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Pimp our chemo bag

My mom is starting chemo. Her cancer has already made her VERY sick. She will have IV chemo starting Wednesday and each time will take about 7 hours. What should I consider packing for us?
posted by beccaj on Nov 27, 2016 - 15 answers

What do these sciencey words mean?

While I know you are not our doctor, we just discovered my mom has cancer. She had been sick for 7 weeks but they told her was osteoporosis. [more inside]
posted by beccaj on Nov 17, 2016 - 8 answers

How to help a healthy toddler cope when their sibling has cancer?

Asking for a friend. Twin 2 year olds. One was just diagnosed with leukemia and started chemo yesterday. Their twin is traumatized and feels neglected. Experience with this or a similar situation with young siblings? How to help? [more inside]
posted by anya32 on Nov 12, 2016 - 5 answers

I don't want a double life of being seriously ill

I'm getting a diagnosis for something that if not cancer, is likely equally annoying given other health complications. I have access to good healthcare and things are speeding up, meaning frequent appointments at the hospital, insurance bills and probably risky surgery soon. However, the timing sucks. I'm divorcing with shared custody, starting university for a career change and next year moving countries. In two weeks I'm supposed to start two papers, I'm primary parent and my ex is behind on financial support. I need strategies for specific challenges. [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood on Nov 7, 2016 - 13 answers

French culture and medicine

I have multiple myeloma, which generally is considered an incurable cancer, though some people stay in remission for decades. I am in the US. My doctor tells me that, once people are in remission, American doctors tend to put them on low-dose maintenance chemo for life, while French doctors, using the exact same data, have concluded that maintenance therapy is appropriate for a year, but after that, it has too negative an impact on quality of life for the benefits to be worth it. What gives? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal on Nov 4, 2016 - 15 answers

Terminal Brain Cancer When You're Down and Out

My roommate's partner, who is a close friend of mine, has stage III terminal brain cancer. He has been symptom free for almost a year but he has recently been showing signs of the cancer advancing, including seizures. He is terrified of dealing with the system of getting treatment, and has been turned down for disability even though he is unable to work because of the cancer. How can we help? [more inside]
posted by ananci on Sep 23, 2016 - 10 answers

Looking for non-military metaphors for living with cancer

I have multiple myeloma (bone marrow cancer) and though I want to do everything possible to regain my health, I'm not a fan of the military metaphors people use. Several studies have found that people who use military metaphors have more trouble with making changes that might prolong their lives. Can the hive mind come up with better ideas? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal on Sep 21, 2016 - 14 answers

New cancer diagnosis: your best tips, tricks, and books

So I was just diagnosed with an incurable blood cancer. Life expectancies are all over the map - from a few years to decades - and I should probably stop Googling them. My family is far away, but my friends are falling over themselves to ask how they can help. I need suggestions for starting to get a handle on this. [more inside]
posted by FencingGal on Sep 3, 2016 - 16 answers

Family member has cancer

I am looking for ideas to support and comfort him. It's stage IV prostate cancer, which will give him several more years, at least with treatment. [more inside]
posted by annsunny on Sep 2, 2016 - 5 answers

GoFundMe is working - how to manage? Tax implications, etc.

A musician friend received a serious cancer diagnosis last week and his network is quickly mobilizing with a bunch of benefit concerts and a GoFundMe for medical expenses that has been doing well. Now that the pool of donations is hitting some real money, the family is trying to prioritize expenses and make sure they're not stepping into a potential tax liability down the road. [more inside]
posted by pantarei70 on Aug 5, 2016 - 6 answers

Can I just quit my job to deal my extreme life changes?

In the past year, I have been treated for cancer and my husband died unexpectedly. With the exception of 4 weeks of FMLA earlier this summer, I have continued to work at my professional job with only a few days off here and there. I increasingly want to take some time for myself to figure out who I am now and what I want the second half of my life to look like. Is that terribly indulgent? Is this a thing people do? Will it completely torpedo my career? [more inside]
posted by jeoc on Aug 3, 2016 - 25 answers

GERD/LPR + beer: does the cancer risk compound?

YANMD, but: I have some sort of reflux-ish disorder, probably either GERD or LPR. Had it for years. I'm also an avid beer drinker. Recently, I've been reading about the link between alcohol and head/neck cancers and it's freaking me out a little. Advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 29, 2016 - 4 answers

i have brain cancer and no one to care for me

How do I have cancer alone? [more inside]
posted by hollisimo on Jul 21, 2016 - 30 answers

Concierge/consultant for hospice and similar?

Asking for a friend here. Her mother is terminally ill with a severe brain cancer, is already suffering significant effects, and likely has less than a couple of years left. My friend lives far from her mother (as does her only sibling) and she's struggling with finding the right approach to helping her mom, helping her dad (parents are still married) and taking logistical burdens off of both of them. Is there a type of professional who can help? [more inside]
posted by Ignatius J. Reilly on Jul 18, 2016 - 7 answers

Need a nerdy, ball-shaped gift for a testicular cancer survivor

My friend is celebrating his five year testicular cancer-free diagnosis in December, and I'd really like to get him something amusing and wonderful as a gift. He's a pretty big nerd with a wonderful sense of humor about being post orchiectomy, so I'd love to get him something that's both commemorative and slyly hilarious - something he'd see and smile at every day that doesn't scream Lance Armstrong's missing testicle. [more inside]
posted by santojulieta on Jul 15, 2016 - 30 answers

Stephen Colbert Interview with Realistic Pessimist

Can someone help me to locate an episode of Colbert from a few years back--Comedy Central's search engine is not as versatile as I was hoping for. This is what I remember: Stephen is doing an interview with a woman who's suffering from cancer (can't remember if it's terminal or not) and she says that when she was first diagnosed she kept being told that she should be tough and positive and that if she was positive she could "beat" cancer, but all she really wanted to do was feel sad and not have to fake her emotions, and she made a really profound argument for pessimism that I want to show my students. Any ideas?
posted by ABlanca on Jul 10, 2016 - 4 answers

I'm not ready to lose my father, I don't want to be alone

My father has been diagnosed with cancer and will probably die within the next year (two years if we're lucky), all I think about is about his impending death. I'm an only child and, to me, his death will mean that I'm completely alone in the world. I am so scared of losing him, but I am literally helpless. I feel like I'm waiting for him to die and I don't know how to cope with it. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 2, 2016 - 12 answers

What happens if my father dies without a will?

My father has just been diagnosed with a pretty terminal brand of cancer. The last will he made is about 20 years old. I'm an only child and he's still married to my mother, but he seems completely uninterested in making a will. Whenever I ask him about it, he says he'll make one "eventually." I don't think that he gives a shit and I doubt he'll make a will. What now? We're in Alberta. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 8, 2016 - 10 answers

How to be a partner to a person with cancer?

I don't know what I can do to help my partner come to terms with his illness. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2016 - 15 answers

How to be supportive, when I can't be there in person

My partner is going to visit his parent, who has cancer and is in palliative care in another city (and might die quite soon.) Due to my own health, I genuinely can't travel there with him. What are some ways to be supportive of my partner, when I can't be there in person?
posted by Sockpuppets 'R' Us on May 5, 2016 - 6 answers

What to do about Bob the cat (lung cancer diagnosis)

My 11-year-old cat most likely has lung cancer with a poor prognosis. Aside from the heartbreak, I don’t know how to proceed in terms of surgery versus no surgery. [more inside]
posted by cat friend on May 5, 2016 - 14 answers

breast cancer care package

A friend has been diagnosed with breast cancer. I'd like to send some care packages as she goes through treatment, but need some suggestions on what would actually be helpful / things she can use [more inside]
posted by raw sugar on Apr 24, 2016 - 23 answers

Catastrophizing about what could be a catastrophe

The next week is going to be a rough one for me. My father is going in for cancer tests this week. He'll be seeing a oncologist on Friday before getting a biopsy for what could possibly be lung cancer on Tuesday. He clearly hasn't been diagnosed with anything yet (so who knows, it could be nothing, I guess), but I have been a wreck since Monday. I cannot stop imagining the worst case scenario. I am so afraid of my father being seriously ill and dying and these thoughts are just consuming me. I am completely petrified. How can I cope with this uncertainty? And if the news is bad, can I even survive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 21, 2016 - 24 answers

Letter of appreciation to teacher with late-stage cancer?

I recently discovered that my inspirational secondary school art teacher, Mr W, has lung cancer. Reports from my family suggest that it could be late-stage and not being treated, though his wife says they are 'staying positive'. Can I convey my thanks and best wishes without intruding at this time? [more inside]
posted by doornoise on Mar 21, 2016 - 14 answers

How to help a depressed, elderly, sick parent

My beloved dad recently got diagnosed with lung cancer and is now depressed. How to support him, when his internal world seems so bleak? I feel a little like a punching bag for all his frustration and depression, too - how to mend this? [more inside]
posted by sockandawe on Mar 18, 2016 - 15 answers

I'm Too Old for This Shit - Life Catastrophe Edition

My marriage is unsatisfying and problematic, I am in treatment for breast cancer, and the affair that was taking my mind off of these problems seems to be slowly, painfully fading. I turn 40 in a few days and my entire life is a disaster. How on earth do I cope with all of this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2016 - 18 answers

Give Me a Very Basic Primer on Multiple Myeloma

My mom just got diagnosed with multiple myeloma. I'm driving down to see her and take her to a bone marrow test next week, so I expect I'll be able to get all the specifics of her case with her and her doctors, but I'd like to hear from people with personal experience to set a baseline for my expectations. [more inside]
posted by Copronymus on Feb 25, 2016 - 7 answers

in limbo

My life's turned upside down within the space of a couple of months. My dad has cancer, I've left my job, home, and city to move home to be there for him. Everything is so weird right now, I feel like I am in total personal limbo and completely ALONE. Has anyone who's been in this situation before got any advice to share with me? [more inside]
posted by sockandawe on Feb 16, 2016 - 14 answers

Hit me with your favorite chemo head gear

The hair and I are parting ways. It’s freaking cold outside. The chemo will probably go on through spring-early summer, so I'll need some lighter stuff as well. I’d like to try and hide the hair loss as long as possible, if that is possible. I have looked at a lot of hats online already, but would like some recommendations as to what worked best for you. [more inside]
posted by instead of three wishes on Feb 14, 2016 - 9 answers

Can a CT Scan Determine Cancerous Node?

Asking for panicking friend who has had a painful swollen lymph node on one side of her neck for a few weeks. Antibiotics didn't help, so last week she had a CAT scan done and the doctor wants her in today for a follow up. [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes on Feb 12, 2016 - 10 answers

Breast cancer treatment with special needs child -- help?

I'm asking this for a friend who was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma. She's getting monthly chemo starting next week for 4 months. Following that will be radiation for 6 weeks and then Tamoxifen. She has an 18-month-old son born 3 months premature who cannot stay in daycare (he's immuno-compromised and has short gut syndrome, so the pediatrician has ruled it unsafe until he's at least 3 years old). We are looking for resources to help with child care during her treatment and recovery. [more inside]
posted by Unicorn on the cob on Jan 21, 2016 - 11 answers

How do I care for someone with cancer?

My SO has a large tumour we're expecting to learn is cancer. Chances of it being benign are small. Assuming surgery/chemo - how do I care for him, both physically and emotionally? We also have a 1yr old - how might he be impacted? What can I do to prepare for treatment? How can I prepare our home? I have never dealt with a major illness before. Thank you
posted by scuza on Jan 15, 2016 - 6 answers

Parent has cancer and I need help dealing

Parent has just been diagnosed with cancer. Quite apart from the emotional devastation, the administrative/family fallout burden is extremely hard to handle and there's just me doing it. Please help me figure out how handle this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2016 - 18 answers

Cancer troubles vs relationship troubles?

Boyfriend has colorectal cancer and I am starting to struggle to support him as I feel increasingly resentful and like I'm losing my own life to support his. Please help.... [more inside]
posted by starstarstar on Jan 7, 2016 - 16 answers

Cancer After-care

My dear cousin is in Durango, Mexico and is recovering from breast cancer. She's had some standard treatment, but she has questions. [more inside]
posted by kamikazegopher on Jan 4, 2016 - 4 answers

OK to use topical steroid on cancerous skin?

I have been treating what I thought was dermatitis with a glucocorticosteroid cream; turns out it is actually a "pre-cancerous lesion", which needs to come off. In the meantime, can I keep treating it with this steroid? [more inside]
posted by Cardinal Fang! on Dec 22, 2015 - 1 answer

Talking about sex with a partner who has Stage 4 cancer...

I really need some advice on how to talk with my partner and address her questions about our sex life (or lack of it) as not only do we have a two-year old but my partner is also undergoing treatment for cancer. Help, please... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2015 - 22 answers

Best course of action when you have no Primary Care Physician?

I need to know where to begin -- I fear I may have a serious health concern but have no PCP/GP as I've only recently started taking responsibility for my health. [more inside]
posted by nohaybanda on Dec 8, 2015 - 15 answers

is this a bad idea?

Nearly 20 years ago I suspected that my father was having an affair. Now the woman who I suspected as his mistress has been stalking my LinkedIn profile and curiosity is killing the cat. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2015 - 36 answers

Cat has lots of fluid on her lungs

My 2-year-old cat is at the veterinarian’s office overnight. I’m afraid she may not have much time left. I’m looking for more information than I’ve got so far so I have a better idea of what I’m dealing with. [more inside]
posted by bryon on Nov 16, 2015 - 9 answers

Stop harassing my dying friend

How do I help a dying friend discourage another friend (unknown to me)from pushing alternative medicine/cures for her incurable cancer on Facebook? [more inside]
posted by b33j on Oct 30, 2015 - 20 answers

How to cope when you are pushed away?

I met someone fantastic. We really clicked and I was so excited about the future. [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes on Oct 21, 2015 - 12 answers

How can people help me as a caregiver for my spouse?

How can people help me as a caregiver for my spouse who is in hospice care? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow on Oct 18, 2015 - 17 answers

Supporting boyfriend through mom's (terminal?) illness and the holidays

I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. About a month in he told me that his mom was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor 8 months before we met. His mom has done radiation and was seeming to get better in the last few months. He was making plans for me to meet his family for the first time on Thanksgiving. He just found out his mother has taken a turn for the worse (she's having difficulty walking), and I'd like to know: 1) how I can support him and 2) how to navigate meeting his family during this difficult time. [more inside]
posted by lafemma on Sep 29, 2015 - 11 answers

V complicated, but hopefully interesting question

I'm in love with a guy with cancer. I'm 31 and starting to feel like I want my life to move on soon. Cancer means it can't with him, and he doesn't want to plan a future right now. What to do? [more inside]
posted by starstarstar on Sep 27, 2015 - 22 answers

Experience or advice welcome.

I will soon be accompanying a close friend to Dignitas where she will end her life (she has a virulent, newly diagnosed, Stage IV lung cancer). Has anyone here been to Dignitas in a similar role, or knows of anyone who has, and can comment on the experience? Long-time Mefite posting anon as assisted suicide is illegal in our country. Many thanks.
posted by anonymous on Sep 11, 2015 - 6 answers

Coping With My Diagnosis of Myelofibrosis

After two major hospitalizations for clotting disorders, I've been given a diagnosis of myelofibrosis from my hematologist. I'm confused and frightened and worried that I'll start to see every little ache and pain as a symptom of my disease. Full details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by alltomorrowsparties on Aug 11, 2015 - 5 answers

Embarrassing parents – encouragement please!

My parents are kind of difficult, and haven't been great parents to me. I find them embarrassing in some ways ( I feel terrible saying that but it’s true). How to navigate feeling insecure about them in front of my boyfriend, and the temptation to act insecure and pissy and create issues in my current relationship because of this? Would be great to hear reassurance from people who've gotten over their partner's difficult or embarrassing parents and loved them anyway, or from those who have difficult parents but haven't let it affect their wonderful relationship. Complicated by other issues (mostly cancer-related) – more inside! [more inside]
posted by starstarstar on Aug 3, 2015 - 19 answers

Spouse's birthday... with complications

My spouse is having a milestone birthday. She's been fighting cancer for the better part of a year. I'm strapped as to how to show her how much I care. [more inside]
posted by kamikazegopher on Jul 31, 2015 - 20 answers

Help navigating USA insurance and employment for a sick relative.

One of my relatives has cancer. They’re getting treatment right now and understand the treatment plan. But since we’re in the US, of course there are insurance and employment woes messing it all up. I need help helping them navigate these issues. [more inside]
posted by Tehhund on Jul 31, 2015 - 6 answers

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