

My ex wants me to come over and find out where we're at in our relationship. We were in a long distance relationship that ended a few months ago when I was intimate with another man (no sex, just so you know, but enough to make it cheating). When I told him, we swore we still loved eachother, but decided break up so we could have a chance to grow, and start again when we lived in the same city (likely spring '06). Since then I've found clarity, come to terms with the nearly unbearable guilt and done my best to change the part of me that went wrong. Come to find out he's been busy....very busy...with many women where he lives. I made a mistake, I know that....so it confounds me that he says he loves me but turns around and does all that stuff with all those girls? I'm very in love with this man, and I want to believe in him so badly, but I can't understand how he can hold such a double standard. Is it just too much to ask of a 24 year old, to actually live the lifestyle he expects of his partner? Is it a Man thing, that you have to get action? And, in light of all this, can I believe that he loves me or am I playing the fool.
posted by aquavit on Dec 9, 2005 - 66 answers

He plays on webcam with other girls, and I feel cheated upon. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2005 - 44 answers

I just cheated on my girlfriend and have no idea what I should do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2005 - 64 answers

Is it wrong to have an affair?
posted by Mean Mr. Bucket on Dec 13, 2004 - 57 answers

Dear Ask Mefi: How can two people who love each other get back together after a tragic breakup? She and I lived together for many years. The relationship ended because she cheated on me. Otherwise, she was the love of my life. Now, years later, I have discovered through mutual friends that she refers to it as one of the biggest mistakes of her life but doesn't even forgive herself. I might be able to forgive under the right circumstances and if she is sincere. But, I don't want to initiate contact because I still feel hurt. She won't initiate contact because she doesn't feel she deserves a second chance. Is there anyplace to go from here? Advice, experiences welcome...
posted by anonymous on Nov 5, 2004 - 25 answers

Is cheating in a relationship acceptable or unacceptable? How did you come to feel that way?
posted by KathyK on Jun 25, 2004 - 90 answers

Can anyone point me to information about rates of marital infidelity in western nations? I'm particularly interested in the United States, but figures on other first world nations would provide interesting material for comparison.
posted by Irontom on Feb 5, 2004 - 5 answers