I am mentoring two new employees in my organization, both of whom could benefit from more confidence and "presence." They have both asked me for specific tips on how to appear more confident, even if they don't feel it. The problem is that beyond stating the obvious, such as standing up straight, looking people in the eye, etc., I am having trouble getting down to details in behaviour and appearance.
What do you do to appear more confident? And what signals do you look for when assessing the confidence level of another person? How does someone "own the room"? (One of my mentees is a twenty-something man, just out of school, and a bit geeky. The other is a female in her early forties, recently returned to the work force after maternity leave followed by a divorce, and clearly lacking in body confidence, despite being "normal" weight and quite pretty.)
posted by rpfields
on Nov 6, 2013 -
I'm out of the loop. The first I heard about Jack Layton
and Paul Wellstone
and John Smith
was when they died. Help a working mama out: who are the inspiring leaders who aren't dead yet? Obviously I skew Anglophone in my language constraints and bleeding-heart liberal in my politics, but I'm interested in hearing about anyone anywhere who seems compassionate and competent... so far.
posted by rdc
on Aug 26, 2011 -
I am starting a new job. I need help being the kind of person I want to be. Or at least making people think I am. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 12, 2010 -
What exact characteristic(s) make someone appear polished and sophisticated? [more inside]
posted by amfea
on Mar 19, 2008 -
What are some of your favorite interpersonal tricks and techniques. I am trying to be a little more engaging in my interpersonal relationships. Bascially, I want to up my charisma quotient. Answers to this question would be along the lines of stuff found in a Dale Carnegie book, like saying a person's name during conversation, keeping up correspondence ( letters, emails, x-mas cards ), etc. etc. Lyndon Johnson used to grab people by the lapel while talking to them for effect. Benjamin Franklin said, "He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged." What things have you seen others do that seem to have a positive effect on other people?
posted by kaizen
on Aug 1, 2007 -
I'm a 35 year old male and am smart, single and fit but find myself feeling like time is running out. Perhaps too smart; I have a high IQ, whatever that is worth, but am not a college graduate and I find I still have a bit of a complex about this despite having been gainfully white collar employed for most of my adult life. I never started college and wouldn't even know where to begin. I meet people easily and am told that I am good looking. I was 30 before I realized that I had coasted so far on charisma. With an opportunity to make a life change in the next year what should this American do? Long term and short term answers are all welcome and travel is a possibility if your answer deems it necessary.
posted by anonymous
on Dec 29, 2004 -