I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. About a month in he told me that his mom was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor 8 months before we met. His mom has done radiation and was seeming to get better in the last few months. He was making plans for me to meet his family for the first time on Thanksgiving. He just found out his mother has taken a turn for the worse (she's having difficulty walking), and I'd like to know: 1) how I can support him and 2) how to navigate meeting his family during this difficult time. [more inside]
I'm in love with a guy with cancer. I'm 31 and starting to feel like I want my life to move on soon. Cancer means it can't with him, and he doesn't want to plan a future right now. What to do? [more inside]
I will soon be accompanying a close friend to Dignitas where she will end her life (she has a virulent, newly diagnosed, Stage IV lung cancer). Has anyone here been to Dignitas in a similar role, or knows of anyone who has, and can comment on the experience? Long-time Mefite posting anon as assisted suicide is illegal in our country. Many thanks.
After two major hospitalizations for clotting disorders, I've been given a diagnosis of myelofibrosis from my hematologist. I'm confused and frightened and worried that I'll start to see every little ache and pain as a symptom of my disease. Full details below the fold. [more inside]
My parents are kind of difficult, and haven't been great parents to me. I find them embarrassing in some ways ( I feel terrible saying that but it’s true). How to navigate feeling insecure about them in front of my boyfriend, and the temptation to act insecure and pissy and create issues in my current relationship because of this? Would be great to hear reassurance from people who've gotten over their partner's difficult or embarrassing parents and loved them anyway, or from those who have difficult parents but haven't let it affect their wonderful relationship. Complicated by other issues (mostly cancer-related) – more inside! [more inside]
My spouse is having a milestone birthday. She's been fighting cancer for the better part of a year. I'm strapped as to how to show her how much I care. [more inside]
One of my relatives has cancer. They’re getting treatment right now and understand the treatment plan. But since we’re in the US, of course there are insurance and employment woes messing it all up. I need help helping them navigate these issues. [more inside]
How do I respond to a puzzling prostate cancer possibility? [more inside]
My father was recently diagnosed with mesothelioma at age 83, caused by exposure to asbestos at his former workplace. Multiple doctors have urged him to seek a settlement by engaging an attorney. Is there any way to know which firms, if any, are reputable? The ABA website was no help. Also, where can we read about the experiences of other asbestos victims and their families to better know what to expect w/r/t his condition and also with w/r/t their experiences with claims for compensation? [more inside]
I have a tattoo on my calf. In an area of solid black ink, there's a small bump in my skin. If I go to a dermatologist, what will happen? [more inside]
Please help me sort out my feelings about my relationship with my boyfriend, my relationship with his cancer, and how the two might be interplaying. [more inside]
The love of my life has recently been diagnosed with stage three breast cancer. This seemed to come out of nowhere. In the space of a month from one checkup to the next she developed a 2.5 centimeter tumour. I'm lost. [more inside]
Someone I know, who has practically no savings and no home, has just been informed that his biopsy was diagnosed to be melanoma at an alarming stage. Could you please point me to any cancer/low-income/housing resources in Portland, OR? [more inside]
After years of mysterious pains in my side, treatment for colon cancer in 2014 and a colonoscopy yesterday, last night I ended up in the ER howling in agony for hours. My doctors aren't really sure what happened. YAobviouslyNMD, but I'm hoping the smarties of Ask Metafilter can offer some ideas about what the hell is going on with my stupid goddamned body. [more inside]
My boyfriend has just been diagnosed with cancer of the colon. I don’t really know what I want to ask here, except to ask for some reason to hope that he’ll be okay, and to ask for advice if he’s not. [more inside]
Three of my cousins have tested positive for BRCA1 gene mutation, all in the last year. After a 3-month wait, I finally got the good news from the lab - I am negative! I need to tell my cousins... but how? I am elated but the last thing I want to do is add to their pain with my ill-timed, poorly delivered giddiness. [more inside]
This is my situation- had ascus and hpv negative 4 years ago, then 3 years ago was all normal now I have lgsil and they did a biopsy which was negative. They did not find anything in the colpo or biopsy. Now they tell me to redo the pap in 6 months. Has anyone experienced that- bad pap but normal biopsy and have to retest in 6 months? What is your experience? I am kind of scared cause I am wondering what is wrong with me
Can medical marijuana cure or at least be effective in some capacity in treating cancer? [more inside]
My mom was diagnosed with stage iv cancer 10 months ago. She has responded fairly well to treatment and the doctors give her 3-5+ years. I live on the other side of the world with my partner and my job. I am in my early 30s. Where am I supposed to be? How do I make decisions? What does "Family is everything" mean? Is my partner family, too? How do I prioritize? [more inside]
My 30 year-old brother called me last night to tell me that he has been diagnosed with testicular cancer (based on blood markers/physical examination). His CT scan is later this week, and he'll be scheduled for surgery/radiation/? shortly depending on the results. If you have been through this, what can I do or not do to make this easier for him? [more inside]
A family member has been diagnosed with non-Hodgkin's lymphoma and their doctor has advised they pursue a bone marrow transplant. The doctor is able to arrange this through a regional hospital but I was asked to help research other possible hospitals where they could have this done. Do you have any specific recommendations for hospitals or facilities that do a large number of these or are uniquely qualified/specialized? Patient is based in the northeast US, please assume no insurance/cost/travel barriers at this point.
Someone very close to me was diagnosed with early stage melanoma. What now? [more inside]
I've just been diagnosed with breast cancer. As in, Wednesday. It is a small tumor, likely stage 1 or 2, but aggressive (ER+ and her2+) and I will have chemo, radiation, and then hormone-suppressing pills for a number of years. I am 38 years old and there is no history of breast cancer in my family. Needless to say, I am freaking the hell out. [more inside]
I found out that I had a recurrence of breast cancer about two months ago, and subsequently had a mastectomy towards the end of December. Although it is a local recurrence, I was told that I should get chemotherapy. This was a big shock to me - I thought the mastectomy would be the end of it - and I couldn't really think of any questions to ask. I'd like to prepare a list of questions to ask my doctor, and would appreciate some suggestions. Details inside. [more inside]
Tomasetti and Vogelstein recently published an analysis that suggests the variation in the number of stem cell divisions leads to cancer incidence rates that are higher for tissues with relatively greater numbers of divisions. They recently posted a follow-up which attempts to address some of the counterarguments to their results. Acting on the premise that their work is correct or at least "in the right direction", are there labs or drug companies working on gene therapies that attempt to improve DNA polymerase fidelity (even in model organisms), as a means to one day perhaps reduce cancer incidence in higher-risk tissues? While it is easy through mutagenesis to worsen fidelity rates and increase cancer rates (as has been demo'ed in mice, say) can this aspect be engineered to be improved — that is, what biochemical aspects of (human) DNA polymerase have evolved to control its fidelity rate such that it might be possible to improve upon it?
I just finished reading The Emperor of All Maladies: A Biography of Cancer again and it was just as incredible if not more so the second time around. I'm wondering if there are other nonfiction books of similar quality and comprehensiveness for other topics - primarily looking for a diabetes book but also interested in any other comparable books. [more inside]
My dad has cancer. He has not told anyone this -- I found out by accident. How to best deal? [more inside]
So, my wife was in a bad wreck last monday, and during the course of MRI etc, they found a tumor on her brain. In spite of the hopeful, initial thought, it turns out to be a Grade 3 Annoplastic Astro Cytoma. Which pretty well sucks. The good news is, they were able to excise the entire tumor, plus a bit extra since it's location (right temporal lobe) lent itself to that surgery. [more inside]
My uncle (by marriage) has terminal cancer. His doctors have just recommended hospice care. We're medium-close; I see him and his family every couple of years. I live about 300 miles away. What can I do for him? For his wife (my mom's sister) and his grown kids? What can I say? Thank you.
Young couple living out their dream came to an abrupt halt in October. He was diagnosed with a particularly aggressive form of melanoma. They had not signed up for Affordable health care insurance, since they were planning on traveling and working around the country. And hey, they are young and healthy, right?? [more inside]
You are not my vet. However, I have seen a regular vet and a veterinary oncologist and now have some difficult choices to make and I would be very grateful for first hand accounts from people who have tried metronomic chemotherapy with their pet (especially cats) or other people's pets (if you're a vet or if you're close to someone who has gone through this sort of thing before). I am seeking advice and real-life experiences to supplement any advice regular vets or oncologists may give me. [more inside]
How long do I have to be exposed to 'bad UV' to be at risk of negative effects? [more inside]
I'm looking for clinical trial information for a loved one diagnosed with gliobastoma and the options on clinicaltrials. gov are somewhat baffling and numerous (all 907 of them). How do I narrow it down? [more inside]
A dear friend (female, early 30s) is at the end of her battle with cancer. Our circle of close friends is spread out all over the country. We've been sending gifts, visiting, pooling money together for cleaning and dog walking, etc for a year. But we're in the final month or two, she's in pain (just now starting to turn to palliative care) and I'd love some ideas on how we can support her and her husband. [more inside]
Let's say you wanted to find the very best ovarian cancer specialist in the US. How would you go about doing that? [more inside]
I am organizing (and cooking) meals for my boss and his wife. He was just diagnosed with cancer and has started chemo. I need ideas for the kind of meals I and others can prepare for a person with a compromised immune system. [more inside]
My father has suffered an extended series of illnesses and has a terminal disease. He's weak but has shown a capability to physically recover. Left to his own devices he sleeps a lot. How do I keep him engaged? [more inside]
My mother has another recurrence of the triple-negative breast cancer she's been dealing with for the last 5 years. In looking at the PET scans from the latest rounds of biopsying and testing, I have questions and I am not sure where to turn. [more inside]
Does anyone have any recommendations or knowledge of convalescent homes in the UK? My brother has just undergone some seriously brutal radiotherapy and cancer treatment for throat cancer. He's been out of the hospital for a few weeks and is now at my parents, but it looks like it could be a very slow road to recovery. He currently can't eat or drink, is very nauseous, at risk of dehydration all the time. [more inside]
My cousin's kid was born with cancer. A friend of theirs started a website where one can buy a t-shirt to show support for the family. This seems a little odd. Should I buy a t-shirt or do something differently to show love and support for the family? [more inside]
My Mother is likely going to receive a Metastatic Lung Cancer diagnosis on Monday. Due to her health, she probably won't be able to receive treatment. Questions about seeing an oncologist, palliative care, hospice, and my options. [more inside]
I am a 36-year-old woman that was just diagnosed with (endometrial) atypical hyperplasia, which is a precursor to uterine cancer. (I may have cancer already, but I'm trying not to let my mind go there). I will, most likely, need a hysterectomy. The thing is, I'm scheduled to move 300 miles away, and I have several job interviews lined up in my new location - great ones, too. How should I handle this with potential employers, particularly when they ask me when I can start? Or should I forget about my job search for a while?
I am interested in finding forums or blogs about breast cancer treatments in Germany to see the content and sentiment of conversations happening among patients and/or physicians. If they are behind a pay wall I would be interested in purchasing the data if possible. Thanks for input!
Dad's got cancer and the whole family (readers all) are looking for some book recommendations that are light, humorous without being wacky, and immersive. We've got a lot of time to sit around and worry. Thanks!
I've heard that consuming products that have been smoked can increase cancer risk. I've recently started to regularly drink several cups a day of Lapsang Souchong, a smoked tea. I am an ex-smoker so I am concerned that my risk for certain cancers is already elevated. I am having difficulty finding information on if there are any potential cancer risks from drinking this tea and if so, if they are significant enough that I should consider cutting back the amount I am drinking.
I need to get more fit. Part of it has to be done by controlling my intake. I've had success in the distant past with gum. But now I'm worried about the non-sugar sweeteners that most use - sorbitol and xylitol. Should I be? [more inside]
Colon Cancer scare in my family. My health insurance won't cover a colonoscopy because I'm too young and have no symptoms. Should I shell out the $1000 - $3000 this could cost me to get checked? Gratuitous YANMD. [more inside]
How should I quit my job to start another one while I'm on FMLA leave? [more inside]
I'm 49 and my wife is 44. We have two small children 7 and 2 and do not own life insurance. Last Friday, we learned my wife has breast cancer, and the same day found out there is a likelihood I could be diagnosed with bladder cancer in the following weeks. Is there any kind of life insurance which I should quickly try to secure in the short time I have while I am still basically healthy? [more inside]
My girlfriend is at Sloan Kettering in New York for some surgery and i want to send her a shitload of flowers (and for those of you familiar with Sloan Kettering/cancer in general, she is on a ward where flowers are OK) I am willing to spend a little cash to make it special since I am not with her. She has a lot of other friends wanting to do stuff as well, so I will share your recommendations with them. As always, thanks in advance for your help.