My girlfriend will be undergoing a radical hysterectomy in a couple of weeks, for something that may or may not be cancer. I am coping less than well, but don't want to put all of my anxieties on her, as she has quite enough to be getting on with. I need help managing my anxiety and figuring out how I can best support her before, during, and after the surgery. [more inside]
My parents are in their mid-sixties. I'm in my forties. I want to be the best daughter I can be while I still have them around. What things do you wish your adult children would do more of (or less of) to make you feel loved and supported? I know what's needed and possibly appreciated may vary based on people's physical abilities, income levels, etc. I just want to get some ideas from people who have children my age of things they've appreciated that I may not have thought of, so all ideas welcome. Thanks!
Probably dumb post-breakup question: Is it a terrible idea to contact someone I dated before my ex to ask them if they'd be willing to hug me while we watch documentaries about space? [more inside]
Substitutions for Urea Cream 40%? [more inside]
For a project at work, I'd like to know more about what happens at HIV+ diagnosis in settings where the patient isn't connected with a case manager (or peer navigator, linkage coordinator, or similar). E.g., at ER's, public health clinics, and any other diagnosis settings where connection to a case manager or similar isn't routine, what happens? Can you fill me in, or suggest how I can find out? [more inside]
I had a very bad experience at my usual vet and had to take my cat to the emergency vet... can experienced people help me understand how much these things should cost? [more inside]
I'm trying to figure out how I can get help my sister from 3000 miles away. I'm hoping to be able to hire her a helper or aide to get some very important things done, but I don't know where to start. She's in Palm Harbor FL (near Tarpon Springs). [more inside]
Mrs Rabu and I are becoming foster parents. We're in our early 30's and excited about this as we have flexible work schedules, extra income, lots of love, and an amazing backyard to roam around in for a little one. I have a few specific questions from the pre-homestudy checklist I wanted to check in with the hive about. [more inside]
I might be moving my mother (91) from an assisted living facility outside Boston to the LA area. She has dementia, but is in quite good state. [more inside]
How do I work this? My dog, a wonderful black lab/dalmatian mixed breed, needs companionship for a few months while I'm in recovery... [more inside]
My mom's in dire need of a dental makeover. She's 82 and over the last few years her teeth have really suffered - broken, fallen out etc. She stopped seeing her dentist a few years back because of what appeared to be egregious billing and a ridiculous $43,000 proposed dental plan for her. She's not in pain, but she's got some serious gaps and chewing problems. Problem is, neither of us can afford to get her fixed up. Other than DIY dental implants, maybe you have an idea or two....? [more inside]
I don't know what I can do to help my partner come to terms with his illness. [more inside]
A friend of mine is a former Methodist preacher who wants to become a carer support worker in England. He sees caring as an extension of ministry. He really wants to work, but getting him to put aside his faith to get the job is a suggestion he won't take. Are there Christian-centred care homes in England? How do I find them?
Please give me your best practices for starting a relationship off on the right foot. [more inside]
My 11 year old Westie has been drinking 2-3x more water than usual. My vet says the next step would either be an X-ray ($75) or an ultrasound ($500). I'm not sure what's the best next step? Cute pup photo here. [more inside]
I used to live in CT, where health insurance is cheap and great. A couple of years ago, I moved to NY (state, not city), where coverage is expensive and lousy. So I've maintained my old CT policy (Anthem), using a home address that's actually a mail drop. Am I living dangerously? [more inside]
My SO has a large tumour we're expecting to learn is cancer. Chances of it being benign are small. Assuming surgery/chemo - how do I care for him, both physically and emotionally? We also have a 1yr old - how might he be impacted? What can I do to prepare for treatment? How can I prepare our home? I have never dealt with a major illness before. Thank you
How to sit with discomfort (and you know... get some sleep) after making decisions that put my financial needs first? [more inside]
Looking for some feedback on what combination of U.S health insurance combined with an HSA you use. We're looking to reduce costs. [more inside]
So, grandpa can't make it here for Thanksgiving this year - he's in hospice care. Last minute we've decided to take Thanksgiving to him. Does anyone have suggestions for how to take the meal mobile? [more inside]
As part of some merger among hospitals, my wife, a primary care physician, is now being asked to sign an agreement to follow the Ethical and Religious Directives of Catholic Health Care Services as a condition for her continued employment. The directives conflict with her own conscience and medical judgement. Is this legal? Does she have any recourse, if she chooses not to sign? [more inside]
My parents are in their early 80's. The time has come for them to sell their house and move to an assisted living type environment. This needs to happen sooner than later. If you have gone through this process what do you wish you had known before you started visiting places? What questions do we ask? What type of financial set-ups have you encountered? [more inside]
Looking for a podiatrist in the Washington, DC area (preferably Maryland and NW DC) who can give a male relative a pedicure in a medical setting and without embarrassment. [more inside]
My mom is struggling with a heart problem. She is not married and none of her children live in the same state. I want to get her signed up for a service that can help out when an incident crops up so she does not have to rely on friends and neighbors in emergencies. I've never dealt with anything like this before and I'm looking for advice about how to help her choose and engage a service. [more inside]
I'm in a caring profession which is being cut and slashed repeatedly by government financial cuts here in the UK. I'm tired of having a precarious life where I'm not sure where I'll be living and what I'll be doing from one month to the next. Being in the process of transitioning male-to-female, I'm looking to build a little more stability into my life, so that I can plan a real future for myself rather than just surviving on a short-term basis. Help me build a future! [more inside]
Are any of you familiar with or had experience with any health care sharing ministries? We are considering joining one of the plans because of sky-rocketing insurance costs. I'm not necessarily looking for your opinion on the morality part of the plan, which I know several posters will disagree with. I'm looking for actual experience with the plans. Are they reliable?
I am trying to find an animal that fits the whole medicinal/body care/spa kind of vibe because I want to create a logo. I thought of swans, but I am looking for animals that could appeal to a broader demographic (if that makes any sense).
A few weeks ago we were going to take care of a found puppy for "a few hours" which has turned into forever. We are having her spayed tomorrow, and I have all kinds of things I'm nervous about. I know you're not my vet, but I'm more hoping for some real pet owner experiences to know exactly what to expect, and what we do need to do, and what may be being overly cautious. [more inside]
Can you help me figure out how to care for our extremely fearful cat? [more inside]
I have some beautiful heirloom roses that I planted last year. One of them was decimated by rose slugs. It has come back bushy and beautiful thankfully! I noticed that someone had already been sampling this year's goods. Aphids maybe? What can I put on the roses that will keep the pests away but not harm the honey bees? Someone must have a hive nearby because I see them quite frequently.
I have a Health Care FSA and a card that I use when I visit the doctor. I would like to do online bill pay through my FSA (pre tax) but the online forms require a routing number and account number. I have not been able to find any routing number when asking my employer. Is it possible to pay medical bills online using the FSA card, or, do I need to use my regular checking account then file a claim for the amount?
I'm moving into the field of health care policy and I don't have a strong background in this area. I'd like some recommendations for books that will give me a broad foundation and also some that are interesting and specific to timely health issues. [more inside]
I got some purple ink on my Saddleback briefcase. I tried a leather cleaner, but it did nothing. So my question is, what should I try next? (The answer "don't worry about it, stains give bags character" is actually helpful, since it'll help me come to terms with inking up my graduation present.) [more inside]
At what point does avoiding the things that make you unhappy become unhealthy? [more inside]
First winter in our new house, and the first real (but probably short lived) snow will come Wednesday (USDA Hardiness Zone 6A). We won't have to to prep for this snowfall, but what should we be doing longer term for the plants in our garden during the winter? [more inside]
After a great deal of deliberation, a thorough reading of Fosterhood, and an inconceivable amount of bureaucratic obstacle weaving, we are currently parenting two foster children. They're Chinese. We aren't. They need to eat more soups, more vegetables. I need help figuring out how to make things they'll like. [more inside]
I'll be accompanying my mother-in-law to her first chemo appointment tomorrow. What can I bring her to make the experience as comfortable as possible for her? [more inside]
My husband drinks 6+ beers a night and smokes 2 packs a day. I used to drink quite a bit, but when I took note of how much it drains out bank account, I cut down to 1 or none a night. In the last month he has spent over $500 on drinks and cigarettes. That is money we could be saving. How can I implore him to stop without being a nag? [more inside]
Research help: What percentage of youth in foster care are born to parents who were at one point in foster care of themselves? I'm looking for information on the prevalence of intergenerational child abuse and experiences of foster care. In addition to the question above, I am also interested in what percentage of perpetrators of child abuse were victims of child abuse themselves. I've done some digging myself and haven't been able to find any data on this.
Has anyone dealt with the sudden dismissal of a childcare worker? [more inside]
My 87 year old mom is currently at the Psych ward in Fall River, RI. Her mental health has been deteriorating recently and we are looking into places that she might be comfortable at if and when she is no longer able to be at home in Wellfleet, Cape Cod with 24 hour care. [more inside]
My income has changed but I don't want to switch to Medicaid. Will I just receive health tax credits on next year's tax return? [more inside]
With 13+ years experience working in the field of child care, I am ready for a career change. Most recently (the last 5 years), I have been working as a nanny in a major American city. Previously, I've been a camp counselor, Au-Pair, and tutor, etc. I'm looking to parler this skill set into something outside of 'household help'. [more inside]
I need more ideas for what I can do to make my dog's time happier & more active/stimulating for him while I am focused on the computer doing my work. [more inside]
How to get those health care dollars? [more inside]
I have a conference at Pepperdine University near Malibu CA and am bringing my kids and another adult. There is a Saturday excursion that my youngest, 6, is too young to participate. We're flying in from the East Coast, how do I find a fun, responsible college kid for that morning? [more inside]
How does one properly care for a snail? [more inside]
Central Indiana - I need elder care help today! Please help us! [more inside]
I've got kids with medical problems and I need someone to help me manage our home. What is this called and how do I go about finding it? [more inside]
I recently acquired a beautiful, brand new designer dress that's much nicer than anything I've had in my wardrobe before. I've worn it once and have been hanging it up to air out. Is it better to get it dry cleaned before storing it, or will it be easier on the fabric to put it away in its worn-once state? I don't want to put unnecessary stress on the fabric from the dry cleaning process, but I really, really don't want to find moth holes in the dress several months from now, either. [more inside]