I think my marriage may be irreparably broken. The idea of splitting up is agonizing, but if things don't turn around soon, I can't stay.
But. I don't know what to do about our cat, and it's tearing me apart.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 20, 2013 -
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Where can we get an interior door with a pre-installed pet door/cat flap? This is in/around Toronto.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 3, 2013 -
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Is my pee made of cat nip? Why does my cat go crazy rolling around in my dirty underwear?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2012 -
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Our cat isn't eating or drinking. He's been to vet, but doesn't seem to be getting better. Please help.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 18, 2012 -
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So what do you actually do when you can't rehome your cats? Please no (more) guilt, we have been trying for six months and we are at our wits end. What happens now?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 7, 2011 -
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How to support and comfort a friend through the illness/loss of their pets? What helped you?
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posted by anonymous
on May 5, 2011 -
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I really don't like my fiance's cat. Now that we've moved in together, how can I learn to accept the cat as a part of my life?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 23, 2010 -
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My girlfriend and I live together for 2 years with cats. The cats are driving me crazy. What can we do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 4, 2010 -
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I'm trying to help a friend clean up a bad situation with cats and wood floors; I'm looking for suggestions (Icky cat-related stuff inside)
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2008 -
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The ethics of getting a cat. A roommate and I have been planning to get a cat when our allergic roommates move out. We got the OK from the new roommates on getting the cats. The day after the three new roommates signed the lease, one of them calls and asks us to not get the cat because his girlfriend is allergic. What should we do? (Apologies for the length inside)
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2007 -
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TMI question about cat behavior: Has anybody ever had a cat whose behavior seems to change with certain, um, phases in your (or your female partner's) menstrual cycle? (more inside)
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 5, 2007 -
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How can I find a home for a troubled pet? [more inside]
I am at my wit's end and don't know what to do. The problem started when my girlfriend moved in over two years ago, bringing two adult cats along. My two adults did not get along with hers, and we've tried just about everything to get them used to each other. Eventually, we had to just separate them, but it broke my heart to have cats barricaded in my basement, so we decided to just open the basement door to let the cats come and go. It's been like that for about a year without many problems, and I thought I was making some progress when one of my cats started coming upstairs willingly and tolerating the others (being able to sit in the living room with the other cats while we watch TV).
The past month or so has been different, though. My cat started peeing (and worse) on our bed. I draw the line there, because I cannot afford to buy all new bedclothes and mattress pads every couple of weeks.
I would like to find this cat a new home, because I think the basic problem stems from having too many cats in a small space. I know if I take her to the animal shelter, they will have trouble adopting her out, given her past and her age (nine). I doubt an ad would work because she's very skittish (and I cannot in good conscience give a cat away without telling someone about her problems).
Does anyone have any suggestions?
posted by anonymous
on Dec 12, 2004 -
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HomewreakerFilter: A neighbor of mine has a cat door that allows her two cats unrestricted access to the outdoor world. Unfortunately, these cats don't get along, so the smaller cat can often be found hiding somewhere in the neighborhood trying to avoid the larger, bullying cat.
Over the past two years, the sweet, smaller cat has developed a special relationship with my partner and I. What started as infrequent visits and little pats has turned into the cat staying at our place for a minimum 20 hours a day, only returning to his rightful owner when we leave the house (banishing the cat to the outdoors) for several hours at a time. The owner knows that her cat practically lives with us and has never come over to retrieve the cat.
Recently, the cat became ill and needed medical attention. I notified the owner and offered to take the cat to the vet or to assist in any way I could. She refused my offer and took the cat herself. The next day, the cat was back on our couch, happy to be "home".
Both my partner and I are madly in love with the cat, and the cat seems to be madly in love with us. We're moving in a couple of months and the idea of having to leave the cat behind makes my heart break. Should we approach the neighbor and try to get her to give the cat to us? Should we steal the cat? Should we be adults and realize the cat belongs to someone else?
posted by anonymous
on Dec 3, 2004 -
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I (female) don't like cats. My (male) partner has 2. We're considering living together. However, I can't stomach the filth, the smell, the cat hair, the mewling, the destruction of furniture, and the litterbox. I don't want this thread to turn into a vilification of me for not liking cats and I don't want the situation itself to become "the cats go or I go". Surely a mefite or two has had this happen. How did you work it out? What were the compromises?
posted by anonymous
on Oct 21, 2004 -
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