My girlfriend is at Sloan Kettering in New York for some surgery and i want to send her a shitload of flowers (and for those of you familiar with Sloan Kettering/cancer in general, she is on a ward where flowers are OK) I am willing to spend a little cash to make it special since I am not with her. She has a lot of other friends wanting to do stuff as well, so I will share your recommendations with them. As always, thanks in advance for your help.
posted by TedW
on Mar 16, 2014 -
I'm exhausted and burned out from a work project that's been going on for the past six months and won't be done for another 2-4 weeks. A week and a half ago, my dad was diagnosed with cancer, and his prognosis is not good. I need some strategies for dealing with all of this when I already feel like I'm close to the breaking point. Details below. [more inside]
posted by SockISalmon
on Feb 20, 2014 -
I just started a new job last week and am in a workplace with only one other person. She was crying the other day and it turns out her father was just diagnosed with brain cancer. [more inside]
posted by Literaryhero
on Dec 11, 2013 -
In this Time magazine interview
, Google founder Larry Page talks about the new Calico project
One particular quote jumped out at me:
"Are people really focused on the right things? One of the things I thought was amazing is that if you solve cancer, you'd add about three years to people's average life expectancy," Page said. "We think of solving cancer as this huge thing that'll totally change the world [...] but in the aggregate, it's not as big an advance as you might think."
Err, really? Can this be true? Or is this one of those statistical tricks - like the one with life expectancy in the middle ages, where we think
people died in their mid-thirties, but in reality, once you adjust for infant mortality, people actually typically lived well into their sixties? I tried asking Mr. Google but his answers were confusing.
posted by rada
on Sep 23, 2013 -
I am hoping that someone will be able to point me in the direction of any programs that cover room and board in an inpatient hospice care facility in Michigan. The patient is my boyfriend's mother, who has refused chemo and is ready to call hospice to make her remaining time comfortable. She was diagnosed with Stage IV colon cancer in May and has just been given the prognosis of ~3 months. [more inside]
posted by slyboots421
on Aug 16, 2013 -
As previously mentioned
, my best pal has a really ugly case of ovarian cancer happening right now. The situation is terrible, the outlook grim. But I know how to make her laugh, which is one of my official jobs on Team Sick Friend. But I need more material! [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa
on Aug 15, 2013 -
I am going to be interviewing cancer patients on step 3 opioids for pain management (morphine, tramadol, etc.), and I want to understand how that might affect them. It's not clear to me how much it might slow them down, make them easily confused, or anything else. I realize there might not even be an average for this sort of thing. But I'm hoping that people with relevant first-person or clinical experience could help give me an idea what to expect.
posted by canine epigram
on Jul 3, 2013 -
So my best friend has ovarian cancer. And she's a divorced mom with no family. All of the support is going to come from friends, and I'm the Friend Leader. I'm going to be asking a million questions about this, I bet, in the coming months, but here's where I'm starting: if I say anything sweet or sentimental to her, she's gonna give me a black eye. I need snarky, sarcastic humor & presents for one of the smartest cancer patients ever. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa
on May 17, 2013 -
My sweet 8 1/2 year old golden retriever has been diagnosed with an aggressive peripheral nerve sheath cancer this week. She can hardly walk on one leg and is on a lot of pain medication and she still is quite uncomfortable. We have been offered palliative radiation as a method of reducing some of her pain, not extending her life. Have you ever chosen palliative radiation for your dog? Was is a good decision for your pet or in hindsight would you have chosen euthanasia instead? [more inside]
posted by cecic
on May 11, 2013 -
A close relative recently had a double mastectomy and is awaiting breast reconstruction surgery. She is still in recovery phase, and is surrounded by her loving and supportive family.
Because of work issues I'm unable to visit for a while. I've sent flowers, and made phone calls, but I would like to get something delivered to her either brighten her day or make this time easier or any more comfortable for her and her family. [more inside]
posted by newpotato
on Apr 15, 2013 -
My dog has bone cancer, and spends most of his time gimping around on three legs due a gross tumor on one of his hind legs. He's already a pretty striking dog (obligatory photos here
), so people already often stop to talk to me about him and comment. Now, he has a very pronounced three-legged gate, and people comment on that too. I'm having a hard time dealing with explaining to people "he has cancer" multiple times a day, and watching their faces drop. Any suggestions as to how I can handle this better so I don't ruin my own and other people's day by making everyone think about awesome dogs dying? [more inside]
posted by Grandysaur
on Mar 28, 2013 -
I took my dog to vet to get his teeth cleaned today. They saw a very obvious bump on his nose that I hadn't noticed before, told me to see a specialist ASAP, and the dental cleaning did not happen. And then I cried in the car for twenty minutes. Obviously, I'm not asking for a diagnosis via Metafilter, but how can I negotiate/maneuver with veterinary costs? [more inside]
posted by ablazingsaddle
on Jan 28, 2013 -
I was recently diagnosed with testicular cancer and will be having surgery next week to remove the testicle with the tumor. Should I be thinking about preserving sperm yet? [more inside]
posted by zrail
on Dec 6, 2012 -
My extremely-gifted best friend halfway across the world was depressed and then recently diagnosed with breast cancer. Now she's nearly suicidal. I'm in over my head and I don't know what to do... [more inside]
posted by luciphercolors
on Aug 31, 2012 -
Please give me recommendations on good Bay Area cancer treatment centers. [more inside]
posted by pluot
on Aug 15, 2012 -
My husband has a few more months before cancer takes his energy, and then his life. We have a 17 month old son. My husband plans to write some letters to our son, but beyond that, I am not sure what to do to help my son know his father. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by Mozzie
on Aug 13, 2012 -
Having a potentially cancerous skin growth removed by a plastic surgeon. What should I expect? [more inside]
posted by swift
on Jul 27, 2012 -
Mohs surgery, end of next month. What should I be asking the surgeon in the meantime? [more inside]
posted by thrasher
on Jul 17, 2012 -
My boss is using fiberglass insulation to block an air duct. Am I going to die of cancer because of this? [more inside]
posted by Sternmeyer
on Jun 11, 2012 -
Knowledge-based hope is much needed. Since my first plea
-- which helped a lot, really, this month of May has been sorrowful for Maria João and for me. A metastatic brain tumor (around 3 cms) was detected and removed. Gamma-knife surgery is next.
Tomorrow starts the search for other cancerous tumors in her body. We both feel, against all odds, that we will be lucky.
But what should we do? What should we hope for? Statistics are againsts us but we love each other truly.
Two months ago we found a beautiful house to move into. We could move in come July, after all the tests are made.
What should we do? What should our attitude be? Should we move or stay put? Should we change country? Should we prepare to die? Or live as much as we still can?
Desperate questions need realistic answers. We're fighting for our lives here. Please tell us, knowingly, how to behave.
For what it's worth - usually nothing - I think this time we'll be lucky enough to survive. Whatever happens.
posted by MiguelCardoso
on May 15, 2012 -
My father is in his late 60s, former smoker (20+ years, quit about 25 years ago.) was recently diagnosed with bladder cancer. Where and how to get the best treatment? [more inside]
posted by dudeman
on Mar 16, 2012 -
My urologist suggested I read an article regarding prostate cancer in the February 2012 issue of Esquire (the one with Bill Clinton on the cover). I just went to three stores and of course the February issues are gone. Can you help me find it online. My "google fu" isn't great! I would like to read it online before my a.m. appointment. It doesn't have to be free. Please hope me! No special snowflake stuff inside!
posted by snowjoe
on Mar 7, 2012 -
Catfilter: I'm looking for experiences from cat owners who have had cats with mast cells in their spleen. What's the survival time following a splenectomy ? (This is assuming lab results and the vet suggest that procedure.) [more inside]
posted by Man with Lantern
on Jan 1, 2012 -
What is chemotherapy like for a young man with melanoma? Can anyone direct me to a good primer, fiction or nonfiction, on what it's like to have this kind of cancer? [more inside]
posted by theletterfour
on Nov 8, 2011 -
I don't want my sister, hospitalised in the U.K. to die in pain. She will die soon of anal cancer and surgical complications including an extremely painful fistula. I would like to know if she has legal rights to be kept pain free, even if that leads to death. I know doctors can make that choice. I would like to know if she can also make the choice. I do not live in England, and cannot stay with her until she dies, others of the family will be with her. [more inside]
posted by nickji
on Oct 17, 2011 -
My mother's liver is failing, but nowhere near as fast as expected. She has been in home hospice care for two and a half months. My aunt wants me to take her to the doctor but I feel like the physical toll on my mother outweighs any probable benefit. Am I doing the wrong thing? What do I tell my aunt? [more inside]
posted by polyhedron
on Oct 13, 2011 -
I have a friend who may lose his eye because of cancer in his sinuses, which is being treated with radiation. I'd like to buy him an eye patch, and specifically wanted to buy one that was high quality. Can you suggest some vendors, some suggested designs (especially funny ones), and anything else you think I might could do that would let him know how much he's loved? [more inside]
posted by scunning
on Aug 1, 2011 -
Please help me help my friends navigate their stay at Massachusetts General Hospital as international patients. Said patient is a child who will be receiving proton treatment for a brain tumor. [more inside]
posted by lunaazul
on Jun 11, 2011 -
I've had a chequered history of employment and illness over the last year - after redundancy last summer, I finally got a job (i'm a bid manager) in December, only to be diagnosed with testicular cancer in February. I've spent three, nearly four months going through chemotherapy with the associated recovery periods at home in between, and now the chemo is finished I can't seem to get myself started again. [more inside]
posted by jjleonard
on Jun 8, 2011 -
YANMD but: can a bald patch in the beard be an indicator of oral cancer? More detail below. [more inside]
posted by rahnefan
on Jan 30, 2011 -
I need ideas for helping a toddler through four to six months of chemotherapy. [more inside]
posted by Rumple
on Nov 22, 2010 -
My dad has been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. We are not close. I'd like some level of closure but don't know what I want. [more inside]
posted by zerobyproxy
on Nov 17, 2010 -
Just had an endometrial biopsy due to postmenopausal bleeding that started over the Labor Day weekend. The results could take two weeks or more and my next appointment is not for three weeks. Do any of you folks who are not my doctor know if this is a safe length of time to wait should it turn out to be cancer?
posted by lazydog
on Sep 9, 2010 -
Family dog has cancerous lump on leg, vet says surgery might be enough to cure it (20% chance of recurrence). So what can we do to 1) help minimize the stress of surgery and 2) strengthen his immune system and general health, to increase his odds? So far I've gotten "all raw foods" and "no corn or soy it's all GMO" but neither of these folks actually have dogs. I'd like to hear from the dog-owning hivemind about this.
posted by kestralwing
on Aug 20, 2010 -
Two weeks ago my 83 year old mother was diagnosed with colon cancer--surgery to remove the right side of her colon is scheduled for this Friday. If anyone here has gone through this type of surgery, what were your experiences during post op and recovery? What can our family do to make Mom's recovery easier? [more inside]
posted by I'm Brian and so's my wife!
on Aug 8, 2010 -
My uncle has cancer...allegedly, and our family members are rallying together to help him. How can I give without feeling like a sucker? [more inside]
posted by stedman15
on Jul 19, 2010 -
What Is WRONG with me, for God's sake? Last Wednesday night I was struck with a stiff neck, and really swollen knee joints. By end of work Thursday (driving 300 miles) I was wholly incapacitated with a low grade fever, upper back pain and lumpy knees. Now, much of this is not new, as I already have blood cancer
, but this is way beyond the scope of these diseases. (I am immunologically compromised) [more inside]
posted by ~Sushma~
on May 14, 2010 -