Join 3,512 readers in helping fund MetaFilter (Hide)

14 posts tagged with charisma. (View popular tags)
Displaying 1 through 14 of 14. Subscribe:

Users that often use this tag:
Anonymous (2)

How does one learn to be charismatic?

There have been a few people in my life who seem to have this trait of being understanding no matter who is saying what to them, who are be the life of the party and someone people flock around. They're sought out for advice, even by those who don't know them. I'm not one of these people. How do I become one?
posted by city_park on Aug 3, 2014 - 21 answers

"Fake it till you make it," but how, exactly?

I am mentoring two new employees in my organization, both of whom could benefit from more confidence and "presence." They have both asked me for specific tips on how to appear more confident, even if they don't feel it. The problem is that beyond stating the obvious, such as standing up straight, looking people in the eye, etc., I am having trouble getting down to details in behaviour and appearance. What do you do to appear more confident? And what signals do you look for when assessing the confidence level of another person? How does someone "own the room"? (One of my mentees is a twenty-something man, just out of school, and a bit geeky. The other is a female in her early forties, recently returned to the work force after maternity leave followed by a divorce, and clearly lacking in body confidence, despite being "normal" weight and quite pretty.)
posted by rpfields on Nov 6, 2013 - 29 answers

Why is human judgement so bad at picking good political leaders?

Why is human judgement so poor at picking good political leaders? [more inside]
posted by jacobean on Aug 30, 2011 - 44 answers

Who are the inspiring leaders who aten't ded?

I'm out of the loop. The first I heard about Jack Layton and Paul Wellstone and John Smith was when they died. Help a working mama out: who are the inspiring leaders who aren't dead yet? Obviously I skew Anglophone in my language constraints and bleeding-heart liberal in my politics, but I'm interested in hearing about anyone anywhere who seems compassionate and competent... so far.
posted by rdc on Aug 26, 2011 - 24 answers

I rolled a 20, you have to be my friend

How do I role-play a high Charisma score? [more inside]
posted by Pastor of Muppets on Jun 6, 2011 - 15 answers

Joan Holloway, not Jo from the Facts of Life

I am starting a new job. I need help being the kind of person I want to be. Or at least making people think I am. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 12, 2010 - 5 answers

The Game

Teach me about "The Game" and how people, including yourself, play it. [more inside]
posted by jasondigitized on Mar 15, 2010 - 40 answers

Why Do I Only Hear About Charismatic Men?

Are only men in U.S. society seen as charismatic? [more inside]
posted by thisperon on Mar 5, 2010 - 48 answers

What is charisma?

What are the qualities of the most charismatic or magnetic person you know? [more inside]
posted by decoherence on Jul 29, 2009 - 50 answers

Why/how do people cultivate mystique through Facebook profiles?

Why/how do people cultivate mystique through Facebook profiles? [more inside]
posted by GIMG on Feb 25, 2009 - 28 answers

How do I stop judging people?

How do I stop judging people and relate to them as equals? [more inside]
posted by abdulf on Sep 27, 2008 - 30 answers

What defines sophistication?

What exact characteristic(s) make someone appear polished and sophisticated? [more inside]
posted by amfea on Mar 19, 2008 - 29 answers

Boost My Charisma Score

What are some of your favorite interpersonal tricks and techniques. I am trying to be a little more engaging in my interpersonal relationships. Bascially, I want to up my charisma quotient. Answers to this question would be along the lines of stuff found in a Dale Carnegie book, like saying a person's name during conversation, keeping up correspondence ( letters, emails, x-mas cards ), etc. etc. Lyndon Johnson used to grab people by the lapel while talking to them for effect. Benjamin Franklin said, "He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged." What things have you seen others do that seem to have a positive effect on other people?
posted by kaizen on Aug 1, 2007 - 31 answers


I'm a 35 year old male and am smart, single and fit but find myself feeling like time is running out. Perhaps too smart; I have a high IQ, whatever that is worth, but am not a college graduate and I find I still have a bit of a complex about this despite having been gainfully white collar employed for most of my adult life. I never started college and wouldn't even know where to begin. I meet people easily and am told that I am good looking. I was 30 before I realized that I had coasted so far on charisma. With an opportunity to make a life change in the next year what should this American do? Long term and short term answers are all welcome and travel is a possibility if your answer deems it necessary.
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2004 - 38 answers

Page: 1