Join 3,370 readers in helping fund MetaFilter (Hide)

29 posts tagged with cancer and death. (View popular tags)
Displaying 1 through 29 of 29. Subscribe:

Caregiver take two

My mom and I spent the past two years as full-time caregivers for my dad until he died this summer. We were just getting back on our feet when she was diagnosed with a terminal disease two weeks ago. What now? [more inside]
posted by lharmon on Oct 25, 2013 - 10 answers

Now what?

The story: wife gets breast cancer. Double mastectomy, chemo, radiation. Two young kids. Nine years of remission. Then, recurrence. Three years of more chemo, then three months of hospice and she dies at home in my arms. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2013 - 39 answers

What to say to a dying relative with a fractured relationship?

My uncle is dying - the doctor says days or weeks. I haven't said anything to him, or his wife, or his kids, since they got the cancer diagnosis a few months ago. Our families have had a historically fractured relationship, so it all feels very awkward to me. Please help me figure out what to appropriately say to them. [more inside]
posted by raztaj on Feb 25, 2013 - 10 answers

No light at the end?

Have you ever not only been unable to see the light and the end of the tunnel, and don't care anymore if you do? [more inside]
posted by thelastgirl on Dec 11, 2012 - 20 answers

How can we help our son know his father?

My husband has a few more months before cancer takes his energy, and then his life. We have a 17 month old son. My husband plans to write some letters to our son, but beyond that, I am not sure what to do to help my son know his father. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by Mozzie on Aug 13, 2012 - 62 answers

My mom has died, I will be ok, is it ok to know that?

My mom has died, I will be ok, is it ok to know that? [more inside]
posted by thelastgirl on Jul 16, 2012 - 47 answers

Help me talk to my friend with cancer

My neighbor is dying of cancer. It's touch or go, and I am not sure, but it may be the end. I am young enough that I haven't known many people to die, and my neighbor is himself young. Not to be dramatic, but I don't know how to say goodbye and I'm nervous. [more inside]
posted by scunning on May 16, 2012 - 17 answers

How can I save my love from dying?

Knowledge-based hope is much needed. Since my first plea -- which helped a lot, really, this month of May has been sorrowful for Maria João and for me. A metastatic brain tumor (around 3 cms) was detected and removed. Gamma-knife surgery is next. Tomorrow starts the search for other cancerous tumors in her body. We both feel, against all odds, that we will be lucky. But what should we do? What should we hope for? Statistics are againsts us but we love each other truly. Two months ago we found a beautiful house to move into. We could move in come July, after all the tests are made. What should we do? What should our attitude be? Should we move or stay put? Should we change country? Should we prepare to die? Or live as much as we still can? Desperate questions need realistic answers. We're fighting for our lives here. Please tell us, knowingly, how to behave. For what it's worth - usually nothing - I think this time we'll be lucky enough to survive. Whatever happens.
posted by MiguelCardoso on May 15, 2012 - 25 answers

How do I stay sober?

How do you stay sober through difficult times? [more inside]
posted by thelastgirl on May 10, 2012 - 25 answers

How can I survive my mother's death?

How can I survive my mother's death? [more inside]
posted by thelastgirl on Feb 13, 2011 - 36 answers

My sister-in-law is probably dying

My sister-in-law is probably dying from metastatic breast cancer. I live about 1500 miles from them and I can't afford to go there, both from the cost of travel and the time off from work being uncompensated. How do I handle this situation when the terrible moment arrives? [more inside]
posted by noonknight on Dec 27, 2010 - 7 answers

How do I cheer up my MIL? And how do I prepare my son for the worst?

My mother-in-law's lung and lymph cancer is spreading. Outlook is not good. I would love some ideas to cheer her up or show solidarity. I would also like resources for when the inevitable comes and I have to explain to my three-year-old why he won't ever see his grandmother again. [more inside]
posted by middleclasstool on Nov 4, 2010 - 10 answers

Last Birthday Present

What to give someone for their last birthday? [more inside]
posted by sav on Oct 27, 2010 - 39 answers

How to prepare a 4.5 year old for his grand father's passing?

How to prepare a 4.5 year old for his grand father's passing? [more inside]
posted by trbrts on Jul 19, 2010 - 14 answers

How do you overcome fear of death when you have faced major medical problems?

I had a large non-cancerous tumor removed a few years ago. The tumor and the two surgeries required to remove it left me unable to work for a year and $50,000 in debt. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2009 - 5 answers

Can I forgive myself for leaving my dying mother's side?

My mother is dying. How can I forgive myself for the guilt of leaving her bedside? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2009 - 35 answers

How to write to someone who's dying?

How do I write a thank-you card to a sister-in-law who is dying? [more inside]
posted by stenoboy on Oct 4, 2009 - 13 answers

Can you help me find an explanation for the black spots on my mother-in-law's eyes as she neared death?

What might have caused black spots to form and grow on my mother-in-law's eyes as she was dying from pancreatic cancer and the inevitable infections that go along with cancer and its treatment? I'm hoping someone with a similar experience or someone in the medical field might be able to tell us something that the doctors here couldn't. [more inside]
posted by ElDiabloConQueso on May 14, 2009 - 4 answers

Does someone with a dying relative better understand what someone who has lost a relative is going through?

Does someone with a dying relative better understand what someone who has lost a relative is going through? Explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2009 - 12 answers

Her Mother died of Breast Cancer two years ago, what can I do?

Breast Cancer took her mother from her 2 years ago (October 3rd, 2006)- what can I do for her anniversary? [more inside]
posted by eleongonzales on Oct 1, 2008 - 11 answers

During a potentially long-term illness, how do you know when you're supposed to drop what you're doing and go be with the sick person?

My dad is dying, but how do I know how quickly, and how do I know which "scares" I should travel across the country for? [more inside]
posted by bash on Mar 26, 2008 - 31 answers

Dying has a way of making family gatherings kind of awkward

I'm spending my Thanksgiving in Malaysia, visiting my one of my aunts, along with others in my extended family. I'm almost certain that this will be the last time I'll ever see her. [more inside]
posted by Weebot on Nov 16, 2007 - 7 answers

How will his liver cancer end...?

My grandfather has been diagnosed with a liver/pancreatic cancer that can't be operated on. How is this likely to play out? How do we deal with my grandmother afterwards? [more inside]
posted by twine42 on Apr 10, 2007 - 17 answers

moms rule

my mother was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer. do any of you have ideas for little things i can do for her to remind her how awesome she is? girls especially. what are some of the best, most thoughtful things loved ones have done for you? [more inside]
posted by andywolf on Mar 19, 2007 - 27 answers

Dying from cancer...

My friend is dying of cancer. It's just a matter of time before she goes since she has stopped receiving treament. She is bedridden, can't see and is too weak to talk but she can still hear. What can I do for her on our visits to help her get through the day? Are there massage services out there (NYC)? Should I read her a book - what's a good title? Should I ask her family if they will allow me to play some CDs for her - any suggestions? Your input is greatly appreciated.
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2007 - 28 answers

Help me help my friend through her dad's death.

My friend's father just died after a very short battle with cancer. My friend's sometimes a little unstable. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by MeetMegan on Sep 4, 2006 - 15 answers

What to say to someone who is dieing

What do you say to someone who is in Palliative Care? [more inside]
posted by smcniven on Jun 23, 2005 - 12 answers

How do I take up pipe smoking?

I'd like to switch from smoking cigarettes to smoking a pipe... [more inside]
posted by cmonkey on Apr 26, 2005 - 8 answers

Helping a Grieving Friend

Tonight the father of a close friend of mine passed away. In the last month this is the third relative he has lost and his mother is in cancer treatement : more inside [more inside]
posted by elpapacito on Jan 11, 2005 - 11 answers

Page: 1