What have you been wrong about, realized it, and it changed your life?
I remember reading Albert Ellis' wonderful self-help book A Guide to Rational Living
where he gives a great list of irrational and self-defeating beliefs
that people have. Among these beliefs was the importance people placed on other's opinion of them as well the emphasis people placed on being perfectionistic in their own lives. Much of this underlies Cognitive Behavioral Therapy but the effect is even more prevalent than that. We all have had beliefs that have held us back, and I'm curious as to what things you once believed that were holding you back in your personal or professional life. Anything will do. It can be anything from knowing the importance of making good first impressions to the need for keeping oneself physically fit even when one doesn't want to. I'm looking to see whether I share of any of these traits or not. So what are the beliefs that have held you back or others that you know?
posted by RapcityinBlue
on Nov 19, 2013 -
I made a career change (technology to law) a few years ago, and now I'd like to change back, as I had a decent career before and have a pretty foul one now. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 31, 2013 -
I want to change careers. currently I am a librarian. I want to be a reporter, or communications/public relations work for a company. I currently began writing for pay for a small organization. It has been very exciting and a great way to network. I have other skill sets, and would like to explore those, too. They include non-profit event planning, fundraising, research. I think I would be an asset to another company. How do I go about getting out of my current job, and start a new career? I feel really stuck.
posted by Jewel98
on Jul 13, 2013 -
When we first met, my boyfriend was overweight and drank too much (by his own account). Four months into our relationship, he's changed quite a bit: he goes running, eats healthier, and drinks way less. He says I make him want to be healthier -- which is great. But I'm worried that this is just new-relationship energy, and that he'll slide back into old patterns once we're more used to each other. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 9, 2012 -
Where can I (or can I?) order *one* heat changing coffee mug that displays one custom message when cold and another, slightly different custom message when filled with hot liquid? Google returns only "blank revealing custom image" mugs. Is this even possible? Maybe you can't put regular ink under changing ink? Screenprinting scientists: give me the scoop before I wear my googling fingers to the bone.
posted by lilnublet
on Nov 12, 2012 -
A few months ago, I accepted a new job at a different company in town. I left my old job on good terms, and my boss said that if my new job doesn't work out, I can come back. It turns out she was serious and has recently offered me a new position. Should I take it? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 1, 2012 -
I've found what bothers me about my office job -- my position and what I do is utterly useless. What I do has absolutely no effect on anyone, nor does it increase my employer's profit or success in any measurable way. I've realized this is what leaves me absolutely drained at the end of the work day, though I've spent the day sitting at a desk. It also makes me dread going to work in the morning because I could not feel more like a cog in the machine. What are some jobs where I can actually feel useful or needed, or feel like I'm contributing to society? [more inside]
posted by allseeingabstract
on Sep 13, 2011 -
SleepFilter: Does quality of sleep suffer if you go from earlybird to night owl and do most of your sleeping after midnight/in the morning?
"One hour of sleep before midnight is worth 2 after." How true is this saying? [more inside]
posted by Not Supplied
on Sep 5, 2011 -
Firefox being weird: Two favicons in my Bookmarks Toolbar keeps changing. . . [more inside]
posted by querty
on Mar 25, 2009 -
Would like to begin volunteering on my birthday in part to redefine my birthday tradition. Do you have any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by lifeonholidae
on Dec 8, 2008 -
My cousin is changing her first name, but if I had a girl I always wanted to name her my cousin's old name...how do I broach this? I'm happy for her choosing a new name, but I'm wondering is her old name off the table for my own (not yet conceived) child? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2008 -
I am a library director who definitely needs a change of job (possibly a change of career) but I am stumped as to how to convince employers outside the library world that I am willing, able and sometimes more than qualified to do a job that doesn't necessarily involve books/libraries/IT maintenance. Can anyone share examples of how to convince employers you are qualified for something different? [more inside]
posted by MeetCleaverTheatre
on Jun 5, 2008 -
For a friend: If you have ever changed careers to become a public school teacher, I would love to hear your story, especially if you were already at the "married with children" stage of life when you made the switch. Are you happy with your choice? Do/did you regret it? What happened that you didn't expect? What was it like. Answers to any of or all of those questions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, as always.
posted by 4ster
on May 8, 2008 -
Changing sparkplugs: I have a 2003 Chevrolet Tracker, with an unusual ignition coil setup, and I want to learn how to remove the coils and access my plugs. (Pictures inside) [more inside]
posted by Aanidaani
on Jan 25, 2008 -
I am leaving for Japan in two days: should I change money before or after I get there? Does it matter? How do I do it?
posted by davidriley
on Feb 26, 2007 -
I want to find a job in Australia or new Zealand. But I'm Canadian, in Canada. How do I do it? [more inside]
posted by GuyZero
on Jan 30, 2007 -
I just heard an NPR story
about how history books have changed to reflect the books' editorial biases. For instance, the author cites aged history books changing explanation of the reason for the Mexican-American war. Have any of you MeFites done any (formal or informal) research into this phenomenon? How can I learn more?
posted by parilous
on Nov 21, 2006 -
Why does a person's musical taste keep changing? I'm suddenly listening to lot's of Paris Cafe music, the likes of Charles Trenet, Edith Piaf and Josephine Baker. How did that happen? Why do some people's tastes never seem to change?
posted by feelinglistless
on Dec 14, 2003 -