Colon Cancer scare in my family. My health insurance won't cover a colonoscopy because I'm too young and have no symptoms. Should I shell out the $1000 - $3000 this could cost me to get checked? Gratuitous YANMD. [more inside]
How should I quit my job to start another one while I'm on FMLA leave? [more inside]
I'm 49 and my wife is 44. We have two small children 7 and 2 and do not own life insurance. Last Friday, we learned my wife has breast cancer, and the same day found out there is a likelihood I could be diagnosed with bladder cancer in the following weeks. Is there any kind of life insurance which I should quickly try to secure in the short time I have while I am still basically healthy? [more inside]
My girlfriend is at Sloan Kettering in New York for some surgery and i want to send her a shitload of flowers (and for those of you familiar with Sloan Kettering/cancer in general, she is on a ward where flowers are OK) I am willing to spend a little cash to make it special since I am not with her. She has a lot of other friends wanting to do stuff as well, so I will share your recommendations with them. As always, thanks in advance for your help.
Short of raising his paw and saying, "Yo, mom, I'm ready to die," how will my dog let me know that it's time? [more inside]
My dad's cancer has come back and he's lost a lot of energy in the last year. In the next few weeks, we and his doctors will be discussing treatment/chemo options. What can I do for him? [more inside]
I'm exhausted and burned out from a work project that's been going on for the past six months and won't be done for another 2-4 weeks. A week and a half ago, my dad was diagnosed with cancer, and his prognosis is not good. I need some strategies for dealing with all of this when I already feel like I'm close to the breaking point. Details below. [more inside]
Sad times in my family. My six-year-old nephew's DIPG - one of the most devastating forms of childhood brain cancer - appears to be recurring after a "radiation honeymoon" that saw many of his symptoms recede for a while. The prognosisis is poor; the progression of the disease over the coming weeks and months will likely see him lose many basic functions - sight, coordination, ambulation - while retaining, to the very end, most of his intellectual capabilities. We are helping out as much as we can, but since my nephew is on the other side of the country, I was wanting to send him something that he'd find fun, interesting, maybe even useful. What that might be, though, I don't know. Suggestions? [more inside]
In need of an awesome endocrinologist (for post-thyroidectomy medication management) in the Philadelphia area. Difficultly level: most of 'em seem to be either dogmatic curmudgeons OR vitamin-shilling charlatans. Little synthetic-hormone snowflakes within... [more inside]
Some one very close to be has been diagnosed with adenocarcinoma of the lungs. What can I expect over the next five(?) years? [more inside]
In my grandmother's final days battling brain cancer, she became unable to speak and she filled dozens of index cards with random letters of the alphabet. I'm beginning to think that they are the first letters in the words of song lyrics, and would love to know what song this was. This is a crazy long shot, but I've seen Mefites pull off some pretty impressive code-breaking before! [more inside]
After a much testing I found out I have pancreatic cancer at age 47. I am having the wipple procedure Monday. Any advice or suggestions for recovery. Thanks Hive.
My beloved dog walker has been battling with cancer - and it sounds like she's losing. What can I give her and her partner as a Christmas/New Year's gift in the midst of this? [more inside]
I just started a new job last week and am in a workplace with only one other person. She was crying the other day and it turns out her father was just diagnosed with brain cancer. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: my good friend has just been diagnosed with endometrial cancer. She is in Europe and not returning home for treatment, and I'm trying to help her figure out her funding options and provide emotional support. Tips wanted/needed please. [more inside]
I am grinding my teeth at night and they are breaking. I have no income, benefits, insurance or money. I need help quite quickly. [more inside]
I just bought a little bag of eye bolts that I intend to use to keep a screen door inside my house open. After purchasing them, I glanced at the bag and noticed a cancer warning. Uh, WTF? Is it just saying that if I ever decide to eat some eye bolts, it shouldn't be these eye bolts, or is there an actual cancer risk just from having them screwed into a door and frame in my house? And what chemical or chemicals might be involved? Details inside. [more inside]
My mom and I spent the past two years as full-time caregivers for my dad until he died this summer. We were just getting back on our feet when she was diagnosed with a terminal disease two weeks ago. What now? [more inside]
I have been dating a guy for a couple of months. He told me recently that he's got a genetic mutation that makes it much more likely that he'll get cancer, and that is making me really sad. [more inside]
My father is a terminally ill hospice patient, who has esophageal cancer. I and his wife (my mother) want him hydrated and I want to know, from those who are medically knowledgeable, what a good level of hydration would be for him. [more inside]
Fucking integrative oncology: How does it work? I have questions about integrative oncology and whether it's a valid area of research and treatment or the shiny new woo-woo thing dressed up with medical-sounding words. [more inside]
What are some ways that I can provide support from afar for friends dealing with illness? [more inside]
So this Office Chair I bought has the flame retardant Tris(1,3-dichloro-2-propyl)phosphate (TDCPP) in the cushion. Which appears to have cancer implications. Should I keep the chair? Wait, wait, hear me out. [more inside]
In this Time magazine interview, Google founder Larry Page talks about the new Calico project. One particular quote jumped out at me: "Are people really focused on the right things? One of the things I thought was amazing is that if you solve cancer, you'd add about three years to people's average life expectancy," Page said. "We think of solving cancer as this huge thing that'll totally change the world [...] but in the aggregate, it's not as big an advance as you might think." Err, really? Can this be true? Or is this one of those statistical tricks - like the one with life expectancy in the middle ages, where we think people died in their mid-thirties, but in reality, once you adjust for infant mortality, people actually typically lived well into their sixties? I tried asking Mr. Google but his answers were confusing.
Having found the lump a year ago this June, it took me until today to find the courage to try doing something. Many of the sites I found said to go through my local health department, so I finally worked up the courage to walk in today. They had no idea what to say, and no longer offer any program that would help. I walked out with a pamphlet for a clinic in another town that they think "might" have a program to help with a sliding payment scale but they weren't even sure about that. [more inside]
My mom found out that she has cancer. Things are looking okay, but she'll need to travel a few hours away for surgery, followed by a week off work. Over the next couple of months, she'll need daily radiation. The twist is, she started a new job within the past month and a half. How should she share this with her boss (or should she share it at all)? [more inside]
I am hoping that someone will be able to point me in the direction of any programs that cover room and board in an inpatient hospice care facility in Michigan. The patient is my boyfriend's mother, who has refused chemo and is ready to call hospice to make her remaining time comfortable. She was diagnosed with Stage IV colon cancer in May and has just been given the prognosis of ~3 months. [more inside]
As previously mentioned, my best pal has a really ugly case of ovarian cancer happening right now. The situation is terrible, the outlook grim. But I know how to make her laugh, which is one of my official jobs on Team Sick Friend. But I need more material! [more inside]
This is a a bit of a rush question. I've googled but there is a lot of confusing information and advertising about this treatment. This is when they personalize the treatment to your exact genes. This is for my elderly brother who is in great shape, physically (ex "ultra" runner) but has just found out he has prostate ca that has spread to his spine. Right now he is doing great and looks very strong (he's 83)so we think he would be a good candidate for this treatment but his location is not close to any large cancer center.
My brother has been diagnosed with an acute form of leukemia, and is currently in the ICU. What we know is that he's not going to die tonight. He's got some life left in him. They're not sure about the precise form yet, that will take some time. But in the meantime, we have a problem: he's 31, recently unemployed, and uninsured. My family is far from being able to afford out of pocket health costs. And from all the doctors, drugs, machines he's been hooked up to in the past 10 hours, I know the bill is already creeping into the many tens of thousands of dollars. So my question to MeFites is: what are our options? How do we pay for this? We have very few assets, although I'm sure we'd sell the family home to keep my brother alive for a few more years. But apart from that, we've got nothing substantial. (I'm a graduate student, and my mother is a self-employed seamstress. My father is unemployed). Are there any gov't programs available? Can he go on Medicaid? Etc. I'm having trouble finding hard info on people in his particular situation (not a minor, not elderly, and diagnosed with cancer). Help!
I want to look into enrolling in an oncology clinical trial that is being conducted in Germany. The lead researcher indicated my being Canadian could be an issue because I would have to live in Germany for the duration of the trial (four months) and because I don't have German health insurance. I know people go to other countries to take part in clinical trials, but how do they do this if they lack health insurance in the country where the trial takes place? [more inside]
Looking for anecdotes from anyone who has been in a similar situation. [more inside]
My dad who is 84 years old lives in Asia and he was diagnosed with stomach cancer 2 months back.I am his only daughter now as my brother met with an accident and passed away 4 years back.My mom died 20 years back too.He is under the care of my wonderful cousin.I went to see him a month ago and spent some quality time.He was doing fine till last Friday.I have been talking to him twice daily.Suddenly he has started deteriorating and doctors feel his end is very near.I am feeling terrible now.I didnt feel this much when i lost my mom & brother!but i am close to my dad.Thats why probably. [more inside]
My dad was just diagnosed with Large B Cell Lymphoma. The prognosis is good. He begins chemotherapy (R-CHOP) in a week - 6 cycles every 3 weeks, for a total of 18 weeks. I am a 7 1/2 hour drive away, and I don't own a car. What can I do to help? [more inside]
I am going to be interviewing cancer patients on step 3 opioids for pain management (morphine, tramadol, etc.), and I want to understand how that might affect them. It's not clear to me how much it might slow them down, make them easily confused, or anything else. I realize there might not even be an average for this sort of thing. But I'm hoping that people with relevant first-person or clinical experience could help give me an idea what to expect.
My mom has been in hospice care for pancreatic cancer for a few months now. It's obviously at a pretty late stage at this point. Whenever either she or I talk to the hospice care nurse, the nurse really doesn't want to talk about anything in the future, though, except in the vaguest of terms. [more inside]
Asking for a friend. Her mom lives in Nashville, Tennessee. "My mom was just diagnosed with a rare and aggressive type of breast cancer. She will need both chemo and surgery. In addition to the physical, medical, and emotional toll treatment will take, we need to figure out how to pay for this. [more inside]
So my best friend has ovarian cancer. And we're in our "out of the frying pan, into the fire" moment because she's stage 4 and shit's already going poorly. How do I tell my kid? [more inside]
Never in my life has this happened before, but I keep finding myself in tears of grief over the looming death of Scottish writer Iain M Banks, who is far and away my favourite writer and has terminal cancer. I'm looking for ways of helping to resolve this emotion, by using it as energy to fuel a meaningful response. [more inside]
So my best friend has ovarian cancer. And she's a divorced mom with no family. All of the support is going to come from friends, and I'm the Friend Leader. I'm going to be asking a million questions about this, I bet, in the coming months, but here's where I'm starting: if I say anything sweet or sentimental to her, she's gonna give me a black eye. I need snarky, sarcastic humor & presents for one of the smartest cancer patients ever. [more inside]
My sweet 8 1/2 year old golden retriever has been diagnosed with an aggressive peripheral nerve sheath cancer this week. She can hardly walk on one leg and is on a lot of pain medication and she still is quite uncomfortable. We have been offered palliative radiation as a method of reducing some of her pain, not extending her life. Have you ever chosen palliative radiation for your dog? Was is a good decision for your pet or in hindsight would you have chosen euthanasia instead? [more inside]
I just found out I have High Risk hpv. My doctor didn't seem too concerned, but I feel like my world is falling apart. How do I cope? [more inside]
The story: wife gets breast cancer. Double mastectomy, chemo, radiation. Two young kids. Nine years of remission. Then, recurrence. Three years of more chemo, then three months of hospice and she dies at home in my arms. [more inside]
A close relative recently had a double mastectomy and is awaiting breast reconstruction surgery. She is still in recovery phase, and is surrounded by her loving and supportive family. Because of work issues I'm unable to visit for a while. I've sent flowers, and made phone calls, but I would like to get something delivered to her either brighten her day or make this time easier or any more comfortable for her and her family. [more inside]
If I had gobs of money to throw at a "cure" for cancer, or at least ways to make it suck less for those who have it*, where would the money go farthest? Research for better treatments, research to develop better diagnostic tools, funding for better treatment/diagnostic programs, funding for patient support (like hospice) service, or anything else? Do organizations exist that might be more effective than the American Cancer Society, for example? [more inside]
My dog has bone cancer, and spends most of his time gimping around on three legs due a gross tumor on one of his hind legs. He's already a pretty striking dog (obligatory photos here and here and here), so people already often stop to talk to me about him and comment. Now, he has a very pronounced three-legged gate, and people comment on that too. I'm having a hard time dealing with explaining to people "he has cancer" multiple times a day, and watching their faces drop. Any suggestions as to how I can handle this better so I don't ruin my own and other people's day by making everyone think about awesome dogs dying? [more inside]
Our wonderful kitty was just diagnosed with cancer. We are waiting today (I took the day off work for it, I am such a wreck) to hear more details, but the initial findings were very bad. So, what can I do to help her enjoy her last time with us? I know the vet will give us more information about pain meds (tho she doesn't seem to be in pain) and diet, but I wonder what other thoughts people can give. For example, it was from a friend that I learned it was OK to give her Pepcid A/C (confirmed dosage with vet), and I think that has been helping her tummy. Also, through googling I discovered that it is possible to euthanize in-home, which gives me some comfort for when her quality of life slips below an acceptable threshold. Anything else come to mind? [more inside]
Do nutritional supplements for dog cancer work? [more inside]
My uncle is dying - the doctor says days or weeks. I haven't said anything to him, or his wife, or his kids, since they got the cancer diagnosis a few months ago. Our families have had a historically fractured relationship, so it all feels very awkward to me. Please help me figure out what to appropriately say to them. [more inside]
I was taping an ethernet cord over my doorframe with vinyl electrical tape. I can't find the label, but I remember it had a warning saying that the tape contains chemicals that the state of California recognizes to cause cancer. After maybe ten minutes of futzing with it (and breathing), I have a minor headache, my throat hurts a lot, and breathing feels weird and cold. Page 2 of this document warns about fumes from molten electrical tape, but I didn't heat it. Was the warning label accurate? I can't find any scientific info online. Should I take this stuff down from my walls, or will it be OK now that I'm no longer actively handling it?