My mother died this morning. I am a co-signatory on her bank account. I live in California. I need answers ASAP because I don't want her funds frozen once we file the death certificate. I have a few questions. [more inside]
Seeking comfort and beauty. Can you recommend beautiful spots to visit in California? I'm looking for excessively, stunningly beautiful places. Bonus points if they are peaceful. [more inside]
I made a mistake on my CA vote-by-mail ballot and I still have it in hand. Can I exchange it for a new one at any polling place, or do I have to go to the polling place that is designated for my registered address? Or do I have to go to an office of some sort?
California became a state in 1850, and voted in the 1852, 1856, and 1860 Presidential elections before the transcontinental telegraph. Oregon became a state in 1859, so also voted in 1860. How (and when) did the rest of the country find out how they voted? Did their electoral college results get to Congress in time to be counted, and how were they sent?
Specifically the natural world around me. I recently moved back to California (southern, but interested in all) and have a growing desire to know and understand the 'natural' world around me. The flora and fauna (ID & cultural/commercial/ethnobotanical qualities), weather, and the changes to this aspect of the world, all interest me, especially in an environment so dynamic and exceptional, yet heavily culled and altered by human hand. Books, articles, websites, film, writers; any and all resources are welcome. Thank you. [more inside]
She drives but can't go far, doesn't have friends where she lives (so can't ask someone else to drive her), and isn't the socializing type. I'd like to find a way to make her more mobile for shopping and doctors' appointments. Lyft or Uber seem like possible options, but she doesn't have a smartphone, and barely can use a cell phone. She can use her home computer. She lives in Hacienda Heights, CA. [more inside]
I need help finding a lawyer. I have a complicated sublet situation, and I have questions about renter's insurance and personal liability. What kind of lawyer should I seek out? Do you have anybody whom you can recommend? I'm in San Francisco, CA. [more inside]
My roommate's partner, who is a close friend of mine, has stage III terminal brain cancer. He has been symptom free for almost a year but he has recently been showing signs of the cancer advancing, including seizures. He is terrified of dealing with the system of getting treatment, and has been turned down for disability even though he is unable to work because of the cancer. How can we help? [more inside]
I moved to a new area (just outside the Bay Area, California) and encountered a new er unflattering euphemism for homeless people or addicts — zombie. I'd never heard this before. I'm wondering if it's local flavor. Have you heard this, other places? [more inside]
I was cruising down CA-150 yesterday between Ojai and Santa Paula, CA, and I swear that I smelled sulfur. I can't find any definitive information online, but is there a hot spring around there somewhere? [more inside]
Mr. shesbookish just accepted a new job in Chatsworth, CA in the San Fernando Valley. We're moving there from Irvine in Orange County, which we love and we're hoping to find a place with a similar feel in the Valley. Does such a place exist? And would he have a reasonable commute to Chatsworth from said place? [more inside]
Our house in Southern California needs a patio cover. We want something with a lattice top kind of like this. We don't want wood because our last one was made of wood and it got termites. There are multiple options for non-wood materials: faux-wood textured aluminum, vinyl, composite (i.e., Trex). What are people's experiences with these kinds of patio covers? [more inside]
In California what is the likely penalty for driving a car which has not passed its smog test? [more inside]
I'm likely moving to California at the start of October. Recently, the location has tentatively changed to San Jose. I don't want this to happen, so please convince me that San Jose is the worst place ever, or give me some reasons for why it's really not that bad. [more inside]
I recently finished editing my grandfather's memoir and I'm wondering what institutions may be interested in a copy. He is a German Jew (b. Halberstadt) who left for San Francisco in 1934. Topics: his early childhood (family life, local businesses, Jewish life/education, shifts under Nazi regime), the voyage, a good deal about growing up in San Francisco in the 30s and 40s, some WWII Army engineer anecdotes of France/Belgium, Berkeley in the 50s, the technology industry, MIT in the 60s, and more. [more inside]
I'm moving from the East Coast to Los Angeles in the next few weeks. It is intended to be a permanent move, but I will be staying at an Airbnb for the first couple of months while I apartment-hunt, etc. In studying the California DMV guidelines here I see that I will need to provide a residential address to print on the license (even if I use a PO Box for my mail.) Is there any way around this? [more inside]
Hello! We're buying a house from very nice sellers in San Diego County, California. A requirement of our agreement is that they provide Section 1 termite clearance. Their termite inspection recommended tenting, but the sellers want to go with spot treatment instead because of the risk to plants around the house. I don't think I care as long as Section 1 is cleared, but am I setting myself up to have to tent the house later? The seller indicated that he would be willing to tent if we feel strongly about doing it. [more inside]
Can we travel Highway 101 and Highway 1, from Seattle to San Diego, in July of 2017 on new scooters and sell them as slightly used in San Diego? [more inside]
I might be moving back to California after 7+ years living in Massachusetts, and am interviewing for a job at UC Davis. Where should my husband and our 1 and 3 year old boys live? [more inside]
We (me, wife, kids 5 and 10) are traveling from Salt Lake City to Yosemite for 3 days of camping, and then to Monterey for 3 days. Help us plan the rest of a great trip. [more inside]
Starting mid-August I am riding my bike from Portland to SF via the coast. I'd love any mefite insights to this trip. I have The Book. I have my gear. I plan on mostly camping. Aiming for 50-60 miles/day. I also have questions. [more inside]
My family is in the car on the freeway, and we're going to spend the afternoon in Santa Monica and Venice Beach. This is our opportunity on this trip to get tacos for lunch; where should we go?
What's the best way to see the giant redwoods in Northern California, but with a dog? [more inside]
I want to hike for 3-4 days in a desert in the American Southwest - where should I go, where can I see the most beauty, and is early September a bad time for this? [more inside]
I want to know exactly what Brock Turner's sentence is, and it doesn't seem to me that any news outlets have been reporting this information. I do not want to debate or discuss the sentence. I am aware that the media is reporting 6 months in county jail, followed by 3 years of probation. My question is: what is the penalty if he violates the terms of his probation during those three years (what is the incentive to report to probation, test negative for drugs, etc.)? ie. what period of incarceration is probated for a period of 3 years? [more inside]
As my AskMefi history will reveal, mah wahfe and I are heading to SF and Napa/Sonoma region in early July. My remaining question is a simple one: is it feasible to stay in Santa Rosa and still enjoy wine country? [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a great divorce lawyer in the San Francisco Bay Area? (The couple involved have been married for 20 years and have no children, if that matters.)
What would you see in California if you were starting out in LA and had a car and 7 days to travel, only caveat being that you need to be in San Diego on the morning of the 8th day? We're going to LA for a family wedding in August. Taking an extra week afterwards to travel around and see as much of California as possible. However, we have to prioritize as we only have 7 days. Flying out from San Diego on the 8th day. We will have a rental car and we're interested in seeing as much as possible, as it will be my first time in California. Driving a lot is not a problem; we love roadtrips, and both of us drive so we can take turns. Please help us plan an itinerary! [more inside]
Next month I'm strapping my big 'ol mountain bike to my car and driving up from Los Angeles to Marin County to visit friends. Where should I stop along the way to camp and ride? [more inside]
We are planning to check out Murphys and also maybe go hiking in Stanislaus National Forest or Calaveras Big Trees State Park. Can anyone suggest a specific trail/area/place that would be good for novice/intermediate hikers? Or other activities/attractions in the area? Good picnic spots? Also, any ideas on where we might find vegan food (restaurant or grocery store)? Thanks!
I want to take my family to the beach in LA for a vacation in July. Which beach will be less crowded and best for my daughter to dig giant sandcastles? [more inside]
I just quit my job and I need to get away from my life for a while. I want to take a road trip by myself to Arizona, but I've never been on one before. Actually, I've never left the Bay Area since I was a kid. Does anyone have some kind of advice, things that newbie travelers usually neglect that I should know about? [more inside]
My wife found this weird insect in our LA/California backyard while gardening. It looks like a slim shiny wasp body got itself into stuck in large shiny copper colored head. Is it a destroyer of pests or a destroyer of crops? A harmless passer-by? Friend or foe? We must know!!!! [more inside]
I moved to California a week ago & since I got here I've been breaking out. I never break out. ??? [more inside]
Moving to California (Westlake Village / Agoura Hills / Oak Park area). Daycare urgently needed. Any insight or recommendations greatly appreciated. [more inside]
So I'm about to be laid off, I think. And I've never dealt with unemployment (I'm lucky) before. So what are some important things to know? I have some basic questions: 1) How long do the benefits last? 2) If I get a job offer, do I have to take the first one -- even if I expect better offers later? 3) Should I end any/all freelance work while getting EDD benefits? [more inside]
Short version: I have a crate that is 50 inches long, 20 inches wide, and 35 inches deep. What plants have roots that can take advantage of the depth, but don't need much space to spread laterally? Long version: [more inside]
My parents have had some recent health issues and I've asked them to meet with an estate planning attorney. What should I specifically ask them to discuss with this attorney? [more inside]
I'm driving from Sacramento to Phoenix for a quasi-family emergency. I'm two hours from Bakersfield, when I will have to make a decision: Take I-40 out of Barstow, or go further south to I-10. Will stop somewhere tonight. Which is the least bad drive, given traffic, construction, etc. I'm on 99 now, North of Fresno. Thanks!
What is the best route to drive from Seattle to Walnut Creek in California on a 3 day road trip? [more inside]
We're planning a last-minute road trip down to the northern California coast for Spring Break (next week), leaving from Portland this weekend. Looking for cool stuff to do with 2 active girls, ages 3 and 7. [more inside]
We're moving from NYC to California to the Tahoe/Truckee area and i'm really freaking out about it. Are we making a huge mistake? Will we fit in? Will it be multicultural/cosmopolitan enough? I need to make the panic/anxiety stop. [more inside]
A work trip to LACMA looks like it's happening, so I'm asking for help planning as an LA newbie. [more inside]
My wife and I are thinking of spending a week in San Francisco and the Napa Valley in mid-July for our 10th anniversary. Neither of us have ever been to SF or wine country. Can you wonderful people provide any tips, tricks, or suggestions? Best wineries to visit, things to do in SF, places to stay, etc. Basically where should we go and what should we do? Any help greatly appreciated!
I think my employer-structured tip-pool is not in line w/ California law, and I would like to find examples of penalties levied against bars/restaurants and their owners for violations of the relevant laws. YANML. [more inside]
Help a chronic over-packer get to San Fransisco with her one carry-on bag intact. [more inside]
I am having a hard time coordinating travel from Pomona to Palm Springs, CA and could use some insider/local help. [more inside]
I'm dealing with the tax ramifications of a bonus clawback, and it's ugly. I'd like get a feeling for just how ugly it's gonna get. Would any MeFites please share their US compensation clawback experience? I understand none of you are my accountant and that none of you are offering specific tax planning advice.
I'd like to go on vacation in August somewhere that's similar to Yosemite (Sierra, wilderness, gorgeous). But! I'd like to bring my dog (as well as my husband and 4.5-year-old child). I'm not taking my dog to Yosemite. Also, no camping. [more inside]
I'm going to call the court on Monday, but wanted to know what you had to say: I have a court date for next Friday for a name change. Something big came up, and I'm wondering if I can get it postponed. How likely do you think it is I'll be able to? [more inside]