I am facing a huge question that I don't know how to navigate and don't feel like I can talk to anyone about. The short story is that I have a precarious-feeling academic job in the Midwestern U.S. and applied for a job in an English-speaking country in the Southern Hemisphere. Today, I found out that I am on the short list for the job. And now I'm just not sure what to do. [more inside]
So my career is kind of a disaster and I am not sure what to do about it. This is a bit of a wall of text (because I want to give a lot of context), so thanks to anyone who gets through it. [more inside]
Adrift, lonely and feeling hopeless. Advice would be appreciated. [more inside]
I recently met someone who is an Agile product manager, and he seems to have my dream job. I love meeting and talking to people, translating layman's speak and understanding into tech speak and vice versa, and I love an everchanging, fast-paced job where you actually *work.* How do I get into this? (Longsplaining background follows.) [more inside]
I am currently in my late twenties finishing my degree in Information Technology. I live in a large city. I'm a sociable person. My question is, not working in the professional environment, how could I find a professional mentor? How do you recommend someone build such a relationship? Any ideas? ....
There are industry related conferences within the area which I sometimes attend. Professors seem like an option. But what steps should I take to form such a relationship? Is it something you would ask for explicitly?....
I'd just like to thank the community in advance for your feedback. It's been something I'd like to do, but due to uncertainty in how to go about it I haven't. Thanks!
I'm a 26 year old female "Commitment Phobe" seeking advice on 1) How to feel ok making a temporary/final decision about what to do with my life and 2) When to scrap, adjust, or follow through on my decisions when the going gets tough? Messy details inside. [more inside]
My brain is swirling with options and I just need kind advice. I have no shoulder on which I may settle my weight for a moment's rest. I beg your listening ear!Should I sit tight and save or make a move to take pressure off my vehicle? It needs to last me a few years.... How can I escape the white trash wastes I have been condemned to? [more inside]
Recently I have had to come to terms with the fact that 1) I am somewhere on the autistic spectrum and 2) I am working in a field that is not ever going to be very accommodating for me. Advice and pointers needed; secret spices, more info and toy inside. [more inside]
My peers all have careers, spouses, houses, families ... while I'm single and thinking of moving to Germany as that's the only way I'll be able to afford a second Bachelors. (I want to study something STEM related to break out of this job rut I'm in).
I can't help but think of it as an incredibly lonely endeavour - to study a new language and then attempt to go to Uni all over again with people more than a decade younger than I, in a country where I know no one at all ... and to top it off, I was never very good at making friends and I am not close to my family members at all.
Are my misgivings valid or should I grit my teeth and just go ahead? I feel stuck, I can't move forwards but I can't stay where I am either. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
I just gave up an awesome internship offer for my principles. Yay! Except I am feeling an overwhelming sense of regret. How do I move past this, stop feeling sorry for myself and remember why I did it? [more inside]
This one might be a doozy. So, I'm a 23 year old recent college grad ( this May) with a B.A. in psychology and no idea what to do with my life. ( Original, I know, but bear with me, it gets better.) Everyone around me seems to have what are at least well-outlined 5 year plans, oriented around either grad school or a great entry level job. Certain circumstances in my life though seem to leave me with a vision of the future that doesn't extend far beyond the living room couch and daytime TV for the next 10 years and that frightens me to no end. [more inside]
I really can't figure out what I want to do in my life. And it's scaring the crap out of me. At many times I really thought I knew what I wanted and then when I started working... I didn't, at all! I tried really hard to figure out what to do. I majored in political science, been involved in campaigns, and I thought I would just go to law school. But felt uneasy about the whole thing like it was just something I was supposed to do cause I would be good at it. So I decided to work a bit in a medical field, which was followed by living aboard for a few years. Now I'm dabbling in film and thinking about architecture.
All amazing experiences but no closer to a conclusion. I feel super strongly about some careers and then realize I only feel strongly about those things because I admire the people in those fields and not necessarily the field itself.
Does anyone have a similar story? Any conclusions? Can anyone help?
I need to change my life and career in several different ways, and I feel quasi-paralyzed because a) the changes I need to make are so large and b) special snowflake. Suggestions for approaching this rather ungainly undertaking? Also, I am 35. [more inside]
Very-early-career scientist at a fork in the road: choice between working in industry and in academia. Hive mind, please help me make an informed decision. [more inside]
Career change in 30's and 40's. Has anyone did it here? How did you do it? [more inside]
Questioning life decisions about college and the future. [more inside]
Is there some sort of 'career/life counselor' out there that can help me navigate college/university programs and requirements after dropping out last year? [more inside]
Should I quit my job? Much more inside. [more inside]
City or country? I want both. [more inside]
I don't know what I want to be when I grow up. Problem is, I just turned 45. Help me work out what to do next. [more inside]
I quit my "Dream Job" after 5 months, currently face-to-face with the unknown. Advice? [more inside]
I just graduated college and have been working full-time for one month. I really don't like my job because I think I ended up in the wrong industry/type of business. I'm hoping for any suggestions, advice, or thoughts about how I can go about figuring out what industry/type of business/job would be a better fit for me. I am talented, smart, and hard working, but I feel like I am wasting my life because I'm not interested in my company or the work we do. [more inside]
Sick of everything and want change is 42 too late in life? [more inside]
How do I figure out what I want to do and where I want to live and move to the other side of the country at the same time? Nature, dislike of large cities, an acting career...loooots of text inside, lots of explanation. Help! [more inside]
In the last couple months I've come to realize that I am not alone. My personality is my problem and it is what has made this post-college thing so hard on me.
ENTPs are sort of visionaries who can be the best and innovate and succeed at anything we put our heart to but we get bored very easily if we aren't socially, creatively satisfied and doing some "analysis" or "innovation" or "problem solving". We also don't take well to being "told what to do".
(Sort of like a cross between Steve Jobs (visionary, creative, secretly self-obsessed) Calvin (from the comic), Jack Sparrow, The Joker, and Wile E. Coyote. ) [more inside]
Relocating from NYC all by myself and scared. Anyone have any experience/advice? [more inside]
I'm a creative/analytical individual who thrives in an environment where I can tweak and testdrive many variables/things/ideas/etc in a creative way and put them to use for profit/critique/judgement/etc.
I have all the time in the world to figure this out, but I want to get it right and I want to find a career I will love the rest of my life. [more inside]
How can I figure out how to make my "ding in the universe"? [more inside]
I’m in my late 20s and still wrapped up in self-indulgent “what should I do with my life” questions that I can’t seem to resolve. Sorry for a rambling question - please help. [more inside]
Please help me decide how to proceed with my life in this post college recession (1.5 years and no full-time job): Do I take this opportunity or continue looking for something more akin to whom I am? I am an ENFP personality and first person to go to college in my family. [more inside]
Please help me find a purpose in life. [more inside]
After years of mulling about, I've come to realize that I want to to go to university and gain a proper liberal arts education. For the first time in what feels like eons, I feel enthusiastic and motivated. Trouble is, my first attempt at doing so was three years ago and under much different and more trying circumstances. It seems that the consequences of my halfhearted younger self have severely damaged my future possibilities. What can this 21-year-old do to demonstrate his new-found ardor for all pursuits academic? [more inside]
How do I choose what to do with my life when I'm passionate about everything? [more inside]
Is it normal to wanting to emulate a certain person at your job? My guess is yes, but I find myself doing this all the time. One day, I want to be as ambitious as General David Petraeus and it shows in my work - my productivity increases. This goes on for a few weeks... recently I've been reading about Tim Cook (Apple's new CEO) and aside from being very impressed with him, I have a more of an "industrial design" approach to my work... help! (more examples below.) [more inside]
I've failed college and I don't feel like returning, at all. In fact, every single day I stay here seems like a waste. So, I might as well do what I was planning on graduation: Get as far away as possible and start over. Question is, where? [more inside]
Interested in changing my career PT, Lawyer, Teacher? ..but what should I know before. [more inside]
What can make this situation better? [more inside]
Help me figure out what to do with my life! [more inside]
I’m looking for some advice or different points of view to help me decide what direction to move in. [more inside]
How can I feel good about finding a job and starting a career? Caution: personal details inside. [more inside]
What did you do when you were in your 20s and trying to find a way to support yourself financially but still had no idea what you wanted to do in terms of a career? [more inside]
What can I do during my free time in Philly, that you have done yourself or a friend raved about, that will help me get more insight into possible careers
? I'm trying to get out of a rut (of "I don't know what to do with my life and I hate what I'm doing") by trying new things that involve other people. [more inside]
Looking for a life where the only consistency is its INconsistency... [more inside]
I'm a recent college grad who has been playing the "unemployment blues" for the past 5 months and have had no real success finding full-time work. However, I've recently had two excellent interviews for an entry-level administrative assistant position at a small non-profit organization in New York (where I currently live with my parents). I'm not sure if this is the kind of work I would be able to do for more than a year (well aware that most people don't necessarily enjoy their jobs and generally have to haul ass in the early stages), and the pay is mediocre, but I am entering student loan repayment soon ($80k+ worth of debt) and need a steady paying job ASAP. Please offer me some perspective from your experiences in this situation, and help me determine if I am making the right decision. [more inside]
I need to figure out whether I:
(a) hate my job
(b) hate working, though it's inevitable
(c) am just wiped out mentally from other circumstances in life.
The answer is probably (d) All of the Above, but that doesn't really send me in one direction or another. [more inside]
Is it better to live to work, or work to live? [more inside]
How can I make a living doing what I love?
My almost-50 birthday is this week. Several years ago I quit my job to start a new career. I still have little idea how to make money from what I want to do. I'd hate to go back to my former career, and I can't imagine who would hire a man nearing 50, who hasn't had a job in years... [more inside]
I am a nonentity. It is very distressing. [more inside]
QuarterLifeCrisisFilter: I've been thinking about my future career and considering going to grad school. I only have a vague idea of what I might like to study, but I know I want an advanced degree (preferably sooner rather than later). Is this a bad idea? [more inside]
I'm not talented at anything useful. I'm not passionate about anything specific. And I'm getting older. What now? [more inside]