Hostile, toxic workplace is causing me tons of stress. I can and will do my job well, conduct myself appropriately, and be courteous and pleasant as Mrs. Cleaver at a dinner party while I'm there. When I get home, I just fall apart. Being fake for 14 hours a day is exhausting, self-censoring every word that comes out of my mouth is a trial, and documenting in detail every mundane task I've performed is time-consuming.
I need any advice, articles, or techniques to help me fake it through my days and stay sane! [more inside]
posted by notaninja
on Apr 12, 2014 -
My son is being kind of sort of bullied at pre-school and I want to know what--if anything--I can or should do about it. [more inside]
posted by zardoz
on Dec 11, 2013 -
Can you give me some tips how to deal with an increasingly antagonistic brother? I'm a pretty soft-hearted slow-minded wuss who can't keep up with his clever snarky retorts or find a diplomatic way to rise above them and still resolve the issues which we are unfortunately linked together to. How, in preparation for a future when I will have to face up to him, can I learn to be stronger and ignore or deal with his attitude? Long winded whine inside. [more inside]
posted by Brecha
on Sep 27, 2013 -
I have an extended family member that likes to poke fun at me - I consider the fun to be mean spirited, he doesn't. He doesn't let up, and it makes me dread family gatherings, because I know that I will get peppered with rude comments (about what I'm wearing, my sexuality, etc.). I have a hard time knowing what to say in response, and I find this to be the case when dealing with many people that I would consider to be "assholes". How to cope and not let myself get scared away from events by people like him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 21, 2013 -
I remember watching a movie in grade school about a bully and his victim. It was really upsetting to me as a kid, but now I reeeeeally want to find it again. What was it? Details and sketchy memories below. [more inside]
posted by Gee, June!
on Jul 1, 2013 -
Today I saw the 2012 film “Bully” and thought it was very disturbing, so I decided to start an anti-bullying campaign on facebook in collaboration with parents of bullying-victims. To help me understand the subject further, my question is: If you were a bully at any given point and had a moment when you stopped, what made you stop? Was it something someone said?
posted by omar.a
on Feb 17, 2013 -
He is an old friend of mine, and I recently helped him out by getting him a role at our company where I am senior developer.
Issue is buddy demonstrates a supremely arrogant streak, and loses his temper during discussions about architecture – when the approach under discussion is not his and tends to pout for the afternoon or storm off. This has come to a situation where I want to terminate his contract and will also probably terminate a very old friendship.
Catharsis below the fold... [more inside]
posted by the noob
on May 11, 2012 -
I train in a martial art at a place with an active competitive team, which I am trying to join. The other person there who is my size/skill level and on the competitive team goes very hard with me in sparring and always leaves me injured/bruised to a greater degree than any other student. How can I work around this situation or have a mature and productive confrontation about it, given that I still want to compete so I cannot avoid working with this person 100%? [more inside]
posted by zdravo
on Feb 28, 2012 -
Hiring a new employee. Well qualified applicant bullied a current employee in high school (15 years ago). Immediate disqualification? [more inside]
posted by Nickel Pickle
on Apr 18, 2011 -
What are some tricks that classy people use to make others feel ashamed of themselves after they've treated someone badly? [more inside]
posted by kitcat
on Jul 16, 2010 -
I share an office with a bully, and things have come to a head. How do I keep cool and not resort to hollering? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 5, 2010 -
Two weeks into the school year, and my almost-tween daughter is being antagonized by another girl in her class. I want to help her deal with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 17, 2009 -
I want to play Bully: Scholarship Edition
on my Xbox 360. There was just a patch released for the game, but my console is not hooked up to the internet and never will be. How (and when) can I know that the physical copy of the game I buy is a post-patch version?
posted by BitterOldPunk
on Mar 22, 2008 -
Another security deposit question with a twist. Landlord in California is holding deposit until she receives "payment" for unreturned DVDs - which I didn't borrow. Illegal. However, I didn't return the keys before I left on vacation to Thailand! [more inside]
posted by faux ami
on Sep 17, 2007 -
PS3 Filter: is "Bully" for PS2 compatible with PS3? Can't find via compatibility list, hoping someone here can educate me. Also, which is the best headset to use with PS3 for online play, in terms of low-cost and ease of use? Specifically, for playing "Resistance: Fall of Man" with clan members online.
posted by misha
on Jun 25, 2007 -
Someone who I attended Middle School and High School with twenty plus years ago recently Google'd me to apologize for the way he treated me back then. I'm pretty much over all that school age bullying, what's my obligation to my former bully? How should I reply to his email? Or should I just forget it and move on?
posted by IndigoSkye
on May 25, 2007 -
HIGH SCHOOL BULLY QUESTION.
I'm 30 now and very recently discovered an old school reunion site which brought up a couple of questions for me. When I was 13-15 I had a really nasty bully through the first part of high school (I'm in Australia). She made my life so freaking miserable and then, when we could leave school at 15 she left. My questions are as follows. Has anyone ever had the chance to confront their high school bully?? or (even though I know we're wonderful folk here on mefi), been confronted by someone they bullied?
I don't want to do anything but tell her that she made my life miserable and that it left lasting scars on my childhood.
PS She's not actually on the reunion site but I was toying with the idea of tracking her down.
posted by Civa
on Feb 8, 2005 -