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Daughter involved in bullying; did I do the right thing?

A photo was taken of my 10 year old daughter doing a racist impression of an asian classmate. I found the photo on my daughter's phone and subsequently discovered that she had sent this to two of her friends. She has been duly punished and lectured on why this was wrong and my wife contacted the parents of her friends to ensure that the photo was also deleted from their phones (which it was). We had hoped this would be the last of it, however someone informed the school of this and now things have blown up into a much bigger issue; it turns out that there has been an ongoing campaign of bullying against the asian girl by all the girls in the class and this incident, combined with another far worse incident, has meant this has been dragged in front of the entire class, with my daughter now the target for abuse because other parents refuse to believe that their girls could be involved. If we had kept our mouths shut and kept this incident entirely within the family, the chances are nobody else would have ever heard about this but my daughter would still have been punished and taught a major life lesson. Now she is learning a far more frightening life lesson (that adults can be shit too) and things are spiraling out of control. I am now suffering guilt about the pandora's box I have opened on her. Could I have handled this better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2014 - 53 answers

Can we build on soccermom's great post about platitudes?

This post has things that aren't helpful. What can you say to someone that is bullied or abused that does help the situation or bolster someone's self-confidence?
posted by BlueHorse on Feb 2, 2014 - 21 answers

Platitudes that just make you wanna punch back

I am looking for more phrases and platitudes that people give as advice to someone being bullied or having to deal with a nasty ex. Not actually looking for good advice, just gathering the cliche's to use in an art project. [more inside]
posted by lostinspace on Jan 31, 2014 - 64 answers

What's in a name, anyway?

My husband and I are expecting our first child, a girl, due in 2 months and are having a serious naming dilemma. We are both worried about the possibility of our chosen name leading to teasing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2013 - 78 answers

How to deal with a stalking e-mail sent to 12 year old girl

My friend's 12 year old daughter just received a disturbing anonymous e-mail. What should my friend do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2013 - 28 answers

Not disciplining 7-y.o. boy for publicly battering younger girl - WTF?

While at a small family gathering in our friends' home, my coworker's 7-year-old son suddenly grabbed a 4-year-old girl, raised her up into the air over his head, and body-slammed her onto the living room floor -- in full and complete view of 8 parents, including both of his own. His parents never did or said anything to him about it that night, and we're all horrified. How do we get to a place of acceptance when folks make vastly different parenting choices than our own, and our kids see it? Details ... [more inside]
posted by hush on Nov 15, 2013 - 55 answers

How do you end a friendship when you're eleven?

I'm all about the slow fade for friendships that aren't working, but I'm 34 and my daughter is 11. It doesn't work that way in middle school. [more inside]
posted by Ruki on Oct 9, 2013 - 18 answers

How do I, as a reporter, tell the story of a student being bullied?

The question came up in a thread on the blue linked within and it was suggested that I come here. How do I tell the story of a disabled student's fight against bullying? How do I not make her a victim while still making an impact? [more inside]
posted by none of these will bring disaster on Sep 13, 2013 - 24 answers

Is there any answer I can give that won't result in more pushups?

I need advice for gracious, loving, kind, and assertive ways to deal with a very specific type of bullying. I don't really know what to call it, but I will describe it as best I can. [more inside]
posted by windykites on Jul 19, 2013 - 34 answers

How to help my son break free from his bully?

My son, Alex, age 5, started primary school (in the UK) in January. His 'best friend', Tom (also 5), is bullying him. How can we help Alex break free from Tom, and make new friends? [more inside]
posted by beniamino on May 13, 2013 - 18 answers

What are your favorite anti-bullying and empowering YouTube videos?

I was bullied extensively growing up, by family members, peers, and, later, boyfriends. I really find it empowering to watch anti-bullying, It Gets Better, and self-harm/borderline personality videos. What are your favorites? [more inside]
posted by 3491again on May 9, 2013 - 7 answers

Sticks and stones...

My (8 year old) son is tender hearted. I'd like to help him cope with kid insults better. So, um...how do I do that? [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame on Apr 20, 2013 - 40 answers

Wonderful 4 Year Old Son Likes Girly Stuff - No Problem! Right?

My wonderful 4-year old son wants lots of girly things. I want nothing more than to support him and help him grow into the person he wants to be. My only question is, is there anything that a loving, responsible, progressive parent should do to protect him from hurt, possible bullying etc. [more inside]
posted by stewieandthedude on Mar 12, 2013 - 19 answers

What anti-bullying measures work?

Today I saw the 2012 film “Bully” and thought it was very disturbing, so I decided to start an anti-bullying campaign on facebook in collaboration with parents of bullying-victims. To help me understand the subject further, my question is: If you were a bully at any given point and had a moment when you stopped, what made you stop? Was it something someone said?
posted by omar.a on Feb 17, 2013 - 16 answers

Dealing with casual bullying/racism at work?

I'd appreciate your advice on dealing with what seems to me racist joking/bantering at work -- particularly when it's directed at me. This is my first white-collar job since moving to North America, and I think this kind of "joking around" is unacceptable but this office's culture seems to tolerate it. [more inside]
posted by papafrita on Jan 27, 2013 - 32 answers

How do I stop giving this high school bully space in my head?

I want to forget about this kid, but he keeps popping up in my head. How do I get over him? [more inside]
posted by handknittedsock on Jan 15, 2013 - 20 answers

Caller ID Spoofing

Is it possible that someone was spoofing my little sister's phone number? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2013 - 7 answers

How to properly cope with the discrimination and bullying in many of my classes?

Conflicted upon how to deal with bullying and discrimination (of various kinds) I am experiencing in my classes this semester. [more inside]
posted by pixienat on Nov 22, 2012 - 17 answers

My 12 year old stepson recently revealed he's been bullied most of the year at school. Help us help him!

How do I help my 12 year old stepson cope with being bullied ? [more inside]
posted by Sal and Richard on Jun 24, 2012 - 25 answers

Help me get the bullies out of my head so I can go to the gym in peace

You were bullied as a child, especially in gym class. You protected yourself from the mocking by being invisible and dropping those classes as soon as possible. You were embarrassed and afraid if people noticed the way you run or move. You didn't learn to dance because of this shame. As an adult, you have gotten over this fear/shame and have become physically fit and strong. How? [more inside]
posted by sadmadglad on Jun 9, 2012 - 37 answers

How do I help my smart, shy 9 year old daughter with issues related to body image, bullying, and (possibly) depression?

My wife and I are trying to help our oldest child with some issues that have been around for a while, but have intensified this year. [more inside]
posted by dudeman on Jun 5, 2012 - 54 answers

How can I counter backbiting in my colleagues?

Can anyone suggest a way I can be more respected by my colleagues? [more inside]
posted by Chickenbrain on Apr 18, 2012 - 10 answers

Should I help out a company that treated me very badly in the past?

Should I help out a company that treated me very badly in the past? Or should my sanity and I just walk away completely? [more inside]
posted by chatelaine on Apr 10, 2012 - 26 answers

cruelty

Is there anything illegal about being verbally abusive in a triggering way to someone with mental illness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 25, 2012 - 14 answers

How do I deal with a workplace bully?

Help me crack a communication enigma and figure out how to deal with a workplace bully. [more inside]
posted by pakoothefakoo on Mar 21, 2012 - 27 answers

How do you deal with verbal abuse in the workplace?

How do you deal with verbal abuse in your workplace? [more inside]
posted by marimeko on Mar 18, 2012 - 21 answers

I'm a significant adult in the life of a 12-year-old girl who has become a bully.

I'm a significant adult in the life of a 12-year-old girl who has become a bully. How can I help her develop some empathy? [more inside]
posted by tempest in a teapot on Feb 25, 2012 - 36 answers

Taming a wild child

Help me tame our 7 year old daughter before she makes all of the boys in her second grade class cry. [more inside]
posted by mosk on Feb 8, 2012 - 36 answers

staying away from a toxic forum

How do I stop myself from crawling back to this toxic forum where I keep getting verbally abused? [more inside]
posted by timsneezed on Jan 10, 2012 - 49 answers

Helping children cope with adversity

I need help supporting my daughter who is upset following a stranger than life moment. I want to learn about famous people who were perhaps looked over when they were younger but then went on to do amazing things for humanity. I'd also be interested in hearing stories that are closer to everyday life if you ever felt you were ripped off when you were younger and now you have been able to use that experience and overcome adversity. [more inside]
posted by YukonQuirm on Dec 4, 2011 - 38 answers

just about ready to quit

How do you deal with the haters - especially when you're outnumbered and they've got more power than you? Anon due to possible personal/career risks. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 31, 2011 - 29 answers

Far Too Jealous

Please help me understand and manage what I think is an unhealthy and debilitating jealousy. [more inside]
posted by xbeautychicx on Apr 23, 2011 - 32 answers

How to deal with a bullying consultant?

A consultant who works closely with my department hates me. He's not going anywhere. How do I deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 30, 2011 - 29 answers

How to deal with 4chon cyber bullying?

Asking-for-a-friend filter: How to deal with 4chon cyber bullying? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2011 - 20 answers

Punchline: And he had red hair!

Why do people think jokes about redheads are so darn hilarious? [more inside]
posted by KLF on Jan 7, 2011 - 59 answers

Leave me alone.

How to handle a bully on Yelp who is semi-stalking me because they don't like a review I wrote? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 27, 2010 - 46 answers

It's Not Exactly A Secret, Sweetie, but Maybe You Shouldn't Tell Everyone That You Have OCD

My 12-year old 6th grade son wants to mention that he has OCD for an in-class project and I don't know how to handle this. I know as a middle school teacher that his audience may not respond the positive/neutral way he thinks they will and while I want as a mommy to spare him unnecessary peer nastiness, I also don't want him to think OCD is something to hide. Help. [more inside]
posted by dzaz on Nov 30, 2010 - 30 answers

How to stop subtle bullying behavior.

How to stop bullying in a friend/business relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2010 - 20 answers

Help me try to stop this bullying behavior!

How to stop a workplace bully and repair matters? [with added foreigner in China complications] [more inside]
posted by so much modern time on Jul 24, 2010 - 9 answers

Teaching young high-schoolers tolerance

I'm trying to organize an anti-bullying presentation for high school freshmen and sophomores - any tips? [more inside]
posted by Bleusman on Jun 6, 2010 - 20 answers

is she spying with her iphone?

did she secretly record our conversation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 24, 2010 - 8 answers

Help me rid this school of Google Buzz

How do I keep students from abusing and bullying each other through Google Buzz while they're at school? [more inside]
posted by jehsom on May 4, 2010 - 30 answers

Order of Protection Against Bullies

Can teenagers anywhere in the U.S. get restraining orders against bullies who stalk, threaten, or verbally assault them? [more inside]
posted by Elsie on Apr 15, 2010 - 5 answers

What to do when you see someone being bullied

Do you know of any helpful resources about how to handle being witness to an uncomfortable and/or scary public conflict? [more inside]
posted by serazin on Apr 14, 2010 - 15 answers

How can I resist the temptation to despair?

How can I resist the temptation to despair as I get older and still find myself unable to break consistent patterns of frustration in my work and personal life? (long) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 12, 2009 - 14 answers

Mean Girls: The Prequel

Two weeks into the school year, and my almost-tween daughter is being antagonized by another girl in her class. I want to help her deal with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2009 - 57 answers

Would it be a mistake to reveal these things about my past?

Could it be potentially damaging to my career or personal life to reveal things that I want to reveal about my past? In particular, it pertains to bullying and its effects on me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2009 - 25 answers

I still feel like the sad kid no one will ever like.

Why am I suddenly unable to stop obsessing about the childhood bullying that happened to me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2009 - 19 answers

For the love of god, leave us alone.

How can I deal with a group of neighborhood punks intent on making my kids' lives miserable? Most of the information online tells parents to involve the school administration, but this is happening right in my neighborhood -- on my very street -- not in an school setting. [more inside]
posted by _Mona_ on Jan 16, 2009 - 85 answers

Do I intervene with the bullies?

My son may be gay. I don't think he even knows yet. He is 15 this month-entering high school. He is ADHD, funny, cute, great with kids, thoughtful, and very loud and effeminate. He's jumped into the theater/choir crowd at school (Big group- I LOVE these kids and their families!). My question is- Can or should a mom get involved with the bullying that goes on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 3, 2008 - 41 answers

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