How do I go about getting an uncontested change of child custody and support in the state of New Mexico? [more inside]
I'm attempting to make a big change to help myself professionally and the challenges are proving much more formidable than I anticipated. [more inside]
I recently graduated and I've been working as a Jr. Engineer for a few months now. I realize now that this is not a career/field I want to be in and have been strongly thinking about going back to school to get a Computer Science degree. The problem is that I have 35k in loans from my previous degree and I need to make a decision soon. Am I being reckless for wanting to do a career change so soon? [more inside]
About a year ago I joined a group that meets several times a month about spiritual topics. I was warmly welcomed and found great comfort in the group. However now, I am beginning to feel like the group is pretty much the same every meeting. I know Person X will talk about Thing X; Person Y will bring up Anecdote Y; etc. Should I quit? There's a twist... [more inside]
What job do you have that uses your law degree but didn't require you to take the bar and, ideally, you're able to do it as a side gig? [more inside]
What concrete steps can I take to drive change? Have you ever been charge with driving change with little authority involving people who may be more senior than you are? How can I define and solve problems across multiple teams in a chaotic environment? [more inside]
Do I have the right to request another nurse? [more inside]
Asking for a friend who just became a preschool director and wants to rebrand. We have googled the hell out of it but just can't find anything. This is an existing licensed preschool that just wants to have a new name with no other changes. We are in Marin County, California. Hope us?
I've been tasked (by my wife) with coming up with a corporate, work-safe joke with a specific punchline. That punchline is 'change'. Help? I've got nothing.
I am in a weird phase of my life where I want to change some things. I have always been a rather antisocial person and for the first time ever I am dying to get out and be social. I am also wondering where I will end up and what my goals in life truly are. I also want to get healthier, eat better, be more productive. Truth is, I don't know where to start? [more inside]
My whole adult life I've always felt like my life was on hold. Why can't I settle down even though I want to? Why do I feel this way and how to change or cope? [more inside]
With 13+ years experience working in the field of child care, I am ready for a career change. Most recently (the last 5 years), I have been working as a nanny in a major American city. Previously, I've been a camp counselor, Au-Pair, and tutor, etc. I'm looking to parler this skill set into something outside of 'household help'. [more inside]
I was curious as to what others have done when they are not sure as to what they need to change to make their lives better? I am a big believer in therapy but it is also very problem oriented and can focus too much on deficits. I guess what I'm asking is how do you know what you need to change in your life? How do you know if you have fallen off the path of what you need to do in your life? [more inside]
This past weekend, we drove through Shiprock, New Mexico and I started wondering how much humans have changed the landscape. Pre-Columbus - what was the landscape like? Was there more water and groundcover - or was it always arid and (almost) desolate?
It changed (in the UK) just over a year ago. They claim it is back to their original recipe - and call it an improvement on the previous outsourced version. Many of their customers seem to disagree (search Twitter/Facebook for "katsu change") and have stopped visiting as a result. I can only assume this was a commercial decision - it is cheaper for Wagamama to make this new sauce, even taking lost business into account. Does anyone who works (or has worked) at Wagamama in the UK have any idea what actually happened and why?
How do I get motivated to change and make life better for myself? [more inside]
I'm trying to log on to Postgres using Powershell and it's not working. I did this before a little while ago and now I can't remember how I did it and it's driving me crazy. [more inside]
Mefites who do finance: is the Claritas Investment Certificate a useful certificate if I want to learn the basics of finance? [more inside]
Not sure if career is the problem of if it's just me... [more inside]
Posting for Mr. Chocotaco: Licensed architect burned out on architectural practice. After 10 years in the field working for high profile firms, I have concluded that architecture is not for me. Although the low pay, high stress aspects of the job are contributing factors, the primary reasons for deciding to pursue other career options are lack of fulfillment, clear purpose, opportunity for growth, and healthy work/life balance. [more inside]
I recently met someone who is an Agile product manager, and he seems to have my dream job. I love meeting and talking to people, translating layman's speak and understanding into tech speak and vice versa, and I love an everchanging, fast-paced job where you actually *work.* How do I get into this? (Longsplaining background follows.) [more inside]
You've started a small business, things have been tough, you've been staring down the barrel of failure, but you've turned it around, you made it work. How did you do it? What changes in practice and attitude really made a difference to your success? What resources did you draw upon? I'd really like to hear how you made it through the tough times. If your business is arts/craft related, even better. [more inside]
I think I don't like performing oral sex on my girlfriend anymore because she's gained a bit of weight. What do I do here? [more inside]
Anyone know of a Firefox or Chrome extension/utility/plugin/script etc that can monitor webpage changes every few seconds, and doesn't need to be reset every time the alert triggers? [more inside]
As an over 50 being, I am feeling daunted by the pace of change. In this weeks encounters with the future were my android which is smarter than I am, the cloning of the wooly mammoth, three parent birth families, and a friend said "that very soon the entire world will be eating gluten free, to which I replied "only when you pry the pasta out of my cold dead hands." I don't want to become a Luddite but the rapidity of change feels like too much. I need suggestions for coping and adjusting to change as I age.
Oil changes: miles or time? I drive a little 2011 Mazda M2. My commute to work is about 14 miles round trip. I don't drive it much else. My last oil change was January 2013 and 5231 miles. The sticker says next change is May 2013 or 10231 miles. Needless to say it's well beyond May 2013 but I'm still only at 9200 miles. Should I get an oil change or wait for the mileage? [more inside]
How can I start, or join, a public action committee or collective action group focusing on the needs and rights of pedestrians? A social support group or listserv would be OK too. [more inside]
Design degrees from Europe, 6 years experience as retail planner/analyst : want to move to health care specialist/analyst. [more inside]
I'm looking to freshen up the assigned readings for an undergraduate writing class that I'm about to start teaching. The theme of the class is art (by which I mean not only visual art, but also music, film, and writing) and social change--that is, whether the former can actually help to achieve the latter. I have some readings on the topic but am looking for more. Help me, hive mind!
I have a weird ethnic first name that causes me daily hassle and anxciety. Has anyone had experience with dropping their ethnic name or do you know anyone who has done it? [more inside]
I have a BS degree in Information Science/Technology and have just completed a further post-graduate degree in the same field. I was awarded my degree with distinction and could most likely go on to a PhD if I wanted to. I am also currently looking for work in my field and am confident to find a job. The thing is, I really don't like IT. I try to convince myself that there is something I would like, but in all honesty, I am not excited about any of the jobs I'm looking at much less continuing on with more education (although that would at least allow me to explore something I may somewhat like). [more inside]
My legal name and gender change court order will be finalized in late January and I will immediately go and change my SSA, DMV, and birth cert information. My W2 will probably arrive before I can get my new documents to my HR department. Will this cause problems filing my taxes? What should I expect and prepare for? I'm in California and use Turbotax.
What have you been wrong about, realized it, and it changed your life? I remember reading Albert Ellis' wonderful self-help book A Guide to Rational Living where he gives a great list of irrational and self-defeating beliefs that people have. Among these beliefs was the importance people placed on other's opinion of them as well the emphasis people placed on being perfectionistic in their own lives. Much of this underlies Cognitive Behavioral Therapy but the effect is even more prevalent than that. We all have had beliefs that have held us back, and I'm curious as to what things you once believed that were holding you back in your personal or professional life. Anything will do. It can be anything from knowing the importance of making good first impressions to the need for keeping oneself physically fit even when one doesn't want to. I'm looking to see whether I share of any of these traits or not. So what are the beliefs that have held you back or others that you know?
Do any of you have experience with changing your name for non-marriage/divorce reasons. As far as I understand, it involves filling out a form, getting your fingerprints taken and requesting a hearing with a judge. It's the hearing that concerns me. On what basis might a name change be denied? What helps your case? Florida here, if that's an issue. I know, I know. Talk to a lawyer. I plan to do so but it's also important to just hear "I never thought of that" real experiences from everyday, non-attorney people. Thanks.
My partner is facing some big life changes, including a new job and loss of a pet, and I'm wondering what small ways I can support him and make life easier for him. [more inside]
I'm being unreasonably emotional about changing my address. Help me snap out of it. [more inside]
Poetry quote recommendations! [more inside]
If my work email inbox changes, even slightly, my anger meter goes immediately to 10, and I spend entirely too much time being grumpy and fussing about it. How can I reframe these annoyances as opportunities for zen and personal growth, instead of a blood rage that leads to ultimately futile quests to have everything exactly the way I want it? [more inside]
While signing on with my VPN software recently I noticed that my ISP's physical location has changed. I live in Cleveland and when ever I would use my VPN software, as I do a few times a week, there is a map that tells me where my ISP resides. Recently, after years the map now shows that my home ISP is now in Kansas, however searching for my ISP address on various websites, it says my ISP is in Pennsylvania as well. Confused. I am aware that my home ISP changes frequently but it has always been in Cleveland. I have rebooted my modem and router a few times and it still reads the location in Kansas. Any Ideas?
How can I stay focused when starting a new job and not get too despairing/frustrated? Research assistant edition. [more inside]
What good vocational careers are available with 2-3 years training? I'm trying to think of a good career switch (I have my Bachelor's in International Studies and have been in politics for 5 years) and want to do something that pays well, is steady and won't be phased out by technology. [more inside]
I'm interested in working in the mental health industry. How can I start dipping my toe in the water? [more inside]
I wanted to start this post with an apology to everyone. I have been going through a rough period of time and am realizing that I am not the person that I thought I was. I've been told that everyone goes through rough periods in life, and I wanted to ask what others have done when they realize that they have some serious issues that they need to sort out. [more inside]
Career Change: Nurse or Lawyer [more inside]
I am currently employed full time with group health insurance. I've accepted a new position at a different company starting August 1. If I put in my 2 weeks notice and quit on July 12, will I still be covered for the remainder of the month? [more inside]
I have £150 spare this month and would like to spend it in a way that benefits the environment (climate change related). I'd love your suggestions about how I can use this money to have the most impact, whether that's donating to a top notch environmental charity or investing it in a green tech (renewables, insulation etc.) company that is doing particularly good work.
How do you deal with competing desires to track and have things, histories, libraries (bookmarks, favorites, notes, saved emails, filled-up calendars, etc) and yet also be unattached and minimalist (get rid of things, be unhindered, untraceable, simple and de-cluttered)? [more inside]
I've recently decided to transition to a new career path, accounting. Most firms round here do an online numeracy test as part of the application process. There is a type of % change question that often comes up and I can't find a proper answer about how to calculate it. There are two formulae suggested by different websites, but they give different answers. Which is right? (details inside) [more inside]
I am a software developer with good experience, principally in big data, though I am not married to that field. I think that climate change is a serious threat to human existence, and am probing how I might be able to work successfully in a field that could help us develop a more sustainable future. [more inside]
Can I learn how to walk differently? When I walk, I drag my heels. I always wear Birkenstock sandals, and this way of walking causes my heels to wear away much faster than the rest of the shoe, leading to more frequent (expensive-ish) repairs. Can I train myself to walk another way? I know people do it in necessary times (e.g. loss of limb, spinal cord/brain damage, etc.) but I just WANT to change. Possible?